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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun04Post.mp4 Steve Martin made a movie a long, long time ago called, "The Lonely Guy." He didn't have any friends. He'd go out eat by himself. He'd have a "cover" that he was a food critic. But that was after he'd sat down. When he'd walk in, and ask for a table for one, everybody would stop. All the people in the restaurant, in the middle of their conversations, would stop and look at him. They'd even have a spotlight on him. This is how it feels for most of us, when we go social places alone. "Hey! Who is that weirdo? Why doesn't he have any friends?" We even get this feeling when walking across a room to introduce yourself. As soon as we live the safety of our group, or the safety of the wall we are leaning against, we feel exposed. As if everybody is going to STOP what they are doing and watch us. "Hey! Everybody! Look at that guy, all by himself, walking across the room to talk to that pretty girl!" The truth is, nobody really think this. Unless you are PROJECTING that kind of energy. The nervous, "I'm doing something wrong" energy. The "I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing" energy. How can you NOT project that energy? Easy. Don't FEEL that energy. Yeah, I know, much easier said than done. But guess what? The energy you feel, and project, is something you can PRACTICE. For example, imagine you'd never ridden a unicycle before, and you tried to ride it across the room. If you were uncertain and off balance, it would show on your face. People would watch you, but they would feel a certain way. A "hey that guy's about to crash" kind of way. But suppose you practiced? Suppose you rode a unicycle across the room with a confident and playful expression across your face? They'd look at you much DIFFERENTLY. You can practice feeling comfortable in social situations JUST LIKE you could (if you wanted to) practice riding a unicycle. Social situations require skills. Skills take practice. So long as you practice slowly, you'll get better. But here's the thing. If you became a super confident unicycle rider, what would that get you? It might be a cool party trick. But riding a unicycle, in and of itself, doesn't do much. After you get over the thrill of learning something difficult, it'd be boring. But social skills come pre-loaded with plenty of good feelings. Humans are social animals. Which means the more social skills you practice, the more you'll enjoy life. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr14Post.mp4 One historian described the history of humanity as a scared and lazy people doing everything they could to become safer and work less. This sounds like a slam on humanity. But it's really true for ALL living creatures. There are two basic functions behind this statement. One is getting needed energy for survival. All animals need to do this. And they need to be as efficient as possible. Now, in our modern society, as much of a trainwreck it is becoming, this seems to be a no-brainer. You need food, you go to the store. Or order it online. But for the huge majority if life on Earth, getting food was very, very difficult. There was ALWAYS a battle, just like there is now, between the calories you burn, and the calories you consume. Every animal has that deep instinct programmed in the origins of it's DNA. Any animal that DIDN'T have that would go extinct. So right off the bat, getting MORE than energy than you burn is the prime directive. This is where the laziness comes in. Being lazy means spending as LITTLE effort as possible to get the MAXIMUM benefits. All animals have this. If they didn't, they wouldn't exist very long. How does this play out in modern life? If you are buying things you want to get the MOST VALUE for the LEAST amount of money. If you want to get laid, you want to get the HOTTEST partner with the least amount of risk. You want to find the EASIEST and QUICKEST to learn skills to get you the BEST career. Inventors and entrepreneurs that come up with inventions that make things easier for the masses get paid like crazy. All from the "lazy instinct." What about the "scared" part? In the quest for better returns for less effort, we can't die. Or break our legs, or get eaten by a bear. EVERY ANIMAL has this natural fear built in. This is exactly why Mountain Gorillas are on the verge of extinction. Wait, what? Mountain Gorillas, to us humans, seem utterly terrifying. But if one alpha Mountain Gorilla comes up against another one, they will feel a fear MUCH, MUCH more powerful than we will of them. That's why every troupe of mountain gorillas needs a HUGE area to live in. Their ENTIRE LIVES and instincts are built around NOT running into another group of gorillas. Because they need so much land, they are on the verge of extinction. What the heck does any of this have to do with anything? When you understand these two programs, fear and laziness, that are always running in EVERYBODY'S brains, you'll understand human nature. Human decision making. Human fears, human desires, and everything in between. Even better, you'll be able to pace where they are, and lead them WHEREVER you want them to be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  3. Trading Fear For Money: https://mindpersuasion.com/trading-fear-for-money/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/satanic-day-trading https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct04Loop.mp4
  4. Photographic Fear Removal: https://mindpersuasion.com/photographic-fear-elimination/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept24Loop.mp4
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug22Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, human brains started to get really big. Eventually, a decision had to be made. Because our brains were getting so big, there was a problem with birth. There were essentially two choices. The first choice was that our hips could keep getting wider and wider, so our brains to keep getting bigger and bigger. That wasn't such a good option, because that would force us back to walking on four legs. So the next option was to have us born WAY before we were finished. This is why humans are helpless for the first couple of years. Compare this too all other mammals, who are mobile. Soon after they are born, every other mammal can get up and walk around. We humans, on the other hand, just lay there and stare off into space. For two whole years! Even after we can get up and walk around, our brains are still being built. In one study, they showed a bunch of kids a puppet show. A kid in the puppet show had some chocolate, and put it in a GREEN cupboard. Then later his mom took some of the chocolate out. She made a cake, and then she put it back into the BLUE cupboard. Then the original kid came back. And said he wanted some chocolate. The question to the kids WATCHING the puppet show was WHERE would he look? Not where the chocolate was, but where he THOUGHT it was. The older kids figured it out. But the kids four and younger couldn't. These means even four year old kids, who can walk around and use language pretty well, STILL don't understand about human intentions. They can't extrapolate what happened before and use that to guess what people are thinking. This is why plenty of our limiting beliefs are so, uh, LIMITING. They were programmed in BEFORE our brains were finished. Before we understood how OUR intentions are different from OTHER people's intentions. Before we could understand how to GUESS other people's intentions. For some lucky folks, with positive and supportive role models, they don't much of a problem. But for everybody else, we still are stuck with a lot of these limiting beliefs. Perhaps the most DANGEROUS and INSIDIOUS limiting beliefs is the one that creates social anxiety. The one that makes us feel anxious and nervous every time we even THINK about expressing ourselves. The more intelligent you are, the WORSE this feels. Since this was programmed on an emotional, NON-intelligent level. Luckily, there is a solution. A slow, safe gradual we to REMOVE social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July29Post.mp4 Understanding Modern Frustrations Once I was in elementary school. And I had a crush on my second grade teacher. She gave us this math "test." More like a puzzle. She said we had to race to see who could finish first. I'm pretty sure I finished before everybody else. I thought it was easy. When I was done, I looked around, everybody else was still struggling. But I was too terrified to say anything. I was a shy kid. Then some OTHER kid stood up. The teacher gave HIM a whole bunch of public praise. For being so smart. Even though I'd finished before him. I KNEW what had happened. That I shot myself in the foot, so to speak. To terrified to stand up and IDENTIFY myself as being SEPARATE from everybody else. This is very closely related to the common fear of public speaking. ANYBODY can speak publicly in the right situation. But in these situations, we don't really think of it as "public speaking." Telling jokes when friends are around. But purposely SEPARATING ourselves from a group of STRANGERS is pretty scary. Especially when all those STRANGERS are staring at us. Many things in modern life are both easy yet maddening. We do fantastic things, but nobody notices. Other people do utterly EASY things, and everybody treats them like they are some kind of super hero. This kind of thing is rampant in the self help industry. Especially the kind where the super successful person becomes the super successful guru. "I have a super successful life. Copy what I did and you can be successful, too!" Only it doesn't quite work out for most people. Part of the reason that MOST of our behavior are not anywhere NEAR 100% conscious. So no matter WHAT we do, we don't really know HOW or WHY we did what we did. This is the problem when successful people try and teacher others how to become successful. Chances are they aren't really sure HOW they became successful. Even walking down the street, most of the INPUTS to our senses go straight PAST our conscious minds. This is widely understood phenomenon. But it generally only leads to interesting metaphysical understandings. Not any USEFUL strategies. To get useful strategies, you need to understand the human mind-body system from an objective, pragmatic standpoint. Not only will this give you a huge INSIGHT into the most common causes of frustration, but you'll be able to ELIMINATE them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/watching-mind/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July7Post.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, my buddies and I love to watch Mad Max. My buddies were all car freaks, more so than I was. They loved the idea of having a big V8 with a secret nitrous oxide injection to give it an extra boost. Their favorite part was when Max was chasing the bad guys, then he'd calmly flip on the switch to give his car a boost. Then he'd suddenly accelerate, overtake the bad guys and cause them all to crash. One of the Star Trek movies was a crossover. Where they had the original cast in with the Next Generation cast. One engineer from the original cast was talking to an engineer from the Next Generation cast. He was asking him how fast the engines would go. The guy told him, and then he asked again. "Yeah, but how fast do they REALLY go?" The Next Generation engineer didn't understand the question. The original engineer shook his head, and said: "Never tell the captain how fast the engines will REALLY go." The idea of having a hidden resource of energy is very compelling. A secret ace up your sleeve. There's even a theory from physiology that we all have secret hidden reservoirs of energy in case of emergencies. To lift up cars, or make it an extra mile when we're about to die. But because we are usually VERY safe and not anywhere NEAR life threatening danger, we'll never really know. This is ONE reason why people love extreme sports. It gets them out on the edge of safety. When they get mad adrenalin rushes. The opposite is also common. Unfortunately, very common. Of thinking you don't have ANY skills or energy beyond what you are doing RIGHT NOW. If you believe you really DO have some secret power source, or an ace up your sleeve, it will give you a TON of confidence. So much you'll never have to need that secret stash. But if you are secretly terrified you have NOTHING, that will have the opposite effect. Knowing you have a secret stash will naturally EXPAND your comfort zone outward. Being terrified you have nothing will make it shrink. Luckily, the size of your comfort zone is completely up to you. It's based on plenty of assumptions you make about yourself, and about the world. Most of those assumptions are wrong. Which means if you can RE-CALIBRATE your assumptions, your comfort will expand significantly. Making everything you want OUT THERE much easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July4Post.mp4 One of the best feelings as a humans is a feeling of accomplishment. Even if nobody knows but you. Especially if it was something that you weren't sure you could pull off. It's very common in self help metaphors to pretend we are special JUST BECAUSE. But despite how many metaphysical truths we believe about ourselves, we are stuck inside our physical bodies. Our physical bodies require physical things. Food, shelter, and most importantly, money. It would be fantastic if we could just "receive" all that stuff without needing to really DO anything. This is pretty much the core "teaching" of many "law of attraction" books and courses, and even some pretty expensive seminars. That if you only BELIEVE something enough, you'll plenty of free stuff. We LOVE that idea because BELIEVING happens inside our own brain. There is no need to talk to anybody. Or even look anybody in the eye. This even matches are most DEEPEST instinctive programming. To MINIMIZE our efforts and MAXIMIZE our results. All animals are programmed with this instinct. To spend as little energy as possible in the acquisition of as much energy as possible. Only humans can take this to metaphysical extreme levels. To WISH we only need to BELIEVE and some magic wish fairy will show up at our house with a sack full of cash. But we also KNOW that unless we move around and GET physical things, we'll starve. On a very basic, very REAL level, the BETTER we are at moving around and interacting with REALITY, the better stuff we can GET. This requires real skills, not imaginary skills. Imagination is ABSOLUTELY VITAL. But it's only a starting point. So long as you imagination DRIVES your actions, you're much better off. And if you keep taking action, and keep measuring what your actions CREATED compared to your imagination, that's even better. Once you create a kind of SYSTEM, based on this very simple, yet very ancient process, it's pretty mechanical. Imagine what you want. Take action. See what happened. Did you get closer? Do MORE of that. Did you not get closer? Do something different. This is the heart of all learning. The learning that is PROGRAMMED into your brain. The strategy you used to walk and talk and do everything else you can do. The strategy that WILL get you whatever you want, so long as you keep going. The ONLY thing that will keep you from getting what you want is if you take yourself OUT of the game. If you're out of the game, get back in. Ease into it. Develop a rock solid inner belief that you WILL win, if you keep playing long enough. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July3Post.mp4 A common failure that everybody has plenty of experience with is "paralysis by analysis." This is nearly always in situations involving social skills or financial skills. Both of these involve putting ourselves "out there." If you try something socially, and it doesn't work, it feels awful. If you try something financially, and it doesn't work, it feels awful. Our lighting fast brains are VERY adept at extrapolating. We walk up to somebody, say hi, ask for their number, and they say no. Our brains extrapolate that outcome to the WORST possible conclusion, meaning that we will die alone. We'll end up being one of those creepy old people that kids are terrified of. Or we may try a financial endeavor and fail. So the extrapolated outcome to that is we'll end up broke. Poor, homeless and eating out of dumpsters. Because both of these fears exist BELOW our conscious awareness, we convince ourselves that BEFORE we get in the game, we want to make sure we have the RIGHT strategy. We think about this, we think about that, etc. We think if we can develop the perfect, bullet proof strategy BEFORE we take action, we WON'T fail and end up living alone in a dumpster. Unfortunately, BOTH sides of this common thought process are WRONG. First of all, your brain is VERY FAST, but it is VERY inaccurate. We evolved a very powerful, "better safe than sorry" thinking process. Which was helpful even if it was wrong most of the time. But this was only helpful in an environment when there were animals that LITERALLY were trying to eat us. We haven't been living in modern society long enough for our ancient brains to catch up. The other side is equally false. The idea of coming up with a bullet proof strategy. This is because NOBODY can predict the outcome of events. Particularly social and financial events. Without going too far down the rabbit hole, CHAOS theory says that we can't predict ANYTHING more than a few steps out. Otherwise weathermen wouldn't be wrong half the time. What's the answer? Luckily, there is a SUPER GENIUS learning strategy built into your brain. A NEW INSTINCT generator. This is what happens whenever you learn something to the level of UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE. It becomes NEW INSTINCT. Most people do this with music and sports and whatever they do for their job. But you can also do it for social and financial situations. It requires that you RE-CALIBRATE your ancient instincts for the modern world. So that learning to talk to attractive people can be JUST AS mechanical and practicing free throws or playing the scales on the piano. Which means the MORE you practice, the BETTER you'll get. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  10. Magic Spells Growing In Your Brain https://mindpersuasion.com/quantum-tunneling-through-pancakes/
  11. Everybody has a unique balance with respect to social comfort. Everybody has a point beyond which they'll start to feel social anxiety. Everybody has a point up to which they'll be more outgoing. When we are around friends, this balance is in one place. When we are around strangers, this balance is somewhere else. Regardless of who we are around, we tend to find our own equilibrium. Too much outgoing behavior will get us TOO MUCH attention, and cause us to pull back. Not enough will motivate us to speak up, and push out a bit. Both of these involve the idea of social attention. When we WANT more social attention, we push our social energy OUT. When we are getting TOO MUCH social attention, we pull our social energy BACK. But there is a way to push out as much as you want and NOT get any social attention. Most of the time, when we talk, people look at us. And the stuff we talk about is about us somehow. Something that happened to us. Something we have a strong opinion. So naturally, when we talk about these things, people focus on us. But you can speak about things that are metaphorically off to the side. The longer we speak, the more they'll be focused NOT on us, but on the stories we are telling. Once you realize how easy this is, you can start to put some very, very persuasive ideas within the stories. So persuasive you can get people to do anything you want. And since they are paying attention to the stories, and not you, they won't remember you nearly as much as the stories. This is normal. This is why actors have much more name recognition that screenwriters. This is why characters in movies have much more name recognition than directors. Listening to stories is a very pleasant, and very instinctive process. So once you start speaking in "story language," you can metaphorically step aside. They'll be paying attention to the stories, and not you. This will let you get as crazy as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  12. Thrill Seeking and Guru Seminars: https://mindpersuasion.com/split-test-adrenalin-rush/
  13. Cialdini laws can be used to explain quite a bit of human behavior. They are essentially instincts that regulate our social behavior. William James, a philosopher and metaphysician from about a hundred years ago, said that humans have both a ton of learning capacity and a ton of instincts. Every other animal has mostly instincts. We have tons of learning because our brains are still forming for the first couple decades of our lives. Which means our instincts are more or less programmable. We need food, but we can choose a whole bunch of different food. We need sex, but we all have a different idea of an idea sexual partner. We crave social recognition, but how this happens is different for all of us. As far as our social lives, we have positive and negative social instincts. Just like we have positive and negative hunger instincts. The negative hunger instinct is that the longer we go without eating, the more uncomfortable we get. The positive hunter instinct is that it feels VERY GOOD to eat something delicious. The negative hunger instincts drive us away from starvation, the positive hunger instincts kind of reward is when we get food. Similarly, our social instincts have positive and negative levels. We are "rewarded" for helpful "tribal behavior" with positive authority validation and positive social validation. We are "punished" for unhelpful "tribal behavior" with negative authority validation and negative social validation. In an ancient society, this worked perfectly. But just like our hunger is troublesome today, so are these combinations of social instincts. Unfortunately, they are the source of plenty of human misery. And it happens in a very powerful way that creates a very strong cause-effect relationship. Since it happens when we are very young, it's kind of built in as an instinct. That's what happens when we are born with "less than defined" instincts. How, exactly, does this happen? Suppose you've got a kid in kindergarten or first grade. He has a desire to express himself. But the teacher doesn't agree. So the teacher yells at the kid. What is the result? This kid develops a casual link between the DESIRE to express oneself in public with NEGATIVE social and authority validation. If this happens a lot, it can cause trouble. This is EXACTLY why so many people have social anxiety as adults. We feel a desire to express ourselves. We START to express ourselves, but then that deep link is triggered. The one that reminds us that expressing our desires in public will lead to negative social and authority attention. This is why ANYTHING we want that involves social behavior creates a lot of anxiety. But there IS a pretty straightforward way to REMOVE this link. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  14. https://mindpersuasion.com/cement-mixer-fantasies/
  15. https://mindpersuasion.com/fear-of-abandonment/
  16. Economics is called the dismal science for a lot of reasons. One is because it's pretty boring. But another deeper reason is it FORCES us to face the harsh realities. And since this is something we humans like to do as little as possible, it's called the dismal science. It FORCES us to think NOT in the abstract. Of realizing what things costs. Both in direct costs (what we need to pay or do to get things) and in opportunity costs (the things we CAN'T get). One of the reasons we have wishes instead of goals is that goals require understanding EXACTLY what it will take to GET your goals. Like NOT doing what you've been doing. And spending a lot of time doing UNCOMFORTABLE things. Like exercising, or saving money, or anything that involves delayed gratification. Wishes, on the other hand, are always out in the vague future. Where we can sit around and hope for some kind of MAGIC to happen. But as soon as we realize the TRUTH about what it will actually take to GET our goals, they suddenly don't seem to desirable anymore. Another thing we humans HATE is any kind of risk. We would all love to be told EXACTLY what to do. Step by step process. But one of the ideas buried in economics is the idea of supply and demand. The MORE of something that there is (increase in supply) the LESS valuable it is going to be. And if there actually WAS a simple, step by step system to do ANYTHING, then ANYBODY could do it. And doing that thing (whatever it was) wouldn't be worth very much. So here we are. Stuck in reality. And the things that are WORTH getting are either going to be DIFFICULT (like exercising and not eating as much as you want EVERY DAY), or uncertain. Uncertainty means you HAVE to take risks, and LEARN from mistakes. Learning from books won't work, since EVERYBODY can learn from books. But learning from TRIAL AND ERROR is terrifying. So few people can do it. But if you WANT to get what few people get, then you'll have to do what few people can do. Namely, the difficult things, and the risky things. Luckily, we ALL have that instinct buried deep within us. It won't make it easy. But doing the NOT EASY stuff is what humans are made of. It's why WE conquered the planet, and not penguins. Or kangaroos. But most of us have been brainwashed into thinking all we modern people need to do is sit back and wait for ours. That's easy. Everybody can do that. Do what few people can do. Explore your life. Conquer your fears. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/hero/
  17. There's a very powerful scene at the end of the movie, "Unforgiven." It's when the bad guy is about to kill the sheriff. And the sheriff says, "I don't deserve to die like this." And just before the bad guy shoots him, he says, "Deserving's got nothing to do with it." There are a lot of ways to interpret that scene, as well as the movie. Since it starred Clint Eastwood, who is nearly always a good guy, it's hard to see him as the bad guy. But according to Eastwood, who also directed, the movie was about how violence just destroys everything in its path. Sometimes with no rhyme or reason. With most hero movies, the good guys win in the end. But the question is always in the back of our minds. Since in real life, the good guys don't always win, and the bad guys never seem to get in trouble. Especially the bad guys that run the world. George Carlin frequently talked about this. He would say things like, "It's called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it." Whenever we watch movies and enjoy stories, there's always an uncertain relationship between the story and real life. Is the story trying change the way we behave? Are stories written based on how we wish we could behave? Many people see certain ideas in certain movies, and get upset because of the not so secret "agenda" of the movie makers. But here's the thing. Stories have been told since before recorded history. Even old myths and biblical stories were once ONLY in the "oral tradition." Meaning they were word of mouth stories LONG before anybody ever wrote them down. And there are surprising similarities between stories from thousands of years ago, and stories today. Even blockbuster movies. This should be a clue. A clue WHY we love these types of movies and stories so much. That just MAYBE, they aren't only for entertainment. That MAYBE, they are supposed to motivate us. Inspire us. Get us to get out there and stop wasting our lives. To wake up, and start to take responsibility. To BE the hero of our own lives. How do you BE the hero? Consider that your mission. To find your own destiny. Identify the bad guys, and conquer them. Not just the ones OUT THERE, but the ones IN HERE. The demons within, and the demons without. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/hero/
  18. Plenty of experiments have demonstrated human hierarchy. The simplest is when they stick ten people in a room. Then they drop in an complicated task. Within minutes, and usually without much discussion, there is a hierarchy. We humans seem to have a very instinctive way of looking around and quickly, democratically and subconsciously figuring out who's in charge. This means a lot of things. One of them is that ninety percent of people, (or more depending on the size of the group) have a "go to" strategy when uncertain about what to do. And that strategy is to look around for somebody in charge. Most humans, in most situations, when presented with uncertainty, DO NOT look at the task and think, "Hmm, how should I handle this?" Instead most humans look around for somebody to TELL THEM what to do. This comes across different ways in different situations. In social situations, it comes across as people WANTING to meet new people but HOPING the other person will do the initiating. Most people would be open to a friendly chat with an interesting stranger. But VERY FEW people will do the initiating. There are many ways to respond to this information. One is to be the one making the approach. If this is easy, this CAN BE a reasonable strategy. But it kind of sets a bad precedent. Meaning if a friendship or other relationship is formed, YOU (since you did the approaching) are the leader. For many people, this is fine. But there is another way. Humans tend to look for leaders because we are nervous and don't like uncertainty. But what if there was a way to REMOVE their nervousness and uncertainty AT A DISTANCE? See, in those experiments, where they put people in rooms, there's another part. They take a bunch of rooms and do the same thing. Each room has a leader. But then they put each leader in a room, and the SAME THING happens. Ninety percent of leaders become followers. Which means very FEW people are consistently leaders. Which means even leaders have the "go to" response of looking around and seeing if there's anybody in charge. Only when they find out that people are looking at them, do they become leaders by default. Since in other situations, they are JUST AS WILLING to become followers. This means there's a missing ingredient. That missing ingredient that can remove fear and anxiety at a distance. To make it natural and easy for others to approach you. Without assuming any kind of leadership. This is the power of presence. To be absolutely congruent in mind. To radiate calmness and certainty. This is extremely rare, but it can be built with practice. Specific practice that must be done consistently, but privately. And just like any skill, the longer you practice, the stronger it becomes. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/presence/
  19. Human fears are an insanely useful thing. But only if we use them correctly. The "incorrect" use of fear is not dealing with it. A long time ago, I used to be a big fan of Stephen King. The movie, "Creepshow," which came out in the 80's, was about a bunch of short stories. He played one of the goofy characters. He was a hillbilly type who found a meteor. He picked it up, and it oozed meteor juice all over him. Since it was a comedy-horror movie, the meteor juice immediately started to mutate his arm. He thought about going to the doctor, but was stopped by his worst-feared scenario. His worst feared scenario was the doctor holding a huge knife and with a wicked grin saying, "This is going to be EXTREMELY painful!" Of course, the hillbilly didn't go to the doctor, and the meteor juice ended up mutating his entire body, eventually killing him. This is the "incorrect" use of fear. To imagine the worst case scenario, assuming it's going to happen, and not doing squat. What is the "correct" use of fear? Our worst feared outcomes are IDEAL planning tools. Most people have heard (at least a billion times) the idea of "planning for the worst while hoping for the best." Our brains are FANTASTIC in perfectly delivering to us a "worst feared" outcome. We are SUPPOSED to be afraid of those. They are SUPPOSED to be horrifying. But they aren't supposed to make us hide out in the closet while getting eaten by meteor juice. They are supposed to be used as planning tools. Things to PREVENT against. It's like our brain is saying, "HEY! Make sure this doesn't happen!" Only for most people, the only way to "make sure this doesn't happen" is to not do anything. That is a strategy, but it's a pretty useless one. Because once you HAVE that worst feared outcome, you can plan all kinds of ways around it. Especially if those worst feared outcomes come in the form of social situations. Even more so if those worst feared outcomes come in the form of other people saying things. Because once we've got our worst feared outcome in the form of somebody SAYING something, there are plenty of ways to make sure it doesn't happen. Eighteen ways, to be precise. This means ANY social fear you can imagine, you can destroy it in EIGHTEEN different ways. Making sure it DOESN'T happen. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  20. Human fears are part of a very useful system. Unfortunately, like most of our instincts, they aren't so helpful anymore. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Way back in the day, always being hungry was a survival benefit. Not just being hungry. But eating as much as you could. We all have the experience of not thinking we're hungry, but then we take a couple of bites of something and then we can't stop. This is easy to understand from an instinctive standpoint. Whenever food was available, it made sense to eat as much as possible, so we could store the extra energy. This happened without us having to think about it. So when you don't really feel hungry, and you take a bite, your "energy storage system" sends a signal that makes us store as much energy as possible. Of course, this system was calibrated when food was very hard to get. Now it's everywhere. And most people are overweight as a result of ancient instincts being surrounded by an abundance of food. Another useful instinct is fear. A modern "truism" is "most of my fears never happen." Most people tend to think of this as silly humans being afraid of things that don't exist. But in reality, being OVER-AFRAID was also a very useful survival trait. Way back in the days of hunter gathers, being afraid and running away, even if there was only a ten percent chance of the fear being real, was very useful. Because all it takes is to be wrong once, get eaten, and you won't live long enough to pass on your genes. Consequently, the people who passed on their genes were the ones who ran away from POTENTIAL danger the quickest. Unfortunately, just like our hunger instinct, our environment is VERY DIFFERENT than it was long ago. Most fears today are social fears. They are much more complicated. Back then, we saw something yellow moving, and figured it could be a tiger. Most of the time, it was a yellow flower, or something else. But the fear response to REAL physical threats was very quick. Since modern fear responses are usually in social situations (any time when we imagine talking to somebody) they take a while to build up. This means that social fears are the EASIEST to re-wire. Because the opposite of social fear is social success. This means love, money, sex, and plenty of other good stuff. In the moment, all we can imagine is the bad stuff. But once you rewire just a few of those social fears, you'll start to automatically imagine the good stuff. Which will not just eradicate the fears, but make you feel the opposite. Meaning when you imagine any potential social interaction, you'll feel POSITIVELY compelled to take advantage of it. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  21. The world is in a strange place. Only a hundred years or so ago, it was perfectly fine to just show up. You did what you were told, and you'd have a job and family. Today, there is very little structure to anything. Everybody does whatever they want. There doesn't seem to be any rules. This is both good and bad. Good because you can get away with a lot of stuff that you couldn't get away with a hundred years or so ago. Bad because there are few external incentives keeping people on track. With the right external incentives, normally hard stuff can be easy. If you joined boot camp, for example, getting up at the crack of dawn would be easy. All alone (with only internal incentives) it's very hard. But if you CAN come up with your own internal incentives, and live by them, you can create ANYTHING you want. This is the double edge sword of modern life. You can do a lot of stuff. But nobody is forcing you. So it's very easy to slack off and take it easy. And once you start doing that, it's a hard rut to get out of. Luckily, you can start very slow. The myth of motivation is that you need a TON from the start. People think of the word "motivation" and they think of some guy leaping out of bed and going on a ten mile run in the morning. That works for a couple days. A much better and easier way is to start VERY SLOW. Do one small thing toward your goal or habit. Then do that one small thing until that one small thing becomes a habit. Then do another small thing on top of it. Slow, steady, consistent growth is much easier that super power motivation. Because slow, steady, growth adds up over time. What "small thing" should you try? Mental exercises are the easiest. Do them for five minutes. Same time every day. Once you learn to control your thinking, you can control everything. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  22. I used to be heavily into cycling. I would ride from my then house to the beach and back a couple times a week after work. And then long rides on the weekend. On an average week I'd ride a 150 miles or so. This was back before Amazon took over the world. There was this huge bike shop I'd go to at least once a week. Look through all the catalogues, chat with the workers. One thing I loved doing was riding hills. I loved going up, and I loved going down. There was one hill that was perfect. A long winding climb on one side, and a gradual LONG downhill on the other. The most important part was the downhill had zero cross streets. The first light was about half a mile after it had flattened out. Plenty of time to stop. My record was a hair over 54 miles an hour, coasting downhill. The guy in the bike shop HATED hills. He siad he would ride MILES out of his way to avoid a hill. Me, on the other hand, actively sought hills. Some people will do anything to avoid discomfort. Many people will spend tens of thousands of dollars on a college education. The idea is EXTREMELY compelling. You go to a special place of learning, and the ideas get implanted into your mind. A lot of NLP seminars are the same. People spend tons of money to have skills and strategies INSTALLED. Unfortunately, learning requires our participation. Even the word "education" is based on the idea of "drawing out." But many people treat any kind of education is as something being passively PUT IN to their minds. And just like the guy in the bike shop, they are going WAY out of their way to avoid doing real learning. Real learning comes from doing boring daily drills. Playing the piano at parties is fun, especially if it makes you popular. But you can't do that unless you do the drills that will get you the skills. Nobody would imagine going to a "Piano Academy" and having the skills unconsciously installed. The most important skills you can learn are language skills. And since so few people are even aware that you CAN improve them (let do the work required) taking the time to improve YOUR language skills will make you an EXTREMELY valuable person. To a LOT of people. They won't even need to know why. They'll just know your command of language is POWERFUL. Learn How: Weaponized Hypnosis
  23. There's a cool movie, loosely based on a true story, about a basketball coach. Successful guy (played by Samuel L. Jackson) takes over an inner city high school basketball team. And like most of these movies, he shows them not just how to be good basketball players, but to be good humans. Part of this process was while they were practicing, he'd get up close in their faces and ask, "What is your biggest fear?" Most of the time they didn't know what he was talking about. When one of the main turning points of the movie happened (the high school misfits all decided to be good students) they "answer" was revealed. The answer isn't really important (in the movie they lifted a quote from "A Course in Miracles"). But that question (what is your biggest fear) is ALWAYS on our mind. Why is it a question about our biggest fear and not the fear itself? Because our ego is very squirrely and clever. "It" is terrified that we may FIND our biggest fear, and then fix it. So it keeps our biggest fear well hidden. So while we always have a vague sense of anxiety in a lot of situations, we rarely know WHY. We just know that in some situations we feel a bit uneasy. Since we are biological organisms in a physical world, it doesn't help to give metaphysical meaning to this if we want to FIX IT. (That quote from the "Course in Miracles" sounds pretty cool, but what the heck do you do with it?) Imagine a bunch of cavemen out wandering through the jungle. Their subconscious instincts were ALWAYS on high alert. Scanning the area for danger. So when there was MORE chance of danger than food or safety, their subconscious took all that data (that indicated danger MIGHT be close) and translated it into an uneasy feeling that said, "get the heck out of here." This was all based on probability, not certainty. Those that were MORE SCARED in MORE SITUATIONS tended to get out in time when there actually WAS a tiger behind the bushes. So here we are today, with those same instincts. Only most of our fears are social fears. In some social situations, we feel uneasy, anxious, etc. Our ego (collection of protective social instincts) is telling us to get the heck out. Of course, this warning signal is absolutely false. So, how do we get rid of those uneasy feelings in some situations? One way is to FACE OUR FEARS and prove they aren't true. This takes a lot of courage, and a lot of persistence. Luckily, there's an easier way. By understanding the structure, we can slowly dismantle any social fear. Without ever taking more risk than we're comfortable. And soon, all social fear will be a thing of the past. Learn How: Stop Manipulation
  24. Ten exercises to destroy it and replace it with a much more positive idea, that attractive people are safe and fun to talk to. https://mindpersuasion.com/ten-easy-exercises-to-obliterate-approach-anxiety/
  25. Hi George could you make a subliminal for agoraphobia or fear of leaving the house? Its an irrational fear but It would really help. Thank you.
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