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  1. Express The Real You: https://mindpersuasion.com/express-the-real-you/ https://mindpersuasion.com/tools/
  2. Two Sided Luck: https://mindpersuasion.com/two-sided-luck/ https://mindpersuasion.com/live-training/
  3. Engineer Your Ideal Hypnotic State: https://mindpersuasion.com/engineer-your-ideal-hypnotic-state/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. Dominate The Ancient Game: https://mindpersuasion.com/dominate-the-ancient-game/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Become A Master Of Snakes: https://mindpersuasion.com/become-a-master-of-snakes/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Eject Fakeness and Fear: https://mindpersuasion.com/eject-fakeness-and-fear/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb16_Post.mp4 Human brains are incredibly fast. Our brains are capable of AMAZING expressions, thoughts, beliefs and creativity. Unfortunately, most of us use the bulk of our brain power on internal dialogue. Some of this is instinctive. Like when you have a dialogue with yourself before doing something dangerous. If you get a good outcome, you'll be the hero and get the rock star treatment. The action itself it simple. But to build up the courage, you need a lot of "self pumping up." But his can swirl in the other direction. Like a hurricane that might or might not land ashore. Most of our self-talk is protective, which is a good thing. But the stuff we are protecting ourselves from is WAY less real than when our genius self talking brains were calibrated. Before, we needed to do literally dangerous things. Today, most of the dangers are imagined. We imagine talking to somebody, or speaking up in meeting, or making some kind of request or complaint. But then our lightning fast and super genius brains swirl around in an internal typhoon. Imagining tons of good and tons of bad outcomes. This uses a TON of processing power. Which makes normal thinking much more sluggish. There's a common theme deep beneath this thought process. We all have a terrible fear of negative social attention. It's like everybody has X-Ray vision into our souls. This fear of being "discovered" pops up in a LOT of places. We don't say what want to say. We don't ask for what we want to ask for. This is why it's been said (and is generally true) that most humans live lives of "quiet desperation." We KNOW we are capable of doing and getting much more than we have been. And it's very EASY (and probably instinctive) to blame things outside of ourselves. At the same time, we WISH we could express who we REALLY are. We WISH we could speak our minds UNENCUMBERED by false fears. Those that do, get MASSIVE rewards. And they make it seem so easy. There are TONS of metaphors as old as time that describe this. That what we fear simply does not exist. And once we step toward these fears, they vanish. And those who demonstrate this make it look so easy. To say "hey" to pretty people. To make suggestions in a meeting. To hold their ground calmly in an argument, and eventually come out ahead. How can YOU be more like that? How can you FEARLESSLY express your opinions, and more importantly, yourself? It's not a trick or magic or simply muscling up and doing it. It's understanding the STRUCTURE of our inner world, our inner selves, and how they SUPPORT (or don't support) our outer expressions. Build the strong foundation, and the outside is easy. Slowly, steadily, comfortably. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/inner-frame/
  8. Demon Brain Killer: https://mindpersuasion.com/demon-brain-killer/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug16ALoop.mp4
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug10APost.mp4 Most, if not all, of self-help products are consumed "as if" they are entertainment. This is why self help CAN be like an addiction. But other self help is the opposite. The phrase, "self help" is very, very vague. From a purely objective standpoint, it means any thing you do, on your own, to "help" or "improve" yourself. Exercise clearly belongs in this category. If you join the military, or are on a sports team, somebody ELSE will want you to do exercises. Because they benefit from your healthier and more physically fit body. But when you decide to do exercises on your own, for your own reasons, that is the perfect definition of "self help." Similarly, when you learn something complicated, that takes a lot of time. Playing a musical instrument, learning a complex software. This takes time, and effort, and you can measure your progress. Just like with exercise. In exercise, musical training and software teaching, the idea of a "fake guru" or even a "guru" doesn't make sense. There are instructors. If you wanted to get better at ANYTHING, it takes practice. Maybe ten percent study, and the rest practice. Even if you were learning something extremely complicated like Photoshop, you might watch a ten minute video on how to do one thing. But most of your time would be trying all the different ways to do that one thing. Other categories of "self help" are not like this. These are the ones that are consumed like fiction. Which categories are these in? Generally, the "guru" or "false guru" categories are anything requires you talk to or interact with others. Making more money, or improving your relationships. But there are two critical aspects within the "false guru" realm. A very strange combination of laziness and fear. When you decide to get a six pack, the laziness is there, but the fear is not. Nobody gets sweaty palms and heart palpitations as they approach the gym door. But when it comes to improving ourselves through some kind of social skills, this is TERRIFYING. So terrifying that our cognitive dissonance doesn't even allow our brains to think in terms of practice. Instead, we think in terms of magic. Get that one "secret" idea into your head, and sidestep all the necessary work. This is when self help is consumed like fiction. You read a fictional story and go along for the ride. You get to imagine killing bad guys and saving good guys. But you know it's fiction. When you're done, it's back to real life. But with self help, it's not like that. We read self help books, and the hero is our future selves. While we are consuming them, they feel really good. But the thing they are missing is nothing will change without continuous and persistent SKILL BUILDING. However, if any skill building involves fear, we don't do them. So, the trick is to build skills that DON'T require we ever leave our comfort zone. This will make ALL skills easier to master. Especially social skills. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug01Post.mp4 I used to have this boss that everybody hated. She was the owner of the small company, one she inherited. I'd only worked there a year, but even in that time the business had shrunk. I don't know what the deal was between her and the previous partner, but she didn't have much of a clue about business, or general life in general. She'd make really bad decisions, and get angry if people would try and explain to her why they were bad decisions that would cost EVERYBODY money. For example, she had a rule that we had to ALWAYS upsell the customers. Which we never did, since the stuff she wanted us to upsell was utter crap. And we all knew that if we tried to upsell customers, even REPEAT customers, they would STOP being customers. Even then, when she found out we were not upselling, she'd get angry. One time I ALMOST lost it with her. Like scream out loud lost it. But I bit my tongue. I was working a project that had a very tight deadline. But I was using the main office computer. (This was over 10 years ago). I was using both Excel and Word, and a LOT of data. But she interrupted me, wanting to do something else WHILE I was doing what I was doing. She wanted to burn a bunch of CDs or something. She said it wasn't a big deal, since it would work in the "background." I tried to explain that "in the background" meant we had to SHARE the processor. Which would make my task take much longer. But she wouldn't have it. Every time I'd try to do a hefty calculation, my spreadsheet would freeze. But because she couldn't see her process, she thought it didn't have any impact on the stuff I was doing. Worst part was I had to sit RIGHT NEXT to her while my task, which should have only taken 20 minutes, took nearly two hours. When bosses don't understand what their employees go through, it can create some office turmoil. When bosses aren't driven by customers, but their own ego, it can create office turmoil. When you're trying to do something on your PC, but it keeps freezing, because there's a CRAPTON of stuff going on in the background, it can create turmoil. But this same CRAP happens inside your brain. You see something you'd like. Part of you wants to go and get it. Part if you is afraid to. Those two parts start an argument. In the BACKGROUND of your mind. So, what does this do to your PERFORMANCE? It FREEZES. Just like my spreadsheet. But if you clean house, get rid of all the horrible, second guessing bosses that live in your subconscious, and all the sticky BLOATWARE that exits in your brain, EVERYTHING will improve. Your performance. Your mental speeds. Your linguistic and perceptual acuity. Your ability to REALLY understand what other people are saying and respond accordingly. It's like getting a brand new brain! Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July29Post.mp4 There are a lot of sayings in the self development area that are kind of true. But there are also some that are dangerous. One of them is about fear. "Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain." This CAN be helpful if it gives you the motivation to move forward. But it's also a bit too vague. From a purely biological point of view, you don't really "kill" fear when you "do the thing you fear." You do something that's scary. This creates a lot of adrenaline. That adrenaline CAN be a good feeling. But ONLY if you succeed. The adrenaline response fuels the fight of flight response. Fighting or running away takes a long time. So any time we do something that SEEMS scary, our biology is going to respond as if it IS scary. And if the length of the scary thing is short, AND we are successful, then we'll get a positive adrenaline rush. Jumping out of an airplane, for example. The fear is REAL. The adrenaline that comes from jumping is VERY STRONG. But the time it takes to reach "terminal velocity" when you STOP accelerating, is very short. So you experience a kind of "floating" sensation while that adrenaline is still flowing. This is the basic "thrill seeker" high. A DRUG. The adrenaline response that comes EVERY SINGLE TIME. Or consider something that's only dangerous from an "imagination" level. Public speaking. There is ZERO danger. But because it feels dangerous, your ancient instincts respond as if it IS dangerous. So when you give a decent speech, get some genuine applause, that FEELS fantastic. But this fantastic feeling only comes if you TAKE ACTION and that action is SUCCESSFUL. This doesn't work very well in social situations. At least not as binary as jumping out of airplanes or giving speeches. Even if you give a lousy speech at a friendly place, you'll still get that adrenaline rush. That rush that comes from POWERING through the fears. But when you walk up and talk to somebody, it's a different animal. It's NOT just a matter of turning off your brain and getting it done. You NEED your brain. You need to listen and respond appropriately. This is when the "feel the fear and do it anyway" idea is LOUSY advice. If you're "feeling the fear" you won't come across as confident and relaxed. Being confident and relaxes is IDEAL in social situations. A better way would be to KILL the fear before you even start. So you FEEL confident, relaxed. Where you'll be the most effective, conversationally. How do you do that? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun04Post.mp4 Steve Martin made a movie a long, long time ago called, "The Lonely Guy." He didn't have any friends. He'd go out eat by himself. He'd have a "cover" that he was a food critic. But that was after he'd sat down. When he'd walk in, and ask for a table for one, everybody would stop. All the people in the restaurant, in the middle of their conversations, would stop and look at him. They'd even have a spotlight on him. This is how it feels for most of us, when we go social places alone. "Hey! Who is that weirdo? Why doesn't he have any friends?" We even get this feeling when walking across a room to introduce yourself. As soon as we live the safety of our group, or the safety of the wall we are leaning against, we feel exposed. As if everybody is going to STOP what they are doing and watch us. "Hey! Everybody! Look at that guy, all by himself, walking across the room to talk to that pretty girl!" The truth is, nobody really think this. Unless you are PROJECTING that kind of energy. The nervous, "I'm doing something wrong" energy. The "I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing" energy. How can you NOT project that energy? Easy. Don't FEEL that energy. Yeah, I know, much easier said than done. But guess what? The energy you feel, and project, is something you can PRACTICE. For example, imagine you'd never ridden a unicycle before, and you tried to ride it across the room. If you were uncertain and off balance, it would show on your face. People would watch you, but they would feel a certain way. A "hey that guy's about to crash" kind of way. But suppose you practiced? Suppose you rode a unicycle across the room with a confident and playful expression across your face? They'd look at you much DIFFERENTLY. You can practice feeling comfortable in social situations JUST LIKE you could (if you wanted to) practice riding a unicycle. Social situations require skills. Skills take practice. So long as you practice slowly, you'll get better. But here's the thing. If you became a super confident unicycle rider, what would that get you? It might be a cool party trick. But riding a unicycle, in and of itself, doesn't do much. After you get over the thrill of learning something difficult, it'd be boring. But social skills come pre-loaded with plenty of good feelings. Humans are social animals. Which means the more social skills you practice, the more you'll enjoy life. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr14Post.mp4 One historian described the history of humanity as a scared and lazy people doing everything they could to become safer and work less. This sounds like a slam on humanity. But it's really true for ALL living creatures. There are two basic functions behind this statement. One is getting needed energy for survival. All animals need to do this. And they need to be as efficient as possible. Now, in our modern society, as much of a trainwreck it is becoming, this seems to be a no-brainer. You need food, you go to the store. Or order it online. But for the huge majority if life on Earth, getting food was very, very difficult. There was ALWAYS a battle, just like there is now, between the calories you burn, and the calories you consume. Every animal has that deep instinct programmed in the origins of it's DNA. Any animal that DIDN'T have that would go extinct. So right off the bat, getting MORE than energy than you burn is the prime directive. This is where the laziness comes in. Being lazy means spending as LITTLE effort as possible to get the MAXIMUM benefits. All animals have this. If they didn't, they wouldn't exist very long. How does this play out in modern life? If you are buying things you want to get the MOST VALUE for the LEAST amount of money. If you want to get laid, you want to get the HOTTEST partner with the least amount of risk. You want to find the EASIEST and QUICKEST to learn skills to get you the BEST career. Inventors and entrepreneurs that come up with inventions that make things easier for the masses get paid like crazy. All from the "lazy instinct." What about the "scared" part? In the quest for better returns for less effort, we can't die. Or break our legs, or get eaten by a bear. EVERY ANIMAL has this natural fear built in. This is exactly why Mountain Gorillas are on the verge of extinction. Wait, what? Mountain Gorillas, to us humans, seem utterly terrifying. But if one alpha Mountain Gorilla comes up against another one, they will feel a fear MUCH, MUCH more powerful than we will of them. That's why every troupe of mountain gorillas needs a HUGE area to live in. Their ENTIRE LIVES and instincts are built around NOT running into another group of gorillas. Because they need so much land, they are on the verge of extinction. What the heck does any of this have to do with anything? When you understand these two programs, fear and laziness, that are always running in EVERYBODY'S brains, you'll understand human nature. Human decision making. Human fears, human desires, and everything in between. Even better, you'll be able to pace where they are, and lead them WHEREVER you want them to be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  14. Trading Fear For Money: https://mindpersuasion.com/trading-fear-for-money/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/satanic-day-trading https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct04Loop.mp4
  15. Photographic Fear Removal: https://mindpersuasion.com/photographic-fear-elimination/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept24Loop.mp4
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug22Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, human brains started to get really big. Eventually, a decision had to be made. Because our brains were getting so big, there was a problem with birth. There were essentially two choices. The first choice was that our hips could keep getting wider and wider, so our brains to keep getting bigger and bigger. That wasn't such a good option, because that would force us back to walking on four legs. So the next option was to have us born WAY before we were finished. This is why humans are helpless for the first couple of years. Compare this too all other mammals, who are mobile. Soon after they are born, every other mammal can get up and walk around. We humans, on the other hand, just lay there and stare off into space. For two whole years! Even after we can get up and walk around, our brains are still being built. In one study, they showed a bunch of kids a puppet show. A kid in the puppet show had some chocolate, and put it in a GREEN cupboard. Then later his mom took some of the chocolate out. She made a cake, and then she put it back into the BLUE cupboard. Then the original kid came back. And said he wanted some chocolate. The question to the kids WATCHING the puppet show was WHERE would he look? Not where the chocolate was, but where he THOUGHT it was. The older kids figured it out. But the kids four and younger couldn't. These means even four year old kids, who can walk around and use language pretty well, STILL don't understand about human intentions. They can't extrapolate what happened before and use that to guess what people are thinking. This is why plenty of our limiting beliefs are so, uh, LIMITING. They were programmed in BEFORE our brains were finished. Before we understood how OUR intentions are different from OTHER people's intentions. Before we could understand how to GUESS other people's intentions. For some lucky folks, with positive and supportive role models, they don't much of a problem. But for everybody else, we still are stuck with a lot of these limiting beliefs. Perhaps the most DANGEROUS and INSIDIOUS limiting beliefs is the one that creates social anxiety. The one that makes us feel anxious and nervous every time we even THINK about expressing ourselves. The more intelligent you are, the WORSE this feels. Since this was programmed on an emotional, NON-intelligent level. Luckily, there is a solution. A slow, safe gradual we to REMOVE social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July29Post.mp4 Understanding Modern Frustrations Once I was in elementary school. And I had a crush on my second grade teacher. She gave us this math "test." More like a puzzle. She said we had to race to see who could finish first. I'm pretty sure I finished before everybody else. I thought it was easy. When I was done, I looked around, everybody else was still struggling. But I was too terrified to say anything. I was a shy kid. Then some OTHER kid stood up. The teacher gave HIM a whole bunch of public praise. For being so smart. Even though I'd finished before him. I KNEW what had happened. That I shot myself in the foot, so to speak. To terrified to stand up and IDENTIFY myself as being SEPARATE from everybody else. This is very closely related to the common fear of public speaking. ANYBODY can speak publicly in the right situation. But in these situations, we don't really think of it as "public speaking." Telling jokes when friends are around. But purposely SEPARATING ourselves from a group of STRANGERS is pretty scary. Especially when all those STRANGERS are staring at us. Many things in modern life are both easy yet maddening. We do fantastic things, but nobody notices. Other people do utterly EASY things, and everybody treats them like they are some kind of super hero. This kind of thing is rampant in the self help industry. Especially the kind where the super successful person becomes the super successful guru. "I have a super successful life. Copy what I did and you can be successful, too!" Only it doesn't quite work out for most people. Part of the reason that MOST of our behavior are not anywhere NEAR 100% conscious. So no matter WHAT we do, we don't really know HOW or WHY we did what we did. This is the problem when successful people try and teacher others how to become successful. Chances are they aren't really sure HOW they became successful. Even walking down the street, most of the INPUTS to our senses go straight PAST our conscious minds. This is widely understood phenomenon. But it generally only leads to interesting metaphysical understandings. Not any USEFUL strategies. To get useful strategies, you need to understand the human mind-body system from an objective, pragmatic standpoint. Not only will this give you a huge INSIGHT into the most common causes of frustration, but you'll be able to ELIMINATE them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/watching-mind/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July7Post.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, my buddies and I love to watch Mad Max. My buddies were all car freaks, more so than I was. They loved the idea of having a big V8 with a secret nitrous oxide injection to give it an extra boost. Their favorite part was when Max was chasing the bad guys, then he'd calmly flip on the switch to give his car a boost. Then he'd suddenly accelerate, overtake the bad guys and cause them all to crash. One of the Star Trek movies was a crossover. Where they had the original cast in with the Next Generation cast. One engineer from the original cast was talking to an engineer from the Next Generation cast. He was asking him how fast the engines would go. The guy told him, and then he asked again. "Yeah, but how fast do they REALLY go?" The Next Generation engineer didn't understand the question. The original engineer shook his head, and said: "Never tell the captain how fast the engines will REALLY go." The idea of having a hidden resource of energy is very compelling. A secret ace up your sleeve. There's even a theory from physiology that we all have secret hidden reservoirs of energy in case of emergencies. To lift up cars, or make it an extra mile when we're about to die. But because we are usually VERY safe and not anywhere NEAR life threatening danger, we'll never really know. This is ONE reason why people love extreme sports. It gets them out on the edge of safety. When they get mad adrenalin rushes. The opposite is also common. Unfortunately, very common. Of thinking you don't have ANY skills or energy beyond what you are doing RIGHT NOW. If you believe you really DO have some secret power source, or an ace up your sleeve, it will give you a TON of confidence. So much you'll never have to need that secret stash. But if you are secretly terrified you have NOTHING, that will have the opposite effect. Knowing you have a secret stash will naturally EXPAND your comfort zone outward. Being terrified you have nothing will make it shrink. Luckily, the size of your comfort zone is completely up to you. It's based on plenty of assumptions you make about yourself, and about the world. Most of those assumptions are wrong. Which means if you can RE-CALIBRATE your assumptions, your comfort will expand significantly. Making everything you want OUT THERE much easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July4Post.mp4 One of the best feelings as a humans is a feeling of accomplishment. Even if nobody knows but you. Especially if it was something that you weren't sure you could pull off. It's very common in self help metaphors to pretend we are special JUST BECAUSE. But despite how many metaphysical truths we believe about ourselves, we are stuck inside our physical bodies. Our physical bodies require physical things. Food, shelter, and most importantly, money. It would be fantastic if we could just "receive" all that stuff without needing to really DO anything. This is pretty much the core "teaching" of many "law of attraction" books and courses, and even some pretty expensive seminars. That if you only BELIEVE something enough, you'll plenty of free stuff. We LOVE that idea because BELIEVING happens inside our own brain. There is no need to talk to anybody. Or even look anybody in the eye. This even matches are most DEEPEST instinctive programming. To MINIMIZE our efforts and MAXIMIZE our results. All animals are programmed with this instinct. To spend as little energy as possible in the acquisition of as much energy as possible. Only humans can take this to metaphysical extreme levels. To WISH we only need to BELIEVE and some magic wish fairy will show up at our house with a sack full of cash. But we also KNOW that unless we move around and GET physical things, we'll starve. On a very basic, very REAL level, the BETTER we are at moving around and interacting with REALITY, the better stuff we can GET. This requires real skills, not imaginary skills. Imagination is ABSOLUTELY VITAL. But it's only a starting point. So long as you imagination DRIVES your actions, you're much better off. And if you keep taking action, and keep measuring what your actions CREATED compared to your imagination, that's even better. Once you create a kind of SYSTEM, based on this very simple, yet very ancient process, it's pretty mechanical. Imagine what you want. Take action. See what happened. Did you get closer? Do MORE of that. Did you not get closer? Do something different. This is the heart of all learning. The learning that is PROGRAMMED into your brain. The strategy you used to walk and talk and do everything else you can do. The strategy that WILL get you whatever you want, so long as you keep going. The ONLY thing that will keep you from getting what you want is if you take yourself OUT of the game. If you're out of the game, get back in. Ease into it. Develop a rock solid inner belief that you WILL win, if you keep playing long enough. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July3Post.mp4 A common failure that everybody has plenty of experience with is "paralysis by analysis." This is nearly always in situations involving social skills or financial skills. Both of these involve putting ourselves "out there." If you try something socially, and it doesn't work, it feels awful. If you try something financially, and it doesn't work, it feels awful. Our lighting fast brains are VERY adept at extrapolating. We walk up to somebody, say hi, ask for their number, and they say no. Our brains extrapolate that outcome to the WORST possible conclusion, meaning that we will die alone. We'll end up being one of those creepy old people that kids are terrified of. Or we may try a financial endeavor and fail. So the extrapolated outcome to that is we'll end up broke. Poor, homeless and eating out of dumpsters. Because both of these fears exist BELOW our conscious awareness, we convince ourselves that BEFORE we get in the game, we want to make sure we have the RIGHT strategy. We think about this, we think about that, etc. We think if we can develop the perfect, bullet proof strategy BEFORE we take action, we WON'T fail and end up living alone in a dumpster. Unfortunately, BOTH sides of this common thought process are WRONG. First of all, your brain is VERY FAST, but it is VERY inaccurate. We evolved a very powerful, "better safe than sorry" thinking process. Which was helpful even if it was wrong most of the time. But this was only helpful in an environment when there were animals that LITERALLY were trying to eat us. We haven't been living in modern society long enough for our ancient brains to catch up. The other side is equally false. The idea of coming up with a bullet proof strategy. This is because NOBODY can predict the outcome of events. Particularly social and financial events. Without going too far down the rabbit hole, CHAOS theory says that we can't predict ANYTHING more than a few steps out. Otherwise weathermen wouldn't be wrong half the time. What's the answer? Luckily, there is a SUPER GENIUS learning strategy built into your brain. A NEW INSTINCT generator. This is what happens whenever you learn something to the level of UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE. It becomes NEW INSTINCT. Most people do this with music and sports and whatever they do for their job. But you can also do it for social and financial situations. It requires that you RE-CALIBRATE your ancient instincts for the modern world. So that learning to talk to attractive people can be JUST AS mechanical and practicing free throws or playing the scales on the piano. Which means the MORE you practice, the BETTER you'll get. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  21. Magic Spells Growing In Your Brain https://mindpersuasion.com/quantum-tunneling-through-pancakes/
  22. Everybody has a unique balance with respect to social comfort. Everybody has a point beyond which they'll start to feel social anxiety. Everybody has a point up to which they'll be more outgoing. When we are around friends, this balance is in one place. When we are around strangers, this balance is somewhere else. Regardless of who we are around, we tend to find our own equilibrium. Too much outgoing behavior will get us TOO MUCH attention, and cause us to pull back. Not enough will motivate us to speak up, and push out a bit. Both of these involve the idea of social attention. When we WANT more social attention, we push our social energy OUT. When we are getting TOO MUCH social attention, we pull our social energy BACK. But there is a way to push out as much as you want and NOT get any social attention. Most of the time, when we talk, people look at us. And the stuff we talk about is about us somehow. Something that happened to us. Something we have a strong opinion. So naturally, when we talk about these things, people focus on us. But you can speak about things that are metaphorically off to the side. The longer we speak, the more they'll be focused NOT on us, but on the stories we are telling. Once you realize how easy this is, you can start to put some very, very persuasive ideas within the stories. So persuasive you can get people to do anything you want. And since they are paying attention to the stories, and not you, they won't remember you nearly as much as the stories. This is normal. This is why actors have much more name recognition that screenwriters. This is why characters in movies have much more name recognition than directors. Listening to stories is a very pleasant, and very instinctive process. So once you start speaking in "story language," you can metaphorically step aside. They'll be paying attention to the stories, and not you. This will let you get as crazy as you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  23. Thrill Seeking and Guru Seminars: https://mindpersuasion.com/split-test-adrenalin-rush/
  24. Cialdini laws can be used to explain quite a bit of human behavior. They are essentially instincts that regulate our social behavior. William James, a philosopher and metaphysician from about a hundred years ago, said that humans have both a ton of learning capacity and a ton of instincts. Every other animal has mostly instincts. We have tons of learning because our brains are still forming for the first couple decades of our lives. Which means our instincts are more or less programmable. We need food, but we can choose a whole bunch of different food. We need sex, but we all have a different idea of an idea sexual partner. We crave social recognition, but how this happens is different for all of us. As far as our social lives, we have positive and negative social instincts. Just like we have positive and negative hunger instincts. The negative hunger instinct is that the longer we go without eating, the more uncomfortable we get. The positive hunter instinct is that it feels VERY GOOD to eat something delicious. The negative hunger instincts drive us away from starvation, the positive hunger instincts kind of reward is when we get food. Similarly, our social instincts have positive and negative levels. We are "rewarded" for helpful "tribal behavior" with positive authority validation and positive social validation. We are "punished" for unhelpful "tribal behavior" with negative authority validation and negative social validation. In an ancient society, this worked perfectly. But just like our hunger is troublesome today, so are these combinations of social instincts. Unfortunately, they are the source of plenty of human misery. And it happens in a very powerful way that creates a very strong cause-effect relationship. Since it happens when we are very young, it's kind of built in as an instinct. That's what happens when we are born with "less than defined" instincts. How, exactly, does this happen? Suppose you've got a kid in kindergarten or first grade. He has a desire to express himself. But the teacher doesn't agree. So the teacher yells at the kid. What is the result? This kid develops a casual link between the DESIRE to express oneself in public with NEGATIVE social and authority validation. If this happens a lot, it can cause trouble. This is EXACTLY why so many people have social anxiety as adults. We feel a desire to express ourselves. We START to express ourselves, but then that deep link is triggered. The one that reminds us that expressing our desires in public will lead to negative social and authority attention. This is why ANYTHING we want that involves social behavior creates a lot of anxiety. But there IS a pretty straightforward way to REMOVE this link. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  25. https://mindpersuasion.com/cement-mixer-fantasies/
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