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Economics is something few people actively study. They don't teach it in school. And unless you are going to major in economics, chances are you won't take any official courses. Yet understanding economics is essential. Because economics allows for an understanding of human nature. Of human decision making. Many suppose the reason they specifically DON'T teach economics in school is so it's much easier to con us. The MAIN THING economics FORCES us to understand is what things costs. And that is the ONE QUESTION those in charge don't want us to ask. They'd rather promise us stuff so we NEVER wonder what that stuff is going to cost. But EVERYTHING cost something. Either now, or later. But a deeper idea in economics is the idea of diminishing returns. Imagine you're really hungry. Imagine it's your ONE cheating day per week. And you are about ready to eat a HUGE plate of carne asada nachos. All week you've been eating boiled chicken breast and cabbage. The FIRST BITE of carne asada nacho is going to be DELICIOUS. As will the next couple of bites. But as you keep eating, each successive will be LESS and LESS delicious. Pretty soon you'll reach a tipping point. Where each bite is not only not delicious, but painful. This is the law of diminishing returns. You KEEP doing the same thing. But the BENEFIT (the returns) keep getting less (diminish). If you have ten days off from work, each day is going to be a LITTLE less rewarding than the last. If you slip into a hot bath after a long day's work, each minute will be LESS relaxing than the previous. This idea will OBLITERATE any goals you have if you don't understand. It happens like this. On DAY ONE of your plan, your motivation is HUGE. The imagined benefit is HUGE. The imagined COSTS of getting that goal are small, since you're just starting. But each day you go forward, something happens. The costs INCREASE. They move from imagined, to real. The imagined benefit DECREASES. Each day you imagine the benefit, the law of diminishing returns kicks in. And makes it seem less and less valuable in mind. The visualized BENEFITS are decreasing over time. The actual COSTS are increasing over time. When you started, and the benefit was HUGE, since you'd JUST STARTED to imagine them. The costs were SMALL, since you could ONLY imagine them. But each day, the costs increase, and the imagined benefits decrease. Pretty soon you reach a tipping point. Where the COSTS are LARGER than the benefits. And it's NATURAL at this point, to give up. This is why nearly EVERYBODY sets goals. But very few people ACHIEVE goals. Turns out the entire self-help industry is FILLED with misconceptions. Luckily, once you understand basic human nature, you can create a much better plan. One that will make success much more natural. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
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Understanding human nature is very helpful. Both from an insider's view and from a competitor's point of view. It's good to understand human nature from inside your own brain. It's also helpful to understand human nature so you can keep a close eye on your competition. As they say, you could keep your friends close, but your enemies closer. Now, they aren't always going to be ENEMIES, but you will ALWAYS have competition. It can be friendly competition, but it will be competition. If you see your best friend waiting to interview for the same job YOU are interviewing for, he is your friend AND your "enemy" at the same time. They aren't going to hire both of you. EVERY SINGLE THING you want that isn't abundant is going to be also wanted by a lot of other people. That one girl or guy you've got your eye on is also desired by many others. That one house in that one neighborhood is always desired by many others. That one idea you have to start a business around is likely also thought about by plenty of others. Unfortunately, plenty of our competition is very crafty. Once I had a job interview for a VERY NICE job. I had to talk to about six people. All but one was fairly straightforward. They asked me hard questions, and I gave them decent answers. Except for one guy. He was VERY FRIENDLY. Asked me very easy questions. Even got me something to drink. His strategy was to find out what I REALLY thought of his product. See, I had worked for a competitor at the time. But this job was a level up both career and income wise. Only I believed that their product was not quite as good as the one made by the company I worked for. And this guy wanted to find out what I REALLY believed about their product. And he did so by carefully, covertly, and deliberately lowering my guard. He even acted like he valued my advice. In doing so he "tricked me" into being MUCH MORE OPEN than I wanted to. And because of that one conversation, I didn't get the job. It can be very tempting to believe what others tell you. Especially if they are telling you EXACTLY how to get what you want. But in reality, the ONLY WAY to figure out exactly HOW to get what you want is by looking inside your own head. Understanding your OWN skills. Developing your OWN strategies. This can be difficult, but it's the ONLY way to realize true success. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
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Most normal people have issues with food. Either eating too much, or not the right kind. If you've ever tried to lose weight and couldn't, it's one of the most maddening situations. A common situation is as follows. You have a strong DESIRE to change your body. Maybe less fat, maybe more muscle. And so you do some research. You want to find out HOW to satisfy that desire. When you read the material, it sounds obvious. Scientific. It makes perfect sense. But then you run smack in the face of harsh reality. You KNOW what to do. But you can't do it. Sometiems this is when you KNOW you need to under a certain number of calories per day, but you can't. Part of you wants to abstain, but another part wants to eat. And the part of you that wants to eat seems to always win. This is the same battle that happens in nearly all areas of life. Part of you wants something. But another part of you, a much stronger part of you, makes doing that impossible. You see a cute girl across the room. She even smiled at you a couple of times. All you need to do is walk over there and start talking. But you can't. You come up with a billion LOGICAL SOUNDING reasons. You don't know what to say. Or you convince yourself that she isn't your type. Both of these frustrating situations are of the same structure. You have a desire to create a certain outcome. A very STRONG desire. Either to lose weight, or gain muscle, or study more, or to make friends. But another desire always keeps you from doing it. The thing you WANT is nearly always a long term desire. The thing that STOPS YOU is nearly always a short term desire. You want to study, but another more stronger desire makes you watch TV instead. You want to exercise, but another more stronger desire makes you stay in bed instead. Understanding that all these are of the SAME STRUCTURE is the first step. To see recognize that these short term, much stronger desires, seem to always OUT FRAME the longer, "higher order" desires. Once you understand the structure, you can fix it. And you fix it by SLOWLY strengthening the higher order desires. And by seeing them as things that need to be built slowly over time. There are plenty of ways out gain more control over these long desires. So will power is not needed. And frustration will vanish. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
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One puzzling idea from NLP is the idea that there is “no such thing as failure, only feedback.” This is one that people tend to have the most issues with. Partly because it is the most ill-defined “truism” or “presupposition” from NLP. Because “feedback” and “failure” are both MEANINGS given to EVENTS. And since another idea INSIDE NLP is the ability to change meanings of events, this idea is problematic. It’s more of a recommendation than a rule. Kind of like looking both ways before you cross the street. If it’s quiet, and you don’t hear any cars approaching, you’re in pretty good shape. So, what’s the real difference between “feedback” and “failure?” If you are trying to defuse a bomb, and you clip the wrong wire, it’s not really feedback, since you’re blown to bits. On the other hand, your example can be used to teach future bomb-defusers what NOT to do. From your perspective, it’s hard to see it as anything BUT a failure. But from people who later study your failure, it’s clearly feedback. The trick is to turn what we INITIALLY would define as “failure” and be able to redefine it as feedback. For some things, this happens naturally. Practicing sports, for example. If you’re standing there shooting free throws, you won’t sulk and become miserable every time you miss. Especially if you FRAME the sequence of shots as PRACTICE. This is a big clue. By framing how we interpret things BEFORE we go into them, it’s much easier to recognize events as “feedback.” Why do we practice anything? To get better. This means that pretty much ANYTHING you do (except defusing bombs) can be seen within a much larger goal. This is very easy if you have HORIZON goals, and not specific goals. Most goal setting books tell you to set SPECIFIC goals. Not only specifically defined, but at a specific time. This is actually pretty dangerous. Because if you have a specific goal at a specific time, then each step on the way there is going to be much more important. You won’t get the goal unless ALL the intermediary steps are completed on time. With a horizon goal, there’s much less pressure. A specific goal, for example is to make 50% more money in a year. The closer to you get to your target, the more each intermediary goal will seem like a bomb-defusing situation. Do or die. But with a horizon goal, each step is will be EASIER to see as feedback. For example, instead of demanding you make 50% more in a year, have a much broader horizon goal. For example, your money horizon goal can be “I’ll be making a lot more money in a year than I’m making now.” So each thing you try on the way will be easier to get information. And all information, good or bad, can help you to make more money than you are now. This is a key element of success that isn’t usually taught. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/deep-skills/
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