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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov30Post.mp4 A long time ago, I was into short term investing. Not exactly day trading, but not long term, set and forget investing. I read a bunch of books about psychology of investing, etc. One guy had a pretty cool system. Dude had a PhD in psychology and was highly recommended. After going over all the psychological aspects, fear, greed, etc., he got into the technical aspects. Three separate screens, based on different technical aspects. Long term screen, medium term screen, and then a final screen. Out of all the thousands of stocks, only a few made it through to the final screen. Then it was the trader's job to get in and out at the right time, based on a bunch of short term indicators. The screening part was my favorite. Like a statistical way of finding a needle in a haystack. I had this friend who had a very well calibrated seduction technique. He told me he based it on the first Terminator movie. This guy was super successful with the ladies so when he explained, I listened. If you don't remember the first Terminator, he would have this screen through which he could see the world. And on the side he could choose from various responses. He told him he took a lot of time and to build his own version. So he could walk into any social area, quickly scan the crowd, and find the very few high probability targets. Like anything else, he had to practice consciously for a while before it became unconscious. He said the most telling body language element was their eyes. I used to read a lot of Tom Clancy. In one story, they were after this super-villain. A kind of sociopathic type who did horrible things. More than one of the characters mentioned something like this to the main good guy: "When you catch him, I'd like to see his eyes." Meaning you can tell a LOT by how somebody looks at you. Whether they are DTF or just flirting. Or out of professional curiosity, what the eyes of a sociopathic super villain look like. There is a lot of data we can get from the eyes of others. There is a lot about ourselves we can reveal from our own eyes. But for most people, making eye contact is like giving an oral report in school. You want to get it over with very, very quickly. When you give the speech, you are so nervous you barely remember it when you are done. At the same time, giving a speech effectively and confidently is like a drug. Similarly, if you practice eye contact from an inner game level, it's like a drug. Giving a good speech to a receptive audience is a very EXPENSIVE drug. It takes a lot of time and effort. But pleasing eye contact is FREE. Everywhere you look there are opportunities. Get Some: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov29Post.mp4 There is a lot of advice that makes sense. It makes sense because it matches our experience. It makes sense because it's simple to understand. But what's commonly lacking is how, specifically, to do that regularly, automatically, and more importantly UNCONSCIOUSLY. Most of what we do is auto pilot. Unless we have to give an important speech, or we are getting ready to go on a first date, our behavior is autopilot. This is why actors seem like such a mess when they are filmed speaking off the cuff. Even when they go on talk shows, they prepare how they will answer those questions. So even in talk shows, when they have time to prepare, and they know the questions they're going to get, the are essentially "acting." One of the biggest shocks that came out of the Watergate scandal way back in the day with Nixon was how those dudes spoke when they thought they WEREN'T being recorded. Not that they were dropping f-bombs. But their grammatical structure was a mess. That is their NATURAL communication state. Most of our natural communication state is similarly a mess. "Uh, yeah, what about that, uh, thing, the other, um..." In the context of a friendly conversation this is fine. But most of us naturally want MORE than what we have. Better relationships, better bodies, better jobs. So those common pieces of advice SEEMS to be good advice. Because we've experienced it, AND it makes sense. For example, a common piece of advice is to "be yourself." Everybody has examples in their memory of being themselves and it working out. The question is HOW do you "be yourself" ALL THE TIME? Everybody is themselves until they see a stunning beauty looking in their direction. The same goes with the common advice of "be outcome independent." Everybody can remember a time when they WERE outcome independent and it worked fantastically. But again, how do you BE outcome independent as your natural state? Another similar advice is to be confident with eye contact. You look, meet their eyes, and hold it longer than they do. EVERYBODY has experience doing this. Of seeing a hot guy or girl. Of meeting their eyes. And THEM breaking off eye contact FIRST. And THEN quickly looking back. This FEELS very good. But how do you do this CONSISTENTLY? How can you make this your NATURAL behavior? The answer is based on inner game. The ONE THING many people are terrified of (or creates instant and usually subconscious anxiety) is UNEXPECTED eye contact. It's one thing to PREPARE to make confident eye contact ahead of time. But how can you respond to unexpected eye contact with relaxed, enjoyable confidence? So that is your NATURAL state? You can learn how here: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov28Post.mp4 We humans have a lot of biases. It's really, really hard to see these in ourselves. But really easy to see in others. The question is, why do we have such strong biases? These didn't just pop into our brains on accident. Well, that's not true. Everything about us DID pop in by accident. The good stuff is kept, the bad stuff is tossed out. "Kept" meaning the people who had the good stuff got to live. "Tossed out" meaning that the people who had the bad stuff didn't. Or at least didn't live long enough to have kids. So somewhere along the line, we got language, memory, and a TON of biases. The question is how, specifically, did these biases help us? One way to think about this is to focus on the two MOST IMPORTANT things to survival. Both as individuals and as a species. As individuals, food is THE most important thing to not die. As a species, sex is THE most important thing to not go extinct. So a reasonable assumption would be that our biases helped us to get food AND to get laid. Take confirmation bias, for example. If you were out hunting, and plenty of your people depended on you, confirmation bias would be a big help. It would ONLY point out things that might lead to food. This is kind of like when you're walking down the street, and you see something out of the corner of your eye that LOOKS LIKE it might be money. You turn your head excitedly, and find that it's really a piece of paper that LOOKS like money, but only from your peripheral vision. This is a pretty "binary" use. This is money (food)! ...no it's not. That's money (food)! ... no it's not. But what about sex? Sex is to make babies, in case you hadn't heard. But babies are very, very expensive. Both in time and resources AND they make a lot of noise. And back in the day, it absolutely required two people. One to watch the kid, one to get enough food to feed everybody. So MOST of emotions regarding sex are NOT the initial sexual urge. They are kind of like supporting emotions. Both before and after the baby making act. You might remember what this was like, back at school. You "heard" or "suspected" that somebody LIKED you. Before, they were just a pretty face. Or maybe not. But once you hear that somebody LIKES you? That changes EVERYTHING. In fact, you may say that realizing or noticing or even HOPING that somebody LIKES YOU is the most powerful emotion their is. Once you think somebody likes you (even if you're wrong) you CANNOT get that person off your mind. Here's the good news. You can BE that person to many, many people. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov27Post.mp4 There are a lot of metaphors about getting to know people. Peeling back the onion layers, etc. There are a lot of metaphorical expressions that describe what it's like to be in this process. "I think I like him/her." "I'm not sure how I feel about him/her." There's also ideas that describe what it's like to fall for somebody who is not our "type." This is something that's much easier to see in somebody else. Somebody you know falls hard and fast for somebody. Everything just kind of "clicked." Or perhaps the "stars aligned." However it happens, suddenly both parties are head over heels with each other. Without the usually careful, long, "getting to know you phase." This is when the real "truth" about human sex and romance comes out. And that is those things we slowly need to "get to know" about each other aren't nearly as important as we think they are. How do we know? Because if any of your friends got together with somebody very quickly, they'll suddenly "like" things they NEVER expressed they liked before. For example, say the guy or gal they've fallen for LOVES slapstick comedies. Your friend will say they've ALWAYS liked slapstick comedies, even though they've NEVER mentioned this before. Why is this? Because feelings of love are the SECOND STRONGEST feeling in the world. Perhaps the strongest, depending on how you define a "feeling." Hunger is necessary. The longer you go without eating, the more of this necessary survival instinct will take over you brain. But so long as you are getting fed, LOVE is the most powerful feeling on Earth. Why? It had to be. Babies take a LONG TIME to become self sufficient. Back in the day, single moms didn't have much of a chance. So the bond between mom and had to be strong enough. Consider that the main reason for all our biases is to "recalibrate" our brains so the person we're having sex with is the PERFECT person for us. So, why do we take time finding out their sense of humor, what their hobbies are, etc.? Especially if we know our brains are going to re-calibrate themselves anyway? And if it is necessary to find out all about those extra things (hobbies, etc.) how does LOVE at first sight happen? Consider that the slow dance of dating and finding out about each other really serves a deeper purpose. One that is NOT necessary. Not if you don't want it to. You can CREATE that love at first sight feeling. In anybody you want. What happens after that is up to you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov26Post.mp4 We silly humans have a hard time with cause and effect. Particularly when things are linked. But plenty of things can be mathematically linked, but have zero causality. A famous example is ice cream and sharks. During the summer, people eat more ice cream. During the summer, there are more shark attacks. So, you could create a positive correlation between the two. But, it would be silly that eating ice cream causes shark attacks. Like every time you bite into any kind of ice cream, some poor dude is getting bit into by a shark. Or if you're out swimming, and a shark bites off your leg, you'll respond with a telepathically sent impulse to get people to eat ice cream. But other things aren't so obvious. In the previous example, it's easy to see the common thing. The same thing, the heat of the summer, causing both things. But often this third element is hidden. Or even more complicated, there are WAY more elements. Consider the common advice of "being yourself." We are "ourselves" with close friends. With new people, most people take a while to "be themselves." Both nice guys, and guys who study and practice "game" are PURPOSELY not being themselves. Nice guys assume that if they be "nice," they'll be "entitled" to some kind of reward. This is kind of subconscious, as they really BELIEVE that is their natural behavior. Guys who practice game are purposely and deliberately not being themselves. But what about naturals? Consider that naturals ARE naturals because they feel confident being themselves around EVERYBODY. They stroll up to pretty ladies and ARE their true selves right off the bat. But if you only see the surface, you'll create "game" based on their behaviors and communication. That is missing the point. Kind of like thinking that ice cream sales drive shark attacks. For naturals, it's not their actual actions, it's their CONGRUENCE that is so attractive. Juts like little kids. Everybody likes little kids because they aren't being "fake" nice or running some kind of game. When they are happy they let everybody know they are happy. Consider this cause-effect paradox. The ultimate goal for any guy or gal looking for action is to get the point where you can express your real self. They can express their real self. And you both like each other's real self. THEN you have sex. And AFTER sex, you both experience that post orgasmic "after glow." But what if you could create that "after glow" but BEFORE you even speak to them. How could this be possible? Consider that finding somebody who gets and appreciates us, AND wants to have sex with us creates some very POWERFUL emotions. And those emotions drive that mutual gaze of love. But what if you could CREATE those emotions ON YOUR OWN? And share them with ANYBODY you wanted? How would THAT affect your social life? Learn How: https://mindperusasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov25Post.mp4 It's common, and fun, to have staring contests as kids. This is the one "sport" that is open to everybody. Sports, or any athletic competition is not. Any kind of educational competition is not. Even many games requires some basic learning and practice. A guy who's played a few dozen games of checkers against somebody who's never played isn't even. But staring contests are open to everybody. Sometimes they are planned. Sometimes they are spontaneous. And it's easy to "cheat." To stare into their eyes and think about other stuff. The color of their eyes, the shape of their pupil. Many salesmen are trained to maintain stable, neutral eye contact while listening to sales objections. But they are also trained to think about things like what they are going to have for dinner, etc. Kids, of course, know it's easy to do this. So kids, naturally, measure the winner of staring contests by who BLINKS first. So even if you are zoning out by thinking of the latest movie, you MUST blink eventually. Even in planetary wide contests, the word, "he blinked first" indicates the OTHER GUY maintained FRAME DOMINATION. Kennedy vs. the Russians during the Cuban missile crisis, for example. This idea of "maintaining frame dominance" can be found anywhere. For example, if you want to buy something, but you want to get the cheapest price. The prime directive is say and do NOTHING when they mention the price. Remain plain faced after, so they have to GUESS how you are responding. All of this surrounds the idea of eye contact. Most normal people are very WEAK when it comes to eye contact. Most guys will be enjoying the physical beauty of a women, only to run for the hills (metaphorically) if they are "caught" looking. Once a couple of buddies of mine suddenly became hyper-interested in the bumper of his car. I was wondering what the heck was going on, until I saw a pretty lady strolling in our direction. They set a completely FAKE reason to crouch in the same spot JUST SO they would have a legitimate reason to watch the pretty lady walk by. The problem with this strategy is that ladies are WAY more capable of reading body language than men give them credit. Yes, they know you are checking them out. They KNOW you are hiding the fact. This is a blatantly demonstrated WEAK frame. What is a strong frame? The easiest frame to demonstrate? The most POWERFUL fame she'll encounter? Positive, stable, openly appreciative, non-creepy, non-judgmental eye contact. This is much, much, more of an inner game. This can be practiced many, many times per day. Anywhere, anytime. Build up this strength, and give pretty ladies a gift they'll remember forever. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct25Post.mp4 There are a few funny videos online of people staring at their phones not looking where they're going. Walking into fountains, open manhole covers, off cliffs, into wood chippers, etc. This makes sense. Even way back before cell phones, the phrase, "Hey, watch where you're going!" can be found in plenty places. But one thing is kind of puzzling, at least at first. Most of science is like this. Puzzling at first. But then they do some experiments, figure stuff out, and it makes sense. Anyhow, the puzzling part was how people can walk up and down a crowded sidewalk and NOT bump into others. In fact that common phrase, "Hey! Watch where you're going!" is the EXCEPTION that proves the rule. People get angry when you bump into them because we all expect others to NOT bump into us. This is such an intuitive way of thinking that NOBODY ever tells us this. When we are kids parents and teachers do teach us things. Say thank you. Wash your hands. Look both ways before crossing street. Watch out for creepy old guys in trench coats walking your direction. But nobody ever says: "Be sure not to bump into anybody!" As if some little kid is going to go out and try and tackle every dude he sees. So we know that we DON'T bump into people unless we're REALLY not paying attention. But how this happens is kind of cool. Scientist set up a bunch of cameras on busy streets to see precisely HOW we avoid each other. It turns out we all come pre-programmed with a "don't bump into other people" strategy. And if each one of only as a three or four step strategy, that's enough. For example, our strategy might be: "Always go left first, then go left again, and then go right OR if that doesn't work, wait till they move and then do the opposite." But this ONLY works under one very critical condition. When people are looking at others ONLY through peripheral vision. Because looking at others through peripheral vision means they are only a blur and a direction. When all the other people you pass by every day are blurs with directions, it's very EASY to not bump into them. This is why bumping into poles or walking into open manholes is EASIER than not bumping into people. Because while poles and manhole covers are blurs, they don't have any direction. So they don't trigger our "don't bump that person" avoidance strategy. But one thing will instantly KILL this avoidance strategy. And make it very hard to NOT bump into them. What is this? Eye contact. As soon as we hold eye contact, we AUTOMATICALLY get into rapport. And what is rapport? Mirroring and matching. So instead of avoiding them, we COPY them. And critically, THEY COPY US. This is the secret of all interpersonal relationships. Just like rapport, it happens naturally. So, get out of your head, and let it happen. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/personal-magnetism/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb28Post.mp4 If you happened to be wandering through the jungle and found an angry gorilla charging at you, what would be the best response? Those who study primates tell us that you break off eye contact, lower your gaze, perhaps look off to the side. And be as passive as you can. If the gorilla is really angry, he'll put his nose a few fractions of an inch away from yours, and give you the gorilla stare of death. (And probably some pretty nasty breath as well...) Needless to say, this is perhaps the most terrifying thing we can imagine. Even those who've ventured into the jungle for one reason or another say that when a gorilla screams at the top of his lungs, EVERYBODY shuts the hell up. It's like when the gorilla is angry, NOBODY wants to be anywhere near him. Funny thing is gorillas RARELY get physical. Their main power is INTIMIDATION. But it works. It's kind of like a very vicious energy field that automatically creates terror in everybody nearby. We can see this same trait in us humans as well. We are primates, after all. You see two guys getting ready to rumble and they'll try to give each other the gorilla stare. The best example is two boxers who are getting instructed on the rules, just before the fight starts. Nobody needs to tell them this. This is something they don't need to practice. This death stare is a very ancient instinct. This is why it is HARD to make eye contact with strangers for most people. This can work both ways. You can give powerful stares as well as receive them. When gorillas, boxers and bar brawlers give each other the death stare, there aren't many thoughts in their brain. Expect maybe half conscious thoughts of destruction. But what happens if you fill your mind with actual thoughts? Not fear based thoughts like, "Please don't kill me!" But thoughts of playful confidence. This might not be a good idea if the person you're staring at IS actually contemplating violence. But this is EXTREMELY rare. When your brain is filled with plenty of positive ideas, any negative energy in their brain will VANISH. They'll see it on your face. They'll read it in your non-verbal energy. What kind of thoughts are helpful? Curious thoughts. About what they're all about. About what they might say. About how you might turn WHATEVER they say into a playful conversation. We can imagine that inside everybody are two ancient primates. The gorilla side, that is only pure anger. And the playful monkey side, who wants to have fun. If you fill your mind with goofy thoughts and a subtle invitation to play, people will be HAPPY to join you. Especially when you have plenty of built in, playful thought structures at the ready. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  9. Superstitious Alchemy Connections: https://mindpersuasion.com/superstitious-alchemy-connections/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec12Loop.mp4
  10. https://mindpersuasion.com/fomo-ingredients/
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