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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr30Post.mp4 Henry Ford was a genius. He, of course, became rich and famous for creating a mass produced car. Not inventing the car, but inventing a way to build a ton of cars quickly and cheaply. There's a famous pair of pictures from back in the day. Both are pictures of the same street in New York. One has a bunch of horses, and a few cars. Another has a bunch of cars, and a few horses. They were only taken ten years apart. This is what they mean by "disruptive technology." When you can make something WAY better, and WAY cheaper than the competition. It absolutely OBLITERATES the competition. Plenty of businesses went OUT of business because they couldn't see what was coming. Funny thing, though, is the company that showed up and put FORD out of business. Well, since they're still around, they never went out of business. But Ford being the main maker of all cars didn't last long. This is free market economics at work. If you have a good idea, EVERYBODY will try and copy it. To make it better, cheaper, etc. What was it that did Ford in? What did this new company figure out that Ford didn't? A very simple shift in the product, the car, that made all the difference. One of the ways Ford streamlined his manufacturing line was to make ALL cars the same color. Black. So all the competition did was to make them DIFFERENT colors. That was enough. If you live in a world with ONLY black cars, you can't really think of COLOR as being something that differentiates one car from another. There is a very simple parallel in today's dating market. If you think connecting dating and romance to cars is odd, it's actually pretty common. Just listen to the lyrics of any Springsteen song. Anyhow, back to the metaphor. Today's dating market, from the perspective of women, is like the FORD ONLY days of cars. This leads us to make a false conclusion about what the ladies like. Because most men LACK this basic skill, women have no choice but to compare men on other qualities. Looks, bling, artificial status. What's the missing variable? The one variable that will DESTROY the competition? Being able to MOVE her emotions. All women are attracted based on how they FEEL. And with the market so disastrous today, they have to rely on ONLY what they can find to get those feelings. And this is looks, money, status etc. But when you UNDERSTAND why they want those feelings, it's like being the first guy who can make different colored cars. YOU will stand out. But even better is when you understand HOW to create those feelings. Not through bling, or money or even LOOKS. But conversationally. Hypnotically. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr10Post.mp4 I used to work at this place where we had a Friday food contest. It started with the regular donuts on Friday. Like in many offices, everybody would take turns bringing in donuts. Sometimes people would bring in bagels. But somehow, this ended up in a competition. Everybody tried to outdo the previous weeks' offering. Breakfast sandwiches, various homemade ethnic food. One guy brought in his famous chili. Gotta admit, it was pretty tasty. He couldn't wait to tell us his secret recipe. One of the things about chili fans is that EVERYBODY has their own secret recipe. Plenty of cities have chili cook-offs. Food is kind of cool that way. You start off with five or six basic ingredients, and you can create some FANTASTIC dishes. Plenty of YouTube recipes are like that. They advertise how SIMPLE the food is. The fewer ingredients there are, the easier it is to make. In a funny way, people are the same way. No, not to eat. We aren't talking about a cannibal party! But there are only a few things that drive our behavior. A little of this, a bit of that. We all have very similar desires. We all want more money, more sex, better relationships, a better job, a better place to live. We all have the same fears. Fear of getting left behind, fear of missing out, fear of negative social treatment, fear of messing up hugely and publicly. These fears and desires motivate all our behaviors. But unlike a pot of delicious chili, it's pretty EASY to help others feel better. For example, if you were to add some Tabasco sauce to your chili, you COULD add too much. Or salt, or whatever else. For food, the ratios have to be JUST RIGHT. Like Goldilocks. But for people, the MORE we feel our desires, the BETTER. This makes it very EASY to move people. How, specifically, can you do that? If you are in sales, it can be difficult. Elicit their criteria, expand their criteria, leverage their criteria. This can work, but ONLY if you have what they want. But for general mood boosting, it's much EASIER. Just talk to people like you normally do. Tell stories and anecdotes like you normally do. Whatever stories and experiences ALREADY exist in your head are fine. But when you slightly change the STRUCTURE, magic will happen. When you change the structure so they resonate with their deeper desires, they will feel FANTASTIC. How can you use this? Sales, seduction, persuasion, or just making people feel better when they talk with you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr09Post.mp4 It's hard to communicate without using metaphors. Words themselves are metaphors. Auditory representations of mental pictures. One simple description can mean many things to many people. If I say: "Yesterday I saw a cute girl in the park with her dog." This sounds very specific. But every person who reads that will have a different idea of what each tangible nouns looks like. Even the ones that aren't mentioned. You'll imagine a pretty girl. You'll imagine a dog. You'll imagine a park. But each one of those have TONS of accompanying nouns. What kind of dog? Big, small? On a leash, running free? What does the cute girl look like? Young, old? Brown hair, blond? What kind of park? Green grass, barbecues, basketball courts? That one simple sentence conjures up TONS of mental images. Conscious and unconscious. According to those who study things like anthropology and history, this is the ONE THING we humans have that other animals don't. We can convey MASSIVELY COMPLEX pictures to one another with only a few sounds. Or even a few squiggly lines that we've learned as children. A few pixels on a screen that conjure up rich images. Even better, is we can come up with ideas, or ideas about things, that DON'T exist yet. And talk about these, and then make them real. This is what Napoleon Hill meant when he talked about turning thoughts into things. Sure it takes work, and effort, and trial and error. But everything that exists now was once a thought. All the good things, all the bad things, and everything in between. Even better is you can create emotions in others. Specific emotions. Specific chains of emotions. Take people from being bored to being excited. Take people from feeling afraid to feeling safe and happy. Take people from being ambivalent to feeling extremely attracted and affectionate. All with words. Of course, not just ANY words will do. If you picked a six or seven random words and tried them out, the response would be: Um, what? But there IS a specific STRUCTURE you can learn to create specific emotional responses. And yes, it does take time to learn this skill. But this is potentially one of the most LUCRATIVE and POWERFUL skills you can develop. This is the SAME SKILL that have moved people from poverty to massive riches. Understand human nature. Understand the human condition. Understand what people tend to feel normally. Understand how people really WANT to feel. And move them there with your words. Do this, and the world will love, respect and admire you. And pay you. A lot. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr04Post.mp4 If you rub your fingertip along the rim of a wine goblet, you can get it to "sing." If you hold the right note, you can break that same glass. This is difficult because you have to hold the EXACT frequency that the glass naturally vibrates at. There is a bay in Canada that has a HUGE difference between high tide and low tide. What do all these things have in common? Resonance. When you rub your finger along the tip of the wine goblet, you are "calibrating" the small "micro breaks" in the smoothness until it is the SAME frequency as the glass. When you hold a note, and it resonates an untouched glass, the glass will break. What about high tide and low tide? This is the same principle as a little kid in a bathtub. Moving back and forth with the water to slosh it all over the floor. When the moon creates the tide, it's the same thing. The difference between high tide and tide is a function of the entire system. The water depth, the forces of the moon on the sea, and the physical characteristics of the bay. Resonance is a fantastic concept. Most systems have their natural "frequency." And if you "vibrate" that system at it's resonance frequency, you can get some pretty big disturbances. Sometimes things break. Things that aren't supposed to break. Once the wind happened to match the frequency of a bridge in England. The bring was swinging wildly back and forth. Little kids understand resonance perfectly fine when they swing back and forth on a swing. This is very fun. To move only a little bit, (legs swinging back and forth) but to get some BIG movements. Our emotions also have certain resonance frequencies. And when you vibrate those emotional resonance frequencies, our emotions can feel FANTASTIC. This can be done through music, movies, books, even goofy TV commercials. And just like all the other resonance ideas, this is based on SCIENCE. It is no accident that all stories have the same basic structure. It is no accident that most music has the same basic structure. Human dreams, human desires, human fears also have the same structure. Learn to pace this structure, and you can make ANYBODY feel fantastic. Even better, it is just as repeatable as a wine goblet or a swing set. How, specifically, do you do this? Learn the deep and ancient story structure that has nature has embedded into our DNA. Speak in this structure and move people places they've NEVER been to before. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb13Post.mp4 Storytelling and hypnosis are very closely related. Therapeutic hypnosis and movies are essentially the same structure. You sit there and let another "entity" do your thinking for you. When you are in the therapist's office, he or she is talking, you've got your eyes closed, and your following along with their words. So long as their words are guiding you toward better and more resourceful emotions, you're pretty good. Similarly, when w watch a movie or even a TV show, we are letting the story do our thinking for us. Most of the time, this is just to relax our brain. But when a movie or show grabs our attention, it can move us through some very POWERFUL emotions. This is essentially what the Greeks discovered, and called Catharsis, way back in the day. A way to specifically move people through a series of specific feelings and emotions. In a way that would give them the feelings, but not of the risk. They could experience, pain, love, loss, grief, success, agony, etc., ALL without upsetting their real lives. The Hero's Journey story is essentially a well calibrated, motivational story. To give the hero enough confidence and get out there and kill the bad guys, and get the rewards. Fame, sex, admiration and respect. Most people spit words without much thought. We have half baked ideas and spit them out with randomly chosen words and phrases. But language is, or can be, EXTREMELY powerful. You can move people's emotions with your words. And once you realize this, you can move them ANYWHERE you want. To inspire, to motivate, to persuade, to seduce. And if you toss in a few well placed ambiguities, something very, very cool will happen. If you tell a story about dragons and knights, it can be pretty entertaining. But they'll remember it being about dragons and knights. But if you carefully calibrate WHERE you put in the specific vagueness, they will remember the story with THEM as the hero. Which means they'll take OWNERSHIP of the ideas in the story. This means with simple words, you can lead ANYBODY to make any decision you want. All while believing it was their idea. Not yours. They'll fall in love with you, if you want. They'll give you money, if you want. They'll wish they'd never met you, if you want. And anything else you can dream up. This hypnotic storytelling skill can be used anywhere words can be spoken. Clubs, bookstores, shopping malls, telephone calls, or anywhere else you can dream of. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec27Post.mp4 A very common "truism" is that lying is wrong, but not for the reasons people assume. It's "wrong" because the more you lie, the more stuff you've got to remember. Lying is bad, from a purely strategic standpoint. This is why if you think somebody is lying to you, ask them to first tell you their story. Then ask them to tell it to you backwards. If they are telling the truth, then describing the events in reverse will be just as easy as forward. This is precisely what people mean when they say the know something forward and backward. Another lie detector test is to remember all the details, and then a couple of days later, bring up the topic again. But purposely get one of the details wrong. If they go along with your incorrect detail, you know they are lying. If they correct you, chances are they are telling the truth. Another way to detect lies is to first calibrate lies and truths. This is hard to do without the other person knowing. It's usually used as an exercise in body language and facial expression reading. You get them to tell you three things both of you know are lies. Then you get them to tell you three things both of you know are true. This will let you calibrate their "truth telling energy," and their "lying energy." Then they tell you something, and only they know if it's true or not. This is spooky accurate. But many people lie without really knowing they are lying. Which means they'll eventually "get caught." When that happens, the jig, as they say, is up. How does this happen? Whenever a guy starts talking to a cute girl. He's acting on his best behavior. He's using all kinds of CONSCIOUS techniques. Practiced techniques. He's essentially presenting a FALSE version of himself. If the girl likes him, she's really liking a best-case scenario of who is he is. Eventually, the REAL HIM will come out. Sometimes this takes a while. Sometimes it happens soon after they have sex. Why sex? When a guy has sex with a girl, so long as he's not a sociopath, it changes how he feels about her on an emotional level. He values her MUCH MORE. His ancient caveman instincts truly believes SHE is his best chance for replication. He doesn't think this consciously, but it's like a switch goes off in his ancient brain. He behaves much differently around her. Much more needy, much less "attractive." This is why this is such a common scenario. Guy meets girl. Guy sleeps with girl. Guy's behavior changes abruptly. Guy is no longer attractive to girl. Girl ghosts guy. Guy wonders why, and assumes all women are evil, or manipulative, etc. If you behave NORMALLY all the time, this won't happen. If you are operating from a TRUE abundance mindset, this won't happen. How, exactly, do you that? This will show you: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July9Post.mp4 Form and function always have an interesting relationship. Food, for example, can have one or the other extreme. Some restaurants are famous for looking and feeling like dives, but have absolutely delicious. Most people have a couple of secret "hole in the wall" restaurants that somehow have fantastically tasting food. On other end of the spectrum are dishes that are meant to "look good." The Japanese have a saying that "Japanese food is meant to be enjoyed twice." Meaning you enjoy it when you look at it, and you enjoy it when you eat it. Ever since people started taking pictures of their food, many restaurants have leveraged this. Savvy restaurateurs knew that if they made their food look REALLY GOOD, more people would take pictures, put it on Instagram, and they'd get free advertising. Form and function works for humans as well. Form is what we look like. Our outer appearance. Function is how we feel on the inside. Our inner state. One can drive the other. For example, if you are happy INSIDE, this will drive your outer appearance, and you'll smile. But you CAN flip the script on yourself. If you FORCE yourself to smile, and keep it up long enough, you'll start to FEEL happy. Or at least a little silly. This is what they mean when they say fake it till you make it. This is easier than it sounds, most of the time. If you are by yourself, it's pretty easy to FAKE smiling until you feel goofy. But if you're getting yelled at by your boss, this would be much more difficult. For us humans, most of the form-function relationship goes in one way. From the inside to the outside. But it can create both virtuous and vicious cycles. If you are happy INSIDE, it will create externally happy behavior. This will cause OTHER PEOPLE to be happy around you. Which will REINFORCE that inner state. When you're a group of close friends, and EVERYBODY is kind of vibing with each other this way, not much feels better. When it's the opposite, not a lot feels worse. There are ways you can PRACTICE holding that powerful inner state. It involves practicing HOW you reference memories. Most of us don't think there's much of a choice of which memories we reference. Things remind us of other things, and that's that. Luckily, this is a skill we can practice. Very much like external skills. And like external skills, the MORE you practice, the better you'll get. Which means you can CREATE those wonderful virtuous cycles at will. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun15Post.mp4 Managing instincts is difficult. We were programmed a long, long time ago. Before we learned how to think, and talk and imagine. Instincts are like compulsions. They make us do certain things. And keep us from doing other things. Since they were "calibrated" a long, long time ago, they're kind of out of balance. That's why it's so hard to maintain a healthy weight. Being always hungery, and getting a huge pleasure while eating was necessary a long time ago. When food was hard and sometimes dangerous to get. We HAD to have a HUGE desire to eat so we wouldn't die of starvation. But today, it kind of sucks. Our instincts, especially are hunger instinct, is like the Borg. Resistance is futile. That's why no matter how well you do on a diet or exercise program, if you take just a week off, it's HARD to get back. Nature meant it to be this way. The desire to eat is like the Terminator. It never sleeps, it never gets tired. Since food is the MOST IMPORTANT thing, we crave it the most. It's the HARDEST instinct to manage. Others are easier. At least past a certain point. For example, plenty of people have a lot of social anxiety. Between where they are, and where they'd like to be is a big, invisible barrier. One that the more they TRY and push through, the harder it gets. But unlike food, once you get past a certain point, it's EASIER doing more. Kind of like those mag-lev trains. The ones that are based on oscillating magnetic fields. They both push and pull at the same time. But it takes a while to get going. Once it's going at a certain speed and momentum, it's very easy and efficient to keep going. Social anxiety is kind of like that, but only better. Mag lev trains are CONSISTENTLY oscillating. There is always a vibration between push and pull. It has to be carefully managed and operated. But our social instincts are not like that. They only have ONE push and ONE pull. Once you get past the first hurdle, it's much, much easier. The trouble is that many people try to go too quickly. To fake it till you make it. To feel the fear and do it anyway. To blast through the comfort zone. This would be like being WAY out of shape and trying to run a sub four minute mile. IMPOSSIBLE! But if you go VERY SLOWLY, improving will not only be easy, but enjoyable. Self sustaining. Meaning you'll get to a point where all social anxiety is a thing of the past. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun13Post.mp4 One common piece of "advice" is to fake it till you make it. Sometimes this works pretty well. Other times it is bad advice. It works well when there is a simple correlation between inner state and outer behavior. And it's in an environment that is conducive. What's this mean? Normally, we think and behave naturally. We don't think about how we think. And we don't think about our thinking affects our behavior. Like if you are happy, you will naturally smile. But you can first smile, and hold it until it affects your inner state. And if you happen to be in a conducive environment, other people will see you smile and some will smile back. So if you are unhappy inside, but you FORCE yourself to exhibit happy behavior by smiling, you're faking it. Because it's a pretty close correlation between inner state and outer behavior, AND the environment is conducive to this, this is where faking it till you make it works. Even better is when you combine two simple "faked states." Like if you FORCE yourself to walk more upright and confident, AND you smile. If you're around fairly friendly people, this will work pretty well. On the other hand, faking it till you make it is HORRIBLE advice. Imagine trying this when selling $500 vacuum cleaners door to door. And you were trying to "fake" being the greatest vacuum cleaner salesman of all time. The reason this would be a disaster is neither of the two conditions are present. Not only is there NOT a simple correlation between inner state and outer behavior, but there is the OPPOSITE of a conducive environment. Most self help advice is like this. Pretty simple, and useful in SOME situations, but not in many. Sure, they sound good. Which means they're easy to remember. But in order to achieve real and continued success, you need to have a lot of skills. Inner skills and outer skills. Inner skills of thinking and feeling. Outer skills of speaking and behaving. And skills of reading the inner state of others. Often, this is the missing ingredient in a LOT of situations. You can remember all the best language patterns and techniques. But if you use them at the wrong time, with the wrong person, they'll backfire. The more you can READ the internal state of the person you're interacting with, the less you need to worry about complex external behavior. And more often than not, being able to accurately read others simply means turning OFF your inner anxiety. Since humans, in our natural state, are resonators. We can FEEL what each other is thinking and feeling with a lot of accuracy. But only when you get rid of the useless junk inside. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun12Post.mp4 The song, Pinball Wizard, by The Who is an interesting song. Most pop songs are about love, etc. But the Pinball Wizard is about a guy who is deaf, dumb and blind. But he plays pinball better than everybody else. He "feels" his way around the game. And because of his skills he becomes a kind of cult like guru. The idea, as strange as it seems, is pretty common. Of feeling your way around complex situations. In many (slightly) fantasy type movies about martial arts, (or things like martial arts like being a Jedi) there's the same idea. Of wearing a blindfold and being able to effectively block and punch. This is essentially what Marvel's Daredevil does. Blind dude who uses his senses to beat up bad guys. The idea pops up in many places. Because it is VERY compelling. Often our senses can get in the way. We have a strange relationship between our conscious minds and our subconscious behavior. Many of our behaviors are simple, and automatic. But some behaviors are complex, yet can be trained to the level of automatic. This is when we learn something to the level of unconscious competence. When we can be competent at some kind of skill, and not have to think about it. This is when desire is followed by outcome. Not by magic, but by automatic behavior that doesn't require conscious input. This is when we drive home but forget driving home. The more we train at ANY skill, the more things we'll be able to do at the level of unconscious competence. One of the reasons we are drawn to those movie characters is because they have some magical ability. Like being Jedi, or a Daredevil, or a Pinball Wizard. They don't have to train. They just have the skill. Of course, Daredevil needed to train quite a bit. From when he was a kid, to when he started beating up bad guys. In that respect, Daredevil is the most ACCURATE of fictional hero's with high levels of unconscious competence. This is what separates people who dream and wish, from people who do. Training. One of my favorite scenes is from the movie, "Man on Fire." Crease, the washed up assassin who finds redemption in protecting a child, is walking along side her while she's swimming. She's got big meet coming up. He drops in some HUGE wisdom. (paraphrased) "Most people think they'll rise to the occasion. They won't. You only rise to your level of training." The meaning is simple. The more you train, the better you'll do. If you want to have wizard-like social skills, able to operate within and master any crowd, all you need to do is train the right skills. What skills? Find Out: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun11Post.mp4 The more you practice, the better you perform. This is one of those things that is so obvious it's not even worth saying. But at the same time, it's something we ignore quite a lot. When "we" look out into the world, part of us notices stuff. Another part of us just kind of collects the data. This is commonly referred to as our conscious and unconscious. On a purely structural level, our brain-body systems are incredibly complex. We have this massively complicated body. Our body needs things to stay alive. We also need to make more copies of ourselves. So things we are programmed with tons of instincts to help us. The things that keep us safe and alive and likely to replicate feel VERY GOOD. The things that will likely get us killed or decrease our chances of replicating feel VERY BAD. Describing this from an external, objective view is pretty simple. But inside our own brains, it's chaotically complex. It would be one thing if we were robots and had to simply choose between good things and bad things. But it's much more complicated than that. Because many of the "good things" we want, we aren't sure how to get. We try, fail and feel horrible. Even thought we THINK the thing we want will make us feel fantastic. To make things even worse, sometimes we'll try really hard to get something, but realize it's not all that. We spend all kinds of time, effort and opportunity cost, only to find it's not such a big deal. This really ISN'T such a big deal, and sometimes kind of funny if it's something like changing your mind at a restaurant. You read the menu and see something that LOOKS good. But then the dude two tables over gets something you WISH you would have gotten. For simple things, it's funny. For more important things, it's like that line from a Talking Heads song: "My God! What have I done?!" Even MORE complicated is we need to look out into our reality, and choose from among all the tons of variables of what to do after, and what to not go after. But we only see a small sliver of what's REALLY going on around us. This gets even MORE complicated when part of us PURPOSELY keeps hidden from us valuable information. Kind of like when you take out money from the ATM but you're afraid to look at your balance. You get better at anything if you practice. Even complex things that only exist in social and financial situations. But this requires that we look at ALL the data. Which is difficult for most people. VERY difficult. Until you understand how to RE-CALIBRATE your interpretation of all the data. So it's much more like objective data. And not life or death information. That way, you can become a much better OPERATOR within reality. Which is kind of like a line from old Eric B. & Rakim hip hop song: "A smooth operator operating correctly." Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  12. Pop art tends to pace the human condition very well. Especially pop music and popular TV. The song, "Destroyer," from the Kinks, for example, has the following line: "You get a good thing going and you blow yourself out..." The song, "Should I stay or should I go," from The Clash has a similar line: "This indecision's bugging me..." A common trope in movies is the hero starts to fall hard for their romantic interest. But they have a deep fear. That their romantic interest will find out who they REALLY are, and flee. Perhaps you've felt this before? You start doing something pretty good. It could be a relationship, or a job, or even something you're doing just for fun. Pretty soon you start to perform BETTER than you'd hoped or expected. And that deep fear creeps up. That voice inside your head that says: "Dude, you have no business doing this. Pretty soon you'll mess up like you ALWAYS do, and then everybody will know what a LOSER you really are!" Perhaps it's not those exact words. Sometimes it's just a deep, dark suspicion. As soon as we feel that suspicion, and the anxiety that it creates, we're as good as done. The ANXIETY interferes with our thinking. Pretty soon we are operating with MUCH LESS brain capacity that we have available. And just like clockwork, we mess up. And trip over our own feet. This is essentially the most common self destructive STRUCTURE that makes up the human condition. But guess what? You can DISMANTLE this common structure so it doesn't bother you again. It requires you understand why this structure is the way it is. It's SOMEWHAT like our hunger instinct. Way back in the day, it was a massive benefit to ALWAYS be thinking about food. To eat as much as you could whenever you could. Kind of like a family on a road trip. If you see a gas station, you fill up. "Gee honey, we're making good time, I think we can make it to the next gas station, wherever it is!" Uh, yeah... No. But just like hunger can be managed, so can this "self destructive instinct." Even better, is this self destructive instinct is MUCH EASIER to manage than hunger. Because food is, after all, necessary to NOT DIE. All that other junk up in our brain? Not so much. Once you understand the emotional structure of this EXTREMELY COMMON self-destructive worry and anxiety, you can get rid of it. Once and for all. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  13. When native English speakers say they can perceive things that aren't being said, we say "reading between the lines." In Japan, they say, "reading the air." Which are two ways of saying the same thing. Humans have been living in social groups for millions of years. Long BEFORE we became humans. We've only developed spoken language about 200K years ago. Which is only a FRACTION of the time we've been hanging around each other. They say that the words we use are only 7% of our communication. Non-verbal makes up the rest. What, exactly, is non-verbal? How you speak. How quickly or slowly. How confidently or not confidently. How quickly or slowly you move while speaking. Your gestures and posture. Most of this stuff is TRANSMITTED and RECEIEVED unconsciously. Unless you are deliberately using gestures and tonality and facial expressions, which is very unlikely. Something as simple and straightforward as rapport, matching and mirroring body language, is EASY to forget. So what does it mean to, "read the air," or "read between the lines"? It's to be OPEN to all this communication. Which is MOST of this communication. With just a quick sorting for rapport, for example, you can see who is chasing whom. Imagine, for example, that you see a guy and a girl sitting across from one another. Most people would see this and not notice much about their body language. But just a quick focus on their rapport would tell you a lot. For example, imagine if the guy was leaning forward, his arms and legs uncrossed, while gazing directly at the girl. And the girl had her ankles crossed under the table, and her forearm resting in front of her. While gazing off to the side of the guy. From a pure body language, subconscious communication standpoint, the guy is into her WAY more than she is into him. You could pick on this in less than a SECOND if you knew what to look for. The amount of social information "between the lines" is IMMENSE. But few people can see it. Why? It's VERY HARD to pick up on all this stuff if you are inwardly worried. If you have a bunch of nervous chatter running around your brain. But if you were to ONLY turn off this nervous chatter, the amount of social information would EXPLODE. You don't need to learn how to do this. You only need to TURN OFF all that nervous energy that is wasting all your valuable brain resources. Luckily, that's pretty easy. It requires doing a few simple exercises to PREPARE for those social situations. So you can read the MASSIVE amounts of social information that is EVERYWHERE. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  14. Anxiety can significantly mess things up. But from looking at it from the inside, this is true, but because you're also in a state of anxiety, it's impossible to see how or why. Which makes solutions from this state seem impossible. One of Einstein's famous sayings is you can't solve a problem from the same mindset that created the problem. This makes things even worse. If you are in a state of anxiety, you make less than optimal decisions. These decisions can make things worse. Those worse things will create more anxiety. Next thing you know you're swirling around in a panic. This isn't even nice to THINK about, let alone experience. From a structural standpoint, it's easy to see why. The shorter your "time view," the less likely you'll make good decisions. Generally speaking, long game trumps short game every time. A long game decision is generally better for you than a short game decision. From a structural standpoint, this is the main issue of anxiety. It utterly kills your long view. And forces you ONLY to see the short view. But even worse, it only allows you to see the short term view in terms of DECREASING emotional pain. Of course, the only way to decrease emotional pain, in the short term, is do something, in the short term, that creates an emotional pleasure that is stronger, in energy, than the short term emotional pain. From outside the system, it's obvious this strategy is doomed. How to stop this from happening? One way is to PRACTICE becoming emotionally centered. To create a serious of powerful emotional anchors. That allow you to look at the PURE ENERGY that exists in ALL emotions, and see it as the SAME ENERGY that EVERYTHING is created from. When we feel "bad" or "good" these are based on the labels we give our emotions. And it's based on how we THINK these emotions will impact our behavior, and whether that behavior will help us or hurt us. A lot of anxiety comes from projecting our worse case fears into the future. When you practice feeling your emotions, and seeing the pure energy BENEATH them, this will happen less and less. Like anything else, it requires consistent practice. But it will give you a significant amount of emotional control in ANY situation. So much that whatever your WORST FEARED emotions may be now, they won't bother you a bit. You can FEEL them, and still think powerfully, rationally, and in a way that will MAXIMIZE your long term success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  15. I had a boss a while ago that wasn't very computer literate. Not only that, but she had her own PC, and the PC the rest of us in the office had to use. She would always put new programs on the group PC. When we would complain, she would always act like our complaints were unfounded. "But it just runs in the background," she would say. As if not seeing a program running means you wouldn't be influenced by it. Since she didn't use that particular computer, she didn't experience how utterly slow all these other programs made it. We'd be trying to do our work, and all these other programs that were "running in the background," would be making things impossible. It's common to notice your PC is running slow, so you open up the task manager. If you see some weird looking software name that's using 90% of your system resources, it's common to look up the name. And if you find out it's safe to turn off, you can turn it off. Once you turn it off, your computer is fast and usable again. Sometimes these programs are part of the OS. They are built so you CAN'T turn them off. You just have to wait until they are finished running. Our brains work very much like a PC operating system. We have stuff running in the foreground, our conscious brain. And the stuff running in the background, our subconscious brain. Sometimes the stuff running in the background slows us up considerably. For example, if you are doing a mentally intensive task, like studying calculus for an exam, but you're worried about something, it's IMPOSSIBLE to concentrate. On the other hand, if your brain is free from worry, it's a lot easier and a lot more effective to study. Sometimes we give each other advice, that SOUNDS good, but it's also kind of useless. Like we'll be trying to do something, but we can't. We can't because something is bothering us. Like one of these background programs hogging up our resources. A friend will notice and ask what's up. "I can't stop thinking about X," we say. "Dude," they reply, "It's useless to worry about something you can't control," they advise us. "Just let it go," they proclaim. Easy in theory, impossible in practice. How, EXACTLY do we "let something go?" If if were that easy, it wouldn't be bothering us in the first place. Are they REALLY expecting us to say: "Oh, just let it go! Why didn't I think of that!" Unfortunately, getting rid of background programs isn't as obvious as hitting Control+Alt+Delete and just hitting "end program." But there IS a way. And once you learn how, you will gain back TONS of mental processing power. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  16. Humans are driven by instincts. And we have been for a long, long time. Long before we developed self-awareness and language. What instincts? Things that keep us safe, and happy. Things that keep us out of danger. You don't need to learn to be afraid of snakes. Experiments on babies show that in the first few days, we are naturally drawn toward sweet smells and tastes. And we naturally turn away from pungent smells like garlic. Unless the baby's mother is a garlic eater, then the baby comes out naturally attracted to garlic. Because we are highly social creatures, we have a lot of social instincts. We don't like being alone. Solitary confinement is one of the worst ways to punish us. One of the most motivating instincts is social proof. This plays out in many, many ways. Advertisers have known this for decades. We tend to gravitate towards things that are popular. Authority is another powerful motivator. Because of both of these instincts, social proof and authority, we tend to organize into hierarchies. Study after study shows this. It's not like in the movies, where they have a big, drawn out fight over who gets to be the alpha. It happens quickly and subconsciously. This is how all our instincts drive us. Quickly and subconsciously. When you pass by a bakery, you don't need your conscious mind to decide to feel like eating something. Your ancient brain smells the bread, and makes you hungry. This is why losing weight by willpower is very, very difficult. Any time you try and OVERRULE your subconscious instincts with your rational, self-aware mind, you will have a difficult time. One of the curious things about us humans is we make all decisions with our emotions. Emotions driven by these very powerful and very ancient instincts. That's not the curious part. The curious part is we need, or rather our ego needs, to come up with a rational sounding, logically believable reason WHY we did what we just did. We don't like to say things like, "I bought this because everybody else was buying it." That sounds silly! We need to have rational, logical reasons. But these rational, logical reasons are only to make our egos feel better. They aren't the real reasons. Problems pop up with we BELIEVE these logical reasons are the real reasons. And we use them to try and understand ourselves. And to understand others. This CAN make life very, very confusing and frustrating. How to make it easy? How to make it simple? Understand the emotional reasons for our decisions. And their decisions. This will give you x-ray vision into not only your own thinking, but everybody else's. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  17. One of the most baffling questions about us humans is our consciousness. Our self awareness. Neurologists know a great deal about our brains. About how our neurons work together. The parts of the brain that are responsible for certain things. They do studies on prayer and meditation, and find benefits. They can do magnetic resonance imaging of our brains while we are doing certain things. As a science, they do what scientists do. They look at something, measure it as carefully as they can, and then attempt to explain what it is they are looking at. If it's something relatively simple, they can use science to predict what will happen. If you know a bit about gravity, force, momentum, etc., you can launch a rocket and land it on the moon, or an asteroid, or another planet. But just beneath the surface, we are pretty clueless. Science can accurately describe WHAT happens, but we are pretty clueless as to WHY things happen. Nowhere is this more confusing than studying the human brain. Just the idea of that is kind of trance-inducing. A group of scientists standing around studying a "brain" is really a bunch of brains standing around studying another brain. Self awareness is the part of our brain inside our brain that is aware of itself. A bunch of self-aware brains standing around studying anther self-aware brain is a kind of meta-level self-awareness. One thing, however, CAN make understanding your own brain very simple. See, when these neurologists study the brain, they can see "a brain" from an objective standpoint. And seeing a brain from an objective standpoint gives one a much clearer view of what's really going on. Much clearer than the subjective, internal, self-aware view. This is pretty normal. It's easy to point out certain behaviors in others, but very hard to find them in ourselves. Once you take apart and look at the basic structure of how our brain works, and then apply that to yourself, it can make things MUCH easier. We do things for the reasons we do things. But we generally TELL OURSELVES slightly different reasons. If we only look at the stories we tell ourselves, life can be VERY confusing. But if we dig just below the surface, to find out why we REALLY do things, life is much, much easier. Not only leading your own life, but leading others. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  18. Most sales involves memorizing a pitch of some sort. The stereotypical sales person is the guy or gal who can deliver that pitch with maximum charisma. Even a BETTER salesperson can sort of "read" the customer and deliver a pitch. This is based on the idea that the salesperson knows WHY people SHOULD buy the item or service in question. It's fundamentally based on the salesperson doing the talking, and the customer doing the listening. This is why VERY charismatic people are the BEST salespeople. The have a certain "halo effect." What is a halo effect? It's when the generally attractive subconscious energy of the person talking is ATTACHED to the thing they are talking about. This mostly happens with VERY attractive women. For example, imagine two real estate people. One is a SUPER GORGEOUS woman. The other is a plain looking, middle aged dude. Both have the SAME pitch. The EXACT same words come out of each of their mouths. But when the middle aged dude speaks, it's flat and monotonous. Like he wishes he were somewhere else. The gorgeous woman, on the other hand is EXTREMELY charismatic. She's bubbly, happy, touch-feely, and gives off the impression that she wouldn't want to be ANYWHERE else on earth. Clearly, the woman would sell more than the man. Even though they are using the SAME words. But BOTH cases still involve taking the ideas out of the head of the salesperson, and putting them in the head of the customer. In both cases, the customer is a passive listener to the salesperson's pitch. So long as the salespeople GUESS about what's important to the customer, they can do pretty well. When it comes to GUESSING what the customer wants, it's not so easy. Two people buying the same car might have completely different reasons. But the deeper you go, the better you can "guess." If you go deep enough, you don't need to guess. Because if you go deep enough, we ALL want the same things. These same things are based on our deep instincts. When you speak to these deep instincts, it is VERY EASY to move people. This is why we love movies and fiction so much. These things MOVE US on a deep, instinctive level. If you speak to people on such a level, you can move people conversationally. AS MUCH as their favorite movie. Leaving them speechless, profoundly moved, and willing to do ANYTHING to keep that feeling. What might YOU use this for? Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  19. Every culture has a rich history of storytelling. Norse culture had a particularly interesting technique. The would tell stories that had basic elements built in. Then the storytellers would only have to remember those basic plot points. They connected them mentally to certain parts of a warrior's armor. Just like the modern memory technique of the memory palace. Where you connect items you want to remember to rooms in a house. The way the tellers of the Norse Sagas used this technique was similar. They would connect the very basic plot points to a warriors armor. That way, they could go off on wild tangents. Based on the crowd, how they were reacting. The location, local culture, etc. Then they would eventually make their way back to the next point on the armor, which they associated with the next plot point in the story. Back in those days, if you were a professional storyteller, you had to develop a pretty good memory. Especially the Vikings, who didn't write much down. One might say we have a huge brain, a huge imagination and a potentially a huge memory to support our natural storytelling skills. That storytelling, and story listening is a very important human instinct. This means if you want to become a great storyteller, you already have the instinctive programming built into your brain. Why would you want to become a great storyteller? With a story, a collection of metaphors, or even a simple anecdote, you can get a point across MUCH more powerfully. You can deliver advice much more covertly and persuasively. You can be a much more entertaining and appreciated party guest. You don't need to get up on stage. Or even be known as a great storyteller. All you need to do is understand the structure of human fear and desire. After all, every story every told PACES human fear, and moves the listener toward better outcomes. You probably already have plenty of raw story materials in your brain. All you need is a little practice, and you can start developing your story instinct. What can you use this for? Sales, seduction, inspiration, motivation, healing, or plain old entertainment. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  20. Isaac Newton is considered the smartest guy who ever lived. He essentially invented physics. He wrote a book which translated into English means "Mathematical Principles of Natural Philosophy," way back in 1687. It's one thing to study physics. It's another thing to study physics until you have a PhD so you can push the envelope of human knowledge out a bit further. You have to be on a completely different level to INVENT the subject from scratch. But as smart as Newton was, he was human. And he had emotions. Which meant he was susceptible to the SAME forces of influence like all of the rest of us knuckle draggers. Namely, the world famous, "fear of missing out," or FOMO. Back then was when they started having these pieces of paper that represented underlying investments. And people bought and sold these pieces of paper. And people started to invent MORE paper that represented the underlying paper. One of the first financial bubbles was the South Sea bubble. A bunch of shady business types started selling paper which represented a piece of ownership in this brand new company. Kind of like the Bitcoin of the 1600's. Newton got in early, as he was a smart dude. And he got out early, as he was a smart dude. He doubled his money. So far so good, right? Enter FOMO. Warren Buffet said that you KNOW it's a bubble when all your idiot neighbors are getting rich. And AFTER Newton got OUT, all his idiot friends and neighbors started to get rich. (one of the benefits of being Newton is EVERYBODY ELSE ON EARTH is an idiot...) And just like in The Godfather, he got out, but they pulled him back in. Newton couldn't resist. The smartest human who ever lived got sucked in by FOMO. He got back in as the bubble neared its peak. He held on as the bubble crashed. Poor Newton, the inventor of Physics and Calculus, nearly went broke. It seems that NO HUMAN can resist the power of FOMO. This is something advertisers have picked up on. If you can spin your product so it radiates ANY KIND of FOMO, it will sell like crazy. FOMO is so powerful it will make people buy things and not really know WHY they are buying. Any company that can leverage this for their product will make TONS of sales. Luckily, you can create an aura of FOMO around your personality. By combining scarcity and the idea of being a high quality human. All it requires is recalibrating how you think and perceive the world. And your subconscious energy will do all the rest. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  21. Here's a sneaky strategy you can use to get a girl interested in you. One of the "patterns" of the "Milton Model" is the "I'm not going to tell you..." pattern. The idea is when somebody hears, "I'm not going to tell you," their brain kind of shuts off. Not pass-out shut off, but their "critical factor" lowers its shields. For example, if you were a salesman, and you wanted somebody to buy your product, you could just come out and say "buy this product." Maybe you might want to give a couple a reasons. "I think you should buy this product because it is popular and it comes with the best warranty around." Right off the bat they would resist, because nobody likes being told what to do. But when you use the, "I'm not going to tell you" pattern, it sounds like this: "I'm not going to tell you to buy this product, because I don't know if it's popularity or industry-best warranty are things you are really interested in." Then it seems much more like their choice. How do you use this with girls? You flat out tell them you aren't going to pick them up, or ask for their phone number, or any of that stuff. Use any excuse you want to talk to them. Then just start telling them hypnotic seduction stories. They sound NOTHING like any kind of "pick up." Yet they are designed to significantly increase her attraction. Which means she'll never think YOU are the one picking her up. She'll just start to feel attraction, desire and a feeling that says she NEEDS to get to know you. And she'll think it was HER idea. You can even resist, if you want. Making her work for it. Which will also make her want it more. Learn How: Hypnotic Seduction
  22. One under-appreciated invention is artificial flavor. Not really from a health standpoint, but from a marketing and production standpoint. If you had to use real strawberries to make strawberry ice cream, it would be pretty expensive. But since you get use highly concentrated strawberry extract (or whatever the heck they use) you can make it a lot cheaper. Now, most of those artificial flavors aren't the greatest thing for your health. If you drink them by the gallon you'd probably have problems. Other things that are "artificial" are better. Meaning they're similar to the "real" thing, but they're a lot cheaper. For example, a couple decades ago, to come up with some music to score a movie, you'd need to hire a whole orchestra. Now you can make the same sounds on your laptop, with some software and sampled music. And from a consumer's standpoint, it's WAY better since you can also create sounds that no orchestra could come close to. Female attraction, and how to create it, can be thought of the same way. There's the old school, original way. Become the dominant alpha, and lead a group of men out to kill some wooly mammoth. But with technology, you can get the same result (the female attraction) but with a lot less effort. Like scoring a movie on your laptop instead of hiring a humongous orchestra. The "trick" (it's not really a trick) is to exhibit the behaviors of an alpha leader. You don't have to actually "lead" anybody. All you have to do is have something you're "chasing" that is MORE important than any girl. And this will make all the girls chase you. (Or wish they were confident enough to chase you.) It involves building your beliefs a bit differently, which will change your behaviors in a subtle yet much more attractive way. Click Here To Learn How
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