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  1. Enhance Their Inner Dreamer: https://mindpersuasion.com/enhance-their-inner-dreamer/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
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  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan27_Post.mp4 Ever since I've been in high school, I've loved cycling. When I was in college, whenever I had some spare time, I'd go riding up and down hills. I liked riding up and down. Riding up was kind of like hiking. You keep grinding, and every once in a while you stop and look around and see how much higher you are. But going down is a different kind of thrill. A spending of carefully saved up potential energy. The fastest I've ever coasted downhill was 53 miles per hour. A perfect hill for coasting. Steep, long, and then flat for at least half mile. No intersections, no lights. So the ONLY limitation was how long I could coast without feeling the need to put the breaks on. It always reminded me of the song "Helter Skelter," by the Beatles. Particularly the line: "When I get to the bottom I go back to the top of the slide, when I stop and I turn and I go for a ride..." This is about a roller coaster called "Helter Skelter." It's also considered to be the first "metal" song. But riding down hills is inherently pleasing. They've got these tours in place like Hawaii and other exotic vacation spots. They drive up you to the top of a huge mountain. Then you coast down on mountain bikes. The bikes have governors on the brakes, so you don't go too fast. So you can just relax, and coast, and enjoy the scenery. We humans LOVE being "taken" on rides. Physical rides. Emotional rides. This is why we love stories. We love to FEEL the emotions without having to take any real risks. Like riding down hill without needing to ride up. But sitting and watching an emotional ride is one thing. A fantastic movie or serial drama. But participating is something else. When you go out with your buddies for example. And one unexpected good thing happens after another. And everybody ends up happily ever after, if you catch my drift. We love to fantasize the same way. All of this is based on a kind of "pseudo logic" structure on our brains. The more you think about this, the more you can understand just how enjoyable it is. Thinking of happy thoughts naturally leads to happier thoughts. Even random conversations with friends follow this kind of pseudo logic. The more you participate in these conversations, the more fun they are. The more fun they are, the more you can start to remember this, now. And all those other times when you unexpectedly found yourself in a fantastic sequence of events and emotions. Even better is when you understand this linguistic structure. So you can be the one leading the conversation. From one happy emotion to another. Naturally, the more you lead the conversation, the more you lead the ideas in their brain. The more you lead the ideas in their brain, the more you be able to lead their actions. To any happy ending you like. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/slippery-slope-language/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan26_Post.mp4 I saw a really cool movie the other night. It was a very well calibrated sequence of plot twists. Three main characters. A fake psychic, his manager and audience plant, and a criminal who believed the fake psychic was a real psychic. A simple setup, and then plot twist after plot twist. And because each plot twist was well calibrated, they were very believable. A very nice ride. Other movies don't have ANY plot twists. A few reveals in the beginning, then essentially a race. Other movies start out strong, a few well paced and well calibrated plot twists, reveals and character developments. But then they crash and burn. Humans have been telling each other stories since the dawn of time. Since before time, if you consider time as a human invention, or at least the measurement. And if you consider our storytelling and story-listening brain a kind of support function, it's easy to see why we like plot twists. Hero's, archetypes, gods, monsters, etc. serve as imaginary "role models." And we humans, in our ancient ancestry, are not strangers to unexpected calamity, NEED those in our stories. If we are going on an epic hunting trip against a big, potentially delicious, but potentially deadly wooly mammoth, it's not unexpected to lose a few people. So the stories and heroes we keep in our brains also need to have unexpected tragedies. The Greeks figured this out when they stared making epic tragedies and the idea of catharsis. It's HELPFUL for us humans to be watching a story, and then suddenly get emotionally sucker punched. A recent study of a few hundred thousand modern fiction showed that this good-bad sequence of events is EVERYWHERE. So when you come across a very WELL calibrated sequence of emotionally rich story elements it feels good. Particularly when everything turns out OK. Because we KNOW we will face unexpected calamity. And we very much WANT to believe we'll turn out OK. If you look, you'll find this structure everywhere. A sequence of emotions, oscillating between good, not so good, good, unexpectedly tragic, recovery, disaster, triumph, etc. Music, movies, TV shows, video games, EVERYWHERE. The best sales pages are very much like the best movies. They hook you in, take you on a while ride, and you get a feeling of release at the end. This is the structure of human thought. The IDEAL sequence of events, good, bad, good, bad, triumph. Learn to speak like this, and be a walking magician. A word wizard that can speak to their deeper emotions, and move them to profound understandings. Of you, them, and everything else. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/slippery-slope-language/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec14Post.mp4 It's a common idea that men shouldn't express their emotions. That men should be tough, and resilient. The leaders that others follow. This is kind of true. It's also like many, many other "truisms." The are far too vague to be of any help. It's a harsh truth about male-female relationships that if men are always "weak" then they will lose attraction. This is absolutely true. If a lady thinks her guy has it in him to get a promotion at work, but he's too scared to ask for one, that will decrease her attraction for him. But when people say men shouldn't be "emotional" what they really mean is they shouldn't be "stuck" in weak emotions. When it comes to emotions, there are three very critical ideas. One is the strength with which you feel and express emotions. If you feel and express a "weak" emotion, but just enough to show you're not a robot, that's good. If you feel that same "weak" emotion but wallow in it, that's bad. So the first critical idea is to CONTROL your emotions, rather than suppress them. Two is even more important. And that is to think in terms of emotional chains. Instead of getting to a "weak" emotion, and getting stuck, think in terms of music. Some of the most beautiful music ever written invokes some very sad feelings. But those sad feelings are ALWAYS followed by stronger, happier, positive feelings. Music and to a large extent, all art is all about emotional flow. Sadness, happiness, despair, triumph. There IS a reason why musicians get plenty of action. It's not a problem AT ALL to express a "negative" emotion, so long as you RESOLVE it later on in the conversation. "I just got fired from my job and I've only got a couple weeks left before I get kicked out. But I've got six interviews lined up and I usually do pretty good when my back is up against the wall like this so I'm actually kind of excited." A third and very powerful idea is that if YOU feel your emotions strongly and congruently, people will follow you. If you spot a negative emotion in your friend, lover or conversational partner, they might get stuck, but you don't have to. This requires you follow the law of "show don't tell." Pace their emotions. Look inside for a similar experience that has a similar emotion. Tell THAT story, but be sure to follow it up with some resolution. Another story that shows a much better resolution. This is a very, very rare skill. But people that can MOVE the emotions in others are very, very attractive. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec13Post.mp4 One of my favorite "poetic" lines is from the song, Kashmir, by Led Zeppelin. Expressed thusly: "Oh father of the four winds fill my sails Cross the sea of years With no provision but an open face Along the straits of fear" A lot of their lyrics are based on Norse mythology. With gods of the ocean, etc. One common theme of all cultures is mythology and religion. We humans seem to have an instinctive need for a kind of "metaphorical space" in which to create role models. Stories, mythology and full blown religion can be seen as ideal, best case role model. People to beseech when we need help. People who imagine are helping us along dangerous and treacherous paths. We can even do an imaginary split test to see. First, we'll imagine a tribe of people with zero belief in anything other than what they can see. Second, we'll imagine a tribe rich with an imaginary collection of metaphorical archetypes who are always watching out for them. Both tribes are facing off against an angry and cornered wooly mammoth. If they kill him, they can relax and feast for a couple weeks. But if they try and fail, the angry monster with huge spears attached to his face may murder half of them. The tribe motivated by their gods would try just a little bit harder. The tribe with only what they can see and remember would be a little bit less motivated. Play this split test a few hundred times, and the tribe protected by their imaginary gods would slowly out-populate the non-god-tribe. Gods or imaginary archetypes are NOT logical. But they are very, very necessary. One of my favorite movie lines is from the last Harry Potter movie. After Dumbledore came and explained everything to Harry after Dumbledore had died. Harry looked at him and asked: "Is this real, or is this my imagination?" The wizard came back with the wizard reframe: "Of course it's in your imagination, but that doesn't mean it's not real." The gods were real enough for ancient hunters. Those praying to the father of the four winds would have an advantage over guys with only desperately crossed fingers. These are indications of our utterly critical emotions. The emotionally charged hunters charging the wooly mammoth would do much better than some ancient Vulcan trying to calculate the hypotenuse of the best angle to throw his spear. Non-emotional tasks are very, very boring. Studying algebra. Doing your taxes (well not really non-emotional...) Balancing your checkbook. But emotional endeavors are where ALL the fun is. Falling in love. Conquering your enemies. Having a linguistic throw down with your buddies. The moral of this story is clear. The MORE emotions you can feel, and express, and USE strategically, the better your life will be. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec11Post.mp4 There's a common myth about male-female relationships. It's a comforting myth, which is true of most, if not all myths. Myths ARE myths because they can't be proven. But they SEEM to be true because we accept them, we see evidence of them everywhere. This is a function of confirmation bias. Even more dangerous is if common myth has a couple of other "Cialdini ideas" supporting it. Namely, social proof, potential authority, and commitment and consistency. Each one of these helps ideas to slide into our heads. For example, say you try to get a lady to "like you," and you fail. You try again, and you fail. So you go online, and express your frustration. You are told about this "myth" and it soothes your nerves. After all, if you found it was YOUR fault, that would suck. That would mean you needed to do a LOT of practice. Practice doing things that are TERRIFYING. Talking to pretty girls over and over again. Getting rejected over and over again. Until you FINALLY got it right. That is terrible just to think about. So you go online, and talk to your buddies. Enter the "myth." This "myth" solves everything. Firstly, you can pretend it's not YOUR fault. It's the very NATURE of women. Once you accept that comfortable myth, you stat looking for evidence. And your confirmation is always happy to help. So you go back to your online network and report your findings. Just the act of posting this invokes the rule of commitment and consistency. Once you publicly proclaim something, it's VERY difficult to take it back. A bunch of your online bros agree. Now you've got an externalizing myth (not my fault, THEIR fault). You've also got commitment and consistency. You've also got social proof. And if this online community is BIG enough, there's likely authority. Somebody posts a YouTube vid of a "guru" who's got a few hundred thousand followers. This makes it VERY difficult to STOP believing this myth. Now for the very DIFFICULT question. Are you satisfied with NOT getting some action, so long as you've got all these comforting reasons why it's NOT your fault? Or would you rather GET some? Not just a little bit, but a lot. Easily. Consistently. So, what's the myth? The myth is that women are emotional, men are logical. Not true. Not even a little bit. NOBODY is logical. Humans are not Vulcans. We are not angels. We are primates who are only learned to think and talk in a BLINK of an eye's time. Watch a bunch of dudes watching a down-to-the-wire game and try to find ANY logic in there. Watch a video a guy holding his first child and try to find logic. There is none. Pure, human emotion. There IS a bit of a difference between female emotions and male emotions. But that doesn't really matter. Because genuine human emotion will get you much, much further than a FALSE BELIEF in logic. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec10Post.mp4 A study was done on plenty of fictional books. To figure out what the overall structure was. And they found a certain short term pattern in nearly all of them. A good thing happened, and then a bad thing happened. Some of these were small, almost insignificant events, some were much larger. On a more meta level, you can find a bigger structure. Protagonist, Antagonist, build up, massive conflict, and (usually) happy ending. Or not "happy" ending, but a "satisfying" ending. Even thought some characters might not make it, the ending has a feeling of "completeness." One of the songs by the Beatles has an very huge ending. "A Day In The Life," has a huge orchestral buildup in the end. The buildup ends on a chord of MASSIVE tension. Then there is a pause, and FINALLY, the release. This a very "satisfying" ending. The tension is resolved. This is in most music, down to the chord progressions. Tension followed by release. Cycling throughout the entire song. Now, why do we humans CRAVE this kind of thing? You might wonder which came first, story structure or human nature? Or how, specifically did "they" create fiction and music and poetry to MATCH our deep emotions so specifically? It's the same basic process of natural selection. Imagine a group of ancient cavemen way back in the day. Kids would grow up listening to a bunch of different stories around the campfires. Some stories would be EPIC. The kind that stirred their emotions, and lay awake at night under the stars with ONE powerful dream about the hero of those stories: "When I grow up, I'm going to be JUST like him." On the other hand, there were likely stories that absolutely SUCKED. The responses to those stories were much different. Namely: "Dude, WTF?! That story was LAME!" Here's the natural selection part. When all those kids grew up, and it was THEIR turn to tell stories around the campfire, which stories did they tell? The ones they remembered. The ones that stirred their emotions. The ones that stirred their most POWERFUL emotions of ambition, love, loss, anger, fear, hatred, and the final satisfying ending. Not the lousy stories that didn't make any sense. Stories, movies, music, all art has similarly been passed through this organic, natural selection filter system. What's the META takeaway for all this? Humans are EMOTIONAL. The more profoundly you can move their emotions, the more they'll admire you, want to be around you, and follow you. But most people today are emotionally crippled. Most of us can only share a very small range of emotions. Learn about, appreciate and be comfortable expressions all your emotions, and you don't have to worry about anything else. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec09Post.mp4 A while ago I saw some pictures of what life was like during the Soviet Union. They had a big room where people were all selling things. But all everybody was selling were apples. There's one Monty Python movie about a marketplace during some ancient plague or other catastrophic event. Some dude had a table and was selling nothing. And he was pitching his nothing like crazy. "I've got nothing for sale! Come and get your nothing!" Imagine getting excited about going to see a world famous symphony. You wore a tux, got their early, put on your best behavior. But as soon as they started playing, they only played ONE note. Over and over and over. A couple years ago some Swedish film company made an "experimental" movie. The kind of goofy movie where people sit and watch and imagine how intellectually superior they are for watching a deep movie only self-described super geniuses can understand. Only this movie had three weirdos standing on a beach. They just stood there, not speaking, not moving. And the movie was seventeen hours long. Different angles, and filters, etc. Imagine if a ice cream store wanted to compete with 31 flavors. Their angle would be that they only have ONE flavor. Vanilla or something. Sure, all of these are silly ideas. But this is how most of us operate. By only have a FEW emotions that we feel comfortable expressing. We laugh when something's funny. We are dutifully impressed when somebody shares a story. At the same time, we are DESPERATE to show our emotions. This is why when an attractive person tells an otherwise lame joke, all the people around him or her laugh like it's the BEST joke they've ever heard. Or when an attractive person shares an otherwise lame story about some "clever" thing they did. Everybody acts like they're the next Einstein. "Wow, that's so AWESOME! You're so AWESOME!" This is what you get when you can express a couple emotions. Like a piano with only a couple of keys. If that's all you got, you bang on those two keys as often and as hard as you can. And if you are competing with other pianos, that's pretty much all you can do. Impress everybody with how hard and often you can bang on your keys. Unfortunately, with a only a two-keyed piano, that's the ONLY thing you'll be banging. But suppose you show up with a full fledged, 88 key piano. And you can play absolutely BEAUTIFUL music. Notes, chord, melodies. You will DESTROY all the two-key bangers. First, you have to FIND all your inner "keys." And then you need to learn how to play them. Not learn how. Remember how. Do that and EVERYBODY will be impressed. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec08Post.mp4 Way back in high school I worked at a movie theater. It got really busy in Friday and Saturday nights. There'd be a big line outside, and went it was ready, we'd open the doors. There'd be a mad rush to by candy popcorn and soda. Common for one person to grab some seats, and somebody else to grab the popcorn. Then my boss got the idea to set up another stand in the back of the theater. Not a full fledged stand, but a cart with some stuff pre-made. A few cokes, a few popcorns, some candy. The first girl who tried it just stood in the back. Nobody bought anything. Then they let me give it a whirl. I absolutely LOVED it. Because I didn't just stand there waiting for customers. I would slowly push the popcorn cart up and down the aisles, screaming like an old school pitchman. The first few times I was petrified. It seemed like a good in my mind. A fun idea in my mind. But once I started screaming, and all the people were looking me like some weird clown kid that escaped from the mental hospital, it didn't seem so fun. Until I muscled my way through the fear and found a FANTASTIC correlation. The more energy I put into it, the more I sold. Pretty soon I saw it as my mission to sell out before every show. The goofier of a pitch I came up with, the louder and more sillier I belted out the pitch, the more I sold. I once saw an interview with the guy who played Walter White, the Breaking Bad character. He said as an actor, you must confront a paradox. That most humans, as our natural setpoint, want to be as low profile as possible. But to be an actor, you HAVE to express all your emotions. He said the deep fear is that we will express our emotions, we'll get rejected. But the opposite happens. The MORE we express our emotions, not just the easy ones, but ALL of them, the MORE people will not only accept us, but EMBRACE us. Why is this? We ARE emotional creatures. We like to think we are logical. We aren't. Which would you rather do, watch a FANTASTIC drama that yanks your emotions all over the place? Or study algebra? When you buy a shirt or other piece of clothing, do you do a pure logical treatment of cost-benefit analysis of the skin protecting elements of the fabric? Or do you buy a shirt because it will make you look COOL? Hopefully cool enough for all those sexy people to notice you? Emotions are the most powerful engine of human expression. Master your emotions, and master everything. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov18Post.mp4 When most of us see people we'd like to know, it makes us nervous. Whether they be a key person at a networking event, or an attractive and potential romantic interest, simply the DESIRE to create a positive impression causes problems. This is why people talk about things like "outcome independence." This is true, but just saying we should be more "outcome independent" is pretty worthless. It's like telling somebody struggling with weight loss to simply "eat less than you burn." Or somebody who is trying out for the Olympic team to simply, "run faster than anybody else." Or a coach telling their team to "score more points than the other guy." Suddenly becoming "outcome independent" is one of things that is an IDEAL to strive for. Most of the goofs saying, "just be outcome independent" have no clue how to do that. Buy giving this kind of advice kind of IMPLIES they not only know how to do that, but they are experts. This is why it is VERY easy to come across online as guru type. Just read a bunch of stuff, then give that advice and it's ASSUMED that you've mastered that stuff. But doing this face to face is very difficult. For example, say you go to the gym, and sign up with a trainer. The trainer is ripped. He might give you the advice of "just eat only 1000 calories per day, and do two hours of exercise every day." Clearly, that works FOR HIM. But nobody, not even him, understands his inner motivations and strategies. Certain things are simply easier for others. Otherwise EVERYBODY could just "do those things" that the gurus recommend. However, it also doesn't do any good to find excuses why we can't do that. We REALLY want to know HOW to be "outcome independent." There is a way to approach that. Normally, when we want to "impress people," be they potential bosses or lovers, we think we need to SAY impressive things. But this is absolutely not necessary. In fact, most of the time, trying to impress somebody you don't know almost always backfires. How the heck can you impress somebody you don't know? Well, it is pretty easy, so long as you don't actually try to impress them. First, you need to fill your head with different thoughts. Or better, simply open your mind to them. Match their body language, and let your body language drive your thoughts. With practice, your thoughts will be pretty close to their thoughts. And with some basic "guesses" about the situation, you'll know pretty much WHAT they are thinking. Then you simply pace THEIR thoughts, by expressing them as if they are YOUR thoughts. Which they will be. This will create very, very DEEP rapport. Body language rapport. Mental rapport. Energy rapport. And since they will FEEL themselves in you, you won't need much else. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/telepathic-enhancer/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept22Post.mp4 TV salesman are very charismatic, and very entertaining. One example is the guy from "Halt and Catch Fire." A fictionalized drama about the beginnings of the computer age. PC's, internet, web browsers, back when all that stuff was invented. But the main character that was the sales type was VERY stereotypically charismatic. When he spoke, he had tons of confidence, and unbreakable frame, and he spoke in very well calibrated, very beutiful metaphors. Similarly, fictional seducers are either one of two types. The over the top womanizer jerk. And the flowery speaking, gorgeous metaphor spinning Don Juan type. A good example of this is Johnny Depp in "Don Juan DeMarco." But this is fiction. These characters are written by people who have never seduced or sold anything to anybody. We like those characters because they are the IDEAL. Things everybody would LIKE to become. Consider this to be a main function of our brain. A survival function. Since all the way back before time, we've been telling each other stories. Stories about IDEAL characters who do IDEAL things. Sure, we'd love to have real role models. Father figures whose footsteps we can follow it. But that's the genius of Mother Nature, or God or whoever made us. If we don't HAVE role models, we can make them up. Ancient stories were calibrated to match what we believed were our IDEAL role models. Young people who didn't know what they were doing. Having to stumble around for a while before they figured out what was what. And when they finally battle against the monster, the BARELY win. This is the IDEAL to strive for. Unfortunately, most of us miss the point when we see those smooth talking TV people. Consider the most important thing about their characters is NOT the words they say. Because plenty of well-written words are said by some pretty bad actors. This is why memorizing patterns for both sales and seduction MISSES the point. If you don't have the underlying frame, you'll be like a wooden actor trying to pretend to be congruent. Some of the BEST actors don't need words. They are VERY congruent in their facial expressions. How their facial expressions change upon nearing negative news, for example, is much more moving than a well written speech. Actors who can do that have skills few can match. Of feeling one emotion and then slowly shifting their facial expression to show another. If the rest of the story is set up correctly, a small shift in facial expressions at the right point of the story can make audiences WEEP. Words are nice, but not necessary. Build up the stuff beneath the words and NEVER worry about the words again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr30Post.mp4 Henry Ford was a genius. He, of course, became rich and famous for creating a mass produced car. Not inventing the car, but inventing a way to build a ton of cars quickly and cheaply. There's a famous pair of pictures from back in the day. Both are pictures of the same street in New York. One has a bunch of horses, and a few cars. Another has a bunch of cars, and a few horses. They were only taken ten years apart. This is what they mean by "disruptive technology." When you can make something WAY better, and WAY cheaper than the competition. It absolutely OBLITERATES the competition. Plenty of businesses went OUT of business because they couldn't see what was coming. Funny thing, though, is the company that showed up and put FORD out of business. Well, since they're still around, they never went out of business. But Ford being the main maker of all cars didn't last long. This is free market economics at work. If you have a good idea, EVERYBODY will try and copy it. To make it better, cheaper, etc. What was it that did Ford in? What did this new company figure out that Ford didn't? A very simple shift in the product, the car, that made all the difference. One of the ways Ford streamlined his manufacturing line was to make ALL cars the same color. Black. So all the competition did was to make them DIFFERENT colors. That was enough. If you live in a world with ONLY black cars, you can't really think of COLOR as being something that differentiates one car from another. There is a very simple parallel in today's dating market. If you think connecting dating and romance to cars is odd, it's actually pretty common. Just listen to the lyrics of any Springsteen song. Anyhow, back to the metaphor. Today's dating market, from the perspective of women, is like the FORD ONLY days of cars. This leads us to make a false conclusion about what the ladies like. Because most men LACK this basic skill, women have no choice but to compare men on other qualities. Looks, bling, artificial status. What's the missing variable? The one variable that will DESTROY the competition? Being able to MOVE her emotions. All women are attracted based on how they FEEL. And with the market so disastrous today, they have to rely on ONLY what they can find to get those feelings. And this is looks, money, status etc. But when you UNDERSTAND why they want those feelings, it's like being the first guy who can make different colored cars. YOU will stand out. But even better is when you understand HOW to create those feelings. Not through bling, or money or even LOOKS. But conversationally. Hypnotically. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr10Post.mp4 I used to work at this place where we had a Friday food contest. It started with the regular donuts on Friday. Like in many offices, everybody would take turns bringing in donuts. Sometimes people would bring in bagels. But somehow, this ended up in a competition. Everybody tried to outdo the previous weeks' offering. Breakfast sandwiches, various homemade ethnic food. One guy brought in his famous chili. Gotta admit, it was pretty tasty. He couldn't wait to tell us his secret recipe. One of the things about chili fans is that EVERYBODY has their own secret recipe. Plenty of cities have chili cook-offs. Food is kind of cool that way. You start off with five or six basic ingredients, and you can create some FANTASTIC dishes. Plenty of YouTube recipes are like that. They advertise how SIMPLE the food is. The fewer ingredients there are, the easier it is to make. In a funny way, people are the same way. No, not to eat. We aren't talking about a cannibal party! But there are only a few things that drive our behavior. A little of this, a bit of that. We all have very similar desires. We all want more money, more sex, better relationships, a better job, a better place to live. We all have the same fears. Fear of getting left behind, fear of missing out, fear of negative social treatment, fear of messing up hugely and publicly. These fears and desires motivate all our behaviors. But unlike a pot of delicious chili, it's pretty EASY to help others feel better. For example, if you were to add some Tabasco sauce to your chili, you COULD add too much. Or salt, or whatever else. For food, the ratios have to be JUST RIGHT. Like Goldilocks. But for people, the MORE we feel our desires, the BETTER. This makes it very EASY to move people. How, specifically, can you do that? If you are in sales, it can be difficult. Elicit their criteria, expand their criteria, leverage their criteria. This can work, but ONLY if you have what they want. But for general mood boosting, it's much EASIER. Just talk to people like you normally do. Tell stories and anecdotes like you normally do. Whatever stories and experiences ALREADY exist in your head are fine. But when you slightly change the STRUCTURE, magic will happen. When you change the structure so they resonate with their deeper desires, they will feel FANTASTIC. How can you use this? Sales, seduction, persuasion, or just making people feel better when they talk with you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr09Post.mp4 It's hard to communicate without using metaphors. Words themselves are metaphors. Auditory representations of mental pictures. One simple description can mean many things to many people. If I say: "Yesterday I saw a cute girl in the park with her dog." This sounds very specific. But every person who reads that will have a different idea of what each tangible nouns looks like. Even the ones that aren't mentioned. You'll imagine a pretty girl. You'll imagine a dog. You'll imagine a park. But each one of those have TONS of accompanying nouns. What kind of dog? Big, small? On a leash, running free? What does the cute girl look like? Young, old? Brown hair, blond? What kind of park? Green grass, barbecues, basketball courts? That one simple sentence conjures up TONS of mental images. Conscious and unconscious. According to those who study things like anthropology and history, this is the ONE THING we humans have that other animals don't. We can convey MASSIVELY COMPLEX pictures to one another with only a few sounds. Or even a few squiggly lines that we've learned as children. A few pixels on a screen that conjure up rich images. Even better, is we can come up with ideas, or ideas about things, that DON'T exist yet. And talk about these, and then make them real. This is what Napoleon Hill meant when he talked about turning thoughts into things. Sure it takes work, and effort, and trial and error. But everything that exists now was once a thought. All the good things, all the bad things, and everything in between. Even better is you can create emotions in others. Specific emotions. Specific chains of emotions. Take people from being bored to being excited. Take people from feeling afraid to feeling safe and happy. Take people from being ambivalent to feeling extremely attracted and affectionate. All with words. Of course, not just ANY words will do. If you picked a six or seven random words and tried them out, the response would be: Um, what? But there IS a specific STRUCTURE you can learn to create specific emotional responses. And yes, it does take time to learn this skill. But this is potentially one of the most LUCRATIVE and POWERFUL skills you can develop. This is the SAME SKILL that have moved people from poverty to massive riches. Understand human nature. Understand the human condition. Understand what people tend to feel normally. Understand how people really WANT to feel. And move them there with your words. Do this, and the world will love, respect and admire you. And pay you. A lot. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr04Post.mp4 If you rub your fingertip along the rim of a wine goblet, you can get it to "sing." If you hold the right note, you can break that same glass. This is difficult because you have to hold the EXACT frequency that the glass naturally vibrates at. There is a bay in Canada that has a HUGE difference between high tide and low tide. What do all these things have in common? Resonance. When you rub your finger along the tip of the wine goblet, you are "calibrating" the small "micro breaks" in the smoothness until it is the SAME frequency as the glass. When you hold a note, and it resonates an untouched glass, the glass will break. What about high tide and low tide? This is the same principle as a little kid in a bathtub. Moving back and forth with the water to slosh it all over the floor. When the moon creates the tide, it's the same thing. The difference between high tide and tide is a function of the entire system. The water depth, the forces of the moon on the sea, and the physical characteristics of the bay. Resonance is a fantastic concept. Most systems have their natural "frequency." And if you "vibrate" that system at it's resonance frequency, you can get some pretty big disturbances. Sometimes things break. Things that aren't supposed to break. Once the wind happened to match the frequency of a bridge in England. The bring was swinging wildly back and forth. Little kids understand resonance perfectly fine when they swing back and forth on a swing. This is very fun. To move only a little bit, (legs swinging back and forth) but to get some BIG movements. Our emotions also have certain resonance frequencies. And when you vibrate those emotional resonance frequencies, our emotions can feel FANTASTIC. This can be done through music, movies, books, even goofy TV commercials. And just like all the other resonance ideas, this is based on SCIENCE. It is no accident that all stories have the same basic structure. It is no accident that most music has the same basic structure. Human dreams, human desires, human fears also have the same structure. Learn to pace this structure, and you can make ANYBODY feel fantastic. Even better, it is just as repeatable as a wine goblet or a swing set. How, specifically, do you do this? Learn the deep and ancient story structure that has nature has embedded into our DNA. Speak in this structure and move people places they've NEVER been to before. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  21. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb13Post.mp4 Storytelling and hypnosis are very closely related. Therapeutic hypnosis and movies are essentially the same structure. You sit there and let another "entity" do your thinking for you. When you are in the therapist's office, he or she is talking, you've got your eyes closed, and your following along with their words. So long as their words are guiding you toward better and more resourceful emotions, you're pretty good. Similarly, when w watch a movie or even a TV show, we are letting the story do our thinking for us. Most of the time, this is just to relax our brain. But when a movie or show grabs our attention, it can move us through some very POWERFUL emotions. This is essentially what the Greeks discovered, and called Catharsis, way back in the day. A way to specifically move people through a series of specific feelings and emotions. In a way that would give them the feelings, but not of the risk. They could experience, pain, love, loss, grief, success, agony, etc., ALL without upsetting their real lives. The Hero's Journey story is essentially a well calibrated, motivational story. To give the hero enough confidence and get out there and kill the bad guys, and get the rewards. Fame, sex, admiration and respect. Most people spit words without much thought. We have half baked ideas and spit them out with randomly chosen words and phrases. But language is, or can be, EXTREMELY powerful. You can move people's emotions with your words. And once you realize this, you can move them ANYWHERE you want. To inspire, to motivate, to persuade, to seduce. And if you toss in a few well placed ambiguities, something very, very cool will happen. If you tell a story about dragons and knights, it can be pretty entertaining. But they'll remember it being about dragons and knights. But if you carefully calibrate WHERE you put in the specific vagueness, they will remember the story with THEM as the hero. Which means they'll take OWNERSHIP of the ideas in the story. This means with simple words, you can lead ANYBODY to make any decision you want. All while believing it was their idea. Not yours. They'll fall in love with you, if you want. They'll give you money, if you want. They'll wish they'd never met you, if you want. And anything else you can dream up. This hypnotic storytelling skill can be used anywhere words can be spoken. Clubs, bookstores, shopping malls, telephone calls, or anywhere else you can dream of. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sugar-baby-hypnosis/
  22. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec27Post.mp4 A very common "truism" is that lying is wrong, but not for the reasons people assume. It's "wrong" because the more you lie, the more stuff you've got to remember. Lying is bad, from a purely strategic standpoint. This is why if you think somebody is lying to you, ask them to first tell you their story. Then ask them to tell it to you backwards. If they are telling the truth, then describing the events in reverse will be just as easy as forward. This is precisely what people mean when they say the know something forward and backward. Another lie detector test is to remember all the details, and then a couple of days later, bring up the topic again. But purposely get one of the details wrong. If they go along with your incorrect detail, you know they are lying. If they correct you, chances are they are telling the truth. Another way to detect lies is to first calibrate lies and truths. This is hard to do without the other person knowing. It's usually used as an exercise in body language and facial expression reading. You get them to tell you three things both of you know are lies. Then you get them to tell you three things both of you know are true. This will let you calibrate their "truth telling energy," and their "lying energy." Then they tell you something, and only they know if it's true or not. This is spooky accurate. But many people lie without really knowing they are lying. Which means they'll eventually "get caught." When that happens, the jig, as they say, is up. How does this happen? Whenever a guy starts talking to a cute girl. He's acting on his best behavior. He's using all kinds of CONSCIOUS techniques. Practiced techniques. He's essentially presenting a FALSE version of himself. If the girl likes him, she's really liking a best-case scenario of who is he is. Eventually, the REAL HIM will come out. Sometimes this takes a while. Sometimes it happens soon after they have sex. Why sex? When a guy has sex with a girl, so long as he's not a sociopath, it changes how he feels about her on an emotional level. He values her MUCH MORE. His ancient caveman instincts truly believes SHE is his best chance for replication. He doesn't think this consciously, but it's like a switch goes off in his ancient brain. He behaves much differently around her. Much more needy, much less "attractive." This is why this is such a common scenario. Guy meets girl. Guy sleeps with girl. Guy's behavior changes abruptly. Guy is no longer attractive to girl. Girl ghosts guy. Guy wonders why, and assumes all women are evil, or manipulative, etc. If you behave NORMALLY all the time, this won't happen. If you are operating from a TRUE abundance mindset, this won't happen. How, exactly, do you that? This will show you: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July9Post.mp4 Form and function always have an interesting relationship. Food, for example, can have one or the other extreme. Some restaurants are famous for looking and feeling like dives, but have absolutely delicious. Most people have a couple of secret "hole in the wall" restaurants that somehow have fantastically tasting food. On other end of the spectrum are dishes that are meant to "look good." The Japanese have a saying that "Japanese food is meant to be enjoyed twice." Meaning you enjoy it when you look at it, and you enjoy it when you eat it. Ever since people started taking pictures of their food, many restaurants have leveraged this. Savvy restaurateurs knew that if they made their food look REALLY GOOD, more people would take pictures, put it on Instagram, and they'd get free advertising. Form and function works for humans as well. Form is what we look like. Our outer appearance. Function is how we feel on the inside. Our inner state. One can drive the other. For example, if you are happy INSIDE, this will drive your outer appearance, and you'll smile. But you CAN flip the script on yourself. If you FORCE yourself to smile, and keep it up long enough, you'll start to FEEL happy. Or at least a little silly. This is what they mean when they say fake it till you make it. This is easier than it sounds, most of the time. If you are by yourself, it's pretty easy to FAKE smiling until you feel goofy. But if you're getting yelled at by your boss, this would be much more difficult. For us humans, most of the form-function relationship goes in one way. From the inside to the outside. But it can create both virtuous and vicious cycles. If you are happy INSIDE, it will create externally happy behavior. This will cause OTHER PEOPLE to be happy around you. Which will REINFORCE that inner state. When you're a group of close friends, and EVERYBODY is kind of vibing with each other this way, not much feels better. When it's the opposite, not a lot feels worse. There are ways you can PRACTICE holding that powerful inner state. It involves practicing HOW you reference memories. Most of us don't think there's much of a choice of which memories we reference. Things remind us of other things, and that's that. Luckily, this is a skill we can practice. Very much like external skills. And like external skills, the MORE you practice, the better you'll get. Which means you can CREATE those wonderful virtuous cycles at will. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  24. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun15Post.mp4 Managing instincts is difficult. We were programmed a long, long time ago. Before we learned how to think, and talk and imagine. Instincts are like compulsions. They make us do certain things. And keep us from doing other things. Since they were "calibrated" a long, long time ago, they're kind of out of balance. That's why it's so hard to maintain a healthy weight. Being always hungery, and getting a huge pleasure while eating was necessary a long time ago. When food was hard and sometimes dangerous to get. We HAD to have a HUGE desire to eat so we wouldn't die of starvation. But today, it kind of sucks. Our instincts, especially are hunger instinct, is like the Borg. Resistance is futile. That's why no matter how well you do on a diet or exercise program, if you take just a week off, it's HARD to get back. Nature meant it to be this way. The desire to eat is like the Terminator. It never sleeps, it never gets tired. Since food is the MOST IMPORTANT thing, we crave it the most. It's the HARDEST instinct to manage. Others are easier. At least past a certain point. For example, plenty of people have a lot of social anxiety. Between where they are, and where they'd like to be is a big, invisible barrier. One that the more they TRY and push through, the harder it gets. But unlike food, once you get past a certain point, it's EASIER doing more. Kind of like those mag-lev trains. The ones that are based on oscillating magnetic fields. They both push and pull at the same time. But it takes a while to get going. Once it's going at a certain speed and momentum, it's very easy and efficient to keep going. Social anxiety is kind of like that, but only better. Mag lev trains are CONSISTENTLY oscillating. There is always a vibration between push and pull. It has to be carefully managed and operated. But our social instincts are not like that. They only have ONE push and ONE pull. Once you get past the first hurdle, it's much, much easier. The trouble is that many people try to go too quickly. To fake it till you make it. To feel the fear and do it anyway. To blast through the comfort zone. This would be like being WAY out of shape and trying to run a sub four minute mile. IMPOSSIBLE! But if you go VERY SLOWLY, improving will not only be easy, but enjoyable. Self sustaining. Meaning you'll get to a point where all social anxiety is a thing of the past. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun13Post.mp4 One common piece of "advice" is to fake it till you make it. Sometimes this works pretty well. Other times it is bad advice. It works well when there is a simple correlation between inner state and outer behavior. And it's in an environment that is conducive. What's this mean? Normally, we think and behave naturally. We don't think about how we think. And we don't think about our thinking affects our behavior. Like if you are happy, you will naturally smile. But you can first smile, and hold it until it affects your inner state. And if you happen to be in a conducive environment, other people will see you smile and some will smile back. So if you are unhappy inside, but you FORCE yourself to exhibit happy behavior by smiling, you're faking it. Because it's a pretty close correlation between inner state and outer behavior, AND the environment is conducive to this, this is where faking it till you make it works. Even better is when you combine two simple "faked states." Like if you FORCE yourself to walk more upright and confident, AND you smile. If you're around fairly friendly people, this will work pretty well. On the other hand, faking it till you make it is HORRIBLE advice. Imagine trying this when selling $500 vacuum cleaners door to door. And you were trying to "fake" being the greatest vacuum cleaner salesman of all time. The reason this would be a disaster is neither of the two conditions are present. Not only is there NOT a simple correlation between inner state and outer behavior, but there is the OPPOSITE of a conducive environment. Most self help advice is like this. Pretty simple, and useful in SOME situations, but not in many. Sure, they sound good. Which means they're easy to remember. But in order to achieve real and continued success, you need to have a lot of skills. Inner skills and outer skills. Inner skills of thinking and feeling. Outer skills of speaking and behaving. And skills of reading the inner state of others. Often, this is the missing ingredient in a LOT of situations. You can remember all the best language patterns and techniques. But if you use them at the wrong time, with the wrong person, they'll backfire. The more you can READ the internal state of the person you're interacting with, the less you need to worry about complex external behavior. And more often than not, being able to accurately read others simply means turning OFF your inner anxiety. Since humans, in our natural state, are resonators. We can FEEL what each other is thinking and feeling with a lot of accuracy. But only when you get rid of the useless junk inside. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
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