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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar30Post.mp4 There's an old Far Side cartoon of a kid pushing against a door. He's really leaning into it. However, the sign on the door says, "pull." And above the "pull" sign, there is a much bigger sign saying "School For Genius Children" or something similar. Funny because a super genius kid pushing against a door that says pull. There are quite a few metaphors or doing the opposite of what we THINK we should do. George Costanza, the character on Seinfeld, decided to do the opposite of what his gut told him. And everything worked fantastically. Even Rumi, a poet from a few centuries ago, wrote about when we go into the fire, we are really going into the cool water. And when we go into the cool water, we are really going into the fire. Now, some of our instincts are PERFECT. If you are leaning over a railing on the 50th floor of a hotel and your instincts are screaming at you to get back, that's pretty good advice. But when it comes to social instincts, most of them ARE backwards. Many of our instincts are reversed today. Our world is much, much more complicated today than when our instincts were calibrated. But sometimes this doesn't mean running into the fire and hoping it's cool water. Consider this "double reverse" conversational strategy. When we see somebody interesting, we want to impress them. So far so good. Staying neutral or even repulsing them won't do any good. The problem comes in HOW we attempt to impress them. We try to tell them things about OURSELVES. In PUA circles, this is generally described as DEMONSTRATING HIGH VALUE. Meaning we need to show them or tell them that WE are very valuable people. If they agree that we are very valuable people, that's good. If they don't, that's bad. But most people think WAY too "short term" when demonstrating high value. Consider instead, to build high value. The word, "demonstrate" makes it sound quick. But BUILDING high value takes time. Especially when it's happening AUTOMATICALLY in their mind. How can you do this? By asking them questions about them. Not superficial questions, like their favorite perfume or band. But how they think. How they see the world. This will do a LOT. One is few people ever ask questions like this. Two is they will resonate in their minds. Three is the more they think about these questions, the more they'll see YOU as having high value. Four is these questions will kind of "grow on their own" in their mind. As will their VALUE of you. And the more they think about these questions, the better they'll feel about themselves. And subconsciously, about you, for asking them. All it takes on your part is a few simple, innocent sounding questions. And then let their opinion, and value, of you, naturally and organically increase. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec03Post.mp4 There are some pretty basic, and somewhat common pick up ideas. Meaning you're at some party, and you want to make an impression on a cute girl or guy. There are a few ways to do this. One is to be friendly, outgoing, and charismatic. Another is to have some unique characteristics that few other people have. If you happen to be super gorgeous, this is already done for you. But since most of us aren't gorgeous, we need another angle. A very vague "meta description" is to "demonstrate value." Whether you are thinking about this consciously, or just behaving the way humans normally behave, that's what we all do. Even when there is no sexual or romantic chemistry. If we see anybody we don't know, but want to know. And we want them to think highly of us. Nobody ever says: "Hey, I'm going to go introduce myself to that guy over there!" "If I'm lucky, he'll hate my guts right off the bat and punch me in the face!" We instinctively and naturally want the opposite. We WANT those people to VALUE US. So everything we do is for the purposes of "demonstrating value." The questions is ALWAYS, how, specifically, we do that. Hence all the opening techniques, pick up lines, ways to impress them, etc. All have the intention of demonstrating value. A couple of old and common ones are magic tricks, and things centered around psychic ability. Tarot card reading. Handwriting analysis. Palm reading. Plenty of these are things that seem pretty cool. And they are also things that few people can do. And they are also things that are pretty easy, at least superficially, to fake. But there is another, similar, way to achieve the same results. To demonstrate that you know more about them than they might even know about themselves. This is, after all, what EVERYBODY wants. Deep connections. Feeling somebody not only knows us, but accepts and appreciates us. We all have very deep, and very strong fears about the opposite. Of somebody getting to know the real us, and rejecting us BECAUSE of what they've found. This is why every normal human has a very hard time opening up to people. We are all TERRIFIED of revealing ourselves, and getting rejected. So when you do the work of getting to know them, and not only NOT reject them, but accept and appreciate them, they'll be astonished. They'll see YOU as being different than everybody else. In a good way. In an attractive way. How can you do this? This Will Show You: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/