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If you were to practice any of the defensive arts, you would need two areas of focus. One would be the actual fighting skills. These are things that would need to be drilled down to the level of unconscious competence. Unless you had some of time freezing device, when a punch is coming, you don't have time to think and calculate the best response. All the blocks and counter punches must be drilled to the level of unconscious competence. Otherwise you'll get punched in the face. The same goes for language patterns. Most people don't like to hear this. It's very common to want to read a bunch of patterns in a book, and then be able to use them in the moment. Unfortunately, it's very rare that they'll say something, you'll say something, and they won't say anything else. This would be like practicing a punch and hoping it's a knockout punch. Most punches are NOT knockout punches. And most statements you can memorize and say are NOT knockout statements either. So practicing them is essential. And so is practicing your response to the things they MIGHT say. But there is another thing you can practice. Something that is much easier to practice, but JUST AS DEADLY as a metaphorical knockout punch. Imagine one of those comedy movies. Where somebody walks up to a really big guy and punches him as hard as he can in the face. And the big guy is absolutely unfazed. He looks at the puncher, as if he is waiting for him to do something. This is usually when the puncher realizes the trouble he's in. There was an episode of the Simpsons where Homer did this. They found out they could put him in a ring, and let an otherwise professional boxer keep hitting him. Because Homer is Homer, he just stands there getting punched until the other guy gets tired and gives up. This is something you can develop. Not actually getting punched. But becoming completely NON-FAZED by any insults. They hit you with the worst insults and look at them. Trying to figure out what they meant. Your face and body language show ZERO impact from the "insult." This will make the insulter feel like and idiot. The more he tries to insult you, the more you stand there waiting for him to make sense. Developing this skill will give you a very powerful reputation. It will take some practice, but it's pretty easy. You can practice at home all by yourself. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
When I was a kid, we all had a pretty robust insult defense system. I don't know who invented it, but everybody seemed to have it down pretty good. You may have even learned it yourself. It's a fantastic strategy, that works just as well as adults. The basic structure is this: "I'm rubber and you're glue. What you say bounces off me and sticks to you!" Of course, if you said this during an office meeting, it would be pretty silly. It's one thing to SAY, but it's extremely powerful if you can ACT this way. The first step is to NOT get knocked off balance emotionally. This is the ENTIRE PURPOSE of any insult. If you are hanging out with friends and playfully trading insults, there are two basic rules. One is you have to have a comeback. The comeback MUST be linguistically sound. It has to be a little more complex than: You're an idiot! Yeah? Your mom's an idiot! But the second important rule is it has to be within a certain amount of time. If your buddy insults you, and you hit him back a couple minutes later, that is WAY too late. The whole point of a REAL insult is to hurt you emotionally so you CAN'T come back. Sure, if you want to fight fire with fire, you can not only NOT get knocked off balance, but you must also come back with something MORE vicious. But the "rubber-glue" strategy works just as well. The first step is to remain as emotionally neutral as possible. This requires some kind of "early insult defense system." It takes time, but once you've got it down, it's VERY POWERFUL. As soon as you sense any "insult energy," you simply shift into pure neutral zone. Then when they are finished, you simply look at them and ask: "I don't understand. What do you mean?" If you say this honestly and congruently, they will feel like an idiot. ESPECIALLY if they tried to slam you in front of others. When people slam us in front of others, they are COUNTING on us sitting there not knowing what to say. But when you use the "rubber-glue" strategy, EVERYBODY will be focused on them, waiting for THEM to explain what they just said. This will give you a frame of un-insult-ability. Very, very powerful. The first step is developing the state of emotional neutrality. Once you figure that out, you can have a LOT more fun with your responses. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
Professional pickpockets choose their victims carefully. Do anything for a while and you'll learn the finer points. For pickpockets and muggers, they need a certain type of victim. Ones that won't fight back. Ones that will be too scared to remember what they look like. They can tell within a few moments whose a likely candidate and who isn't. They are, in a sense, body language experts. They can tell who's confident, so they avoid them. They can tell who isn't, so they stalk them. Not unlike lions carefully watching a pack of gazelles. They know who is the easiest to catch, and who isn't. They know who is the safest to catch, and who isn't. For lions and criminals, they have a clear objective. Lions need food. Criminals need money. But we all not only project, but are capable of reading the body language around us. Bully's tend to pick on people they KNOW will be weak. They type they don't think will fight back. Not just schoolyard bullies. Office bullies also. And there are many levels of bullying. Overt physical violence. And very covert subconscious verbal slights. Sometimes they are so subtle they don't even know themselves. Which makes it much harder to call them out. They have a deep need to put others down. For them, it's the ONLY WAY they can feel good. Most people feel good by making others feel good. Smiling, cracking jokes, etc. But bullies seem to have a different strategy. By putting others down, even subtly, they pretend it raises them up. But this can be difficult, especially if you're not quite sure WHAT they said. They say something, and it sort of seems like a normal statement. Or even a compliment. But underneath, there is some negativity. You know it, they know it, and everybody else knows it. Part of their game is to knock you off balance. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to defend yourself. Plenty of ways to build up a strong inner frame. And some POWERFUL outer language. Simple questions that make them look silly. Powerful reframes that will send them running for cover. Black belt language skills to project power. So NOBODY ever messes with you again. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/verbal-assassin/
Hey George, thanks a lot for all videos, they are very useful, all of them. I am writing because I saw you did one for being a vampire. However, I have been leaving at home with an emotional vampire since 8 years ago. I really would love to have a video for setting a strong defense against the "victim" manipulation and the "claims" of not being perfect and all this sort of stuff that people that intends to manipulate others uses in the everyday relations.