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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb08Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real effect. One that everybody tries very hard to pretend is not a real effect. Plenty of studies indicate that our physical appearance plays a much bigger role than we'd like to believe. Taller, more attractive men get more VC money, compared to everybody else. (VC = venture capitalist) Attractive job applicants get hired more so than normal ones, even when they are coached to give silly answers to interviewer questions. You'd think that VC's and hiring people would be more interested in raw talent, but remember who we are. We aren't Vulcans, we aren't robots, we aren't angels. We are basically monkeys that learned how to talk. So, yes, the halo effect is real. But pretty people don't want to believe it's real. Because pretty people like to believe it's not ONLY their looks that are driving their success. And the rest of us ugly looking goofs don't like to believe in the halo effect, because that means we're screwed. Right? No so fast! There's an idea called "fool's mate." It's kind of like beginners luck, but a bit more complicated. If you step up to the craps table in Vegas, and win a bunch of money in a short time, this is beginner's luck. Nobody would believe they won at craps because of some mad dice throwing skill. But fool's mate is about beginners luck, but with chess. To win in chess, you need to make at least a few moves. It's hard to believe you can beat a better opponent simply by luck. But from a pure probability standpoint, it happens. From the sheer number of games, you'll find a few where some goof gets lucky six or seven moves in a row. And this lucky goof ends up winning. But whenever people talk about "fool's mate," the focus is usually NOT on the lucky win. It's on the aftermath. People who win money in craps KNOW they are lucky. People who win at fool's mate actually BELIEVE they are skilled. This is VERY dangerous. If you believe your skills are higher than they really are, it's just a matter of time until you get smacked in the face. It's VERY EASY for super pretty people to believe that they are where they are because of skill, or insight, or raw talent. Especially in today's train wreck economy, with billions of dollars being added to our monetary system every day. Inevitably plenty of that cash is going to flow to the pretty people. But here's the thing. How you look, whatever your genetic starting point, that is JUST a starting point. All you need to do is get started building some skills. And it won't be long before you leave EVERYBODY in the dust. Especially all those pretty people who will never admit that being pretty is pretty much ALL they've got. What particular skills should you practice? The two more important skills us talking monkeys can develop. Thinking skills, and speaking skills. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 It's hard to eat only a little bit. Especially when you are hungry. Imagine trying to keep to your diet by going to an all you can eat buffet for both lunch and dinner. It's extremely difficult, from inside our own brains, to tell the difference between eating because we like it, from eating because we need it. This is why a common piece of advice is to eat very, very slowly. Our brain is about twenty minutes behind our mouths. I don't know about you, but I can eat plenty in twenty minutes. For any given meal, you only need about 500-1000 calories. So if you eat VERY SLOWLY, your brain will send you the "stop eating" signal right around that same calorie mark. But if don't purposely eat slowly, you can EASILY put in a couple thousand calories in twenty minutes. All our instincts work like this. When they are happy, our brains pretty much shut down. Because they were calibrated way back in the day when there were FAR fewer things to satisfy our instincts. A very COMMON similarity to "eating too fast" is talking to girls for TOO LONG. Most people understand the law of scarcity. The scarcer something is, the more you value it. So if you text or call too much, you'll RUIN any attraction she has. But this works with first conversations as well. Most guys talk to girls as long as they possibly can. Until they run out of things to say. But here's a general rule, that works kind of like the "eating slow" rule. If you end the conversation BEFORE she wants to, she'll end up WANTING MORE of you. But if you keep talking after SHE thinks it's time to end, it will have the opposite effect. It will create a subconscious feeling of not being able to get rid of you if she wants to. But if you always end the interaction BEFORE she wants to, it will create a subconscious, "I want more of that guy" feeling. If you do this with successive interactions, it will have a much more powerful effect. Do it once, and she'll enjoy it, but it's easy to forget. Do it a few times, over a few weeks, and that will cause her to wonder about you. To think about you. To convince HERSELF that she really likes you. Not for your reasons, but for hers. This is essentially how people fall in love. Self hypnosis. Trouble is, it's very difficult to do this consciously. But if you build your life so you behave this way naturally, you'll have this same impact on PLENTY of women. Just by living your life, you'll be creating a whole ARMY of women who are always out there, dreaming about you and wishing you'd call. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July28Post.mp4 Imagine you had a conversation with a boxer. A guy who was about to have the fight of his career. Imagine the fight was going to start in a couple of hours. And suppose you asked his strategy was. What do you imagine he might say? I suppose that would depend on the other fighter in this particular metaphor. And it would depend on the hero of this metaphor. We can assume the fighting style of the hero. We can assume the fighting style of the opponent. This might give us a better imagination how he might answer that question. But even then it would only be a general strategy. If you asked him what specific punches he planned on throwing, and in what particular order, he'd look at you funny. Clearly, that would depend on what the other guy was doing. Once upon a time there was a guy named Lorenz. He came up with mind experiment to help predict weather patterns. A beaker of water, with four variables. Only four. But each variable was dependent on the other three. Change one and you change the other three. But each time you changed any of the other three, you would then change the OTHER other three. They found that by changing the starting conditions only slightly, the system would be WAY different only a few minutes out. This is the foundation of CHAOS THEORY. Even know they KNOW the starting conditions. Even know they KNOW the laws of chemistry and physics. They still CANNOT predict complex systems very far out. Now imagine two people standing across a room. Flirting with one another. Eye contact, smiles, etc. Open posture. But the guy never walks over and starts the conversation. The excuse he gives himself is common. "I don't know what to say." But this is also a complete and absolute myth. That would be like a boxer being afraid to fight because he doesn't know what PUNCHES to throw. But since the guy in this metaphor is a HUMAN, and has plenty of time speaking to OTHER HUMANS, he knows what to say based on unfolding conditions. In reality, that excuse, "I don't know what to say," is a self defensive, self deception. To avoid social exposure. To avoid rejection. Two very PAINFUL things. But that's by looking only at the surface. Of worrying about what they might say, and then worrying about how you might reply. When you focus on the deeper instincts, it is MUCH EASIER. Because the deeper instincts are MUCH easier to lead. To leverage. Making all communication and persuasion VERY easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instint-persuasion/
  4. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to starting a conversation is knowing what to say. You see somebody across the room. You smile, they smile. You flirt, the flirt. But then the thought of walking across the room and starting a conversation keeps you stuck. What would you say? Or you're in line somewhere. Maybe somebody is cute in front or in back of you. You or they glance around, your eyes meet, and you give each other the universal "What's up" nod. But then the same problem pops up. What do you say? You may even go online in search of "conversation starters." There is certainly no end of examples. But before you practice for hours in front of a mirror, consider this. Humans have been anatomically "humans" for about a hundred thousand years. Before that, we weren't yet humans. But we still communicated with each other perfectly. When they study chimps, even though chimps don't talk to each other, they have an EXTREMELY complicated social structure. So, what does this mean? Instead of coming up with a witty conversation starter, you should give people bananas? Not really, although that would be better than nothing. (Hey. You're cute. Here's a banana...) The point is the WORDS you say are not nearly as important as how you say them. And the first words you exchange with anybody only serve ONE function. To shift you from NOT being in a conversation, to BEING in a conversation. So make it as EASY on THEM as possible. It's tempting to try and say something clever, to impress them. But always remember you want to make it as EASY on them as possible. After all, the first words back and forth are really only so you can VIBE with your energy. If you words are too complex, both of you will be too nervous to do that. And for the first couple of minutes, all you really need to do is say some VERY simple things. Once they are comfortable with you, then you can start asking some easy to answer questions. How they answer will give you MUCH MORE insight into any memorized lines. Even when you are hanging out with close friends, the underlying ENERGY of the conversation is much more important the words. In fact, unless you are landing a jet via radio instructions, or listening to instructions on how to de-fuse a bomb, most of the time the words are IRRELEVANT. Focus on the underlying energy instead, and everything will be much easier. There are plenty of exercises to show you how. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  5. Most practice is easy, but boring. This is the main reason why few people do it. It's also why Napoleon Hill suggested having a "burning desire" was necessary. If you had a passive interest in learning the piano, for example, that passive interest wouldn't enough. You'd give up (like many people) rather quickly. Before you started practicing, it might seem pretty cool when you imagine being able to PLAY the piano. But the more you practiced, the more the REAL COSTS of being able to play would add up. When you imagine being able to play, you don't really have an accurate idea of what having that skill would cost. Both the direct costs (the daily boring practice) and the opportunity costs (the stuff you were missing out on). But if you had a BURNING DESIRE to play, that would take you through. For example, imagine if somebody gave you a very complicated piece of sheet music, and told you if you could play it perfectly, from memory, within a year, he'd give you a billion dollars. Most people would be pretty motivated to practice every day. So they could get the billion dollars. With regular skills, you can BUILD UP the burning desire by taking time to IMAGINE all the good things that will come when you get the skills. You need to do this, or else the costs will outweigh the benefits. So long as you take the time to BUILD the benefits to BURNING DESIRE level, you'll be OK. But this ONLY works with non-social skills. Why? Because social skills introduce another idea into the mix. Namely, social anxiety. So not only do you need to practice, but the practice itself is VERY UNCOMFORTABLE for most people. It creates a TON of anxiety for most people. And when your brain is feeling anxiety (rather than boredom) it's very hard to learn ANYTHING. This is why practicing social skills, compared to practicing music or sports, is something few people ever think of. But guess what? There are some aspects of social skills that you can practice AT HOME. And practicing these ARE boring. So you'll learn them much quicker. And there is a huge BENEFIT to doing this. Because practicing these skills at home will REDUCE your anxiety. They do so by building up the other side of the anxiety. And once they are relatively EQUAL to the strength of anxiety, the anxiety will vanish. And once you get to that level, the idea of "practice" will be self sustaining. Talking to interesting people and making them laugh and smile is IMMEDIATELY rewarding. Playing the scales over and over and over and over again, not so much. The trick is to practice these social skills AT HOME, until the anxiety is gone, and then practicing with other people will be natural, easy and INSTANTLY rewarding. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cb/
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