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  1. Easy Love Questions: https://mindpersuasion.com/easy-love-questions/ https://mindpersuasion.com/tools/
  2. Banana Alone https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. Hypnotic Rabbit Holes: https://mindpersuasion.com/rapport-based-hypnotic-rabbit-holes/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. Develop Rare Genuine Charisma: https://mindpersuasion.com/develop-rare-genuine-charisma/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Create Subconscious Halo Effects: https://mindpersuasion.com/create-subconscious-halo-effects/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Gaze With Eyes Of Wonder: https://mindpersuasion.com/gaze-with-eyes-of-wonder/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. Covertly Lead Bullies To Destruction: https://mindpersuasion.com/covertly-lead-bullies-to-destruction/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. Shut Down Conversational Bullies: https://mindpersuasion.com/shut-down-conversational-bullies/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. Drop Ambition Breadcrumbs: https://mindpersuasion.com/drop-ambition-breadcrumbs/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb03_Post.mp4 There are three basic ways to meet people. One, the oldest and likely the most comfortable, through your social network. Friends of friends, etc. This is when you come "pre-screened" or "pre-qualified." You have less of a burden to "sell yourself." Two, is online, which mostly is online dating. This is very difficult, and very dependent on how you can present yourself WITHOUT referencing your personality or communication skills. This is essentially the same structure as job hunting. Your "resume" or "online profile" gets you in the door. Your interpersonal skills do the rest. Most people underestimate how much personality plays in job interviews. Since you are talking to the hiring guy, you've already PROVED your qualifications. But just like online dating, your qualifications, things people can find out about you WITHOUT needing to talk to you, are ONLY to get your foot in the door. Everything else is based on personality. Since we aren't robots, or Vulcans, but rather, self aware, talking monkey people, people NEED to know they can "vibe" with you. If you have the right resume qualifications, knowledge etc., but NOBODY can stand you, nobody will want to hire you. Similarly, if your online dating profile looks FANTASTIC but you have an abrasive, or a relatively plain personality, you won't get past the first meeting. Luckily, ALL of this, except the social circle method, is based on a BACKWARD idea. The idea that THEY are the judge. And you are the person who needs to impress them. Kind of like those "Talent" TV shows, which are very much like the Gong Show way back in the 70's. The structure is EXACTLY the same. Performers come out on stage desperate to get NOTICED. Desperate to break into "show business." Desperate to gain the approval of the audience and the judges. This is exactly how most people behave during job interviews. Guys who strike out with ladies and folks who are desperate for jobs say and think the SAME thing: "Please, give me a chance!" This mindset is desperate and very unattractive. To both relationship seekers and hiring managers. For a job interview, the answer is pretty simple. This goes beyond simple linguistic tricks, but it does involve a reframe. But you have to build up the right mindset for it to work. First, know your value. Have plenty of options. See any job interviews only a POTENTIAL opportunity for a MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL relationship. Once you have that mindset squared away, instead of saying: "Please give me a chance," you say the opposite: "Why should I work here?" When it comes to meeting people in general, it's kind of similar but MUCH less aggressive. Much, much friendlier. First, ditch the "please accept me" mindset. And replace it with something much, much easier. Much LESS confrontational. One that will make EVERY interaction, even with strangers, much more positive and memorable. Even better is it will build up a POWERFUL mindset based not on wishing or hoping, but on EVIDENCE. A mindset that says people like you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July20Post.mp4 There's one structure that, if you start looking for it, you'll find this everywhere. Not only will you find this everywhere, but this simple structure is about as close to success strategy as you'll find. If not in and of itself, but a very necessary requirement to any kind of success. Money, sex, love, genuine social validation and status, etc. The structure involves delayed gratification. Not just for the sake of delaying gratification. But under an "acquired taste" structure. For example, suppose you have an extra $200 every month after you pay your bills. It feels good, in the short term, to spend that money. It feels crappy, in the short term, to NOT spend that money. But if you DELAY that gratification long enough, the pay off will be enormous. Buying something feels good. But for most things, once we buy them, the thrill is gone. But if you save your money for a few years, you'll have a lot of money in the bank. Having that money in the bank is a GOOD FEELING. A CONTINUOUS good feeling. This is the structure to look for. Eating is similar. Eating now feels good. Not eating when you are hungry, or eating healthier food when you are hungry doesn't feel NEARLY as good. But if you can suck it up long enough, you'll get a much different, much deeper good feeling EVERY DAY when you look at yourself in the mirror. This is the SAME STRUCTURE of an acquired taste. For example, suppose you hate the taste of boiled chicken breast. But if you suck it up long enough, you'll soon associate the taste of boiled chicken breast with how good you feel in the mirror. How good you feel when people are checking you out. This association happens unconsciously. This same structure happens with things like coffee and alcohol. Nobody likes the taste of coffee the first time they drink it. At least black coffee. But as soon as you experience that coffee buzz, the same thing happens. Your unconscious associates that very good coffee buzz feeling with the taste of the coffee. Alcohol is the same. There is a very similar, but much, much more powerful acquired taste that goes with social conversations. There are TWO hurdles, both difficult in their own way. But on the other side of those two hurdles is GOLD. Pure LOVE. What are the hurdles? The first is social anxiety. Overcoming this takes a lot of mental rehearsal. State building exercising. These are very BORING, but if you do them enough, approaching anybody will be easy. Automatic. The second hurdle is to keep your ideas inside your brain. Only focus on the ideas in their brain. Bring them out, expand them, make THEM feel fantastic. REFRAIN from offering your super genius opinions you think they can't live without. But if take your time, and get over these two hurdles? The payoff is enormous. Love, sex, romance, deep friendships, and whatever else you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/conversation-hero/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July17Post.mp4 One common piece of advice, if you want to approach an attractive person, is act like they are your friend. This is slightly different than the "be yourself" advice, but its intentions are the same. When you are with your friends, you are yourself. The idea is pretty simple. When you are yourself, you are your most congruent. Your brain is working the quickest. The most uninhibited by social anxiety. You can respond playfully to your buddies at the highest level of efficiency. This is the result of being in close rapport. Being in rapport has many different levels. But being in rapport with closer friends is about the best you can get. So when they say, "be yourself," when they approach, it's actually good advice. And the idea of treating them like a friend is the same thing. A different means to the same end. Most normal humans, when they talk to an attractive stranger, are, right out of the gait, much less efficient. Much less congruent. We want something, otherwise we wouldn't have approached. We are nervous, because we might ask and they might say no. This means unless they see us, and ALREADY have a good idea they'd like to get to know us BEFORE we open our mouths, this strategy is likely to fail. This is why most people believe that LOOKS are really important. They only SEEM to be because everybody approaches strangers with a mix of desire, hope, and nervousness. But this rabbit hole goes even deeper. Because when you mix hope, anxiety and uncertainty, you also get, as an automatic response from your ancient brain, is a WORST case scenario. When you approach a friend, you have ZERO of this "energy." When you approach a stranger that YOU'VE already decided you want to get to know, but mix in worry and anxiety, that creates a nervous frame. This frame is RESONATED in them. Even if we don't know people, we get into and out of rapport with strangers ALL THE TIME. This is a function of our ancient, social animal instincts. So it's IMPOSSIBLE for them to not pick up on your nervous energy. Again, this is why people THINK that looks are the most important. Because really good looks, or outward signs of wealth are the ONLY THINGS that can overcome this common nervousness. Do you need to be attractive, or wealthy to approach your friends? Nope. And when you approach strangers with this same frame, they'll respond to YOU the same way your friends will. But it's not as simple as just "being yourself." But you can practice this frame. This very strong frame of SELF ACCEPTANCE. It's just like doing pushups. It might suck at the beginning, but when you build up the power of this self-acceptance frame, something FANTASTIC will happen. You really WILL accept yourself. This means you WILL be yourself, around everybody. Not only will all social anxiety VANISH, but when you approach, they will feel this non-anxiety, self acceptance energy. And talking to them will be a piece of cake. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/conversation-hero/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec29Post.mp4 One of the best pieces of advice in fiction is to show, don't tell. This is one of those things that everybody has heard a billion times. But few have taken the time to understand precisely why this is such good advice. A common complaint is a movie or TV show sucks because of lazy writing. This is usually an example of telling rather than showing. A good piece of fiction requires our participation. We like to watch the plot unfold, and make inferences about what has happened and why. Characters that have complex and unknown back stories make them more mysterious, and therefore more interesting. Every time we see them, we are subconsciously reminded that they have a complex backstory that we don't know about. This makes our brains, from a subconscious standpoint, much more interested in those characters. It's very similar to using curiosity as a marketing strategy. They more curiosity they can generate for any kind of product, the more we'll tend to buy it. When we are watching fiction, and we can put together what's going on, from the clues, we feel a sense of ownership. A sense of discovery. It feels much more like OUR experience. One that we participated in. Moves and TV shows that only TELL, don't require nearly as much brain power. It's much more passive. It's much more like passive watching, rather than participating. This the difference between well written dramas, and movies that depend on special effects and action. This can also be applied to dating, attraction, and seduction. The idea is the same. Show, don't tell. For example, a guy who is TELLING instead of showing will say things like, "I want you to be happy." As if a girl is going to hear that, and suddenly become happy. On the other hand, a guy with much deeper seduction skills will behave in a way that will make her happy. He'll carefully calibrate her behavior, so he can alter his behavior to get the best response. She can just relax and enjoy the ride. Guys mess up with they make it TOO OBVIOUS that they are interested in her. It's much better if she wonders whether you're into her or not. Step one is to behave in a way that will CREATE positive feelings in her. WITHOUT talking about it. Simply by calibrating her behavior, and using her subconscious signals to MAXIMIZE her good feelings. Step two is make sure she is always wondering about you. This will create maximum attraction, in her, for you. All by SHOWING her, and not telling her. The best part is once you make this part of your personality, you can do this with EVERY girl you interact with. Which will create plenty of women out there that are dreaming of you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  14. I like to cook. But most of the time, I don't use any recipes. Once in a while, I'll find a decent one online. But I rarely follow it exactly. Long time ago, I took an "Asian cooking" class. I took it twice, two summers in a row. Same class, different teachers. The first teacher was very specific. Exact amounts. Exact temperatures. Exact times. The second teacher was much more laid back. Little of this, dash of that, and Bob's your uncle. Most of the time, when I cook, that's how I do it. Think of the ingredients, imagine how they'll go together, and then figure it out. Of course, some times it comes out awful. But I'm not very much a step-by-step kind of guy. I'm more of a figure it out as you go along kind of guy. But the thing is, when you're cooking, there's very little risk. You kind of get a feel for what goes with what, and what doesn't go with what. Human communication is the same way. Human communication is related to human thought structure. If you've NEVER cooked before, it can be intimidating without a recipe. Just like a common worry when going into social situations is not knowing what to say. But just like understanding food can help with whipping something up, understanding human thought structure can help understand what to say. The thing about human thought is it's not that complex. Sure, when we're talking or thinking about super important things, it can be extremely complicated. But in social situations, it's pretty easy. Since the main people go to social situations is to relax and enjoy themselves. And learning about basic human thought patterns under those situations is pretty easy. Everybody wants the same thing. To meet a few interesting people and have an enjoyable time. Everybody fears the same thing. Unwanted social exposure, getting rejected, being put down or ridiculed in front of others. Learning how to speak to people to maximize what they want, and minimize what they don't want is pretty easy. Human thought, just like human language, has a very simple structure. And for having fun, this can be a very enjoyable structure. Which is EXACTLY what everybody is looking for. So when you can speak in this structure, you'll always be a big hit. At every party or social situation. Lots of fun, and zero rejection. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  15. If you watch a lot of movies, you'll start to see patterns. Long ago, when the first Harry Potter movies started coming out, a buddy of mine was perplexed. He didn't read the books, and wanted to know what all the fuss was about. So he went to see the first movie. After he saw it, he was still a bit perplexed. "Dude, it's just like Star Wars. I don't get it," he said. And he was correct. An orphan finds out he's special. This special orphan has to go on a mission. To find and kill some bad guy. Harry and Voldemort, Luke and Vader. Luke had a light saber and was a Jedi. Harry had a magic wand, and was a wizard. In fiction, they say there are only seven basic stories. If you study music, you'll find the same chord progressions in pretty much every song. Funny thing about humans is most of us tend to pay attention to the CONTENT, but not the STRUCTURE. The STRUCTURE of every hero's journey movie is essentially the same. An orphan finds out he's special. He meets a bunch of friends, and has to fight against a bad guy. When Joseph Campbell wrote the book about this structure, after studying mythology from around the world, gave it an appropriate title: "The Hero With 1000 Faces." Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Neo, Peter Parker, Dorothy, and on and on. This is a very, very cool thing. Because once you understand the STRUCTURE of something, coming with different content is VERY easy. What else has a similar structure? Humor. Nearly all humor is based on ambiguity. A quick story, and then the "punch line." The punch line nearly ALWAYS leverages some kind of ambiguity. Some jokes are set up so we assume the ambiguity goes one way, but it goes the other. The famous Groucho Marx joke: "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know!" Even elementary school yard riddles are based on ambiguity. Why is six afraid of seven? Seven ate nine! What did the ocean say when the tide came in? Long time no sea! Why did the boy study on an airplane? He was in high school! Once you understand the structure of humor, telling jokes is easy. Making up jokes is easy. Because built into our language is a TON of ambiguity. Once you start playing with other people's ambiguity, you can have a lot of fun. Wanna know what ELSE is based a lot of vague ambiguity? Hypnosis. And when you combine the structure of hypnosis with humor, a wizard you will become. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  16. A common human curse is to think of the PERFECT think to say, but way too late. The trick of using humor effectively is you not only need to have something clever to say, but you gotta say it quick. Whenever somebody says something, and it has humor potential, that humor potential has a VERY SHORT half-life. Maybe a second or two. If you the right thing, but not quick enough, it will be lame instead of funny. It's like our brains only keep the most recently said things. And you must say the funny part while those thought patterns are still resonating. Recognizing you COULD have said something, but didn't is ONLY the first step. There is a scene from the movie, "8 Mile," where the main character (played by Eminem) is riding on a bus. While he was looking out the window, he was busily scribbling potential rhymes to be used in upcoming rap battles. Copywriters keep something called a "swipe file." Any time they hear or read anything interesting, a metaphor, simile, colorful adjective phrase, they write it down. If you want to be fast with the funny, you've got to do the same. It's not something many people think about. And it's certainly not something you'd talk about. But consider keeping a WRITTEN file of clever comebacks and witty sayings. This will keep you ready when the time comes. Another way to prepare is to take a few minutes every night, and write down the things you heard. And then when you've got ZERO pressure, think of some ways you could have REFRAMED those statements. When you combine these two ideas, you'll soon develop some POWERFUL and very funny comebacks. Why? Because most people talk about the same stuff. Most people have the same basic collection of statements and descriptions they use when they talk about the same things. So when you tune your brain to find useful comebacks, AND spend some time looking at the statements you hear, after the fact, this will build into a pretty powerful skill. Is it a lot of work? Not really. A few extra minutes every day. Is it being "fake" or "not genuine?" Not if you practice to the point of unconscious competence. A fat guy eating burgers on the couch is being real. The same guy a year later who runs five miles a day is also being real. The more you TRAIN (mind or body or language), the better you'll get. All while maintaining a sense of the real you. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  17. Many things come in two's. Night and day. Eating and digesting. Being awake and being asleep. Work and leisure. In economics, they classify all behaviors into two categories. Labor and leisure. Labor is a DISUTILITY. Which means it kind of sucks. Leisure is a UTILTIY. Which means it DOESN'T suck. We LIKE leisure. We don't like labor. We only DO labor so we can enjoy our leisure. Both can be improved. If you can improve your "labor skills" you can make more money. Have a better and more rewarding career. Live in a better neighborhood, have sexier friends. But what about leisure? For most folks, leisure simply means turning ON the TV, and turning OFF your brain. That IS easy. That IS enjoyable. Especially if you have a couple six packs and a sack of burritos. And if there's some good TV on, life couldn't be better. Right? Nope! Lucky for us, your leisure skills CAN be improved just like your labor skills. What does this mean? Becoming more efficient with the remote control? Finding ever more delicious burrito shops? Well, that would be a start. Nothing wrong with wandering the Earth searching for the perfect burrito. But having fun is more fun when there are other people. After all, having a burrito-TV-beer party is more fun with friends that it is alone. Anything is better with close friends than it is alone. And the more you INTERACT with those friends, the more fun you'll have. The more easily you can interact with PEOPLE in general, the more fun you'll have. Turns out there is a WHOLE BUNCH of social skills you can use ONLY for having fun. When work is done and your boss is out of your mind. What kind of skills? Party skills. Joke telling skills. On the spot humor skills. Story telling and anecdote skills. Super outgoing confident and playful skills. Turns out you can build up these PARTY SKILLS just as much as you can build any other skill. So much that you can be the life of ANY party. Even if there isn't a party. Waiting for the bus, standing in line at the supermarket, flirting with baristas and waitresses and bartenders and shop clerks. With enough party skills you can MAKE a party happen anywhere. And with anybody. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  18. Quantum physics is often thought of as mystical. It's also used to describe mystical things. But in reality, it's actually pretty simple. In English grammar, there is countable nouns and uncountable nouns. Countable nouns are things like penguins, bananas, and carne asada burritos. I went to the zoo and saw a lot of penguins. How many penguins? Seventeen penguins! Damn dude, that's a lot of penguins! On the other hand, there are uncountable nouns. Things that you can't count. Like water. I went to the ocean and saw a lot of water. How much water (not "how many water")? A lot of water. Penguins you can describe with numbers. Water you can't. You can count the containers of water, but not the water itself. Once upon a time, scientists thought ENERGY was an uncountable noun. But it turns out they were wrong. Energy is countable. It comes in discrete packets. Just like penguins. You can't have a penguin and a half. Nor can you have a "unit" of energy and a half. And as you have already guessed, the word "quantum" is from the same root as the word "quantity." So in a very real, very LITERAL way, "quantum physics" is really the SAME as "countable physics." But since "quantum" is a word most people don't use, it sounds mystical and cool. Quantum healing. Quantum hypnosis. Etc. Swap out the word "countable" for quantum and it sounds pretty same. "Hey dude, I invented a new form of hypnosis. Called countable hypnosis!" "Uh, like count from ten down to one? Dude, that's been around for a while..." So, why all this talk about quantum penguins? Because many skills are much easier to learn if you break them down into their most basic components. Or their "quantum level." Meaning the smallest part that you can actually practice. Many people do this already. Learning to play the piano, for example, you start off by doing simple scales. Then simple chords. Then reading simple notes in simple keys. Smaller building blocks are easy to practice. And once you've got a lot of these smaller building blocks mastered, they can add up to some cool stuff. Having a lively and memorable conversation with somebody is comprised of many of these smaller, "quantum level" skills. And each one you can practice on your own. In the privacy of your own home, or your own brain. Once these smaller chunks are strong enough, you can combine them in very interesting ways. Ways that will make you a much more POWERFUL conversationalist. Without EVER feeling any social anxiety. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cb/
  19. One thing we humans have better than any other animal is flexibility. For example, we have a ton of muscles. And if you work your muscles, they will get stronger. This is obvious. From a bio-engineering standpoint, this allows for an increase in efficiency REGARDLESS of what type of work a human would do. This allows for ancient humans to live in ANY environment, figure out what they needed to do, and do it. The more they did that, the more those specific muscles would strengthen and become much more energy efficient. Farming, climbing trees to get coconuts, hunting. Another area where we are extremely flexible is in our thinking. Every other living thing takes THOUSANDS of years to adapt to its environment. Humans can do it much quickly. Because we have a flexibility of thinking. Instead of evolving claws, we make tools. Instead of evolving extra hair, we make clothing. Every thing we have is born of this "meta creativity" and "meta flexibility." The thing that makes a critical difference is communication. We can take vague ideas inside our brains and transfer them from one brain to another with words. And just like our physical bodies, you become better at whatever you practice. If you run every day, you'll eventually be able to run a LONG WAYS without getting tired. If you do pushups every day, you'll eventually be able to do plenty of pushups. If you practice music every day, you'll soon be a skilled musician. If you practice communication every day, you'll soon be a world class communicator. But here is where the problems start. Practicing many things is very straightforward. Keep doing it until you get better. Running, pushups, sports, music, all these are easy to measure. Easy to see if you are getting better. But what about communication? How do you practice this? How can you measure if you are getting better or not? What makes it even worse is even the IDEA of "practicing" something like communication causes anxiety in most people. Sitting at the piano and playing scales for a couple of hours is easy. It might bore you to tears, but it doesn't cause anxiety. Nobody is afraid of getting yelled at by a piano. But talking to people every day, just for practice? That sounds downright silly! Luckily, there are plenty of components to communication. Inner game and outer game. And plenty of ways practice that DON'T involve other people. AND plenty of ways to measure how much better you are getting. And even better, once you start to get some POSITIVE feedback from others, you'll be on your way. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/conversational-brilliance/
  20. The most important part of humans is our brain. Our ability to think and plan creatively is what made us dominate the planet. Our brain was SO valuable that we pretty much evolved everything else AROUND our big brains. Kind of like every ancient civilization formed around rivers. Jericho, for example, the world's OLDEST city, had a natural spring that continued to gush up water. Other cities formed around springs died up as soon as the water did. Cities mean people and a lot of farmland, and that requires a lot of continuous water. Sometimes, though, this is a double edged sword. Civilizations that sprung up around rivers had the benefit of the water from the river. But the river also allowed an easy way for enemies to attack the city. Our brains are kind of the way. Tons of benefits, but plenty of costs. Naturally, we wouldn't be here if the benefits DIDN'T outweigh the costs, but there are costs nonetheless. What are the main costs of our big brain? Our brain is WAY too big for us to be born even CLOSE to being fully formed. Which means we have a TONS of instincts, but also TONS of learning potential. We can think of our learning capacity like "programmable instincts." If you train something ENOUGH, to the point of unconscious competence, it's very much like having a NEW set of instincts. Some of these things are easy. Like riding a bike. Other things take a lot of time. Some things are trained in by our environment. Other things we train into ourselves. But with a little bit of understanding and patience, you can train things into other people. This happens all the time anyway. Because most of the stuff we learn from our environment is from other people. As humans are highly social creatures, our environment is nearly always a bunch of other people. When you purposely train things into other people, you're taking what we do NATURALLY, and doing it deliberately. This is essentially the story of human progress. Seeing what happens naturally, and then augmenting it for our benefit. Just like ancient humans learned to train the land (their environment) to provide specific types of food. You can train your friends (your environment) to provide specific types of behavior. Or even strangers. There are short term training methods, for bartenders and waitresses. And longer term training methods, for friends, business associates, and potential lovers. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
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