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  1. Build The Virtuous Cycle Of Love https://mindpersuasion.com/build-the-virtuous-cycle-of-love/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb05_Post.mp4 Imagine two or three of your best traits. Your absolutely most attractive characteristics. Not ones that exist, but ones that could exist. Ones that aren't exactly fantasy (Like being able to fly), but things you genuinely like about yourself. Things you'd also very much like to IMPROVE about yourself. Like you are really friendly. Or you've got a great sense of humor. Or even a non-personality trait. Like something you really like to study or learn. (not video game hacks!) Even something you haven't even started yet, but would really LIKE to be able to master. A hobby, a sport, an instrument, a skill. Now imagine having a couple of traits, or desires, in some kind of a social situation. And you see somebody across the room. And you would very much like to walk over and tell them about yourself. Or perhaps even deeper, not needing any kind of "communication" intermediary. You look at them, and your eyes meet, you both kind of smile awkwardly, and break off eye contact. And you are suddenly hit by a deep knowing. That if they only KNEW those things about you, it would work. If there was somehow you could convey these deep dreams and desires that you have for your life and yourself. That if there was some way they KNEW these things about you, not just superficially, but deeply. A powerful emotional connection. As if they could see your soul, appreciate your soul, and CHERISH your soul. What of life would have if you could have this "self-identity transmission process"? Meaning you could somehow convey these things about you, to them. Not through your words, as words are kind of clunky. Things that exist in our brains are far to hard to express with mere words. At least words from the brain of one human to another human in a first meeting within a social setting. But what if you could play some kind of long game? What if you could speak to them in a way that would make THEM desperate to find out about YOU? And through this filter, of them wanting to know VERY MUCH what makes you tick, they would much more likely to accept and appreciate those deep things about you. And because they genuinely wanted to know these things, they wouldn't put you on the spot. Not give you only a minute to spit out your best thoughts of yourself. But they would be patient and considerate to help you get those ideas out of your head. Because they are extremely interested in everything there is to know about you. What would THIS do for your social life? Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec20Post.mp4 Acquired tastes are pretty cool. We tend to think of them as taking time, and not being instantly delicious. For example, once I had a Vietnamese coworker. She brought in some Vietnamese food to work. Our boss came in, took a bite and said: "Hmm, must be an acquired taste." Which is the opposite of saying: "Wow, this is delicious!" Saying it must be an acquired taste is kind of like saying you think it tastes like crap but you get that other people like it. But even that statement is not accurate. Since she's Vietnamese, she's always eaten that food, and it's probably always tasted good. It would be kind of weird to have a culture that has to develop an acquired taste for their own food. Of course, since we live on fast food planet, where all food is chemically engineered to not only taste IMMEDIATELY delicious but be VERY addictive, it's hard to imagine an acquired taste. But it happens. For example, if you drink coffee, particularly black coffee, once upon a time that tasted terrible. UNTIL you felt the caffeine buzz. Your brain associated the good feeling of the buzz with the taste of your coffee. Same with alcohol. Nobody enjoys the taste of alcohol. UNTIL you feel the buzz. Then you associate the feeling of the buzz with the taste. Other acquired tastes take longer. Like if you are serious about getting into shape. And you SLOWLY shifted from a diet of nachos to chicken and broccoli. If you are ONLY concerned with the taste, nobody would ever eat chicken and broccoli. But as you slowly get into shape, build your confidence, starting get more looks from sexy people, that feels good. All those good feelings are associated with the taste of chicken. And the fear of losing all your gains (confidence and glances from sexy people) is associated with the nachos. So you actually feel BAD when you eat nachos. This kind of thing isn't ONLY associated with food. We humans are plenty of acquired "behavior" that isn't IMMEDIATELY gratifying. But once you build up a habit and see the LONG TERM gains of doing what is initially not pleasurable in itself, this when the cool things start to happen. This is what WILL happen when you TRAIN IN the idea and behavior of outcome independence. At first, it's HARD to leave a pleasant conversation without hanging on for dear life. Pleasant conversations with strangers are like food. Our instincts want us to "consume" as much as you can. But when you "leave some on your plate" this builds. What does it build into? If you leave every conversation WITHOUT closing, without hanging on for dear life, this will build MASSIVE social confidence. You'll build a naturally outgoing personality. One that OTHER PEOPLE will pursue. Which means you'll never need to worry about closing ever again. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/relationship-generator/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct13Post.mp4 There are a lot of paradoxes in modern life. Many poets and philosophers have spoken and written about these. The things we feel compelled to do are the absolute wrong things. You meet a girl, you hit it off. Then you text, and she doesn't text back right away. You very much WANT to see her text. You get a good feeling when she texts you. When normal guys hook up with ladies, unless you have a long history of lady slaying, it gives you a bit of "I can't believe this is happening" feeling. Most guys get WAY less sex than they want. Most guys get WAY less friendly affection than they want. So when guys do get a little bit, it seems kind of surreal. Especially if it's NOT expected. Sure, if you're a lady killer and you collect numbers and notches on your bedpost like crazy, it's no big deal. But for most normal guys, this experience usually comes out of left field. AND because sexual intimacy is the most wonderful feeling there is (so long as you're not starving to death) your instincts make you hang on for dear life. So the moment you send a text, your "scarcity brain" goes into OVERDRIVE. Every second that passes by, you fear the worst. Maybe I misunderstood. Maybe she doesn't like me like I thought. Maybe I hallucinated the whole thing! AHHHHHH! Then she texts back and it swings in the opposite direction. She likes me! Fantastic! Unfortunately, these is the PERFECT training scenario. Nobody is training anybody, but it works the same. You get RANDOM and unexpected signals. You feel VERY GOOD when they are positive. You feel horrible when they are dismissive or non-existence. This creates scarcity and desperation. So you send a kajillion texts over the next few minutes. This does the OPPOSITE Of what you want. What SHOULD you do? The opposite of what you WANT to do. If you look carefully enough, you'll find this EVERYWHERE. Sex, health and money are critically important. But our instincts make us do the OPPOSITE of what we know we should do. Even worse is when we are interacting with people. The BEST question to ask on a job interview is like this: "I know your company does X, Y, and Z, but based on my research, you seem to have issues with A, B and C. Why would it be in my interests to work here?" The BEST attitude to have when talking to a pretty lady would be: "You seem fairly attractive, but I'm looking for something much deeper than surface level looks, which obviously fade with time. Tell me something about yourself..." Of course, both of these are IMPOSSIBLE if you are desperate for both sex and money. However, you can re-calibrate your behavior, using ONLY your existing memories, to create that mindset. Getting more of whatever sex and money you like. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/nice-guy-killer/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct10Post.mp4 Self deception is one of our most powerful traits. This was very necessary back in the old days. If humans were like Vulcans, who only were based on pure logic, we would have died out a long, long time ago. Imagine a group of ancient "logical" hunters finding some wooly mammoth tracks. They followed them, and found some wooly mammoth poop. Then they'd calculate how far ahead of them the wooly mammoth was based on how dry the poop was. If they were purely logical, they would have had a certain cutoff. Maybe if the probability was less than 20% they'd catch him, they'd give up and find something easier. But suppose they were competing with another tribe of non-Vulcans in that same area. And that non-Vulcan tribe found the same type of scenario. They'd see the wooly mammoth poop and IMMEDIATELY get excited. We're gonna be rich! Even if they only had a 20% chance of getting that wooly mammoth, that "bias" of being way overconfident would give them an edge over time. The opposite would also be true. If the Vulcans thought they would die, due to some unexpected calamity, they wouldn't try hard to survive. But the humans would keep trying, due to their biases. Today, these biases can mess us up big time. Most of our instincts get in the way of success, while in the past they helped us to succeed. A lot of guys have trouble with women today. Attracting them, "keeping" them, having regular relationships with them. The modern dating scene is pretty much an irreversible trainwreck. There are plenty of reasons for both teams to take their ball and go home. But this is missing out a HUGE amount of opportunity. For a guy, there are many, many benefits from interacting with women, EVEN IF you never, ever want to be in a relationship. Even if you NEVER want to have sex. How the heck is this possible? For one thing, being able to create attraction in a women through simple conversations requires a LOT of underlying skills. Confidence, congruence, a strong frame, conversational skills. These SAME underlying skills will help you in plenty of other ways. All else equal, having "attraction creation" skills will help you make more money. All else equal, having "attraction creation" skills will help you make more and better friends. They'll help you start up conversations with strangers, be more successful within any potential networking opportunities, and in many ways you can't even imagine. So even if you're utterly disgusted with the dating scene, if you NEVER want a relationship, simple conversations with attractive women are a FANTASTIC measuring tool. Even better, if you chat up a lady, create some attraction, and then SPLIT without even asking for a number, she'll be wondering WHY. And walking away from a women you JUST created attraction in, while SHE wishes you'd come back will do WONDERS for your confidence. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/nice-guy-killer/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July21Post.mp4 One of the curious things about our brains is the difference between structure and content. Our brains are essentially pattern recognition devices. But most of the time this happens subconsciously. In the background. For example, imagine a bunch of ancient cavemen hanging around next to some tall brown grass. And in that tall grass was a lion sneaking up on them. Their subconscious is ALWAYS scanning for patterns and structures. Their subconscious would see the lion's hair mixed in with the tops of the grass. It would send them a, "something's not quite right signal." They might get a little nervous, but not know why. Maybe their heartbeat would increase. Maybe they'd start subconsciously glancing at the grass more often. But their subconscious would on HIGH alert. Whenever it was sure that the lion was there, it would send their conscious brains a very STRONG danger signal. Conversation would stop. Their brains would be given a very strong signal: VERIFY THE LION! They'd see it, and they'd run. Likely before they even knew what was happening. For most people, this will NEVER be a conscious process. Most people will go their ENTIRE lives thinking that ONLY content exists. Few people will ever realize that all chord progressions in western music are identical. Few people will ever see the similar structure in movies, even between sappy romantic comedies and epic hero movies. But if you DO train your mind to see structure, where others ONLY see content, you'll have HUGE advantage. But this is only the beginning. Sure, it's fun to see movie structure, song structure, even language structure. But the MONEY (literally) and the SEX (usually) is in understanding the structure of thought. If you are selling anything, or seducing anybody, or even trying to cheer up a buddy, doing it via thought structure is SIMPLE. Doing it with a brain to brain content transfer is DIFFICULT. It's like having a crying baby, yet not knowing WHY they are crying. So you MUST try a whole bunch of different things. Food? Gas? Scared? Who knows! But with people that can think and talk, it's not just about finding about what's wrong and fixing it. It's about finding out what's good and making it BETTER. This is the BEST PART. Solving problems is binary. Identify it, solve it, and get back to whatever you are doing. But increasing good feelings can keep going. As long as you want. Or at least until they pay you or beg to sleep with you. How do you do this? By understanding the structure of their brain. Not by trying the "fix the baby" strategy of tossing different content and see what works. But by expanding THEIR content. Bigger and bigger and bigger. Until they BEG YOU to seal whatever deal needs sealing. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/conversation-hero/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb07Post.mp4 Once I went to large, big box electronic store to pick something up. They had this long, snaking line, where you'd get to the front and have to look down the long row of cashiers. When one was available, they'd hold up a sign with a number, letting the next person in line know. While you were waiting, there was lots of last minute things. Kind of like the stuff you see on the counter of gas station convenience stores and supermarket checkout lines. But since this was a LONG snaking line, there was a TON of stuff. The kind of stuff you buy because it looks cool, AND you are in the mindset of paying for stuff anyway. Leveraging the Cialdini law of commitment and consistency. Kind of an, "in for a penny, in for a pound" kind of thing. Which means I bought a bunch of stuff that looked cool in the moment. But then I'd get home and end up not ever using it again. Except for this one thing. It was this wrist and forearm exercise ball. A small ball inside of a larger sphere. Once the inner ball was spinning, it created a LOT of torque. And a lot of momentum. Which means once you got it spinning, you only needed to rotate it a little bit to KEEP it spinning. The exercise part came from needing to keep it stable while it was spinning. Which gave your forearm a huge workout. But it took a LOT of work to get it spinning. Once spinning, it was fairly self-sustaining. Plenty of things are like this. Things that can take effort to get going, but once going they are seemingly self sustaining. Of course, people have been searching for magic machines of perpetual motion since the dawn of time. But the laws of thermodynamics says that's impossible. Like with that exercise ball, it does seem to be self sustaining. But at the same, none of my friends or I could keep it going for more than a minute. The muscles of your forearms have to absorb a TON of energy to maintain it's stability. But sometimes things can SEEM like magic perpetual motion machines. Because the "energy" required to keep any system going is out of our conscious awareness. Anything to the level of unconscious competence is, by definition, outside of our conscious awareness. One thing people have trouble with, when meeting new people, is how to keep the conversation going. This is difficult when you are using your conscious mind to think of things to say. But when you've trained some linguistic skills to the point of unconscious competence, your conscious brain won't need to work at all. You can just kick back and enjoy the conversation. Conversations with anybody you like. For any reasons you like. What exercises can you do that will train these linguistic skills to the point of unconscious competence? Find Out: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov22Post.mp4 The fear of rejection is very, very common. It's a remnant of our childhood. All kids ask for a billion things. Even if a kid has a 50% success rate, this also means they have a 50% failure rate. Which means even the most successful humans have a crap ton of memories of asking and being told no. Sometimes with patience and kindness. Sometimes with anger and frustration. But we humans are pretty resilient. If you have kids, you maybe wish sometimes that your kids weren't so resilient. We keep pushing forward until we get what we want. All kids are pretty much programmed with a "keep asking until you get it" program. When we are adults, this childhood program is still running. Part of us feels as if we need to ask for whatever we want from others. Even if we don't express what we want through a question, we still feel some of that "asking energy." This is why most normal humans feel a small echo of that potential rejection with the silliest things. Like asking for more water from a waiter, or sending back the wrong dish. This is much more pronounced when we are in social situations. With a waiter or anybody in any kind of business situation, it's kind of their job to do what we want. But if you see an attractive person across the room, asking for their number seems a BILLION times more difficult than asking for more fries. However, asking is NOT appropriate. Nobody sees themselves as the holder of goodness. Of the giver of pleasure. To give or withhold their goodness based on HOW us poor peasants ask. EVERYBODY has the same collections of anxieties. So asking is the WRONG strategy. Instead, consider a strategy of CREATING PLEASURE. Not giving pleasure. Not exchanging pleasure. Not using the idea of pleasure to get what you want. Of just being a person who CREATES pleasure in others. All humans have a cause-effect generator in our brains. This has been demonstrated scientifically in children as young as six months. It's believed to be a very, very necessary evolutionary trait. So what? When YOU make it a habit of causing pleasure in others, just because you enjoy doing that, that will trigger the cause-effect generator. By creating pleasure in others, you will create the following equation in their brains: YOU = GOOD TIMES When more and more people start to see you like this, this will kick off some powerful and ancient attraction triggers. Social proof, authority and sexual desire. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
  9. Why Being Yourself Is Excellent Advice: https://mindpersuasion.com/be-yourself-is-excellent-advice/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July23Loop.mp4
  10. Way back in the day, life was pretty easy. At least, in some ways. In other ways it sucked. But one of the ways it was relatively easy was we silly humans didn't have to make a lot of tough choices. You went to school long enough (high school or college) and then got a job. So long as you did what you were told, you could make enough money to live a decent life. Of course, that's not true for hardly anybody anymore. Nowadays, you've always got to stay on top of things. Which on the one hand, gives us a lot more flexibility and freedom. But on the other hand, it can be pretty terrifying. An age old argument is freedom vs. structure. Both have their own merits. Unfortunately, few humans ever get to choose. We show up, and we got what we got. If you don't mind always thinking outside the box, you can do pretty well. If you need to be told what to do, step by step, not so much. This is true not only in our economic lives but in relationships. Back in the day, everybody lived in the same areas their whole lives. You met somebody growing up, and ended up with that person. The next generation repeated the process. Not, the dating game is nearly chaotic. If you wait for it to "happen" you might be waiting a long time. Luckily, if you are willing to think outside the box, you can do MUCH BETTER than those who just showed up and "let it happen." This requires that you understand the process. And be able to manage the process. Which requires doing things that aren't intuitive. In fact, in order to build the strongest relationships, you have to do the OPPOSITE of what your instincts are screaming. This is the hardest part. Not knowing what to do, but being able to do it. Luckily, if you start slow, and build your way up, you can develop these skills just like any other skills. And with relationship building skills, you can create any relationship you want, any time. Learn How: Love Hypnosis
  11. I love watching movies. All kinds, but in particular I'm a big fan of the "found footage" genre. Many people think they suck, but for some reason I find them entertaining. A normal group of people doing normal things and then a bunch of ghosts or aliens or something shows up and kills everybody. There are some really good ones, and some not so good ones. It's easy to understand why they are pretty popular, at least with movie makers. They're cheap to make (you don't need a lot of equipment or expensive actors) and the potential is huge, due to viral marketing. One of the originals, "The Blair Witch Project" from back in the 90's was purely viral marketing. They spent less than a million to make it, and ended up making tons. What worked even better, from a marketing standpoint was "Paranormal Activity." It cost less than a million to make, and grossed over 250 million worldwide. Mostly by word of mouth, or "viral marketing." If you can leverage viral marketing, you can MASSIVE return for very little cost. Even in your own life. If you have a good reputation in your social circle, you're "pre-vetted" for a lot of things. Relationships, jobs, or if you're throwing a party. Word gets around and everybody wants to help you. This isn't as difficult as it seems, even if you don't have very much of a social circle. All you need to do is get out there, and interact with others in the right way. Get interested in them, instead of talking about yourself. Pretty soon you can be the guy or girl that everybody wants to be around. All through word of mouth. Any time you need anything, you can tap your social circle, and they'll have your back. Click Here to Learn More
  12. The other day I saw a friend of mine. He told me that because it was so cold over the previous weekend, he never left his house. He's married with a couple of kids, so staying in all weeekend wouldn't be so bad. I don't know about you, but I need to get out at least a couple of times a day. Otherwise I'll feel like a hermit. Sure, being sick with the flu is one thing, when all you want to do is sleep. But I always feel like I'm missing out if I stay indoors for too long. The biggest reason, of course, is other people. Humans are social creatures and we are our best when we're working or playing with others. Especially cool is when you get out just to interact with strangers. Sure, some people are a bit goofy, but most are pretty cool. Especially if you get them talking about cool stuff. Stuff they like. Stuff they're planning. They say that in any economy of any type, the most valuable resource is "human capital." The skills and abilities that people have. Most people though, feel a bit of resistance when it comes to talking to strangers. A bit of anxiety. This is normal, since we've all been taught, in one way or another, that strangers are dangerous or something. But there's no rule saying that after you talk to somebody for a couple minutes that you need to keep talking to them. If they're weird or off, simply move on to somebody else. At the end of the day, the best resources we have is our relationships. The more you can build, the more you'll see in how many ways knowing different people can make life much more enjoyable. Especially when you share your unique gifts, so they feel lucky to know YOU. Click Here To Learn How
  13. Whenever you start off on any kind of project, especially if it's a long project, momentum is important. Take somebody who starts to exercise, after having been a couch potato for many years. The first couple weeks pretty much suck. It's hard to start, and it's hard to keep going. Whether you're riding on a stationary bike, going for a walk or jog outside, or doing some calisthenics, part of your brain is screaming bloody murder. After all, it's pretty insane, on one level, to do something that is painful, without a clear goal in sight. Sure, if you are hiking up a steep mountain, you can see the top is getting closer and closer, so you push yourself to keep going. But if you're just running laps around your neighborhood, part of your brain is wondering what in the world is going on. But if you keep at it, you'll eventually get to a tipping point. Where the immediate benefits outweigh the costs. However, a lot of people give up before that point. We tend to have a hard time seeing benefits unless their right in front of us. Unfortunately, even if you've been diligently exercising for a while, if you stop for a certain length of time, getting started is difficult. A lot of things are like that. They take a lot of effort to get going, and you need to put in a lot of effort to keep going. But some things aren't. Some things may take a while to "set up" or to get the benefit, but once you get it, you've got it. You don't need to do any more work. Sure, you may be a little "rusty," but once you've got it down, you can pick it up again. Like playing a musical instrument, for example. Once you put in the time and effort to learn it, it won't take very long to pick it up again if you haven't played in a while. Another thing that is like this is social skills. Or at least they can be. Unfortunately, many people see social skills as something that requires a lot of momentum. Because most of us have social anxiety of some kind, we think we need to keep "pushing past" our fears and anxieties. And like exercise, if we stop for any length of time, it can take a lot of effort to get started again. Luckily there's another way. It involves changing the way you see things, and verifying that these new paradigms are much more effective than the old ones. And once you set those up, you'll have it for life. Fearless social confidence and interpersonal skills that will take you a long, long way. Click Here To Learn How
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