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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct10Post.mp4 Self deception is one of our most powerful traits. This was very necessary back in the old days. If humans were like Vulcans, who only were based on pure logic, we would have died out a long, long time ago. Imagine a group of ancient "logical" hunters finding some wooly mammoth tracks. They followed them, and found some wooly mammoth poop. Then they'd calculate how far ahead of them the wooly mammoth was based on how dry the poop was. If they were purely logical, they would have had a certain cutoff. Maybe
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct05Post.mp4 Long time ago I was in boy scouts. In the beginning it was kind of boring. Meetings once a week, at night, at a church. But once we started going camping, it was pretty fun. Especially the week long backpacking trips during summer. This was definitely a learning experience for a LOT of different skills. This is the reason for organizations like boy scouts. To serve as a transition between being kids who are dependent on adults. And to eventually (hopefully) be an adult. One thing I remember was pa
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug24Post.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, I went through a rebellious phase. I was very anti-authority of any kind. One of my favorite quotes was from Johnny Rotten, the singer of the Sex Pistols. It wasn't really a quote, more of an opening line before the music started. It was on their cover of "Substitute," originally by The Who. The quote? "You don't need permission for anything..." A similar "truism" is that getting forgiveness is easier than getting permission. If you're a kid, you discover this over a
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug17APost.mp4 Cialdini made a huge impact with his first book about persuasion and influence. He is a psychology professor, but he did his experiments, and came to his conclusions, as a true marketer. There is a long known about phenomenon in psychology that people rarely tell the "truth" when answering surveys. They do tell the truth, but it's a "altered truth." For example, imagine you saw an ad on Craigslist or somewhere. They paid you $50 to come in for a day and taste a bunch of different snack crackers and give your feedbac
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug13APost.mp4 The human mind is incredibly powerful. In many, many more ways that we'll probably ever understand. One way is how our memory works. Sure, for things like taking tests and remember names, our memory kind of sucks. But consider that it wasn't really meant to be a simple input-output device. It was meant to be a motivating device. A learning device. You saw somebody doing something, and you wanted to copy them. So you kept them memory as a guide, as you tried to get the same outcome. Since we're fo
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug04Post.mp4 One of the biggest problems of modern society is most humans are under developed. We were calibrated in a much different environment. A much harsher environment. A, "if you don't kill, you don't eat" environment. Under those ancient, harsh conditions, humans were forced to grow up as quickly as possible. To take responsibility as quickly as possible. Today it's the opposite. Today, we are brainwashed from birth to stay as helpless as possible. To develop as LITTLE self-responsibility as possible.
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun01Post.mp4 Mark Twain famously said that 90% of his worst fears never came true. This is pretty much the human condition. This is why another smart guy said that most humans live lives of quiet desperation. We all want stuff. But we're all afraid to get stuff. And nobody talks about this. So we believe it's only US that feels this way. So we're quiet and desperate. On one hand, you could say this is simply the way it is. To accept that if life is 51% good and 49% bad, that's the best you can do. If good
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr29Post.mp4 We humans have crappy memories. Unless you are a freak or have spent some time learning some memory techniques, you forget somebody's name a few seconds after you hear it. Even in school, when we are told exactly what to remember, we study all night, and get a B. If you are a prosecuting attorney, and all you have is eyewitness testimony, you won't even bother. Study after study has shown how faulty our memories are. Even super goofy studies where they have two guys carrying a big painting down the street show half o
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr22Post.mp4 Once I was looking to buy something. Something that I could only find from some woman a couple of cities over. We talked on the phone, and negotiated a price. I went to her place, cash in hand, but she started to get cold feet. Even though she hadn't used it in years, she was worried that as soon as she got rid of it, she would want it, need it, and not have it. I understood her concerns. She was still the owner, and she was within her rights to change her mind. But for some reason, I decided I wasn't going
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr21Post.mp4 This place where I used to live had an arm wrestling stand set up near the main station. It was just a tallish table, with a couple of slots for people to put their elbows in. It was only up during the summer. Where guys could stop and compete on their way home from drinking in the pubs around the station. On the other hand, they also have professional arm wrestlers. People spend their career getting stronger and stronger for arm wrestling competitions. Most of us, however, only arm wrestle under certain scen
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr18Post.mp4 A very common communication anxiety is what to say. You are going into a job interview, so you practice what to say. You want to walk across the room and talk to somebody interesting, and you wonder what to say. You've got a number, and you want to call, or text, and you wonder what to say. On the other hand, some people can get away with saying pretty much anything. When we focus only on the words, we miss a LOT of what's going on. In fact, words are only the surface level of much deeper communication that is g
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr02Post.mp4 You can find chickens and eggs everywhere. Well, not actual chickens and eggs, but complicated cause-effect relationships. One of our instincts is to see causal relationships where none exist. They believe this was to help us think much more quickly in our much more dangerous past. But today, this mis-firing cause-effect thing in our brain can be pretty funny. It can also create the aforementioned chickens and eggs. We see two things happening at the same time, and we wonder which came first. The honest
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar31Post.mp4 A few years ago, a friend of mine asked me to go with her on this weekend business thing. She said it was something she and her sister were interested. She was pretty vague, and didn't make it seem very important. So, since it was Saturday, I wore my Saturday clothes. A pair of shorts, a t-shirt and some sneakers. Everybody else there was wearing a suit. I felt a little out of place. Until I realized it was some kind of MLM scam. The energy at those kinds of places is pretty unique. Everybody h
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar18Post.mp4 All problems of modern society can be described as "instinct-mismatch." Back in the day, we were ALWAYS hungry. That was good. The HUNGRIER you were, the more motivated you were to get out and kill something. Not only to get out and kill something, but to eat AS MUCH as you could whenever you had a chance. PERFECT for the time before. Really, really horrible for modern society. Most other instincts are like this. Fantastic back in the day, horrible today. Social signals, relationships, social s
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar17Post.mp4 We humans love competition. For fun, for business, and for fun. However, it's very easy to shy away from any kind of competition. For kids, this is pretty normal. You'll find plenty of little league sports that are easing the kids into competition. The first step is to get them running around and moving with other kids. The next step is to get them switching from offense to defense, or at least understanding what they mean. During this phase, they "score" but they don't "keep score." In most sports, th
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar15Post.mp4 It's common to have folks who are successful in one area of life, but suck in others. A common movie character, and fairly common real life character is the guy who is a smooth-playing, lady-killer. The guy whose got tons of notches on his bed, but always behind on his rent. Or the guy who is the killer of the boardroom, master of negotiations, but gets floored and obliterated when his wife says she is leaving him. This is also true in sports. Michael Jordan, arguably one of the best basketball players of all time, a
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar01Post.mp4 There are plenty of ways to impress people. Most people think in "case by case" terms. Like they see somebody, and they want to "impress them." So, most people think in terms of being "situationally impressive." But what happens when you flip this idea around? Of changing this from a transitive verb to an adjective? Wait, what? A trans what to a who? A transitive verb is a verb that requires an object I want to impress that girl. The verb is "impress" the object is "that girl." Or, I'm g
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb28Post.mp4 If you happened to be wandering through the jungle and found an angry gorilla charging at you, what would be the best response? Those who study primates tell us that you break off eye contact, lower your gaze, perhaps look off to the side. And be as passive as you can. If the gorilla is really angry, he'll put his nose a few fractions of an inch away from yours, and give you the gorilla stare of death. (And probably some pretty nasty breath as well...) Needless to say, this is perhaps the most terrifying thing we
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb27Post.mp4 Metaphors are fantastic. But they can also be extremely dangerous. They are useful when talking about common ideas that are pretty complicated. For example, let's say you saw a movie. And your friend asked about it. And you report that it "started strong" but then "kind of fell apart at the end." This a perfectly understandable metaphor. It describes a very common human experience. Of watching a movie (or TV show or book) that grabbed your attention from the beginning. But then as it went on, you
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb26Post.mp4 I love a good horror movie. Most are fairly decent, but once in a while a really brain bending one will come along. Not just for the movie itself, but the idea behind it. Namely, the question of, "who in the F--- would think of something like this?!" One of these is the Korean horror movie "Oldboy." It was remade by Hollywood, but it was nowhere NEAR the original. Part of the plot was a guy was kidnapped and kept in a hotel room. For twenty years. And during his captivity, he learned Kung Fu only by
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb23Post.mp4 One of the interesting paradoxes is whatever you prepare for doesn't happen. But if you don't prepare, it will. Sometimes, this is kind of silly, like if you think it's going to rain. If you DON'T bring an umbrella, it will rain. If you DO bring an umbrella, it won't. This is a common idea in many martial arts movies. The whole reason to train and learn how to fight, is so you don't need to fight. If you walk into a bar while radiating SCARED energy, you'll become a target for those types who like to pick o
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb19Post.mp4 A very common desire for humans is to show up, be told what to do, and get paid. This was possible a few decades ago. This was possible way back in our ancient caveman background. This trait, of being a team player and following orders, is likely a very strong instinct. Modern studies indicate this. But like many other instincts, they were OK before, but they can kill us today. Hunger is an obvious one. The rule of hunger is simple. Find something that tastes good. Eat as much of it as you can.
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb06Post.mp4 One of the reasons sociopaths can be successful is they can mimic whatever people need them to be. We can imagine three kinds of sociopaths. The criminal type, who end up in prison. The high performing types, who have high level jobs like politicians. These types can do pretty much anything, but they are intelligent enough to not do anything against the law. For most non-sociopaths, the law is close to our own morals. We don't kill people because doing so would cause irreversible damage to our psyche and emot
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb05Post.mp4 It's very easy for us silly humans to mix up cause and effect. Or to not notice all the variables that are going on. Take a common example. A guy is talking to a girl, and it's obvious the girl is into the guy. All the guys watching this are wondering WHAT he is saying. The idea is if we can UNDERSTAND what that guy is saying, and somehow emulate that, we can get the same results. This is based on a META assumption about human interactions and communications. We see somebody. We want something from
