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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan17_Post.mp4 One of the earliest "tricks" from NLP is the swish pattern. Unfortunately, like many other NLP ideas, this was treated as a once and done trick. Mainly because of how it was taught and learned in seminars. NLP seminars are like many other guru type seminars. The seminar experience is kind of an "alternate reality." Everybody is excited about all the cool tricks. And how much better their future will be. And when they try the exercise, they kind of "pretend" they work. Especially if the NLP seminar is
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan15_Post.mp4 One a common and very interesting movie scene is about sexual subtext. A couple, guy and a girl, will be talking about a surface level topic. But the subtext is all about sex. The guy knows it. The girl knows it. The audience knows it. This is because we humans don't like to talk about sex blatantly. It's always best kept as "understood." The corollary to this is the "misunderstood" scene. Usually the lady is expressing her thanks to a dude. Or some other non-normal communication. She g
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan12_Post.mp4 There are two sides to any behavior. Inner and outer. Each can lead the other. Each can support self sustaining cycles, both good and bad. And due to your imaginative mind, there are two ways to augment these. First, the part of one leading the other. If you are in a good mood, you'll smile. But if you are in a bad mood, you can FORCE yourself to smile, and you'll actually start to feel good. This, of course, is very short term. It's hard to force outer game (how you behave) to LEAD inner game (h
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec28Post.mp4 Humans have a cause-effect generator in our brains. Or more accurately, we assume there is a cause-effect relationship between things that are not related. This was necessary back in the day, when life was very dangerous. This is very hard to imagine today. We tend to believe logically, or at the very least having logical reasons for doing things. At the same time, if we're honest with ourselves, we'll understand everything is a numbers game. There isn't, unfortunately, any guaranteed way to get ONE specific guy
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 There's an interesting scene from the old movie, "Jaws." That movie has a lot of iconic scenes. This isn't really one of them. But it is kind of interesting. Not likely an original scene, as this particular scene, in different forms, but the same structure, can be found everywhere. Not just the movies. Anyhow, it was early in the movie. A few people had washed up dead. A bunch of people were arguing over what to do. Nobody had any real authority. Everybody was talking over everybody else.
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec25Post.mp4 They say that first impressions are hard to change. This is kind of true. But the part that is generally misunderstood is the "first impression" part. Another corollary to this is we make a first impression in ten seconds. This CAN be true, but it's often not. This idea, of first impressions being made in tens seconds or so REQUIRES we have a lot of data. This is unfortunately WHY many guys have the wrong idea about the ladies. For example, imagine a typical guy, flirting with a lady across the room. T
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec24Post.mp4 I remember once, a long time ago, when the CEO of the company I worked for came to pay us a visit. This guy was widely respected, not only in the company, but in the business world in general. He, and is brain, were largely responsible for the company being as successful as it was. But how he specifically impressed me had nothing to do with his business skills. But at the same, how he impressed me had EVERYTHING to do with this business skills. He was just about to give us, all the workers, blue collar and white coll
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec21Post.mp4 Presuppositions are pretty cool. If you understand how to read them. How to use them. For example, if you are selling anything, you'd have a much better time if the product was popular. But if you said: "This product is very popular," it would only work if it matched what the customer was already thinking. Meaning if you knew it was popular, and you knew they knew it was popular. So you'd be pacing what was already in their mind. This is good. On the other hand, if you weren't sure if they knew
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov29Post.mp4 There is a lot of advice that makes sense. It makes sense because it matches our experience. It makes sense because it's simple to understand. But what's commonly lacking is how, specifically, to do that regularly, automatically, and more importantly UNCONSCIOUSLY. Most of what we do is auto pilot. Unless we have to give an important speech, or we are getting ready to go on a first date, our behavior is autopilot. This is why actors seem like such a mess when they are filmed speaking off the cuff. Even when
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov26Post.mp4 We silly humans have a hard time with cause and effect. Particularly when things are linked. But plenty of things can be mathematically linked, but have zero causality. A famous example is ice cream and sharks. During the summer, people eat more ice cream. During the summer, there are more shark attacks. So, you could create a positive correlation between the two. But, it would be silly that eating ice cream causes shark attacks. Like every time you bite into any kind of ice cream, some poor dude is ge
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct10Post.mp4 Self deception is one of our most powerful traits. This was very necessary back in the old days. If humans were like Vulcans, who only were based on pure logic, we would have died out a long, long time ago. Imagine a group of ancient "logical" hunters finding some wooly mammoth tracks. They followed them, and found some wooly mammoth poop. Then they'd calculate how far ahead of them the wooly mammoth was based on how dry the poop was. If they were purely logical, they would have had a certain cutoff. Maybe
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct05Post.mp4 Long time ago I was in boy scouts. In the beginning it was kind of boring. Meetings once a week, at night, at a church. But once we started going camping, it was pretty fun. Especially the week long backpacking trips during summer. This was definitely a learning experience for a LOT of different skills. This is the reason for organizations like boy scouts. To serve as a transition between being kids who are dependent on adults. And to eventually (hopefully) be an adult. One thing I remember was pa
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug24Post.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, I went through a rebellious phase. I was very anti-authority of any kind. One of my favorite quotes was from Johnny Rotten, the singer of the Sex Pistols. It wasn't really a quote, more of an opening line before the music started. It was on their cover of "Substitute," originally by The Who. The quote? "You don't need permission for anything..." A similar "truism" is that getting forgiveness is easier than getting permission. If you're a kid, you discover this over a
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug17APost.mp4 Cialdini made a huge impact with his first book about persuasion and influence. He is a psychology professor, but he did his experiments, and came to his conclusions, as a true marketer. There is a long known about phenomenon in psychology that people rarely tell the "truth" when answering surveys. They do tell the truth, but it's a "altered truth." For example, imagine you saw an ad on Craigslist or somewhere. They paid you $50 to come in for a day and taste a bunch of different snack crackers and give your feedbac
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug13APost.mp4 The human mind is incredibly powerful. In many, many more ways that we'll probably ever understand. One way is how our memory works. Sure, for things like taking tests and remember names, our memory kind of sucks. But consider that it wasn't really meant to be a simple input-output device. It was meant to be a motivating device. A learning device. You saw somebody doing something, and you wanted to copy them. So you kept them memory as a guide, as you tried to get the same outcome. Since we're fo
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug04Post.mp4 One of the biggest problems of modern society is most humans are under developed. We were calibrated in a much different environment. A much harsher environment. A, "if you don't kill, you don't eat" environment. Under those ancient, harsh conditions, humans were forced to grow up as quickly as possible. To take responsibility as quickly as possible. Today it's the opposite. Today, we are brainwashed from birth to stay as helpless as possible. To develop as LITTLE self-responsibility as possible.
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun01Post.mp4 Mark Twain famously said that 90% of his worst fears never came true. This is pretty much the human condition. This is why another smart guy said that most humans live lives of quiet desperation. We all want stuff. But we're all afraid to get stuff. And nobody talks about this. So we believe it's only US that feels this way. So we're quiet and desperate. On one hand, you could say this is simply the way it is. To accept that if life is 51% good and 49% bad, that's the best you can do. If good
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr29Post.mp4 We humans have crappy memories. Unless you are a freak or have spent some time learning some memory techniques, you forget somebody's name a few seconds after you hear it. Even in school, when we are told exactly what to remember, we study all night, and get a B. If you are a prosecuting attorney, and all you have is eyewitness testimony, you won't even bother. Study after study has shown how faulty our memories are. Even super goofy studies where they have two guys carrying a big painting down the street show half o
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr22Post.mp4 Once I was looking to buy something. Something that I could only find from some woman a couple of cities over. We talked on the phone, and negotiated a price. I went to her place, cash in hand, but she started to get cold feet. Even though she hadn't used it in years, she was worried that as soon as she got rid of it, she would want it, need it, and not have it. I understood her concerns. She was still the owner, and she was within her rights to change her mind. But for some reason, I decided I wasn't going
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr21Post.mp4 This place where I used to live had an arm wrestling stand set up near the main station. It was just a tallish table, with a couple of slots for people to put their elbows in. It was only up during the summer. Where guys could stop and compete on their way home from drinking in the pubs around the station. On the other hand, they also have professional arm wrestlers. People spend their career getting stronger and stronger for arm wrestling competitions. Most of us, however, only arm wrestle under certain scen
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr18Post.mp4 A very common communication anxiety is what to say. You are going into a job interview, so you practice what to say. You want to walk across the room and talk to somebody interesting, and you wonder what to say. You've got a number, and you want to call, or text, and you wonder what to say. On the other hand, some people can get away with saying pretty much anything. When we focus only on the words, we miss a LOT of what's going on. In fact, words are only the surface level of much deeper communication that is g
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr02Post.mp4 You can find chickens and eggs everywhere. Well, not actual chickens and eggs, but complicated cause-effect relationships. One of our instincts is to see causal relationships where none exist. They believe this was to help us think much more quickly in our much more dangerous past. But today, this mis-firing cause-effect thing in our brain can be pretty funny. It can also create the aforementioned chickens and eggs. We see two things happening at the same time, and we wonder which came first. The honest
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar31Post.mp4 A few years ago, a friend of mine asked me to go with her on this weekend business thing. She said it was something she and her sister were interested. She was pretty vague, and didn't make it seem very important. So, since it was Saturday, I wore my Saturday clothes. A pair of shorts, a t-shirt and some sneakers. Everybody else there was wearing a suit. I felt a little out of place. Until I realized it was some kind of MLM scam. The energy at those kinds of places is pretty unique. Everybody h
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar18Post.mp4 All problems of modern society can be described as "instinct-mismatch." Back in the day, we were ALWAYS hungry. That was good. The HUNGRIER you were, the more motivated you were to get out and kill something. Not only to get out and kill something, but to eat AS MUCH as you could whenever you had a chance. PERFECT for the time before. Really, really horrible for modern society. Most other instincts are like this. Fantastic back in the day, horrible today. Social signals, relationships, social s
