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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun23Post.mp4 One problem that pops up in plenty of places lack of communication. Even when this isn't consciously identified, it's the problem. A funny scene from an old movie that illustrates this is from the Blues Brothers. The two brothers showed up at a bar where they'd been hired to play. They were setting up and the bartender gave them each a beer and said it was on the house. So they kept drinking while they played. At the end of the night, they got the bill. Since they were expecting to be paid, (that had been hired, after all) they seemed shocked. The bartender told them only those first two beers were on the house. And since the cost of the beers were more than they were being paid, they OWED the bar money. The Blues Brothers told them they thought ALL of their beers were on the house. Then they pretended to go out to their car to get the money, and hilarity ensued. This is not only a common theme in comedies, but a common disaster in relationships. When you assume something that isn't true. A very disastrous way this comes up is in relationships that are suddenly over. One party has been stewing for a long time. Finally, they decide to end it. The other party is blindsided. "Why didn't you tell me?" the ask. "Why didn't you ask?" they other persons says. One party assumes that if something is wrong, it's other parties responsibility bring it up. This may be logical, but if the other person has a problem with the relationship, and they don't know HOW to bring it up, it doesn't MATTER whose fault it is. When it's over, it's over. Most people THINK they are being proactive, when they are really just being lazy. They say things like, "I've always been there for them." Or "I'm always willing to listen to any problems they may have." This SOUNDS like you are "making an effort." But you're really expecting THEM to bring up the issue. Luckily, there IS a very, very simple way to do a little bit extra, so THEY don't have to push through THEIR comfort zone to tell YOU about a problem they are having. This is a very, very easy technique from a social anxiety, emotional level. And it will make YOU look like a rock star. The BEST PART is you can use this technique with pretty much anybody. You can use it elicit and solve deep and complex problems within old relationships. You can use it to create non stop party feelings in friends. Or you can use it to open up somebody you've just met, and make them feel FANTASTIC. Which means they will never forget you. Or, maybe even never let you out of their sight. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/charming-personality/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun20Post.mp4 Our instincts were calibrated WAY before our brains evolved. Which is good. Really good. Our instincts are essentially automatic compulsions to keep us doing things that are healthy, and avoiding things that are dangerous. One instinct that everybody struggles with is eating. Here's an interesting experiment you can try. Wait until you are really hungry. Like, really, really hungry. And fix yourself (or order) something absolutely DELICIOUS. And while you eat that delicious food, try to do something very brain intensive. NOT watching TV or doing something else passive. Something REALLY difficult like deriving the quadratic equation. Or even doing a complicated long division problem. If you are hungry, and you put food into your mouth, your higher brain functions will SHUT DOWN. You cannot eat AND do long division. At least as efficiently as you can ONLY do long division. This is why your otherwise friendly dog will growl if you put your arms around his neck while he's eating. Our instincts are very OLD. Very powerful. This is why it's very, very difficult, (unless you have a really compelling reason like sex or money) to eat only ONE chip. Or ONE scoop of ice cream. These are true for ALL our instincts. Sex, social validation, and food. Food is easy to see, and easy to manage, if you are so inclined. If you are on a diet, you don't have a cupboard full of chips or a freezer full of ice cream. You don't go to McDonalds and order a salad. The best way to manage your food instinct is to KEEP AWAY from food. This is a food version of the idea of "lead us not into temptation." If you are a wife and your husband works with a bunch of super horny, super promiscuous, super hot, super extroverted secretaries, you'd worry like CRAZY. On the other hand, if you're a wife and your husband worked with a bunch of angry, man hating feminists, you wouldn't worry one bit. But there is one instinct that is equally dangerous, but in a very, very insidious way. This is like the "can't eat one chip" instinct. But it has to do with social interactions. Most guys are terrified of approaching and having a friendly conversation with attractive girls. The common advice is to just grab your nuts, walk over and say, "Hey, baby!" This is utterly HORRIBLE advice. The WORST advice ever. It is kind of HALF right. But it's like planning a bank heist without a getaway plan. Huh? If you ONLY focus on the approach, you are missing a key ingredient. A key ingredient to building MASSIVE social confidence. Not only building massive social confidence, but getting pretty much EVERY GIRL you have a conversation with DESPERATE to see you again. This is very counterintuitive. This is very long game. But this is VERY powerful. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/charming-personality/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May20Post.mp4 If you are a fan of science fiction, you'll eventually run into the idea of a silicon based life form. The reason for silicon is it's kind of related to carbon. Now, why does life on Earth, and according to scientists, life in the rest of the universe made up of carbon? Not just carbon, but carbon, hydrogen and oxygen? Those three atoms have TONS of different ways they can link up together. Carbon has four valence electrons. What does that mean? That carbon can hook up with each one of those valence electrons. Hydrogen has one. Oxygen has six valence electrons. Carbon has four different connectors. Oxygen has six. Hydrogen has one. This means the various combinations are IMMENSE between these three atoms. All the food we eat, where we get our energy from, is stored in these various carbon-hydrogen-oxygen connectors. We eat the food, be it plant or animal, and our bodies break apart those bonds and that's where we get our energy from. On it's most basic level, life is all about connections. The more connections, the more complex, the better. This is true on a very basic, organic chemistry level. This is true on a large, human society level. The more connections you've got, the better. Now consider this experiment. You've got one lonely carbon atom, bouncing around by itself. Will it connect with anybody? Nope. Nobody to connect to. Now fill up that same chamber with BILLIONS of other carbon and oxygen and hydrogen atoms, and what happens? This is how they believe life happened in the first place. A whole bunch of atoms and basic molecules bouncing around. The sheer number of atoms and molecules were so HUGE something was BOUND to happen. What about human connections? If you sit around in your house and wait, they are very unlikely. The only people you'll connect with are Mormons and Jehovah's witnesses. But if you want to make REAL connections, you gotta get out and around people. Not to go through a bunch of cold approaches, or collect numbers. Just get out there and bounce around. That's EXACTLY what they mean when they say, "put yourself out there." This is the cool paradox about human connections. It really is possible to simply "be yourself" and find plenty of connections. All those atoms and molecules that were bouncing around were being themselves. They eventually smashed into each other enough times and created life. Life became more complex. Cut out the long boring middle part, and today there is YOU. Reading this very sentence. Within the same set of rules. The more you "put yourself out there" the more connections will organically happen. What kind of connections? Friends, lovers and everybody in between. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/love-magnet/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr18Post.mp4 A very common communication anxiety is what to say. You are going into a job interview, so you practice what to say. You want to walk across the room and talk to somebody interesting, and you wonder what to say. You've got a number, and you want to call, or text, and you wonder what to say. On the other hand, some people can get away with saying pretty much anything. When we focus only on the words, we miss a LOT of what's going on. In fact, words are only the surface level of much deeper communication that is going on all the time. This is why poker players wear dark glasses and practice not showing ANY kind of facial expressions. It's also why A list actors can be so convincing when the words they are saying a VERY common. It's very possible to get the job, get the girl, get the girl to come to your place with MINIMUM words. How so? A common "truism" in self help areas is that "You'll see it when you believe it." This kind of makes sense, but it's not very helpful. Sure, if you believe you are an attractive person, you'll behave in attractive ways. And that behavior will attract positive attraction from others. But most people completely misunderstand this goofy truism. Even the goofs spouting it. They say, "If you believe it, you'll see it!" But they really only PRETEND to believe it. In reality, this "pretend believing" is more like wishing. If you know anybody who stands in front of the mirror saying a whole bunch of affirmations with strong, but fake, emotions, this is what they are doing. They are pretending very much that they believe what they are saying. Pretend beliefs won't do squat. Because pretend beliefs are the SAME as wishing. If you walk down the street PRETENDING you are attractive, you are really just wishing. This gives off very strange energy. But that statement IS true. It's that the "belief" in the statement, "if believe it, then you'll see it," MUST be genuine belief. Not pretend belief. How do you GET genuine belief? There are two ways. Nearly EVERYBODY has genuine beliefs because of the luck of their situation. Maybe they had good parents. Maybe they got lucky and had a string of positive relationships. Maybe they got lucky and had a few REALLY GOOD teachers in elementary school. Good teachers who filled their heads with positive beliefs. When their brains were still young and programmable. But for the rest of us, what do WE do? Practice, that's what. Turns out that your beliefs, and your frame that carries those beliefs are JUST LIKE muscles. The more you exercise them, the stronger they'll get. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr10Post.mp4 I used to work at this place where we had a Friday food contest. It started with the regular donuts on Friday. Like in many offices, everybody would take turns bringing in donuts. Sometimes people would bring in bagels. But somehow, this ended up in a competition. Everybody tried to outdo the previous weeks' offering. Breakfast sandwiches, various homemade ethnic food. One guy brought in his famous chili. Gotta admit, it was pretty tasty. He couldn't wait to tell us his secret recipe. One of the things about chili fans is that EVERYBODY has their own secret recipe. Plenty of cities have chili cook-offs. Food is kind of cool that way. You start off with five or six basic ingredients, and you can create some FANTASTIC dishes. Plenty of YouTube recipes are like that. They advertise how SIMPLE the food is. The fewer ingredients there are, the easier it is to make. In a funny way, people are the same way. No, not to eat. We aren't talking about a cannibal party! But there are only a few things that drive our behavior. A little of this, a bit of that. We all have very similar desires. We all want more money, more sex, better relationships, a better job, a better place to live. We all have the same fears. Fear of getting left behind, fear of missing out, fear of negative social treatment, fear of messing up hugely and publicly. These fears and desires motivate all our behaviors. But unlike a pot of delicious chili, it's pretty EASY to help others feel better. For example, if you were to add some Tabasco sauce to your chili, you COULD add too much. Or salt, or whatever else. For food, the ratios have to be JUST RIGHT. Like Goldilocks. But for people, the MORE we feel our desires, the BETTER. This makes it very EASY to move people. How, specifically, can you do that? If you are in sales, it can be difficult. Elicit their criteria, expand their criteria, leverage their criteria. This can work, but ONLY if you have what they want. But for general mood boosting, it's much EASIER. Just talk to people like you normally do. Tell stories and anecdotes like you normally do. Whatever stories and experiences ALREADY exist in your head are fine. But when you slightly change the STRUCTURE, magic will happen. When you change the structure so they resonate with their deeper desires, they will feel FANTASTIC. How can you use this? Sales, seduction, persuasion, or just making people feel better when they talk with you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr03Post.mp4 A very common trope in romantic movies is the guy or gal who "gets" the other guy or gal. This is the opposite of another common romantic movie trope. That when two people are getting closer and closer, one of them is TERRIFIED that the other person will find out who they REALLY are. And when this happens, it's over. These are two sides of the same coin. The coin of who we really are on the inside. The fear side is us being TERRIFIED of being "found out" and forever rejected. The best-case-scenario side is them seeing our true selves and not only fully accepting this, but embracing us BECAUSE of this. This is the famous, "you get me" line that all hopeless romantics are looking for. The good news is that EVERYBODY feels this way. Everybody has deep fears of being "found out" and being rejected forever. This fear is built into all humans. Which means it's based on a false premise. But you don't have to do any kind of deep emotional healing to get rid of this. Why? Because there is a very easy, and very powerful way to GET pretty much anybody. And when you learn how to GET pretty much anybody, they will NEVER want to leave you no matter what. Doesn't matter if they are friends, lovers, or even business partners. Since so many people never really "get" anybody, you will stand out. You will be one among millions who GET those close to them. How? It's a pretty easy. First, it begins with understanding how humans think. The structure of our thoughts. The structure of our fears and desires. This may sound pretty complicated. And it IS if you force yourself to see the world through your own, ego-based world view. But turn off your own ego, just long enough, and you'll see that EVERYBODY is very easy to understand. So when you asks simple questions about how they think, how they see the world, how they choose, YOU will stand out. You will be the one they never want to leave. You MUST, however, be careful. If you use these techniques too soon with strangers, they may fall HARD for you. This is very dangerous. Ideally, these are best used when you've already established your relationship boundaries. Friends, business partners, romantic interests, etc. But so long as you are sure, fire away. And they will NEVER want to let you out of their sight. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr01Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real thing. It's very superficial, but it's very real. In many ways, pretty people, both guys and girls CAN have it easier. So long as the content surrounding their halo effect is superficial, they will have a significant advantage. Why is this? When we look at pretty people, we get a very strong, very positive, very ancient instinctive feeling. A very ancient feeling that says, "I want that." Not just "that," but everything associated with "that." This is tied to beauty and youth. This was also calibrated a long, long time ago when life was very, very simple. Halo effect people AND fast food have plenty of similarities. Fast food tastes good in the short term. Halo effect people make us feel good, in the short term. Of course, this comparison itself is very shallow. There are plenty of things you can eat that are both delicious and very healthy. There are plenty of people who are attractive, but also have similarly attractive personalities. This is where the comparisons end. With food, healthy food can ONLY taste so good. You'll never get a healthy meal that satisfies you like your favorite junk food. Staying AWAY from your favorite junk food and eating ONLY healthy food takes constant vigilance. This is why it is MUCH easier to gain weight than it is to lose weight. But for people? It's the opposite. In this regard, pretty people have a disadvantage. Way back in the day, being physically attractive was enough. But today, the world is much more complex. Deep, long lasting and complex emotional feelings are MUCH more important than quick, superficial feelings. If you are one of the genetically blessed, creating those superficial positive feelings is EASY. So easy you can make a career out of it. So long as you NEVER have to talk about anything deep or complicated. This is why pretty people can be more prone to depression. Especially if ALL they have is their looks. They feel, on a subconscious level, that they are only a few steps away from rejection. They always have a sinking suspicion that if they lost their looks, they'd lose everything. That's why being able to CREATE positive feelings in others is a very powerful skill. Not through your looks, but through your communication. Not the superficial communication of memorized patterns or compliments. But deep communication. The questions that make them think. Not just a little bit, but for a long time. Questions that they will ponder for a long time. Questions that will resonate in their mind. They longer they ponder them, the more they'll think about you in fantastic terms. This is something you can engineer with your language. Your interactions. Your focus and your interest. This is the power that exists in your mind. An unlimited potential of never ending attraction building. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar29Post.mp4 There are a lot of ways to leave a positive impression on somebody. Meaning you interact with them, the interaction ends, and you go your separate ways. The more you can leave a positive impression, the more they'll think about you. The more they think about you while they are away from you, the BETTER they'll tend to think about you. If you are a salesperson, and you leave a positive impression on them, as they are shopping around, they'll compare all other salespeople to YOU. The BETTER of an impression you leave, the BETTER you'll look in comparison. And the more likely they'll EAGERLY come back to you. At first, this may seem difficult. After all, it's you against all the other guys, right? But most people, including salespeople, are pretty clueless about leaving a positive impression. Leaving a positive impression PRESUPPOSES they will leave, and then come back. For most salespeople, this is TERRIFYING. But for an enlightened salesperson, this is FANTASTIC. A BEST CASE scenario. Because, as it turns out, leaving a positive impression on people is pretty easy. And, for salespeople, it's much more profitable. The MORE people come to you, and then go shop around, so long as they have a positive impression of YOU in their mind, the more they'll come back. This will not only create a nice, relaxing, enjoyable conversation with every customer who walks into your shop. But it will also create a FLOOD of customers coming BACK because all the other goofs were trying all kinds of short term "game." Even better is if you use this technique socially. Particularly if you are intending to create a romantic relationship. Or MANY romantic relationships. The same structure will happen. First conversation is EASY and relaxed. You are insanely confident BECAUSE you know that the competition doesn't stand a chance. So after they have a nice, relaxing, FIRST conversation with you, they'll talk to the "competition." And all the competition will seem WEAK compared to you. All the competition will seem DESPERATE compared to you. All the competition will seem shallow and hopeless compared to you. Which will cause a secondary FLOOD of people thinking of you. And what happens when people think about you, when they are away from you? They tend to fall in love, that's what. So, the money question. How, specifically, do you CREATE this lasting impressions? First, you STOP trying to impress them with anything that has to do with YOU. You ask them questions that will resonate in their mind. That will make them dig deep to find out the BEST THINGS about themselves. Questions they'll be thinking about for DAYS. Questions that will make YOU look better and better. Especially compared to all the desperate slobbering goofs wandering the Earth. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar28Post.mp4 A long time ago I used to go to this Thai restaurant. They had a pretty good chicken dish, don't forget the specifics. Very spicy. I would always go there in the early afternoon. I liked to read the business paper while enjoying a leisurely lunch. Study all the stock and commodity charts. After the lunch crowd had thinned out. This was back when I was learning about a lot of covert hypnosis and NLP patterns. Now, a lot of "techniques" involve using patterns, etc. on waitresses. This isn't one of those stories. While these waitresses were cute, (they were all young females), I wasn't trying to game them. Only have friendly conversations. Two were married, one was a single mom. But they ALL loved talking to me. Whenever they weren't busy, they would sit at my table and talk to me while I ate. I would ask them questions that nobody had ever asked them before. Questions that would force them to accept positive presuppositions about themselves before answering. But in a very powerful, very subconscious way. It was very friendly, very enjoyable. This is what most people don't "get" about seduction and persuasion. When you tie the idea of seduction and persuasion to your ego, this means you feel you need to TELL people things. Seducers want to run game, use patterns, and MAKE the other person feel a certain way. Salespeople spit endless features and benefits and hopefully MAKE the other person want to buy. But if you turn off your ego, and ask the RIGHT QUESTIONS, the other person will light up. The right questions that induce them to think about their best selves in the answers. The right questions that induce them to think about their best outcomes in the answers. The right questions that induce them to contemplate their ideal futures in the answers. What kind of experience does this give them? In order to answer these questions, they have to look inside themselves. They have to FIND the best parts of themselves. Parts they may NEVER have even considered before. Because they must do this to answer YOUR questions, this gives them a wonderful experience about YOU. That YOU somehow notice things about them that nobody, not even themselves, have noticed before. Even better, you PRESUPPOSED those fantastic things about them. It's one thing to try and give somebody a unique compliment. It's quite another to ask questions that send them searching inside their own minds to find the BEST possible ideas about themselves. Do this, and they'll never forget you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar26Post.mp4 A useful angle when selling anything is something called a "USP." Or, "unique selling proposition." This only needs to be presented as unique. Meaning even all the competition has the SAME feature, if nobody else is leveraging it, this is an option. So long as it SOUNDS unique, the customers will ASSUME that your product is the ONLY one with this feature. This is a copywriting way to leverage the "first to market" idea. You can be first to market with an actual product. Or you can be first to market with something that everybody else has, but nobody has thought to leverage. The underlying idea is EVERYTHING is a competition. If you show up at a party, and you tell a bunch of jokes that EVERYBODY has already heard, you'll be perceived a certain way. If you are the FIRST person to tell those same jokes, you'll be perceived a much DIFFERENT way. This is a tough thing to think about for most humans. Few people openly embrace the idea of competition. Most of us are happy to stay safely in the middle of the pack, and be told what to do. If you WANT an average life, that's fine. But if you want more, you've got to do more. There are PLENTY of ways to do more. Unfortunately (or rather fortunately, as we'll see in a minute) there are TONS of false beliefs that physical appearances are the MOST important thing. Think of it this way. If EVERYBODY has average thinking skill, communication skills, social skills, then EVERYBODY is going to need something else to compare people. That ends up being looks. Halo effect. This is why pretty people have it much easier than us normal looking people. But that's ONLY if everybody's got the SAME basic, non-physical skills. Now for the good part. Building up social skills is VERY EASY. Especially when you do it differently than everybody else. Most people who ATTEMPT to differentiate themselves socially use the same basic strategies. An "outside in" approach. Of TELLING people ideas about themselves. It's much, much easier the other way. Much, much more powerful the other way. Especially when you GO META. Not only are you asking, rather than telling, but you are asking things that NOBODY has ever been asked before. Meta questions about thinking skills. Meta questions about choosing skills. Meta questions about fantasizing skills. These are easier to ask, and much easier for them to answer. These are much more pleasurable for them to answer. These will get their brains spinning about fantasy futures. The BEST PART is without even trying, they'll associate those fantasy futures with you. This will make you VERY unique. In a VERY good way. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar24Post.mp4 According to anthropologists, language and conscious thought is why humans eventually took over the planet. Many other animals can learn, but humans can do so collectively. This means we can discover and idea, and share it with others. Once everybody has this idea, it becomes part of the "collective consciousness." This allowed humans to learn as a group. Even from generation to generation. Even while skipping a bunch of generations. This is one of the things that ended the dark ages, and opened up the enlightenment. They started to "re-discover" the things the Greeks did. This is the power of language. The power of thought. It's how two people who have just met can lose hours over a simple dinner date. Talking and sharing and creating a "mutually shared hallucination." When this happens, it is very rare, and very beautiful. When two people talk, and there is mutual physical and sexual attraction, that's pretty cool. But it CAN be pretty nerve wracking. Both people KNOW there is some kind of attraction. So both people are very nervous. They both want to keep this. Neither wants to ruin this. So they both are very careful to NOT say anything stupid. This is essentially how all "organic" relationships start. It usually takes a while. Something like this is HARD to engineer. It has to happen in it's own time. This is why the best relationships come through mutual social circles. There is a lot of possibilities of these random meetings. Where that organically growing attraction can grow. It's also why a lot of people stay with their high school sweet heart. High school is a great place to meet your life partner. It has ALL the ingredients. Mutual social circles. Plenty of opportunities to "find yourself" in a conversation. Plenty of times when you both like the other, but you aren't sure how the other feels about you. These kinds of feelings are the INTENTION of any kind of conscious game. Where you see somebody, you would very much like to get to know them, but you don't have the necessary organic opportunities. You see them, you WANT to create that mutual attraction, but you don't have much time. The tendency is to use an outside-in approach. To use "artificial" game techniques that are meant to IMPRESS the other person. These do work. But they only work in the short term. Sometimes TOO much. Kind of like starting an exercise program too fast. The desire is there, but you might blow out a tendon. What's the solution? Twofold. One, find out ABOUT them. Not in a superficial way. Not in a "who is your favorite band," way. But find out HOW they think. Find out the structure of their thoughts. This will actually CREATE those deep and long lasting conversations that most people think are very, very rare. Once you can GENERATE those "rare" feelings in anybody, you'll be the one they chase. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar23Post.mp4 Dale Carnegie said the easiest way to become interesting TO others is to be interested IN others. This, of course, is one of those truism that needs some explaining. First of all, we would all LOVE for the "right people" to be interested in us. Gorgeous people, rich people, Hollywood producers, Venture Capitalists, etc. Nobody would like being followed around by a bunch of drunken homeless people because they found you so interesting. Another thing we'll need to figure out is HOW, specifically do we show our interest. For example, suppose you've got your eye on a cutie across the room. Do you walk up and say: "Hi, I think you're very interesting," and wait for the fireworks? That might work as a decent ice breaker, but unless there was already enough pre-existing attraction, that would seem a bit creepy. A "goofy" pick up line is to walk up to a gorgeous girl and say: "I know you're gorgeous. But I'm wondering if you are just as gorgeous on the inside as you are on the outside..." This MIGHT work, but only if she is showing you OBVIOUS signs of attraction. If she hasn't, she'll reply to that above statement with: "Um, who are you?" Does this mean that showing interest doesn't work? Nope. Showing interest works like MAGIC. But only if you put in the right effort. Anybody can express some easy sentiments. Suppose you had a friend who was struggling with their math homework. And you said something EASY like: "Keep at it, you'll figure it out." Sure, this has the right intention. But that statement doesn't COST you anything. It's very EASY to say. So the most likely response you'd get would be: "Uh, yea, thanks...whatever..." On the other hand, suppose you STOPPED what you were doing and actually HELPED THEM. Showed them some of your math tricks and techniques. Made sure they understood it. That would be the same sentiment, but it would be backed by action. Anybody can walk up to an attractive person and say they are interested. Anybody can PRETEND they are interested in the person on the inside just as much as the person on the outside. But few people know HOW to ask the right questions, in the right order, that actually DEMONSTRATE keen interest. Questions about themselves they've NEVER been asked before. Even better, is to ask them questions that don't require THEY do any thinking. No feeling on the spot. No forcing them to share anything they don't want to. This will do THREE powerful things at once. One, it will demonstrate you REALLY ARE interested in the REAL them. Two, is it will be very easy and enjoyable for them. Three is they will find out things about themselves they've never even THOUGHT about before. This means that YOU will stand out in their mind. In a wonderful way that is different from everybody they've ever talked to. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar22Post.mp4 There's a lot of "tricks" in seduction. Perhaps the most famous, is the "instant connection" pattern. This has been copied and regurgitated over and over. It is basically when you are talking to somebody, either a romantic interest, or a potential customer. But somewhere in the pattern, you mention an "instant connection" with somebody. Like you are randomly going off on an "unexpected" tangent. And you say something like: "Have you ever felt an instant connection with somebody?" "Where you just feel this click..." This pattern SOUNDS cool. It's sure fun to IMAGINE THIS WORKING. To be able to walk up to a stranger, utter a few lines and get them to suddenly BECOME INTERESTED in you. Unfortunately, it misses the point. For this short pattern to work, they would have to feel MASSIVE rapport. It relies on them, going inside, and coming up with a memory of "clicking" with somebody. And then bringing back that "feeling" then and there in the moment. Let's take a quick tangent to this idea. When people go to see a therapist, it takes a long time to open up. A few weeks, at least, for the therapist to build enough rapport so the patient trusts them enough to share their deep feelings. This is because we humans don't just open up to any goof. So when a stranger walks up, and starts rambling about any "instant connection," the person hearing this will have a ton of defensive energy. This type of thing, of an instant connection, is the kind of stuff you talk to VERY close friends about. This is a very rare, very beautiful emotional experience. Nobody is going to immediately recall that feeling just because some random dude starts talking about it. If it were possible to DESCRIBE and emotion, and CREATE that emotion that you were describing, then it would be EASY to sell things. All a salesperson would have to say is: "Have you ever felt a strong buying desire?" "Where you just absolutely had to GET THIS?" You could even do an experiment, and try this out. Go buy a bunch of stuff that is legal to re-sell. Then to knocking on random doors. Start with saying this: "Hi, my name is Jack, I'm doing a quick survey. I only want to ask two questions." And then rattle of the quick, "instant buying desire" pattern above. See how many you sell. Turns out the "instant connection" pattern doesn't really create connections. It only TALKS ABOUT THEM. But there is a way to actually CREATE that connection. It takes a bit more brainpower than just rattling off a couple of memorized lines. But by asking the right questions, paying attention to the answers, and asking carefully calibrated follow-up questions, you can CREATE any emotion you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar06Post.mp4 A lot of things are acquired tastes. Like coffee and alcohol, for example. When I was a kid, my parents would make coffee in the morning. I'd never tasted it, so all I knew was the smell. I imagined it would be delicious. But once I took a sip, it kind of ruined it. I had an imagination of what it MIGHT taste like, but that was shattered by the awful taste. But then, I grew up and got the world famous coffee buzz. That's when I associated the taste with the effect. Now, it tastes good. Really good. Many people spend TONS of money on coffee, and have highly refined sense of different beans from different locations. All of this is due to our inherent "cause-effect" generator in our brains. An ancient brain algorithm that helps us to think very quickly. Sometimes this works in our favor, sometimes it doesn't. If you are a little kid, and you touch a hot stove, you'll have a danger "cause effect" hard wired into your little brain. Of course, these can be slowly overridden. If you use that same stove to cook on, you'll develop much more positive associations. Nice smells, good food, a few people helping out in the kitchen, etc. Cause-effect is the same thing animal trainers use. It's also the same thing we leverage when we study. The question is the cause, and the effect that we are hoping to build in is the answer. Of course, it's usually much more complicated than this. But we can train ourselves, we can be trained by our environment, and we can train others. This is happening all the time, so why not leverage it? One way to train others is by how you make them feel. This is definitely a longer game strategy. A "show don't tell" strategy. A "let them think it was their idea" strategy. How, specifically, does it work? You interact with somebody. You communicate with them in a certain way. Because of your unique communication style, they'll feel much better talking to you than most everybody else. Do this a few times, and they'll slowly associate those good feelings with you. Let this become your natural communication style and strategy, and EVERYBODY will soon associate their good feelings with you. This will create a very powerful, very virtuous cycle. Meaning people in general will begin to treat you differently. This will make YOU think differently about others. This will come across in your frame and your non-verbal communication. Shift your communication style, and build a completely new world for yourself. What, specific communication style? This One: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb27Post.mp4 Metaphors are fantastic. But they can also be extremely dangerous. They are useful when talking about common ideas that are pretty complicated. For example, let's say you saw a movie. And your friend asked about it. And you report that it "started strong" but then "kind of fell apart at the end." This a perfectly understandable metaphor. It describes a very common human experience. Of watching a movie (or TV show or book) that grabbed your attention from the beginning. But then as it went on, you lost interest. Maybe the characters started doing crazy stuff, maybe the writing got lazy, who knows. Another very common metaphorical description of this common thing is that they ran out of money. You'll find this in plenty of comments about movies. "I guess they ran out money near the end." This is the utter beauty of metaphors. Even they are not very creative, we still know what they mean. This is what they are for. To DESCRIBE things that we all know and get, but at the same time, would be hard pressed to give an explicit description. When metaphors absolutely SUCK is when they are used as ADVICE. Let's say you see an interesting person across the room. You'd LOVE to stroll over there and say hey. You'd LOVE to show her your "best self." You'd LOVE to hit it off with her, and go somewhere more cozy. At the same time, you've got a TON of worries about what MIGHT happen. She might have a boyfriend. She might look at you with disgust while you're trying to impress her. She might kick you in the nuts and laugh while you lay on the ground squirming in pain. All of these horrific thoughts swirl around in your mind. At the same time all those BEST CASE outcomes swirl around in your mind. The result is ANXIETY. The kind of ANXIETY that freezes the best, most creative part of your brain. So, what do your buddies do? They give you the LAMEST advice ever. Grow some balls, man! Sure, this is a metaphor. They don't really mean to wander on down to the nursery and get some ball seeds, and plant them, and wait around until spring time. Then walk over to her (assuming she's there after all this time) and hand her your freshly grown balls. That wouldn't make any sense! But the INTENTION of that is to just be brave and walk over. The problem is that doesn't help AT ALL. IF you could just "be brave" you wouldn't BE in that predicament. When talking about things, metaphors are helpful. But when strategizing, you need to be AS SPECIFIC as you possibly can. Plan for every outcome possible. Luckily, there is a very easy way to do this. A way to plan for EVERYBODY possible thing that can happen. So no matter HOW the situation unfolds, you'll be ready. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/tongue-fu/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec03Post.mp4 There are some pretty basic, and somewhat common pick up ideas. Meaning you're at some party, and you want to make an impression on a cute girl or guy. There are a few ways to do this. One is to be friendly, outgoing, and charismatic. Another is to have some unique characteristics that few other people have. If you happen to be super gorgeous, this is already done for you. But since most of us aren't gorgeous, we need another angle. A very vague "meta description" is to "demonstrate value." Whether you are thinking about this consciously, or just behaving the way humans normally behave, that's what we all do. Even when there is no sexual or romantic chemistry. If we see anybody we don't know, but want to know. And we want them to think highly of us. Nobody ever says: "Hey, I'm going to go introduce myself to that guy over there!" "If I'm lucky, he'll hate my guts right off the bat and punch me in the face!" We instinctively and naturally want the opposite. We WANT those people to VALUE US. So everything we do is for the purposes of "demonstrating value." The questions is ALWAYS, how, specifically, we do that. Hence all the opening techniques, pick up lines, ways to impress them, etc. All have the intention of demonstrating value. A couple of old and common ones are magic tricks, and things centered around psychic ability. Tarot card reading. Handwriting analysis. Palm reading. Plenty of these are things that seem pretty cool. And they are also things that few people can do. And they are also things that are pretty easy, at least superficially, to fake. But there is another, similar, way to achieve the same results. To demonstrate that you know more about them than they might even know about themselves. This is, after all, what EVERYBODY wants. Deep connections. Feeling somebody not only knows us, but accepts and appreciates us. We all have very deep, and very strong fears about the opposite. Of somebody getting to know the real us, and rejecting us BECAUSE of what they've found. This is why every normal human has a very hard time opening up to people. We are all TERRIFIED of revealing ourselves, and getting rejected. So when you do the work of getting to know them, and not only NOT reject them, but accept and appreciate them, they'll be astonished. They'll see YOU as being different than everybody else. In a good way. In an attractive way. How can you do this? This Will Show You: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec02Post.mp4 Recently I watched a documentary about Jim Jones, the famous cult leader. Most cult leaders have a similar personality, as well as a similar, "career path." It's very much like the very old saying, "power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely." Power is an instinct, like eating. And just like you can't just eat one chip, you will never be satisfied with a certain level of power. However, you can kind of manage your desire for power, just like we can manage our desire for food. We can use our conscious brains to manage our hunger. And some can use their conscious brains to manage their level of power. Politicians that carefully plan their careers, for example. But power becomes a problem when it comes unexpectedly. This is pretty much the same story for all death cults, and Jim Jones in particular. He started out as a preacher, but got really popular, really quickly. And he was always fairly paranoid. But he also have a very keen skill of manipulating people. In a way that would make them very loyal. One way he did that was to give them positions of power within his organization that they could NEVER get outside in the normal world. This would make them much less likely to leave. For example, one young women, in her early twenties, had a financial manager's position within his church. She was responsible for managing millions of dollars. Because she didn't have a degree, and she was a woman, getting a similar job in the real world, back then, would be nearly impossible. This would make her much less likely to leave. From a purely human nature standpoint, understanding all the instincts, and biases, it's fairly easy to reverse engineer all the components that go into the rise and ultimate destruction of any particular death cult. This is an important concept. Guy's like Jim Jones KNOW how to manipulate people. This means that people, in general, CAN be manipulated. Nearly always, this is done in a negative way. Pimps manipulate their ladies in specific ways that work. Salespeople manipulate customers in consistent and repeatable ways. Politicians, con artists, cult leaders, and even famous gurus are the way they are because they KNOW how to talk to people. Maybe it's conscious, maybe it's unconscious, but one of the common ways they use their skills is by noticing things about people that few others do. Like Jim Jones gave that twenty-something a financial job. Everybody has unmet needs and desires. Everybody has things about themselves they are proud, and are ashamed of. Few people will EVER talk about these things. But these are very, very easy to see when you know how to look. And if you use them to make the other person feel fantastic, (and not get them to join a death cult) they will associate that fantastic feeling with you. This is an objective skill, that can be used however you like. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov03Post.mp4 I remember once a long time ago, I was hanging out with a buddy. We were sitting on a park bench somewhere. In between one activity and another. We ended up talking non stop for about an hour. It was one of those conversations that really gets your juices going. Funny thing was that the topic of the conversation wasn't important. Because neither of us remembered it. But we both remembered the underlying feeling. The best my friend could describe it was being "high on life." Normal human conversations tend to flow spontaneously and organically. They say something, which reminds you of something, which reminds them of something. Nothing that requires much conscious participation. So long as there is plenty of energy, the conversation can flow for a while. When we are hanging around new people, this is much less likely. Normal people are more guarded around new people. Must less open. These two metaphors, "open" and "guarded" are PERFECT. We have our inner, true selves. Then we have our outer selves that we present to the world. The more we know the person we are speaking with, the more we feel comfortable expressing our true selves. When we don't know somebody, we are naturally careful about letting them know the true us. When we meet somebody with whom there is mutual attraction, and a sudden feeling of safety with respect to sharing our true selves, this is a FANTASITC feeling. It's also very rare. If you are too open with too many people, you'll get burned. If you are never open with anybody, you'll never click with anybody. One way to think of this is that we all have a kind of internal frequency, and external frequency. When we are with close friends, our internal frequencies are closely matched, and mostly open. This is the deep resonance that happens with close conversations with friends. Sometimes thought, we meet somebody that has ill intentions. Maybe they are just pure evil. Maybe there is something about us that makes them dislike us. Some of these people are pretty open with their distaste for us. These are easy to see, and easy to avoid. But some are very, very clever. They know in order to do maximum harm, they need to harm the inside of us. So they seem friendly. They seem cordial. And they way they deliver their venom almost seems friendly as well. But it leaves a bad taste in our brains. Like a covert, time released insult. When they do this in front of others, it can be devastating. Luckily, you can learn to defend against these types. By understanding the relationship between surface structure language, and deeper intentions. Not only will this make it much harder on those covert vampires, but it will make it much EASIER to stop the good types. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 A long time ago, I had a low level job as a technician. Some big shot was coming to see me. A guy that was way above my pay grade gave me some inside dope. That the big shot coming to see me was thinking about starting another department. And she was maybe think about involving me somehow. Needless to say, I was nervous. The reason for her visit was completely different. So I had to pretend I didn't really know that she was there to also give me the once over. She showed up, we did our thing, she thanked me she left. A couple days later my inside guy called me and said she was impressed. That made me feel pretty good. Being able to impress somebody is a common desire. If you see an attractive person across the room, being able to impress them would feel fantastic. If you have a job interview, being able to impress the hiring guy is a good skill to have. If you wanted to be an actor, you would need to impress the guy doing the choosing. Even if you wanted to cook a meal for your friends, being able to impress them with your skills is a very nice feeling. When Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker fought with light sabers the first time, that's exactly what Vader said: "Impressive." Clearly, being able to impress people would help you in pretty much ANY situation. Sure, you could learn certain skills to impress people. Cooking skills, acting skills, light saber dueling skills. But those are pretty contextual. If you walked up to a stranger and told them you could make the perfect souffle, they might be impressed, they might not be. To impress people in social settings, particularly strangers, would be a VERY nice skill to have. It would increase your social proof. It would increase your authority. It would significantly expand your social network. All things that would make you much more attractive. Luckily, there is a VERY SIMPLE way to do this. When most people think about impressing others, we think about impressing THEM with the ideas in OUR brains. This is the absolute HARDEST way to do that. The easiest way is to impress them with how well we can find interesting ideas in THEIR brain. It turns out that the simplest way to be impressive TO others is to be impressed BY others. Luckily, there is a very simple, step by step, linguistic structure to do EXACTLY that. Learn how, and impressing people EVERYWHERE will be second nature. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  20. A very common ideal is to be outcome independent. This is true in sports, sales, persuasion and seduction. In sports, this can lead to the coveted "flow state." When an athlete or musician is operating a very high state of performance, but at the same time not needing very much of their conscious minds. Everybody experiences this, but usually in unremarkable ways. Whenever you learn a new skill to the point of unconscious competence, this is essentially what happens. You are doing that skill, but since you've learned it "by heart," you don't need much of your conscious mind. If you're playing a song on an instrument, this is when you can just relax and feel the music flow through you. But if you aren't quite at the level of unconscious competence, meaning you still need your conscious mind, this is when you can mess up. You can be sort of in that flow state, feeling the music flowing through you, but then you start to THINK about where to put your fingers. And just that THOUGHT of moving your fingers consciously KILLS the flow state. The more complicated the skill is, the more metaphysical this flow state can be. It's most interesting to psychologists when it's in a competition. It's one thing to practice a piece on the piano over and over until you learn it by heart. Pretty soon you can play it without thinking. But when your mind-body system is operating at a level of unconscious competence WHILE in a competition, this is VERY amazing. Playing the piano over and over is the EXACT same thing. But in a competition, ever move is NEW. You are in the flow state, but you are also responding to an organically evolving system. This is like a META flow state. This is also the most sought after mindset to have when in a conversation with somebody you've never met before. They say something, and you respond. Not only automatically, but unconsciously AND in a way that PERFECTLY gets you closer to your intention. This is where the term, "outcome independent" is kind of misnomer. An athlete is in the flow state, and they are outcome independent. But the CONSCIOUS intention is to win. Especially for professional athletes. So the term, "outcome independent" really means to TURN OVER your outcome to your subconscious programming. The part that has developed the skill to the point of UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE. On the one hand, this does take practice. You can't jump ahead steps. You've got to go through all four. Unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and finally unconscious competence. But the ONE THING that will slow you down if you try to use your conscious brain too much. How can you turn that off? So you can learn much more quickly and effectively? By only using JUST ENOUGH of your conscious mind to guide your practice. Just enough, but no more. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  21. Pop art tends to pace the human condition very well. Especially pop music and popular TV. The song, "Destroyer," from the Kinks, for example, has the following line: "You get a good thing going and you blow yourself out..." The song, "Should I stay or should I go," from The Clash has a similar line: "This indecision's bugging me..." A common trope in movies is the hero starts to fall hard for their romantic interest. But they have a deep fear. That their romantic interest will find out who they REALLY are, and flee. Perhaps you've felt this before? You start doing something pretty good. It could be a relationship, or a job, or even something you're doing just for fun. Pretty soon you start to perform BETTER than you'd hoped or expected. And that deep fear creeps up. That voice inside your head that says: "Dude, you have no business doing this. Pretty soon you'll mess up like you ALWAYS do, and then everybody will know what a LOSER you really are!" Perhaps it's not those exact words. Sometimes it's just a deep, dark suspicion. As soon as we feel that suspicion, and the anxiety that it creates, we're as good as done. The ANXIETY interferes with our thinking. Pretty soon we are operating with MUCH LESS brain capacity that we have available. And just like clockwork, we mess up. And trip over our own feet. This is essentially the most common self destructive STRUCTURE that makes up the human condition. But guess what? You can DISMANTLE this common structure so it doesn't bother you again. It requires you understand why this structure is the way it is. It's SOMEWHAT like our hunger instinct. Way back in the day, it was a massive benefit to ALWAYS be thinking about food. To eat as much as you could whenever you could. Kind of like a family on a road trip. If you see a gas station, you fill up. "Gee honey, we're making good time, I think we can make it to the next gas station, wherever it is!" Uh, yeah... No. But just like hunger can be managed, so can this "self destructive instinct." Even better, is this self destructive instinct is MUCH EASIER to manage than hunger. Because food is, after all, necessary to NOT DIE. All that other junk up in our brain? Not so much. Once you understand the emotional structure of this EXTREMELY COMMON self-destructive worry and anxiety, you can get rid of it. Once and for all. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  22. When native English speakers say they can perceive things that aren't being said, we say "reading between the lines." In Japan, they say, "reading the air." Which are two ways of saying the same thing. Humans have been living in social groups for millions of years. Long BEFORE we became humans. We've only developed spoken language about 200K years ago. Which is only a FRACTION of the time we've been hanging around each other. They say that the words we use are only 7% of our communication. Non-verbal makes up the rest. What, exactly, is non-verbal? How you speak. How quickly or slowly. How confidently or not confidently. How quickly or slowly you move while speaking. Your gestures and posture. Most of this stuff is TRANSMITTED and RECEIEVED unconsciously. Unless you are deliberately using gestures and tonality and facial expressions, which is very unlikely. Something as simple and straightforward as rapport, matching and mirroring body language, is EASY to forget. So what does it mean to, "read the air," or "read between the lines"? It's to be OPEN to all this communication. Which is MOST of this communication. With just a quick sorting for rapport, for example, you can see who is chasing whom. Imagine, for example, that you see a guy and a girl sitting across from one another. Most people would see this and not notice much about their body language. But just a quick focus on their rapport would tell you a lot. For example, imagine if the guy was leaning forward, his arms and legs uncrossed, while gazing directly at the girl. And the girl had her ankles crossed under the table, and her forearm resting in front of her. While gazing off to the side of the guy. From a pure body language, subconscious communication standpoint, the guy is into her WAY more than she is into him. You could pick on this in less than a SECOND if you knew what to look for. The amount of social information "between the lines" is IMMENSE. But few people can see it. Why? It's VERY HARD to pick up on all this stuff if you are inwardly worried. If you have a bunch of nervous chatter running around your brain. But if you were to ONLY turn off this nervous chatter, the amount of social information would EXPLODE. You don't need to learn how to do this. You only need to TURN OFF all that nervous energy that is wasting all your valuable brain resources. Luckily, that's pretty easy. It requires doing a few simple exercises to PREPARE for those social situations. So you can read the MASSIVE amounts of social information that is EVERYWHERE. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  23. I had a friend a while back who went through a divorce. It completely blindsided him. He was really messed up, and went in for some counseling. One thing she told him was to be careful while driving. Turns out lots of people have accidents after a traumatic event. It messes up your thinking. A lot of negative emotions swirling around. The thing about emotions is we only feel some of them. They're kind of like an iceberg. For most of us, we only feel the small portion that is poking through the ocean surface. This isn't bad or wrong, this makes perfect sense. It is a very strong survival instinct. If you dwell on negative emotions, they'll mess you up. Which means if you're driving, you won't pay as much attention as you should, and you might crash. But for ancient humans, dwelling on negative emotions would make you a terrible hunter. Imagine a guy up to bat, bottom the ninth, last game of the world series. Only right before he stepped up to the plate, his girlfriend called him and yelled at him for not putting the toilet seat down. Dude probably wouldn't do so well. Even in Rocky III (or maybe II or IV...) Rocky didn't want to train because Adrian was in a coma. But when she woke up, it all changed. Especially when she told him to win. Then it was on like Donkey Kong. This is how emotions can impact performance. Good emotions caused by people we care about will make is conquer the world. Bad emotions caused by people we care about will make us crash our cars. For ancient humans, this was a matter of life and death. So we evolved an instinct to keep bad emotions buried deep beneath the surface. Ignoring them helped us survive. Only now, that instinct doesn't work so much any more. Which means if we want to be REALLY successful, we'll need to manage them. Just like we need to manage our eating and activity if we want to be healthy. Luckily, managing your emotions is WAY easier than managing your hunger. In a way, it's kind of opposite. When you're full, it's EASY to imagine going on a diet. But the longer your diet lasts, the harder it gets. But emotions are the opposite. Just IMAGINING them causes deep anxiety and fear. But they are actually not so bad. Kind of like Rocky was taunting Mr. T. "You ain't so bad! You ain't so bad! You ain't nothing!" Once you can handle and manage your emotions, you'll open up a LOT more processing power in your brain. For all KINDS of intelligence. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  24. Humans are driven by instincts. And we have been for a long, long time. Long before we developed self-awareness and language. What instincts? Things that keep us safe, and happy. Things that keep us out of danger. You don't need to learn to be afraid of snakes. Experiments on babies show that in the first few days, we are naturally drawn toward sweet smells and tastes. And we naturally turn away from pungent smells like garlic. Unless the baby's mother is a garlic eater, then the baby comes out naturally attracted to garlic. Because we are highly social creatures, we have a lot of social instincts. We don't like being alone. Solitary confinement is one of the worst ways to punish us. One of the most motivating instincts is social proof. This plays out in many, many ways. Advertisers have known this for decades. We tend to gravitate towards things that are popular. Authority is another powerful motivator. Because of both of these instincts, social proof and authority, we tend to organize into hierarchies. Study after study shows this. It's not like in the movies, where they have a big, drawn out fight over who gets to be the alpha. It happens quickly and subconsciously. This is how all our instincts drive us. Quickly and subconsciously. When you pass by a bakery, you don't need your conscious mind to decide to feel like eating something. Your ancient brain smells the bread, and makes you hungry. This is why losing weight by willpower is very, very difficult. Any time you try and OVERRULE your subconscious instincts with your rational, self-aware mind, you will have a difficult time. One of the curious things about us humans is we make all decisions with our emotions. Emotions driven by these very powerful and very ancient instincts. That's not the curious part. The curious part is we need, or rather our ego needs, to come up with a rational sounding, logically believable reason WHY we did what we just did. We don't like to say things like, "I bought this because everybody else was buying it." That sounds silly! We need to have rational, logical reasons. But these rational, logical reasons are only to make our egos feel better. They aren't the real reasons. Problems pop up with we BELIEVE these logical reasons are the real reasons. And we use them to try and understand ourselves. And to understand others. This CAN make life very, very confusing and frustrating. How to make it easy? How to make it simple? Understand the emotional reasons for our decisions. And their decisions. This will give you x-ray vision into not only your own thinking, but everybody else's. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
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