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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec03Post.mp4 There are some pretty basic, and somewhat common pick up ideas. Meaning you're at some party, and you want to make an impression on a cute girl or guy. There are a few ways to do this. One is to be friendly, outgoing, and charismatic. Another is to have some unique characteristics that few other people have. If you happen to be super gorgeous, this is already done for you. But since most of us aren't gorgeous, we need another angle. A very vague "meta description" is to "demonstrate value." Whether you are thinking about this consciously, or just behaving the way humans normally behave, that's what we all do. Even when there is no sexual or romantic chemistry. If we see anybody we don't know, but want to know. And we want them to think highly of us. Nobody ever says: "Hey, I'm going to go introduce myself to that guy over there!" "If I'm lucky, he'll hate my guts right off the bat and punch me in the face!" We instinctively and naturally want the opposite. We WANT those people to VALUE US. So everything we do is for the purposes of "demonstrating value." The questions is ALWAYS, how, specifically, we do that. Hence all the opening techniques, pick up lines, ways to impress them, etc. All have the intention of demonstrating value. A couple of old and common ones are magic tricks, and things centered around psychic ability. Tarot card reading. Handwriting analysis. Palm reading. Plenty of these are things that seem pretty cool. And they are also things that few people can do. And they are also things that are pretty easy, at least superficially, to fake. But there is another, similar, way to achieve the same results. To demonstrate that you know more about them than they might even know about themselves. This is, after all, what EVERYBODY wants. Deep connections. Feeling somebody not only knows us, but accepts and appreciates us. We all have very deep, and very strong fears about the opposite. Of somebody getting to know the real us, and rejecting us BECAUSE of what they've found. This is why every normal human has a very hard time opening up to people. We are all TERRIFIED of revealing ourselves, and getting rejected. So when you do the work of getting to know them, and not only NOT reject them, but accept and appreciate them, they'll be astonished. They'll see YOU as being different than everybody else. In a good way. In an attractive way. How can you do this? This Will Show You: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec02Post.mp4 Recently I watched a documentary about Jim Jones, the famous cult leader. Most cult leaders have a similar personality, as well as a similar, "career path." It's very much like the very old saying, "power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely." Power is an instinct, like eating. And just like you can't just eat one chip, you will never be satisfied with a certain level of power. However, you can kind of manage your desire for power, just like we can manage our desire for food. We can use our conscious brains to manage our hunger. And some can use their conscious brains to manage their level of power. Politicians that carefully plan their careers, for example. But power becomes a problem when it comes unexpectedly. This is pretty much the same story for all death cults, and Jim Jones in particular. He started out as a preacher, but got really popular, really quickly. And he was always fairly paranoid. But he also have a very keen skill of manipulating people. In a way that would make them very loyal. One way he did that was to give them positions of power within his organization that they could NEVER get outside in the normal world. This would make them much less likely to leave. For example, one young women, in her early twenties, had a financial manager's position within his church. She was responsible for managing millions of dollars. Because she didn't have a degree, and she was a woman, getting a similar job in the real world, back then, would be nearly impossible. This would make her much less likely to leave. From a purely human nature standpoint, understanding all the instincts, and biases, it's fairly easy to reverse engineer all the components that go into the rise and ultimate destruction of any particular death cult. This is an important concept. Guy's like Jim Jones KNOW how to manipulate people. This means that people, in general, CAN be manipulated. Nearly always, this is done in a negative way. Pimps manipulate their ladies in specific ways that work. Salespeople manipulate customers in consistent and repeatable ways. Politicians, con artists, cult leaders, and even famous gurus are the way they are because they KNOW how to talk to people. Maybe it's conscious, maybe it's unconscious, but one of the common ways they use their skills is by noticing things about people that few others do. Like Jim Jones gave that twenty-something a financial job. Everybody has unmet needs and desires. Everybody has things about themselves they are proud, and are ashamed of. Few people will EVER talk about these things. But these are very, very easy to see when you know how to look. And if you use them to make the other person feel fantastic, (and not get them to join a death cult) they will associate that fantastic feeling with you. This is an objective skill, that can be used however you like. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov03Post.mp4 I remember once a long time ago, I was hanging out with a buddy. We were sitting on a park bench somewhere. In between one activity and another. We ended up talking non stop for about an hour. It was one of those conversations that really gets your juices going. Funny thing was that the topic of the conversation wasn't important. Because neither of us remembered it. But we both remembered the underlying feeling. The best my friend could describe it was being "high on life." Normal human conversations tend to flow spontaneously and organically. They say something, which reminds you of something, which reminds them of something. Nothing that requires much conscious participation. So long as there is plenty of energy, the conversation can flow for a while. When we are hanging around new people, this is much less likely. Normal people are more guarded around new people. Must less open. These two metaphors, "open" and "guarded" are PERFECT. We have our inner, true selves. Then we have our outer selves that we present to the world. The more we know the person we are speaking with, the more we feel comfortable expressing our true selves. When we don't know somebody, we are naturally careful about letting them know the true us. When we meet somebody with whom there is mutual attraction, and a sudden feeling of safety with respect to sharing our true selves, this is a FANTASITC feeling. It's also very rare. If you are too open with too many people, you'll get burned. If you are never open with anybody, you'll never click with anybody. One way to think of this is that we all have a kind of internal frequency, and external frequency. When we are with close friends, our internal frequencies are closely matched, and mostly open. This is the deep resonance that happens with close conversations with friends. Sometimes thought, we meet somebody that has ill intentions. Maybe they are just pure evil. Maybe there is something about us that makes them dislike us. Some of these people are pretty open with their distaste for us. These are easy to see, and easy to avoid. But some are very, very clever. They know in order to do maximum harm, they need to harm the inside of us. So they seem friendly. They seem cordial. And they way they deliver their venom almost seems friendly as well. But it leaves a bad taste in our brains. Like a covert, time released insult. When they do this in front of others, it can be devastating. Luckily, you can learn to defend against these types. By understanding the relationship between surface structure language, and deeper intentions. Not only will this make it much harder on those covert vampires, but it will make it much EASIER to stop the good types. Learn How: https://www.udemy.com/course/verbal-assassin/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 A long time ago, I had a low level job as a technician. Some big shot was coming to see me. A guy that was way above my pay grade gave me some inside dope. That the big shot coming to see me was thinking about starting another department. And she was maybe think about involving me somehow. Needless to say, I was nervous. The reason for her visit was completely different. So I had to pretend I didn't really know that she was there to also give me the once over. She showed up, we did our thing, she thanked me she left. A couple days later my inside guy called me and said she was impressed. That made me feel pretty good. Being able to impress somebody is a common desire. If you see an attractive person across the room, being able to impress them would feel fantastic. If you have a job interview, being able to impress the hiring guy is a good skill to have. If you wanted to be an actor, you would need to impress the guy doing the choosing. Even if you wanted to cook a meal for your friends, being able to impress them with your skills is a very nice feeling. When Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker fought with light sabers the first time, that's exactly what Vader said: "Impressive." Clearly, being able to impress people would help you in pretty much ANY situation. Sure, you could learn certain skills to impress people. Cooking skills, acting skills, light saber dueling skills. But those are pretty contextual. If you walked up to a stranger and told them you could make the perfect souffle, they might be impressed, they might not be. To impress people in social settings, particularly strangers, would be a VERY nice skill to have. It would increase your social proof. It would increase your authority. It would significantly expand your social network. All things that would make you much more attractive. Luckily, there is a VERY SIMPLE way to do this. When most people think about impressing others, we think about impressing THEM with the ideas in OUR brains. This is the absolute HARDEST way to do that. The easiest way is to impress them with how well we can find interesting ideas in THEIR brain. It turns out that the simplest way to be impressive TO others is to be impressed BY others. Luckily, there is a very simple, step by step, linguistic structure to do EXACTLY that. Learn how, and impressing people EVERYWHERE will be second nature. Get Started: https://www.udemy.com/course/get-anybody/
  5. A very common ideal is to be outcome independent. This is true in sports, sales, persuasion and seduction. In sports, this can lead to the coveted "flow state." When an athlete or musician is operating a very high state of performance, but at the same time not needing very much of their conscious minds. Everybody experiences this, but usually in unremarkable ways. Whenever you learn a new skill to the point of unconscious competence, this is essentially what happens. You are doing that skill, but since you've learned it "by heart," you don't need much of your conscious mind. If you're playing a song on an instrument, this is when you can just relax and feel the music flow through you. But if you aren't quite at the level of unconscious competence, meaning you still need your conscious mind, this is when you can mess up. You can be sort of in that flow state, feeling the music flowing through you, but then you start to THINK about where to put your fingers. And just that THOUGHT of moving your fingers consciously KILLS the flow state. The more complicated the skill is, the more metaphysical this flow state can be. It's most interesting to psychologists when it's in a competition. It's one thing to practice a piece on the piano over and over until you learn it by heart. Pretty soon you can play it without thinking. But when your mind-body system is operating at a level of unconscious competence WHILE in a competition, this is VERY amazing. Playing the piano over and over is the EXACT same thing. But in a competition, ever move is NEW. You are in the flow state, but you are also responding to an organically evolving system. This is like a META flow state. This is also the most sought after mindset to have when in a conversation with somebody you've never met before. They say something, and you respond. Not only automatically, but unconsciously AND in a way that PERFECTLY gets you closer to your intention. This is where the term, "outcome independent" is kind of misnomer. An athlete is in the flow state, and they are outcome independent. But the CONSCIOUS intention is to win. Especially for professional athletes. So the term, "outcome independent" really means to TURN OVER your outcome to your subconscious programming. The part that has developed the skill to the point of UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE. On the one hand, this does take practice. You can't jump ahead steps. You've got to go through all four. Unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and finally unconscious competence. But the ONE THING that will slow you down if you try to use your conscious brain too much. How can you turn that off? So you can learn much more quickly and effectively? By only using JUST ENOUGH of your conscious mind to guide your practice. Just enough, but no more. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  6. Pop art tends to pace the human condition very well. Especially pop music and popular TV. The song, "Destroyer," from the Kinks, for example, has the following line: "You get a good thing going and you blow yourself out..." The song, "Should I stay or should I go," from The Clash has a similar line: "This indecision's bugging me..." A common trope in movies is the hero starts to fall hard for their romantic interest. But they have a deep fear. That their romantic interest will find out who they REALLY are, and flee. Perhaps you've felt this before? You start doing something pretty good. It could be a relationship, or a job, or even something you're doing just for fun. Pretty soon you start to perform BETTER than you'd hoped or expected. And that deep fear creeps up. That voice inside your head that says: "Dude, you have no business doing this. Pretty soon you'll mess up like you ALWAYS do, and then everybody will know what a LOSER you really are!" Perhaps it's not those exact words. Sometimes it's just a deep, dark suspicion. As soon as we feel that suspicion, and the anxiety that it creates, we're as good as done. The ANXIETY interferes with our thinking. Pretty soon we are operating with MUCH LESS brain capacity that we have available. And just like clockwork, we mess up. And trip over our own feet. This is essentially the most common self destructive STRUCTURE that makes up the human condition. But guess what? You can DISMANTLE this common structure so it doesn't bother you again. It requires you understand why this structure is the way it is. It's SOMEWHAT like our hunger instinct. Way back in the day, it was a massive benefit to ALWAYS be thinking about food. To eat as much as you could whenever you could. Kind of like a family on a road trip. If you see a gas station, you fill up. "Gee honey, we're making good time, I think we can make it to the next gas station, wherever it is!" Uh, yeah... No. But just like hunger can be managed, so can this "self destructive instinct." Even better, is this self destructive instinct is MUCH EASIER to manage than hunger. Because food is, after all, necessary to NOT DIE. All that other junk up in our brain? Not so much. Once you understand the emotional structure of this EXTREMELY COMMON self-destructive worry and anxiety, you can get rid of it. Once and for all. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  7. When native English speakers say they can perceive things that aren't being said, we say "reading between the lines." In Japan, they say, "reading the air." Which are two ways of saying the same thing. Humans have been living in social groups for millions of years. Long BEFORE we became humans. We've only developed spoken language about 200K years ago. Which is only a FRACTION of the time we've been hanging around each other. They say that the words we use are only 7% of our communication. Non-verbal makes up the rest. What, exactly, is non-verbal? How you speak. How quickly or slowly. How confidently or not confidently. How quickly or slowly you move while speaking. Your gestures and posture. Most of this stuff is TRANSMITTED and RECEIEVED unconsciously. Unless you are deliberately using gestures and tonality and facial expressions, which is very unlikely. Something as simple and straightforward as rapport, matching and mirroring body language, is EASY to forget. So what does it mean to, "read the air," or "read between the lines"? It's to be OPEN to all this communication. Which is MOST of this communication. With just a quick sorting for rapport, for example, you can see who is chasing whom. Imagine, for example, that you see a guy and a girl sitting across from one another. Most people would see this and not notice much about their body language. But just a quick focus on their rapport would tell you a lot. For example, imagine if the guy was leaning forward, his arms and legs uncrossed, while gazing directly at the girl. And the girl had her ankles crossed under the table, and her forearm resting in front of her. While gazing off to the side of the guy. From a pure body language, subconscious communication standpoint, the guy is into her WAY more than she is into him. You could pick on this in less than a SECOND if you knew what to look for. The amount of social information "between the lines" is IMMENSE. But few people can see it. Why? It's VERY HARD to pick up on all this stuff if you are inwardly worried. If you have a bunch of nervous chatter running around your brain. But if you were to ONLY turn off this nervous chatter, the amount of social information would EXPLODE. You don't need to learn how to do this. You only need to TURN OFF all that nervous energy that is wasting all your valuable brain resources. Luckily, that's pretty easy. It requires doing a few simple exercises to PREPARE for those social situations. So you can read the MASSIVE amounts of social information that is EVERYWHERE. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  8. I had a friend a while back who went through a divorce. It completely blindsided him. He was really messed up, and went in for some counseling. One thing she told him was to be careful while driving. Turns out lots of people have accidents after a traumatic event. It messes up your thinking. A lot of negative emotions swirling around. The thing about emotions is we only feel some of them. They're kind of like an iceberg. For most of us, we only feel the small portion that is poking through the ocean surface. This isn't bad or wrong, this makes perfect sense. It is a very strong survival instinct. If you dwell on negative emotions, they'll mess you up. Which means if you're driving, you won't pay as much attention as you should, and you might crash. But for ancient humans, dwelling on negative emotions would make you a terrible hunter. Imagine a guy up to bat, bottom the ninth, last game of the world series. Only right before he stepped up to the plate, his girlfriend called him and yelled at him for not putting the toilet seat down. Dude probably wouldn't do so well. Even in Rocky III (or maybe II or IV...) Rocky didn't want to train because Adrian was in a coma. But when she woke up, it all changed. Especially when she told him to win. Then it was on like Donkey Kong. This is how emotions can impact performance. Good emotions caused by people we care about will make is conquer the world. Bad emotions caused by people we care about will make us crash our cars. For ancient humans, this was a matter of life and death. So we evolved an instinct to keep bad emotions buried deep beneath the surface. Ignoring them helped us survive. Only now, that instinct doesn't work so much any more. Which means if we want to be REALLY successful, we'll need to manage them. Just like we need to manage our eating and activity if we want to be healthy. Luckily, managing your emotions is WAY easier than managing your hunger. In a way, it's kind of opposite. When you're full, it's EASY to imagine going on a diet. But the longer your diet lasts, the harder it gets. But emotions are the opposite. Just IMAGINING them causes deep anxiety and fear. But they are actually not so bad. Kind of like Rocky was taunting Mr. T. "You ain't so bad! You ain't so bad! You ain't nothing!" Once you can handle and manage your emotions, you'll open up a LOT more processing power in your brain. For all KINDS of intelligence. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  9. Humans are driven by instincts. And we have been for a long, long time. Long before we developed self-awareness and language. What instincts? Things that keep us safe, and happy. Things that keep us out of danger. You don't need to learn to be afraid of snakes. Experiments on babies show that in the first few days, we are naturally drawn toward sweet smells and tastes. And we naturally turn away from pungent smells like garlic. Unless the baby's mother is a garlic eater, then the baby comes out naturally attracted to garlic. Because we are highly social creatures, we have a lot of social instincts. We don't like being alone. Solitary confinement is one of the worst ways to punish us. One of the most motivating instincts is social proof. This plays out in many, many ways. Advertisers have known this for decades. We tend to gravitate towards things that are popular. Authority is another powerful motivator. Because of both of these instincts, social proof and authority, we tend to organize into hierarchies. Study after study shows this. It's not like in the movies, where they have a big, drawn out fight over who gets to be the alpha. It happens quickly and subconsciously. This is how all our instincts drive us. Quickly and subconsciously. When you pass by a bakery, you don't need your conscious mind to decide to feel like eating something. Your ancient brain smells the bread, and makes you hungry. This is why losing weight by willpower is very, very difficult. Any time you try and OVERRULE your subconscious instincts with your rational, self-aware mind, you will have a difficult time. One of the curious things about us humans is we make all decisions with our emotions. Emotions driven by these very powerful and very ancient instincts. That's not the curious part. The curious part is we need, or rather our ego needs, to come up with a rational sounding, logically believable reason WHY we did what we just did. We don't like to say things like, "I bought this because everybody else was buying it." That sounds silly! We need to have rational, logical reasons. But these rational, logical reasons are only to make our egos feel better. They aren't the real reasons. Problems pop up with we BELIEVE these logical reasons are the real reasons. And we use them to try and understand ourselves. And to understand others. This CAN make life very, very confusing and frustrating. How to make it easy? How to make it simple? Understand the emotional reasons for our decisions. And their decisions. This will give you x-ray vision into not only your own thinking, but everybody else's. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  10. Time Traveler Future Insights https://mindpersuasion.com/future-human-communication/
  11. If you watch a lot of TV, you'll find a lot of common characters. Once, a long, long time ago, a friend of mine and I made a discovery. We found that every comedy show has at least one guy that is kind of an idiot. The comic relief character. Little did we know that all fiction is made up of very common archetypes. For example, it's widely recognized that The Seven Samurai had a large influence on the first few Star Wars movies. If you watch both, you'll see that EACH of the Seven Samurai has a very close archetypical match to each Star Wars character. For example, there was the one Samurai who only wanted to make money. He was a very common, "outlaw-hero" archetype. Just like Han Solo. He began as a smuggler, and then was swayed by the "cause" to fight alongside the rebels. All fictional stories have these archetypes because that is what we humans are drawn to. We see ourselves in each one of these, at different times. Sometimes we are the outlaw hero. Sometimes we are the young hero. Sometimes we are the old wise hero who trains the young and inexperienced hero. But sometimes, it's appropriate to be the comic relief. Especially at parties and social situations. After all, we don't go out on weekends to destroy the villain. We want to knock back a few and have some fun. Many people want to be funnier. To make people laugh more. Luckily, this is a skill that you can learn. A very POWERFUL skill. It requires understanding the structure of language. Because the structure of language is the structure of thought. And if you understand that, you can REALLY have some fun. Even if people are complaining about things, which people are prone to do. You can drop in a couple of brain bombs and get things going. Get people smiling. Get people laughing. Because even the most serious movies NEED some comic relief. And if you learn this from a structural level, you'll be able to morph into any archetype you want. And BE any hero you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  12. If you watch a lot of movies, you'll start to see patterns. Long ago, when the first Harry Potter movies started coming out, a buddy of mine was perplexed. He didn't read the books, and wanted to know what all the fuss was about. So he went to see the first movie. After he saw it, he was still a bit perplexed. "Dude, it's just like Star Wars. I don't get it," he said. And he was correct. An orphan finds out he's special. This special orphan has to go on a mission. To find and kill some bad guy. Harry and Voldemort, Luke and Vader. Luke had a light saber and was a Jedi. Harry had a magic wand, and was a wizard. In fiction, they say there are only seven basic stories. If you study music, you'll find the same chord progressions in pretty much every song. Funny thing about humans is most of us tend to pay attention to the CONTENT, but not the STRUCTURE. The STRUCTURE of every hero's journey movie is essentially the same. An orphan finds out he's special. He meets a bunch of friends, and has to fight against a bad guy. When Joseph Campbell wrote the book about this structure, after studying mythology from around the world, gave it an appropriate title: "The Hero With 1000 Faces." Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Neo, Peter Parker, Dorothy, and on and on. This is a very, very cool thing. Because once you understand the STRUCTURE of something, coming with different content is VERY easy. What else has a similar structure? Humor. Nearly all humor is based on ambiguity. A quick story, and then the "punch line." The punch line nearly ALWAYS leverages some kind of ambiguity. Some jokes are set up so we assume the ambiguity goes one way, but it goes the other. The famous Groucho Marx joke: "Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know!" Even elementary school yard riddles are based on ambiguity. Why is six afraid of seven? Seven ate nine! What did the ocean say when the tide came in? Long time no sea! Why did the boy study on an airplane? He was in high school! Once you understand the structure of humor, telling jokes is easy. Making up jokes is easy. Because built into our language is a TON of ambiguity. Once you start playing with other people's ambiguity, you can have a lot of fun. Wanna know what ELSE is based a lot of vague ambiguity? Hypnosis. And when you combine the structure of hypnosis with humor, a wizard you will become. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  13. Everybody loves to laugh. Nobody really knows why. But we can imagine a kind of split test. Like advertisers and marketers do. Send two different ads to two different zip codes. Then see which one works best. Keep the good one, ditch the old one. If you keep doing this, you'll eventually have a very highly converting ad. This works just as well on sales pages. Human evolution can be thought of as a very long, organically evolving split test. Every generation has people made from the previous generation. Of course, there are a few mistakes. The mistakes that are better, in terms of replication, are kept. The mistakes that are worse, are not. So, once upon a time, we can imagine two tribes of people. One tribe that had a sense of humor. And another tribe that was always serious. Since WE all have a since of humor, it's clear the funny people won out over the serious people. This likely happened way before we became humans. Since lower primates also have this playful instinct. Perhaps laughing serves as a kind anxiety relief. Like a pressure valve. One thing we humans also tend to do is commiserate. Next time you're around a group of friends, sit back and listen. You'll find they inevitably start to complain about something. A person in particular. Society in general. This is an attempt to share a painful burden. This is easy. Making light of shared burden is not so easy. And since most humans tend to take the easy route, we tend to complain rather than use our humor instinct. Leveraging your humor instinct takes a bit of thinking. A special kind of "humor intelligence." But if you do it correctly, you'll be very appreciated. Anybody can complain. Few people can spin complaints around into funny stories. This is why comedians make so much money. People LOVE listening to them. And most comedians take random things that happen to random people. But they make them very interesting, and very funny. All the way back in history they had court jesters. Everybody KNOWS the necessity to make fun of the king. Most people expect to pay a lot of money to listen to a guy tell jokes. So if you show up and start SPEAKING with a special kind of "humor language" people will think you're some kind of wizard. And you'll be welcome everywhere, and always in demand. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  14. If you're going to sell something to somebody, there are basically two ways. The thing about sales is it's all about numbers. No matter what kind of technique you're using, you'll never sell all people. You won't even sell most people. The name of the game is to always IMPROVE your percentages. You can improve how well you qualify. So you don't even start your "pitch" until you KNOW you have a high probability candidate. Somebody who WANTS the kind of thing you are selling. And who wants it NOW. These types of sales jobs are hard to find. Why? Because this requires a lot of TRAINING. And guess what? Most companies that hire sales people also know it's about numbers. See, they know that some people are natural sellers, and others aren't. Which means if they keep hiring people, and teach them the bare minimum, eventually they'll get a few that are pretty good salespeople. This type of sales is like human automation. Human automation in hiring. Human automation in selling. Technique is not that important to this model. Numbers is king. This is the HARD way to sell. What's the easy way? Sitting down with or speaking to a warm client. Finding out ALL their criteria. Expanding their criteria. Getting them to think about what they want. To build up a HUGE ball of desire in their brain. They more they talk, the BIGGER their desire gets. The bigger their desire gets, the more likely they are to buy. This is the absolute EASIEST way to sell something to somebody. But you can also use this technique socially. When you're selling, it's obvious to everybody it's a persuasive conversation. But if you were speaking to somebody socially, there isn't supposed to be ANY reason for the conversation. Other than just to get to know each other hopefully enjoy each other's company. The META intention is to find a few people whose company you REALLY enjoy. This is SUPPOSED to happen naturally and organically. And it can. From THEIR perspective. But from YOUR perspective, you'll have a few secret weapons up your sleeve. (or in your brain) And that is a thorough understanding of what ALL people want. If you guide the conversation here, and use the same strategy you'd use in a sales situation, but much more covertly, it will work just as well. Except they'll start to see YOU as somebody they want to hang around. They'll see YOU in a much different category than everybody else. A much BETTER category. To them, it will seem like an organic process. A VERY LUCKY accident that they met you. But YOU'LL know the truth. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  15. The concept of ROI is insanely important. ROI, or "return on investment," is a necessary component of successful businesses. But it's also a necessary component of all living things. Living things NEED energy. Living things have to expend energy to get energy. No living thing exists if it spends MORE energy than the energy it gets. Maybe there were some ancient monkeys who spent 500 calories getting bananas that only had 400 calories. But they all went extinct. Since spending 500 calories to get only 400 back doesn't make much sense. It's kind of like how most slot machines are programmed. For every hundred bucks you put in, you get out $95. It doesn't take ALL your money at once, but it keeps you interested. Beyond simple ROI, we can also think in terms of MAXIMIZING ROI. For example, if you spend a dollar and get back fifty, that's pretty good! A lot of recent graduates today are realizing they've made a huge mistake. They've borrowed a bunch of money to get an education. With looking at details, it SEEMS like a good idea. Borrow some money, get an education, get a job, get a fat paycheck and pay back the money you borrowed to get the education. But many are finding out that there aren't many high paying jobs they can get with their education. Their RETURN (on the investment which is also debt) is TOO LOW to pay off that debt. They've borrowed tens of thousands to get a degree, but the job they get with that degree only pays twenty bucks an hour. Not such a great return. Any kind of self development can be looked at through an ROI lens. What does it cost to learn the skill? What will having the skill get you? Will that thing the skill gets you be enough to pay off the original costs? These are tough questions. Questions few people like to consider. But there is a skill that is very cheap to learn. The main cost is the time. The skill? How you use language. Persuasive language. Influential language. Seductive language. Hypnotic language. This is also a skill that has NO upper limit. The more you practice, the better you get. And all it takes to practice is TIME and EFFORT. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  16. Most people never think about words. Well, most people never think about much of anything. We just kind of show up, do what everybody else is doing, and call it good. But everybody who's ever made a ton of money, or made an impact has done something BEYOND just showing up and following the crowd. Some of these folks are inventors. Some of them are artists, or creators. But you don't have to think in terms of monumental achievements to have some fun. Because smack dab in the middle of the space between thoughts and words is a HUGE playground. Most people never think about how they think. Most people never think about what they say. But right there, between thoughts and words is a potentially ENDLESS playground. If you want, you can leverage this potential to make a lot of money. If you want, you can leverage this potential to have a lot of sex. Or, really help people get over internal blocks. Or, if you are the wallflower type, just pay close attention to the way people speak, the words and linguistic structures they use, and see what's REALLY on their mind. There have been a few characters or archetypes who can read people's emotions. These characters use this skill to become expert negotiators. This is VERY possible. Not just in the movies, but in your life. YOUR life. It requires taking some time to learn the atomic bits of linguistic thought processes. But after you take the time to awaken your understanding of these ideas, you will have huge insight into people's subconscious thinking. You will be able to understand MORE about their deep desires and fears than they do. If they are your enemy, you will be able to crush them. IF you want them on your side, you'll be able to leverage their subconscious desires with incredible effectiveness. Even if you NEVER want to apply these skills, being able to peer deeply into their subconscious minds WILL feel like a super power. Of course, you can have a bit of fun as well. Twisting people's thoughts into pretzels is a fine hobby. One that will make you the star of any party and social scene you like. Becoming a master of words is something that has TONS of applications. And all you need to practice is a pen, some paper and your brain. Nobody needs to know but you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  17. Dale Carnegie came across a lot of golden tips back in the day. He started his deal during the depression. When people were struggling. Kind of like today. All his ideas in his famous book, "How To Win Friends And Influence People," came from a public speaking club he founded. It was kind of a lab for interpersonal ideas. People would go out and try things, and come back, and give a speech. The speeches were restricted to ONLY two minutes. So they had to be quick, they had to be engaging, and they had to be packed with information. One of the golden nuggets was the idea of HOW, specifically, to be interesting TO other people. This, of course, is a deep human desire. To meet somebody, make an impression, and get them interested in you. Either for romance or for business, this skill would obviously come in VERY handy. The simple takeaway that Carnegie found was to be interesting TO other people, all you really need to do is be interested IN them. Now, this sounds simple. But most people have trouble with this simple advice. Why? Because most people find other people kind of boring. But here's the thing. It's EASY to be interested in interesting people. Being interested in interesting people won't get you very far. And you'll have tons of competition. Because if YOU find somebody interesting, so do plenty of other people. This is why attractive females have it so easy. Tons of dudes are always hanging around doing whatever she asks. A real skill is to be interested in the PERSON. Not the appearance. This is pretty easy once you take apart the structure of language. When you learn to ask a few questions and follow up questions. By looking at the relationship between their thoughts and their words, your interest in them will go far deeper than anybody else's. Especially when you use covert hypnosis to significantly amplify their existing desire. EVERYBODY wants something. So much that this pretty much all anybody talks about. So if you can turn off your own brain, listen to their desires and use the patterns from covert hypnosis to EXPAND their desires, they'll remember YOU much more than anybody else. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  18. Everybody loves a fantasy. One of the biggest inflection points of the hero's journey is in the beginning. Usually, the hero is offered an opportunity to go on a journey. But they turn it down. Later, something happens, and they are FORCED to go on the journey. We normal humans like this very much. Why? Because we all have a love-hate relationship with our comfort zone. On one hand, we hate that it's so constraining. We'd LOVE to be able to step outside of it and get some of the good stuff that we KNOW is out there. But at the same time, the idea of deliberately going outside of our comfort zone is TERRIFYING. So much that we hate the idea of doing it alone. Which is why we LOVE this part of the hero's journey. When the hero is FORCED to go outside of his or her comfort zone. When they don't have a choice. Because we would LOVE something like that to happen to us. This is essentially how most of us live our lives. WAITING for something to happen. Because most of us are terrified of making something happen. This is true on big, life changing levels. This is true on tiny, daily, normal social situation levels. For example, we're at a party with some friends. We go to parties because we love the idea of meeting new and exciting people. And having new and exciting experiences. But we're also kind of too scared to make that happen. This is where YOU come in. Because with a little bit of thinking, YOU can be the one to set people free. YOU can be the one to give them an exciting experience. It's all based on how you speak to them. Because smack dab in the middle of every word you speak and hear is MAGIC. (Here is magic...) Potential to make every conversation a life changing experience. A memorable experience. Needless to say, if you walk the Earth giving out experiences like this, people will remember YOU as the one who set them free. That same archetype who teaches the young and clueless hero what's what. You'll find one in every hero's journey story. And you can BE one everywhere you go. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  19. Everybody loves a sense of humor. It's rare that humor doesn't have a place. But developing a sense of humor can seem difficult. You could try and memorize a bunch of jokes. Which could work, but then again it could backfire. Timing is an important part of humor. If you tell the wrong joke at the wrong time, you'd be better off having kept your mouth shut. Being funny in a SPONTANEOUS way is much better. A very basic and common way would be to simply know a whole bunch of jokes and anecdotes. So when somebody says something, you can say: "That's like the guy who..." and away you go. So long as the joke is relevant, you'd be pretty good. However, it would also be clear that all these anecdotes would be MEMORIZED. It would be a kind of prepared spontaneity. This is how many stand up comedians make it LOOK LIKE they are riffing in the moment. The art of improvisation is learning to work with WHATEVER you get. However, being able to accept everything that is coming at you, and responding with MEMORIZED humor still requires you MEMORIZE a ton of jokes. This is what those world class improv guys do. They memorize a TON of short routines on a TON of subjects. So no matter what comes AT them, they can flip it around into something funny. From a structural standpoint, this is the same as a salesperson who practices overcoming TONS of objections. And in TONS of different ways. If you want to develop your sense of humor, do you need to go to all this work? No, you do not. It's much easier to notice the build in "funny" structure of language. Once you get the hang of this, you can easily riff on ANYTHING anybody says. Not only for humor, but for mind bending silliness. This comes from understanding the structure of hypnosis. Not direct hypnosis, where you walk around swinging a watch. But COVERT hypnosis. Where the only person who knows what's going on is you. Once you learn the structure of covert hypnosis, you'll find TONS of opportunities built into every day language. This will give you a huge range of riffing potential. Turning statements into silliness. Turning certainty into confusion. Even getting away with saying the CRAZIEST things. Things that make people laugh out loud, and then suddenly forget. In between thoughts and words is TREASURE. Treasure that only you will be able to see. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hypnosis/
  20. If you ever get stuck in a social situation and you don't know what to do, it's usually too late. Humans behave BEST when we are operating mostly subconsciously. Automatically. In sports, the coveted flow state is when you are operating at a very high level AND mostly unconsciously. When it seems like you are WATCHING yourself perform. This can happen socially as well. For most of us, this happens with close friends with whom we have a ton of built in rapport. This is when conversations flow and good times roll. But it is also possible to create this social flow state with people you've just met. This requires we think a little meta. If you want to get good at something, you have to practice. The more you practiced, the higher level of unconscious competence you'd become. For example, it's pretty easy to get to the level of unconscious competence playing "Mary Had a Little Lamb" on the piano. But getting to that same level of unconscious competence while playing something like Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata would take a LOT more practice. So how can you develop unconscious competence, that flow state, with social situations involving people you DON'T KNOW? By practicing talking to people you don't know. Most people don't like this idea. They only like the idea of talking to somebody they are interested in. This is actually a form of self-deception. They think about being social and outgoing around EVERYBODY, and it scares them. So they cover up this fear by saying things like, "Why would I talk to THAT person? I'm not interested in them!" But by practicing friendly small talk with EVERYBODY, you'll be practicing social skills on a META level. And you'll soon get to know "people" on a structural level. After you talk to ENOUGH people, you'll realize TWO THINGS about everybody. One, that everybody is unique in some way. Two, everybody is VERY SIMILAR in many ways. And once you feel this similarity on a deep and unconscious level, all fear will VANISH. This means talking to anybody NEW will seem familiar. Which means it will be much easier to enter into that free flowing, outcome independent flow state. Which everybody finds INSANELY attractive. This REQUIRES that you see small talk as something you PRACTICE. Not something you do because you ONLY enjoy it. That would be like somebody who doesn't exercise because they don't enjoy it. It takes a while to ENJOY exercising. And it will always be BOTH a means and an end. So will small talk. It may suck to think of practicing it. But when it becomes both a means and an end, you will be developing some very rare, and very attractive, social skills. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
  21. Imagine two fighters. Boxers if you will. One guy has spent tons of time practicing lots of techniques. The other guy, not so much. But the first guy, with all the moves, is in very terrible condition. He is barely able to stand up after a couple minutes. He's so exhausted, he hangs on to the other fighter for dear life. But the second fighter, the guy who has very little techniques is in VERY good shape. He can dance and around and bounce on his feet for a full twelve rounds. Who do you think would win the fight? Unless the first guy got lucky, he would be too tired to do much. None of his advanced techniques would do squat if he was too tired to lift his arms. When it comes to any kind of martial art, it's clear that physical conditioning is as important, if not more, than the actual fighting techniques. Now, this metaphor is not entirely realistic. Because it would be hard to practice fighting techniques without also getting into shape. So we can imagine another pair of fighters. This time, their skills are equal. But one guy is in WAY better shape than the other guy. Obviously, the guy who was in better shape would win. What's this got to do with anything? When it comes to social behavior, interactive social behavior, there is inner game, and outer game. Outer game is kind of like the technical skills. Knowing what to say, and how to say it. Inner game is much more like physical conditioning. In a fighting metaphor, if you are too tired, you can't really use any of your technical skills. In a social situation, a weak inner game means you'll be spending A LOT of brainpower being worried or anxious. So any of the stuff you practiced before won't to mind. This is EXACTLY what happens when you practice a speech until you've got it down PERFECTLY. But then when you stand up to give it, it VANISHES from your brain. Your brain essentially freezes. This is why having solid inner game is much, much more important than any outer game techniques. But most people don't pay much attention to inner game. Since most people don't know HOW to strengthen their inner game. Most people simply assume that stronger inner game comes from experience. But this is incorrect. In fact, there are plenty of ways to build up a rock solid inner game, just like you could build up rock solid conditioning. You can do this alone, without needing to interact with anybody. And the longer you practice, the stronger your inner game will be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  22. One way to understand attractive personalities is to think in terms of ancient societies. Our brains, bodies and instincts are the same as they were tens of thousands of years ago. We humans just don't evolve very quickly. So, what personality characteristics are MOST attractive? The biggest problem in ancient societies was getting enough food. Of handling problems that came up during that process. Back then, you HAD to be productive. You had to be able to get stuff done. And the more stuff you could get done, the more TRUE CONFIDENCE you would radiate. Not confidence based on anything fake. Confidence based on real memories of real experiences where you were successful. This may not be something you want to hear, but humans send and receive a TON of information via subconscious body language. So if you truly FEEL confident, everybody is going to know. If you are trying to fake confidence, it may work for a little while, but it won't last through a conversation. This is exactly WHY girls test guys. To see if their confidence is REAL or FAKE. Just that she's testing you is a bad sign. If she is testing you, her subconscious DOUBTS your confidence. But it's easy to create REAL confidence, even if you don't feel it. At least right now. The trick is not to conjure it up in the moment. This is the FAKE confidence that invites frame tests. Real confidence can be built using ONLY the memories in your brain. It takes time, but it is VERY POWERFUL. You can do this with any emotional state you want. Even building in various switches for various emotional states. People that are naturally charismatic and outgoing do this NATURALLY. Meaning they NATURALLY recall and reference positive memories. This creates a string of positive experiences. Which keeps the whole positive charisma cycle going. You can, however, jump start this process. Kind of like priming a pump. Just take some time, find plenty of decent memories and PURPOSELY reference those. And you can create that SAME outgoing, friendly, charismatic attitude. This is THE most important thing. It only seems like it's not because so FEW people have this natural, outgoing charm. But when you take the time to build it, you'll see. Once you have a collection of positive inner game states, layering some outer game behaviors on top will be EASY. Making you the most attractive person around. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  23. There is a clear discrepancy between what we say we want, and what we really want. The things we TELL ourselves (and each other) what we want is based partially on what we SHOULD want. But the things we actively GET, especially when nobody's looking, is what we REALLY want. This is one main reason why marketing studies must be done like medical studies. As objectively as possible. If you ask people for feedback, they'll tell you what they think you WANT to hear. So marketers have to take care to set up special studies so they can OBSERVE what people choose. Similarly, whenever anybody does any medical research, and the data is SELF-REPORTED, it's almost always flawed. Especially if it involves eating. Nobody is totally honest when they report what they REALLY ate. When thinking about humans and attraction, there is a common idea. That you should ignore what people SAY, and watch what people DO. But there is ONE THING that people SAY that want, and also respond to. The ONE quality we all both consciously acknowledge is desirable. And will subconsciously acknowledge as desirable. What is this mysterious trait? A sense of humor. Everybody SAYS they value humor. AND people naturally gravitate AROUND people who HAVE a strong sense of humor. Maybe because humor is a function both an inner and outer game. True outer game humor reflects inner game STRENGTH. Especially self-deprecating humor. This can be VERY DANGEROUS. Many people attempt self deprecation without being 100% congruent. So in a sense, they are kind of fishing for compliments. But if you can use self-deprecating humor with 100% congruence, it will be VERY ATTRACTIVE. Because it demonstrates massive inner confidence. This is the underlying "energy" of the "agree and amplify" response to any playful insults. "Dude, that shirt is ugly!" "I know, right! I got the UGLIEST shirt in the shop! Winner Winner chicken dinner!" This is HARD to pull off if you don't feel it. But if you DO feel it, the surface structure doesn't need to be complex. It can be very, very simple. Paradoxically, the BEST self-deprecating humor demonstrates the STRONGEST confidence around. It's almost like you are proudly challenging anybody to an insult contest. Where YOU can insult you better than anybody else can insult you. Only exceptionally confident people with exceptionally strong frames can do this. Which means that ONLY learning the words aren't enough. You must also build up your inner game. You can learn that here: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/
  24. Imagine you were just about to walk into a party. And RIGHT before you opened the door, a super sexy person gave you a super sexy look. That would put you in a very GOOD mood. On the other hand, imagine the opposite. Right when you were about to walk into a party, a dog came up and peed on your leg. And the dog's owner, and all her friends, stood their laughing. That would put you in a very BAD mood. Most people accept this as normal. Stuff happens OUTSIDE of us. Then that puts us in a certain mood. That certain mood affects our behavior. Which affects the stuff around us. The people, etc. That can either KEEP us in a bad mood, or KEEP us in a good mood. If we happen to run into a string of GOOD things happening around us, we'll be in a GOOD mood. On the other hand, if we run into a string of BAD things happening around us, we'll be in a BAD mood. We say we're having a BAD day. Or we're having a GOOD day. But here's the thing. It's not really the THINGS that are happening around us. Once they happen, they are OVER. But their memory lingers for a while. In a sense, our conscious is a never-ending stream of what is happening, what we THINK is about to happen, and what just HAPPENED. And what JUST HAPPENED is projected forward slightly, affecting the events AS they happen. But we CAN have a huge amount of control over this. It's not based on magic, or metaphysics. Any more than doing pushups would make you stronger. Or running every day would burn body fat. If you PRACTICE remembering certain things, you can build up the STRENGTH of those memories. Build them up strong enough, and you can recall them whenever you want. So much that they can OVERPOWER anything that is happening around you. Putting you in such a good mood, that YOU become the CAUSE. And everybody else's mood will be an effect. Giving you the power to CHANGE the mood of everybody around you. What kind of memories do you want to recall? What kind of feelings do you want to HAVE whenever you want them? Any kind you want. So long as you are willing to build them, you will have them. You can build them as STRONG as you want. There is NO upper limit. Any feeling, any time, anywhere. A frame so strong that EVERYBODY wants in. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/party-hero/ Till next time, George Hutton
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