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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July7Post.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, my buddies and I love to watch Mad Max. My buddies were all car freaks, more so than I was. They loved the idea of having a big V8 with a secret nitrous oxide injection to give it an extra boost. Their favorite part was when Max was chasing the bad guys, then he'd calmly flip on the switch to give his car a boost. Then he'd suddenly accelerate, overtake the bad guys and cause them all to crash. One of the Star Trek movies was a crossover. Where they had the original cast in with the Next Generation cast. One engineer from the original cast was talking to an engineer from the Next Generation cast. He was asking him how fast the engines would go. The guy told him, and then he asked again. "Yeah, but how fast do they REALLY go?" The Next Generation engineer didn't understand the question. The original engineer shook his head, and said: "Never tell the captain how fast the engines will REALLY go." The idea of having a hidden resource of energy is very compelling. A secret ace up your sleeve. There's even a theory from physiology that we all have secret hidden reservoirs of energy in case of emergencies. To lift up cars, or make it an extra mile when we're about to die. But because we are usually VERY safe and not anywhere NEAR life threatening danger, we'll never really know. This is ONE reason why people love extreme sports. It gets them out on the edge of safety. When they get mad adrenalin rushes. The opposite is also common. Unfortunately, very common. Of thinking you don't have ANY skills or energy beyond what you are doing RIGHT NOW. If you believe you really DO have some secret power source, or an ace up your sleeve, it will give you a TON of confidence. So much you'll never have to need that secret stash. But if you are secretly terrified you have NOTHING, that will have the opposite effect. Knowing you have a secret stash will naturally EXPAND your comfort zone outward. Being terrified you have nothing will make it shrink. Luckily, the size of your comfort zone is completely up to you. It's based on plenty of assumptions you make about yourself, and about the world. Most of those assumptions are wrong. Which means if you can RE-CALIBRATE your assumptions, your comfort will expand significantly. Making everything you want OUT THERE much easier. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  2. Humans are inherently scared and lazy. Many historians describe human history as a story of a scared and lazy people doing everything they can to make life easier and safer. Most of the time, we humans don't do things unless we have to. Unless our backs are forced against the wall. At the same time, humans are locked into the law of averages. Meaning there is NO guarantee that if our "collective" backs are pushed to the wall, then ALL OF US will survive. All that's needed is a FEW OF US figure something out. History is filled with these long trends called "Malthusian cycles." Malthus was the guy who found a strong relationship between population sizes and carrying capacity. And history bears this out. Societies get bigger and bigger. Then something breaks and it collapses. The next iteration that rises up tends to do better than the previous one. Better ideas, better inventions, etc. So each time, "humanity" does better. But many people WITHIN that group of "humanity" don't make it. So when people talk about "human nature," in positive terms, they are correct. But only when applied to large GROUPS of humans. This doesn't guarantee that each one of us will survive. Humanity as a group will prevail. But lots of people within that prevailing group of humanity won't make it. Most of the time just moving along with the crowd is OK. But sometimes it's not. The trick is to know when. Consider it a very useful ability to THINK for yourself. Beyond what the crowd is doing. Beyond what the recognized authority figures are doing. Going with the crowd is EASY. Following recognized authority figures is EASY. Thinking for yourself is NOT. Which is why you might want to start practicing doing just that. A good way is to think about something you WANT, but don't have. Then figure out what SKILLS you need to learn to get it. Learning skills is one of our prime directives. Slowly improving yourself, day by day. It's not always a lot of fun. But you won't be putting your future in the hands of crowds and leaders that might not have your best interests in mind. This requires daily practice, daily introspection, and genuine honesty. But it will SIGNIFICANTLY increase your chances of success in any area. And during any time. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
  3. One of the biggest misunderstandings that keeps us stuck is the idea of a comfort zone. There's a story about a guy in a fish store. The kind you keep in a tank and let swim around. Not the kind you eat. Anyway, this guy was looking at two sharks. One really big, in one tank, and another much smaller one, in another tank. He asks the fish shop guy if the smaller shark is a baby, and the bigger one an adult. Fish shop guy says they're both the same age. What gives? Asks the fish shopper. Big shark grew up in a big cage. Small shark grew up in a small cage. Sharks are like people he says. They can only get as big as their cage. And like birds, sometimes our cages are safe and comfortable. So even if the door is open the bird won't fly out. After all, why give up a free daily meal and protection from cats? They say our comfort zone can be a prison. But like many metaphors, this is a bit too simple. A false dichotomy. A lot of stuff we perceive is a false dichotomy. Like we can either have a small, comfortable, constraining comfort zone. Or a gigantic one filled with excitement and rock star lifestyles. We either have to go BIG or go HOME. As if the world is ONLY in two very clear classifications. Non stop rock star parties, or safely at home hiding under our bed. Luckily, this ain't true. The real truth is somewhere in between. We aren't sharks, we aren't birds. Both sharks and birds haven't really evolved much in the last couple million years. We humans, on the other hand, have. We have learned how to expand our comfort zone so fricking big it can encompass the entire earth. We actually CAN have both. We can have a non stop rock star party INSIDE our comfort zone. No leaving required. How? The trick is to go SLOWLY. That's the biggest con in all self help. That anything worthwhile can happen quickly. Slow steady growth is the key. So long as your comfort zone TODAY is only a teeny tiny bit bigger than it was yesterday, you're doing fine. There's a REASON that ancient Greek dude made up a story about a turtle winning a race against a rabbit. That rabbit is all the goofs jumping up and down in seminars hoping for a quick fix. The turtle is you. Slowly building your empire. Step by step. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
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  6. https://mindpersuasion.com/the-necessity-of-risk/
  7. Most of the time our brains work as repeaters. We soak up ideas from others, and then pass them right along. Way back in the days of dangerous living, Mother Nature decided that a fast and inaccurate brain was much better than a slow and accurate brain. So we developed a LOT of short cuts in thinking. Our brains are VERY expensive organs. Independent thinking is VERY difficult. Two of the most powerful short cuts in thinking are social proof and authority. Most people are perfectly OK so long as they are in a group of like minded people who are being directed by a recognized authority. But it gets kind of fuzzy when we start to consider the ideas in our heads. If we have a question, we ask our friends. "Is this right?" we ask. Since we all have the same ideas in our brains, all given to us from the same authority figure, everybody says the same thing. "Yeah, this is right," they say. Normally, this is perfectly fine. But then again, most folks are comfortable doing the SAME things every day for their entire lives. It's been said that MOST of us live lives of "quiet desperation." Meaning we ALWAYS have a collection of unmet needs, anxieties, and stuff we WANT but can't get. The problem comes when we realize that actually doing something DIFFERENT requires breaking from the pack. Of thinking and acting differently from our social reference group. So most of us THINK about it, but don't do it. We are QUIET, since we are afraid of breaking from the pack. We are DESPERATE because we want things our current lives are producing. Most folks will live their ENTIRE LIVES in this state. Too scared to leave the pack, and the comfortable suggestions of authority figures. But wishing we could get MORE than being a mindless member can provide. Here's the thing. If getting stuff ABOVE AVERAGE were easy, everybody would do it. There is, however, a clever shortcut. A way to slowly re-build our social proof and authority. Kind of like slowly replacing a diet of fast food with healthy food. You don't switch at once. You take your time to find replacement food that is HEALTHY, but also tastes pretty good. This takes time, but it's VERY POSSIBLE. We can slowly and consciously replace both our social reference group and the authorities we follow. Not based on the comfort, but the results. Just like we can reverse engineer our food, we can reverse engineer our social instincts. Getting us MUCH BETTER results without having to go without the positive aspects of social proof and authority. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/gurutrap/
  8. https://mindpersuasion.com/comfort-zone-expansion/
  9. The world is in a strange place. Only a hundred years or so ago, it was perfectly fine to just show up. You did what you were told, and you'd have a job and family. Today, there is very little structure to anything. Everybody does whatever they want. There doesn't seem to be any rules. This is both good and bad. Good because you can get away with a lot of stuff that you couldn't get away with a hundred years or so ago. Bad because there are few external incentives keeping people on track. With the right external incentives, normally hard stuff can be easy. If you joined boot camp, for example, getting up at the crack of dawn would be easy. All alone (with only internal incentives) it's very hard. But if you CAN come up with your own internal incentives, and live by them, you can create ANYTHING you want. This is the double edge sword of modern life. You can do a lot of stuff. But nobody is forcing you. So it's very easy to slack off and take it easy. And once you start doing that, it's a hard rut to get out of. Luckily, you can start very slow. The myth of motivation is that you need a TON from the start. People think of the word "motivation" and they think of some guy leaping out of bed and going on a ten mile run in the morning. That works for a couple days. A much better and easier way is to start VERY SLOW. Do one small thing toward your goal or habit. Then do that one small thing until that one small thing becomes a habit. Then do another small thing on top of it. Slow, steady, consistent growth is much easier that super power motivation. Because slow, steady, growth adds up over time. What "small thing" should you try? Mental exercises are the easiest. Do them for five minutes. Same time every day. Once you learn to control your thinking, you can control everything. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  10. Fortune favors the brave. This is one of those truisms that everybody "knows," but not really. We all "know" it in the sense that we've heard it a billion times, so it's familiar. Intellectually familiar. But for many people, that's where it stops. There are plenty of stories and metaphors to describe this. The problem of many of those stories or metaphors is they are not relatable to the common person. Like Cortez burning his ships when he arrived in Central America. That way, his soldiers HAD to succeed, or else they'd die. Or the famous line from Apollo 13, "Failure, is not an option." I don't know about you, but I don't manage moon missions very often. Nor do I command a bunch of ships into unexplored territory. So when we hear those stories, we all nod our heads and say, "Oh, yeah, totally! Go big or go home!" But how often do we actually DO something like that? To actually make a move that proves that "failure is not an option," or that we really HAVE decided to "go big or go home?" We get opportunities every single day. But if we're too scared to take them, we don't even notice them. It's very common for guys and girls who are shy, but otherwise attractive (decent looks, decent clothes, decent personality) to NOT NOTICE the signals that women and men are giving them. Seeing the signals would require at least thinking about responding. Which would require either taking action (scary) or not (blow to the ego). So our cognitive dissonance doesn't even let us SEE those signals. But they're there. Like in the Talking Heads' song, "Dreams walking in broad daylight." Luckily, you don't have to burn any ships, or wait around until Tom Hanks and his buddies are stuck on a broken moon mission. Every single day you can take SMALL steps to push our your comfort zone. JUST SLIGHTLY. If you started doing pushups, nobody would doubt that within a year you'd be able to do a couple hundred (or a lot more) without stopping. Consider expanding your social comfort zone the same way. Tiny little baby steps, every single day. Inch by inch, as they say, life's a cinch. Click Here To Learn How
  11. In many disciplines, they have the idea of an "S curve." It represents any kind of growth. It starts out moving left to right, slowly increasing. Then something significant happens, and the growth increases a lot, going up, rather than across. Then it reaches a saturation level, and levels off, but still goes up a bit. Overall it, looks like an "S." That bottom curve is the best part. The bottom part before the curve is the HARDEST part. Where you're working and working and only SLIGHTLY getting better. So when you start to see REAL results, it feels pretty good. Most successful businesses go through SEVERAL "S-curves." Every time they level off at the top, (after the growth spurt) they scramble to find something else, and start growing again. For humans, we don't really feel alive unless we are constantly improving. That's why people who win the lotto or otherwise get a sudden ton of money tend to crash and burn. At first it feels pretty good. But then all the problems start. And most importantly, they aren't feeling that NECESSARY feeling of forward momentum, based on their own efforts. Few things in life feel better than putting in daily effort toward something that YOU feel is important, and noticing consistent results. Developing relationships with others isn't any different. We LIKE to have forward progress. One of the many reasons people break up is if they feel "stagnant." Just going through the motions. One of the reasons for this is that people start to feel comfortable with one another. Safe. But safety can sometimes be a trap. The worst trap. That one that doesn't reveal how insidious it is until you've spent years "safe" while life has been passing you by. Now, this doesn't mean you need to go swimming with sharks every day or get a pet rattlesnake and let it roam around your apartment. But it IS a good idea to do SOMETHING on a regular basis that is a LITTLE BIT outside your comfort zone. One way to do that is to always be open to meeting new people. Make it a habit to strike up a conversation with a stranger. Not because they're "hot" or you think you'll co-discover the next atomic element together, but just because. Because talking to new people is exciting. Interesting. And you NEVER know what growth opportunities will present themselves. Get Started: Click Here To Learn More
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