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  1. Symphonies have a much richer sound that single instruments. Single instruments can product a rhythm, or a melody, or a chord progression. But most can only do one at a time. Some instruments are more capable than others. On a piano, for example, you can play chords with your left hand, and melodies with your right. But most instruments can only play one note at once. The best violinist can only play single notes at a time. Compared to a quartet, which could play a much deeper and richer sound. People are like instruments. And we can be either single note instruments, or entire orchestras. When we communicate with each other only on a superficial, surface level, it’s like two kids whistling at each other. When we communicate on a deep and complete level, it’s like an entire orchestra. But this is where the metaphor breaks down. Music is a one way street. It comes FROM the instruments and goes TO our ears. Even so, it can be indescribably beautiful. Imagine what two people communicating on all levels can do. This takes a lot of courage. Because in order to send and receive on all levels, you have to be able to accept and appreciate yourself on all levels. But once you can do that, something extraordinary will happen. Like an orchestra, you’ll be able to SEND on all levels. Most will only be able to pick it up subconsciously. But you will seem to be MUCH DIFFERENT than anybody else. The flip side is also the case. You’ll be able to RECEIVE on all levels as well. Meaning you’ll be able to understand people on a level that nobody else can understand them. And since you’ll be able to receive as well as send, this will give you incredible insights. This is the kind of perception that seems “extra-sensory.” But that is kind of a misnomer. Since all things can ONLY go through your regular senses. But since the things you’ll be capable of sending and receiving through those same five senses, it won’t really be “extra sensory.” It will only be perceived as such. And since this is primarily based on how well you are open to YOUR OWN levels of being, you can practice and enhance this skill whenever you want. Safely in your own home, in your own brain. Until you’re ready. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  2. If you’ve ever learned an instrument, perhaps you’ve had the following experience. You learned a song, and had it partially memorized. But sometimes when you practiced, simply by noticing your fingers, you messed up. Or perhaps you learned something like juggling. There are times when your conscious brain is turned off, and everything seems to “flow.” But as soon as you start to “notice” what you are doing, you mess stuff up. Sports psychologists study this idea of the flow state. The more skilled you become, the more effective this flow state is. Since most of us aren’t world class anything, we only experience “normal-people” flow states. Essentially, this is the level of “unconscious competence.” When we can do something effectively WITHOUT thinking. World class athletes, musicians, artists, they experience very high levels of flow state. This is why people often describe watching professional athletes as “poetry in motion.” At the same time we KNOW they are doing something WAY ABOVE a normal human skill level, but they are also doing it at the level of unconscious competence. Most of the things we normally do are at this level. Walking, talking, simple things like cooking and driving. However, when we communicate with unfamiliar people, that “messing stuff up by watching it with our conscious minds” happens. This is when we are struggling to think of what to say. This is why the advice of “be yourself” actually IS good advice. It basically means to speak like you would to your best buddy. Without any restriction or worry. To speak unconsciously like you normally do. There are two ways to do this. One takes a lot of practice. One is pretty simple. The first way is to simply practice talking to SO MANY people that you get used to talking to strangers. So talking to strangers becomes something you are unconsciously competent at. The second way is MUCH better. It is based on the idea the underneath all the surface structure stuff, we are THE SAME underneath. So when you talk to them, on that deep level, you are really talking to and about yourself. This can seem strange at first. But it’s much easier to practice. Since you can practice all alone. And when you switch your pronouns around, and use some hypnotic language, the other person will see you as somebody with profound insight. Deep understanding of the human condition. Somebody that REALLY “gets it.” This, of course, will make a life long, lasting impression on them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  3. Humans existed a very long time before language was invented. We send a ton of information subconsciously. Less than 10% of our communication is the actual words we use. Most of our communication, even with people we don’t know, is non verbal. One of the main problems of being a human today is the technology of society (and society itself) evolves WAY faster than human nature. Because the world we live in is SO chaotic, it’s very hard to notice the MASSIVE amount of non-verbal signals. There is one “class” of people who are EXPERT body language readers. Even though these people have regular jobs, and a lot of importance, they are MUCH BETTER at reading body language than everybody else. In fact, the BULK of their success depends on it. Who are they? Not cops. Not CIA agents. Not poker players. But Secret Service agents. Plenty of studies demonstrate this. And it makes perfect sense. Their job rests on their ability to scan a crowd and pick up small, non-verbal “tells” that indicate danger. It’s much more complicated than the movies, where they have to wait until they SEE a gun, and then shout, “Gun!” If they showed the way they REALLY operate in the movies, it would be REALLY boring. Since they notice things nobody else does. Which means the people in the movie theater wouldn’t notice. This is a GREAT WAY to practice cold reading. Sit some place with a lot of people. Watch people as much as you can, without drawing attention to yourself. Pick somebody close by, and put them in your peripheral vision. Then start to “free note.” This is when you write as QUICKLY as you can, without pausing to even think about the words or the grammar. The idea is to RE-TRAIN your natural ability to “pick up” as much information from others as possible. Practice this enough, and you’ll be able to “read people” like an expert. Even BETTER than secret service. The secret service are HYPER-SENSITIVE to threats. But they ignore everything else. Train yourself so you can pick up a little bit of EVERYTHING. Then if you decide to talk to anybody, you’ll have an EXTREMELY accurate idea of not only their state of mind, but what they are thinking. If you deliver this through vague, hypnotic language, you’ll be perceived as having super powers of perception. But it will REALLY be “re-discovered” powers of perception. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  4. The first level of persuasion is the features and benefits level. This is when you memorize as many “reasons” why your idea should be accepted by them. It’s almost like a performance. You need to be articulate, charismatic, and strong willed. To the extent that enough of your ideas sound good to them, they’ll accept them. The more charismatic you are, the more effective this will be. The more attractive you are (halo effect) the easier this will be. The second level is when you ASK them what they want. Turn off your own brain for a minute, and expand THEIR desires as much as possible. Then carefully take THEIR desires and covertly “rearrange” them so they match what YOU would like them to do. This is the Dale Carnegie strategy. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was their idea. This is EXTREMELY effective. No charisma required. No halo effect required. No memorized list of features and benefits required. You DO have to develop enough rapport for them to TRUST YOU with their deep desires. This is the tough part. You can’t just walk up to a stranger and expect them to start spilling their guts. That's where the THIRD level of persuasion comes in. It combines the BEST of both parts. You do all the talking, so they don’t have to. But you already KNOW the things they want. You already KNOW their deep desires. So when you describe YOUR ideas in the terms of THEIR deep desires, something pretty cool will happen. One, they’ll naturally go along with whatever you want them to. Two, they’ll be ASTOUNDED that you, somebody they just met, knows SO MUCH about them. How is this possible? By first going inside your own mind. And drilling down beneath the surface structure ideas that make us SEEM separate from one another. And getting to that DEEP LEVEL where we are all very similar. When you speak to them on THIS level, it will FEEL familiar. This will give them a wonderful mix of emotions. One, they will FEEL that you KNOW them. Two, they’ll recognize they just met you. Those two mixed together will add up to a belief in your telepathic skills. Or at the very least your DEEP UNDERSTANDING of them as individuals. So even if you don’t persuade them to do anything, even if you just MENTION a few deep truths about them, they’ll NEVER forget you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  5. There’s an ancient saying that we all have three faces. The face we show to the world. The face we show to ourselves. And then our real face. Our real face is hidden from us by ourselves. One of the ways this stays hidden is through the common idea of “projection.” It’s very difficult to accept all of our shortcomings and problems. It’s much easier to point out those same problems in others. It keeps us from looking inward. If you CAN manage to look inward (very scary!) and accept yourself, you can gain MASSIVE amounts of peace. Just for the sake of argument, assume that EVERYBODY in the world that bothers you only does so because they remind you of YOU on some level. And the more you accept ALL parts of you, the less “those people” out in the world will bother you. There is another VERY POWERFUL result from looking inward and accepting all of the parts of you. And that is you’ll recognize that all the other people in the world have the SAME parts. Human nature is ubiquitous. There aren’t some humans that are “one way” and another set of humans that are “another way.” Within each chest, they say, beats the same heart. This is the secret to TRULY connecting with others. By FIRST going inside and connecting with yourself. Since most people are terrified of doing this, it makes it almost IMPOSSIBLE to truly connect with others. Without going inside, there is always going to be a barrier between you and everybody else. But when you go inside, and accept all parts of you, you will naturally and easily connect with others. But from THEIR perspective, you will seem INCREDIBLY unique. Open, insightful, even psychic. Since you will KNOW more about them than they know about themselves. Even before you even speak to them. This will make people crave your presence. This is both easy and difficult. Easy because you can build this “connect-ability” all on your own. Difficult because you’ve got to dig into your mind, your emotions, and fully embrace EVERYTING about you. This takes some time and some journaling. But if you take the time, you will such powerful powers of deep connection people will truly believe you can read their minds. Because in a sense, you will be able to. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  6. There are a lot of interesting similarities between cultures. For example, in Japanese, the symbol for Sunday is of the Sun. The symbol for Monday is of the moon. These are the same roots of the words in English (sun= Sunday, moon = Monday). Also in both ancient European and Chinese mythology there is the idea of a dragon. Why a dragon? Both cultures came across these reptiles that slithered around. They were tiny, but their bite (which felt like fire) could kill you. Since they didn’t know about chemistry or biology or poison, they both likely came up with the same basic idea. These “evil” reptilian things were powered by some black magic. So when they made their way into stories, they could fly around and breathe fire. Joseph Campbell had to figure out WHY all cultures have the same basic structure their mythology. The same structure that is in most blockbuster movies. Logic says there can only be TWO answers. One is that there is ONE source that everybody copied from. The other is that the “outside” stories represent very similar “internal” thinking structures. Chomsky figured the same thing. His ideas was the all humans speak the SAME language. Only different dialects. Every language has verbs, nouns, adverbs, adjectives, etc. But for some reason, we all think we are different. We all are programmed, perhaps by our ego, to think OUR own thoughts and fears and hopes are somehow unique to us. And since we RARELY discuss things in great detail, it’s very easy to believe that. Therein lines the secret to “cold reading.” Of seeing people and being able to read their body language, facial expressions, and the situation they are in. By doing some digging into your own brain, it’s VERY EASY to “guess” EXACTLY what they are thinking. Not only what they want, but what they are worried about. When you can communicate those deep truths using some hypnotic language patterns, you will be perceived as being INSANELY insightful. Or if you like, you really can convince people you have powers of telepathy. This makes communication with ANYBODY very easy. Because even if you don’t want to use any cold reading patterns, by knowing EXACTLY what’s going on inside their minds, you’ll know EXACTLY what to say. To create ANY emotion in them you like. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  7. One of the most animated conversations I’ve ever had was with a deaf girl on the streets of Bangkok. She was working at a stall selling souvenirs, and we were haggling over the price of something. It’s one thing trying to communicate with somebody who doesn’t speak your language. It’s something else to speak to somebody’s who’s deaf in another language. Strangely enough, talking to her was much EASIER than trying to communicate with another non-English speaking Thai. When you are used to using words to communicate, and you suddenly don’t have any words (e.g. you are trying to talk to somebody in a different language) it’s pretty difficult. But this woman was INCREDIBLY articulate. She knew how to use the precise facial expressions (exaggerated, of course, since we were haggling over price) gestures, etc. It was, without question, one of the more memorable interactions I’ve ever had. She’d type a number in the calculator, show it to me, and I’d go through all kinds of theatrics trying to get her to come down in price. Then she’d type in a number into the calculator, and do the same, trying to get me to come up in price. With only gestures and facial expressions, she was able to convey what you’d expect from a street vendor. I’ve got a family to feed, I have to make a little profit, I’m really giving you a better deal than I’m giving everybody else because I like you, etc. Because she was a much more advanced haggler, the price we agreed upon was much closer to HER price than MY price. We humans have ideas inside our heads. And we struggle to put words to those ideas. And we hear ideas from other, that they also struggle to put words to. Using words, which we imagine to be precise and accurate, it actually makes it VERY DIFFICULT to get ideas out of our heads and into their heads. Using ONLY WORDS, it’s very difficult to understand the ideas in their heads if we ONLY pay attention to their words. Which is why when you FORGET about the words, and pay attention to body language, non-verbal energy and the situation, you’ll gain TONS more information than words can ever express. This takes time and practice. But once you get to THIS level of communication, you can identify deep thought structures and patterns that they themselves would have trouble describing. This will make YOU stand out in their mind for a LONG TIME. Just like I still remember that girl from Bangkok. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  8. Humans love to be deceived. We pay tons of money to see movies. The movies are people that we KNOW are actors, pretending to be people we KNOW are made up. Even the term, “movie” is not correct. It’s shortened from the old school term, “moving pictures.” (Not to be confused with the Rush album of the same name...) But the pictures DON’T move. It’s a mis-perception. Most of what we THINK is happening around isn’t. Most of the ideas we make up inside our heads about the world around us is INFERRED. This means we take a small slice of actual data, and use that to extrapolate the rest. The only color we REALLY see is at the very center of our focus. Looking at our eye-brain-visual system, everything in our peripheral vision is black and white. We only INFER the colors. If you’ve ever enjoyed watching somebody do magic “tricks,” this is another example of how we ENJOY deception. All magic is based on sleight of hand. All sleight of hand is based on deception. They trick us to look one way, when the do the “magic” the other way. We absolutely LOVE movies like “Inception” and “Sixth Sense.” Where we don’t quite “get” the ending and WANT to watch it again to see exactly HOW we were “fooled.” Of course, there is good trickery and bad trickery. Bad trickery is when you take advantage of other people. Sell somebody a bag of potatoes when it’s really a bag of rocks. Sell them a bottle of magic potion that cures what ails them, only to find it’s colored water. But deception that makes us feel GOOD is fantastic. The entire “story instinct” that the rich storytelling part of EVERY CULTURE is based on is proof of this. We tell each other made up stories about made up people. So we can EMULATE those made up people when we need to. So we can experience REAL EMOTIONS based on the adventures of those made up people. You can think of “cold reading” as a mix of a wonderful magic trick with a wonderful story. To reach into their minds, and through your understanding of human nature and human thought, tell them a wonderful STORY about them. About how THEY will become the hero of their lives. And it will FEEL like magic to them because of the way you deliver it. Just like a skilled magician. And a skilled storyteller. All wrapped up into one. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  9. If you were walking through the forest, and you gotten eaten by wolves, nobody would blame the wolves. None of your friends would go hunting in the forest to get revenge on the wolves for eating you. They would all wonder why you were silly enough to wander alone and unarmed into wolf territory. If you saw a beehive, and decided to steal the honey, and got stung all the way into the hospital, none of your friends would want to take revenge on the bees. They would all wonder why you were so foolish to stick your hand into a beehive. If you were walking down the street and smelled some delicious barbecue, it wouldn’t be a good idea to waltz into somebody else’s backyard and help yourself. Especially in a place like Texas where you might get shot. The idea of respecting somebody else’s “territory” is a deeply instinctive idea, shared by many creatures besides humans. It’s even one of the best scenes from “Breaking Bad.” When Walter White, the protagonist, walks up to the (much bigger) rival in the parking lot and says: “Stay out of my territory.” Yet we violate this all the time when it comes to giving other people unasked for advice. There they are, sitting and contemplating a problem. Their brain, their thoughts. And we walk up and think we have the right to shove OUR THOUGHTS into THEIR HEAD. Nobody, (and this means nobody) LIKES unasked for advice. What we PRESUPPOSE when we give unasked for advice is this: “The thoughts in your brain are clearly NOT sufficient to solve YOUR problem. The thoughts in MY head are BETTER than the thoughts in YOUR head to solve YOUR problem.” The paradox is that at the same time, we have an objective view of their problem. We are not locked into their subjective understanding. Many people see therapists and talk to bartenders about their problems BECAUSE getting an objective third person perspective is VERY HELPFUL. There is, however, a VERY POWERFUL way to deliver advice wrapped in something that sounds VERY MUCH like “mind reading.” A way to demonstrate to them that you fully understand their issues. A way to show them that wherever they are, they will get better. MUCH better. All wrapped around very vague language that will resonate with them on a very deep level. So they can discover THEIR OWN meaning in your “advice.” This powerful communication strategy is INSANELY versatile. Sales, seduction, job interviews, whatever you got, this will work. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  10. Cause and effect is a very squirrely concept. One of the “proofs” that something is wrong is if it creates “causal chains.” Meaning if A causes B, and then B causes C, and then C causes A, that’s not possible according to basic physics. Contrary to movie science fiction, they use proofs like this to show that time travel is really impossible. It’s not allowed according to General Relativity. But even so, they STILL don’t quite understand “why” time moves forward. Time moving forward is HIGHLY connected to the idea of cause and effect. Since effects MUST come after causes. But even in our monkey brains, we often confuse the two. You’ve likely hear the familiar statement, “Correlation doesn’t imply causation.” The reason people say this so much is because we confuse the two so much. My alarm clock goes off at the same time the sun rises. They are highly correlated. But one doesn’t CAUSE the other. Somewhere, way back in our evolution, we were programmed with a “better safe than sorry” mechanism in our brain. So even if we are WRONG most of the time, it still was evolutionarily beneficial to ASSUME a cause-effect relationship. This is why the famous “because” study works. A lady was standing in line to make copies. She said let me cut in line. Everybody said, “no.” Then she gave a reason, and used the magic word “because.” Every time you throw in a “because” it makes the cause-effect circuits in our brain go nuts. She first said, “Please let me cut in line BECAUSE my car is parked in the red.” And most people said OK. But then she said, “Let me cut in line, BECAUSE I need to make copies.” People STILL let her cut in line. Being able to leverage cause and effect is a VERY POWERFUL mental magic trick. And when you combine this with the ability to read their body language, facial expressions, and their situation, you’ll seem like a WIZARD. You will KNOW what they are thinking. And you can show them that BECAUSE they are thinking that, they will have a FANTASTIC future. This will cement a couple of POWERFUL ideas in their mind. One is you have telepathic powers. Two is they’ll truly believe their future is going to be AWESOME. And three they’ll remember YOU forever. It takes a bit of practice to learn how to do this, but when you do it will be EXTREMELY powerful. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  11. There’s a lot of similar themes in movies. One common idea is when a couple has been together for a while. Either a relationship or a friendship. And one person says to the other, “I know you better than you know yourself.” This makes perfect sense. From inside our own heads, there is a swirl of subjectivity. But from an external, objective perspective, some things are pretty easy to see. One common example is if somebody is in a bad relationship. Everybody outside the relationship sees it as a trainwreck waiting to happen. But from inside the relationship, they think everything is perfect. Common human biases work the same way. We ALL have the same biases. But we can’t see them from inside our heads. We can see them in others. So on one level, it’s pretty easy to “know somebody more than they know themselves.” But you can take this to a completely deeper level. By understanding not only the structure of thought, but the structure of human perception. This starts inside your own mind. Then you can look at other people, first from an external, objective perspective. Then you can look inside their mind via your own sympathetic mental resonance. This is kind of strange when you first try it. But once you see humans from the model of “emotional resonance devices” it becomes pretty easy. And SPOOKY accurate. Within just a few minutes of meeting somebody, you can know EXACTLY what they are thinking. Even before you talk to them, but understanding their facial expressions and body language, you can get a very accurate idea of their thoughts. And when you express those thoughts in deliberately vague structure language, they’ll think you are telepathic. This can be used for party tricks, job interviews, and deepening relationships. It takes time to learn, understand, and practice. But you’ll find it’s one of the most powerful communication models in existence. One that very few people know about. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
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