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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec19Post.mp4 Once I was at a party with a bunch of friends. This was a long, long time ago. I don't know how it started, but we were huddled in a corner. Every time a girl walked by, one of my idiot friends would whisper a pick up line into my ear. I would say it, and the girl would look at me and laugh at how stupid the pick up line was. It morphed into a weird competition between my friends. With me as the unwitting point man. Since they were telling me what to say, it didn't seem nearly as terrifying as it would have been had I been alone. Imagine finding a list of the top 100 lamest pick up lines. And then standing on a street corner, going down the list and saying them to any pretty girl that walked by. If you were making a YouTube video, it would be pretty funny. If you were doing it for a laugh in front of your friends, it would be pretty funny. But all alone? No way! Meanwhile, back at the party. As adults like to say, it's all fun and games until somebody gets their eyes poked out. Or you get smacked in the face. I fell into a comfortable lull. My friends would whisper a pick up line, I'd say it, the girl would smirk, my friends would chuckle. It was pretty funny. Until I said something, I honestly don't remember what, the girl stopped, gave me a look and slapped me. It wasn't hard, angry slap. But it made my friends laugh really hard. Funny thing was I didn't even remember what I said. By that point in the evening, my brain and mouth was a mindless, unthinking repeater. Even worse, was that by that time, my friends realized they were safely behind ME as their shield. So they started coming up the most extreme, absolute LAMEST pick up lines ever. After all, if any of them offended anybody, I was the one getting slapped, not them. Even funnier is this is how most of us speak and think. We essentially copy ideas from other people, repeat them, without much thinking. With a little bit of thought, you can see how only AVERAGE and SAFE ideas get copied and pasted from brain to brain. Any dangerous ideas won't be repeated, for obvious reasons. But any ideas that work REALLY well won't tend to get repeated either, since people tend to keep the REALLY good stuff for themselves. This only leaves one option. Instead of being a mindless repeater of ideas, come up with your own. And when it comes to saying things that will make people FEEL REALLY GOOD, it's actually very easy. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec18Post.mp4 Nearly all humans have the same basic intentions. We want to operate within the world to get what we want and need. We want some kind of vocation that rewards us for our skills. Skills we can continue to learn. Skills we feel are an expression of our nature. The ideal rewards for these skills are not only money, but recognition. The ideal situation is to present your skills to the world. And have them recognized as skills few others have. And because of that, you get money and genuine validation and recognition. And when you go home at night, with a pocket full of cash and some fond memories in your brain, we like to imagine a positive future. A future when your skills will get better. A future when your income will become higher. A future when your validation and recognition will become greater. This is the human spirit. To dream of presenting valuable skills in exchange for valuable rewards. Sure, free money is nice. But free money inevitably ends in pain. This is why lottery winners, and children of the rich are generally not the happiest people around. But we all have doubts. We all have a horrible fear deep within. One few are courageous enough to face. A fear that we will try our best, we will present our skills to the world, and the world will glance in our direction, and say, "no thanks." That we'll present our skills and somebody will say, "We don't want that." This twin energy pairs live in everybody's brain. In everybody's soul. The angel of success. Of trading skills for increasing success, recognition and admiration. The demon of failure. Of present skills and being told to take a hike. Knowing this gives you an advantage. Just strolling through a social environment, you can glance around at all the people. And see these twins battling for their soul on daily basis. With this knowledge, and only a few words, you can make them feel much better. So much better, they'll remember YOU forever. As being the turning point in their lives. The one stranger who uttered that one strange sounding collection of words. That resonated in their minds for days, weeks, months. We all have fears, we all have hopes, we all have dreams. We are all always on the precipice of success or failure. Every single person whose paths you cross can be tilted slightly away from failure, and toward success. Simply by learning a few structures of language and thought, you can become a real super hero. Not a pretend super hero with pretend powers. But a real super hero of language. A genuine wizard of thought. A gift that you can give to anybody, that will resonate in their brains. Learn this skill, and be remembered. Be valued. Be appreciated, loved, and cherished. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec16Post.mp4 Once of the main features of us humans is the ability to hallucinate. Every single thing that exists was once an imagination. Granted, most things came into being as being slight changes from what already existed. Even when humans invented fire to use for hunting, they probably copied it from nature. And then changed it slightly. Perhaps it all started when an ancient group of cave people saw some lighting hit a tree in the distance. Then the fire started. Then the animals in the forest started running away from the fire. Even though this likely happened more than two million years ago, that seed was planted. Ancient proto-humans started to imagine how they could replicate what they saw in nature. If they could create fire, they could get food more easily. This led to men dreaming of what MIGHT be. Over the next two million years, our brains tripled in size. Today, we still have that dreaming capability. To look out into the world, and imagine what things MIGHT be. Nearly all of these imaginations are based around our most important instincts. Social instincts, food instincts, sex instincts, safety instincts. And since money can pretty much buy everything EXCEPT our social and sex instincts, those three things make up the bulk of our dreaming energy. How to get more money. How to get more fame. How to get more sex. And as we are programmed to find the EASIEST way to get the MOST sex, often, these dreams involve MAGIC of some kind. Magic ways to get money. Magic ways to get fame. Magic ways to get sex. However, these dreams of magical techniques, (which make up quite a bit of fiction) are MOTIVATIONAL. The are meant to DRIVE US. For example, before we invented chemistry, we believed in ALCHEMY. Of turning dirt into gold. This imagination, of turning dirt into gold, drove us to discover chemistry, science, and everything in between. Similarly, most people have an imagination of magic words. Of saying magic words to people to get them to do things. Magic words to get them to give you money. Magic words to get them to crave sex with you. These are short term desires. If there actually WERE magic words, it would be hard to use them without others copying them. If there actually WERE magic words, once you said them, and they created their outcome, nobody would really remember anything. There is, however, a certain kind of communication. A certain kind of behavior. That will make them think about you much differently than they think about everybody else. Which will create much better, much more longer term results. Kind of how science and chemistry has created our modern world. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec15Post.mp4 People can, and are, trained just like animals. We have a built in learning system, which is based on the same learning that is built into lower animals. The famous "anchoring" process from NLP is a perfect example. It's based on Pavlov's famous dog experiments. Scientist had a dog. He brought the food, and the dog salivated. He brought the food, and rang a bell, and the dog salivated. He rang the bell WITH the food a few times. Then he ONLY rang the bell, and the dog salivated. He essentially "trained" the dog to salivated at the sound of a bell. Our human learning system works the same way. We learn things by association. When you learn to play an instrument, for example, you learn to associate correct finger movements with pleasing sounds. And incorrect finger movements with un-pleasing sounds. For Pavlov, he only associated ONE external thing with ONE pleasing thing. The bell and the idea of eating. For learning something, we connect GOOD feelings to the things we want to learn. And we connect BAD feelings to the things we want to NOT learn, or UN-learn. If we point ourselves in the direction a large collection of skills, like being fluent in a musical instrument, these bad results (bad notes) and good results (good notes) will slowly GUIDE our behavior toward higher and higher skill levels. This happens consciously, when we can direct our own behaviors. This happens unconsciously, when we "model" behaviors from others. But it also happens the way we ACT around others. If you behave in a certain "bad way" around others, they will slowly and UNCONSCIOUSLY associate those "bad" behaviors with YOU. For example, if you are always nervous, and shifty, and say weird things, people will naturally want to avoid you. They often will not know why. They'll just say things like, "that guy gives me the creeps." Most of the way we train each other happens unconsciously. This is why it's hard to consciously CREATE things that are normally unconscious, like emotional and sexual attraction. There is, however, a kind of hack. A way that leverages THEIR thinking about you. It's actually pretty simple. But it IS a long game strategy. It requires that you accept they will create positive feelings about YOU when you are NOT around. Which means they will be thinking about you. In a positive way. This will NEVER, EVER happen if you talk to them TOO LONG. Beyond the point of maximum positive feelings. The "trick," is to QUICKLY create very positive feelings in them, and then SPLIT. Do this over several interactions, and THEY will subconsciously build up positive feelings about YOU. Just as automatically as Pavlov was "trained" to salivate at the sound of the bell. They will be "trained' to salivate at the THOUGHT of you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec14Post.mp4 Humans have a collection of deep instincts, and conscious desires. The deep instincts operate more or less subconsciously. Our conscious desires are kind of how those are represented up on the surface. You don't have to remember to get hungry. If you don't eat, that will happen automatically. But it's up to you and your conscious brain to figure out HOW to satisfy that desire. For something simple like eating, the transition from subconscious instinct, to conscious desire, to action, to satisfaction happens pretty automatically. To the extent ALL our subconscious instincts can go through this process, life is pretty good. Our basic instincts are pretty simple. We need food. We need to stay within a certain temperature range. We need emotional acceptance from others. We need to do things, and get recognition for our efforts. We need sex. Take away any of these for long, and life can get lonely, frustrating, and difficult. But within these deep needs is also a possible way to satisfy those needs. Since most people will never be hungry and NOT know how to fix that, we can focus on the rest. It turns out that if you satisfy ONE of those needs, it can trigger all the rest. The more recognition you get from others, for doing things that they value, the more of other things you'll get. Namely, sexual and emotional intimacy, as well as respect and admiration from your social group. You get all these satisfied, you've got it made. So, how do you do that, specifically? The first step is to get a bunch of memories in your brain that says people like and appreciate you. Most people don't have that. Most people have a mix of fear and apprehension. So when they walk into work, a social situation or an unknown crowd, there's a mix of anticipation and anxiety. But with a long memory of people looking at you with admiration and respect, you'll soon learn to EXPECT that. Not from any false memories, but from real experiences. The money question, of course, is do you CREATE those real experiences. How do you interact with people so they will look at you with admiration and respect? Even better, how do you interact with people so when you leave, they look at you with admiration, respect and an obvious desire for you to hang around longer? So you build up a strong positive memory that says people WANT you around. People want you to STAY around. You do that by accurately pacing the things YOU KNOW exist in the brain. And accept and validate those things. This is the true secret. Figure out what YOU want most from others. And then give THAT to others first. Do that, and you will want for nothing. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec13Post.mp4 Some jokes are funny and hit you very quickly. These are the playground joked we've all heard as kids. Short riddles, that have something called a "phonetic ambiguity" in the answer. What did the beach say when the tide came in? Long time no sea/long time no see. These are best when heard, and not read. Since you hear the two meanings at once. It takes very little brain energy to understand the joke. This is why they are considered "cute" and more for kids. If you tried to tell this joke at a party hoping to impress a bunch of investors, it would not work. There are some jokes that are a little more stretched out. The kind that take a little bit more brain power to understand. Still based on a kind of linguistic ambiguity. Like the famous Groucho Marx joke: Last night I shot an elephant in my pajamas. How he got into my pajamas I'll never know. Because the joke requires you go back in time slightly and recalibrate your understanding of the phrase, "in my pajamas," it's a slightly more "grownup" kind of humor. Much longer jokes are based on a continuous "funny feeling" in your brain. Well written comedies, for example, have a kind of low level comedy energy throughout. This is very hard to do. For every one comedy that keeps you in stitches, there are many more that are pretty lame. You can do the same thing with compliments. You can use the easy to think, easy to say, and easy to understand compliments. These are the kind that pretty much everybody uses. Nice shoes. Wow, you're really pretty! You have gorgeous eyes! But you can also give compliments just like you can give humor. Humor is for anybody within earshot. Compliments are directed at somebody. So the more effort you make in your compliment, the more they'll resonate in your target. The more personal your compliments are, the more they'll feel them on a much deeper level. These types of compliments can't be memorized. But they also send a much more powerful message to the receiver. That you see BEYOND what everybody else sees. Everybody can easily see, and appreciate their eyes, shoes, etc. But few are willing to take the time to really SEE them. The more effort you put in to noticing something about them, the more they'll appreciate you. Even better if you see something that falls under three important categories. One, is it is something they LIKE about themselves. Two, it is something nobody else has noticed. Three, it is something that makes them unique in some way. Hit all three, and they will NEVER forget you. Ever. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec12Post.mp4 Sun Tzu said if you know your enemy like yourself, 1000 battles will get you 1000 victories. This, however, has an idea built inside of it. And that is the idea of knowing yourself. Most people don't. Most of us have tons of biases. These biases are not bad. Nobody is broken. Perhaps it's a leftover instinct from the harsh days of hunters and gatherers. Back then, it would be a benefit to externalize a lot. Since our environment was animals that were trying to kill us, and that we were trying to kill. It made perfect sense under this environment to push ALL problems out to those animals. Even in Sun Tzu's day, when battles were much more up front and personal, and ever present. The idea of knowing yourselves back then was more of a strategic idea. Strengths, weaknesses, etc. How many horses, weapons, shields etc. Today, knowing yourself is much more about your internal emotional strengths and weaknesses. This is much, much more difficult than knowing how many spears and shields you've got. But it's also much, much more powerful. Sun Tzu said that knowing your enemy like yourself will yield a "victory." A binary result, win or loss. In modern society, it's much more complicated. Many more variables. Much more confusion. Which is why knowing yourself is much, much more important. The reason was explained over the Oracle at Delphi. "Man, know thyself, and you shall know the gods." The gods are just like us. Everybody is just like us. So the more you know yourself, the more you'll know EVERYBODY. The more you know yourself, the more you'll know EVERYTHING about EVERYBODY. Which will make everything much, much easier. Most people lead with their own desires. They talk about what they want. They talk about what they need. They talk about what other people "should" give them. With everybody talking and acting and thinking like this, it creates a lot of conflict. But if you take the time to understand your own emotions and meta emotions, you will know theirs. Most are very easy to read by glancing at their body language and their surroundings. That way, you can approach them, pace them, and let them know that YOU truly understand them. This, of course, will very much impress them. Which will make you stand out. And this will leverage the very powerful law of RECIPROCITY. They will feel compelled, subconsciously, to help you. In any way you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec10Post.mp4 There's a pretty cool technique from covert hypnosis. It's called "blurred realities." It's when you are quoting somebody, but it's not clear who. This can create a sense of confusion. Confusion is kind of like taking up brain processor resources, so you can slip ideas into their brain more easily. For example, if you walked up to a really cute girl and said: "I think you're pretty. I think you should give me your phone number." It would be absolutely clear what was going on. Saying that directly, unless you were super confident, would make you nervous. Hearing that directly, unless SHE was super confident, would make her nervous. Nervousness tends to HEIGHTEN the conscious critic. On the other hand, supposed you walked up and said this: "Hi, you remind me of my brother's wife. When they meet he walked right up, looked her in the eye and said, you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, I think we should be together." This is also referred to as the "quotes pattern." It allows you to say some blatant things to people with absolute plausible deniability. Another way to use the blurred reality is to tell a bunch of stories within a bunch of stories. And inside one of the nested stories, one character is talking to another character. But the things that character says to the other character also hold true other stories around that middle story. They also can work between the story teller and the story listener. This will give the listeners are very slippery feeling their brain. It is a very real, very unexpected, and very fuzzy hypnotic effect. And it will make you, the storyteller, seemingly capable of real magic. But there's also another way to use the blurred reality technique. Start to talk about your own abstract feelings and emotions. Not just the direct emotions, but emotions about emotions, and judgments about emotions. This takes some courage, since you'll need to look inside and explore your own emotions. But here's the cool part. We ALL, more or less, have those same emotions and meta emotions. So when you talk about your own emotions, you can apply the blurred reality technique. By deliberately using your pronouns in a specific way, even though YOU are talking about, and referencing YOUR OWN inner emotions, the other person will start to believe you are reading their minds. Which will make you seem like a much more powerful wizard. A mind reading wizard. Something most people only believe exist in movies and comic books. But there you are. In the flesh, performing real magic. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec09Post.mp4 Understanding economics is critical. But it also pretty much sucks. That's why it's called the "dismal science." When we are children, we can get away with believing in magic. We don't have to worry about how much stuff costs. But once we have to get out in the world and get it done, we are forced to face the idea of costs. If you only have ten bucks in your pocket, there's only so much you can buy. If you only have an hour, there's only so much you can do. This is true socially as well. We would all love having super rich, super gorgeous partners. But here's the part most people don't like to think about. Those super gorgeous, super rich people have TONS of options. If you are a guy, and you're trying to get a really beautiful woman to fall in love with you, you ARE going to have your work cut out for you. Because you have plenty of competition. And that super gorgeous girl has TONS of dudes all clamoring for her attention. If you approach her like all the other drooling dudes, with the same strategy as all the other drooling dudes, how, SPECIFICALLY will you make yourself stand out? This goes for the ladies as well. How SPECIFICALLY will you make yourself stand out among all the competition for Mr. Handsome Rich Guy? If you still have a little bit of kid in your, you'll rely on the "I'm special" idea. The HE or SHE will see ME and notice that "special thing" about me, and THAT is what will make THEM fall in love with me. The problem with this theory is it is very common. Pretty much EVERYBODY has that "I'm special" strategy. That if only the rest of the people on planet Earth will notice how SPECIAL we are, THEN they would "give us" all the good stuff. This is great if you are kid watching cartoons, but as an adult in the real world, you need a better strategy. Luckily, some famous or smart person once said that "within every problem, are the seeds to a solution." What, exactly does that mean for us, Dear Reader? Because that super gorgeous lady or that super handsome man ALSO have the "I'm special" idea. So when you forget about getting them to notice YOU because of your "specialness" why not notice THEM because of THEIR specialness? Of course, you must go BEYOND what normal people do. And look BENEATH the surface. This is very, very easy when you know how. And it WILL make you stand out. Not because of your ideas. But because of you're behavior. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec08Post.mp4 Linguistic presuppositions can be a very, very powerful weapon. But as they are almost always used subconsciously, and defensively. Kind of like we tend to favor injured parts of our body. For example, if you've got a sore left elbow, you'll tend to keep it close. It's instinctive and protective. You don't want it exposed. Similarly, we have tons of ideas we like. But we wouldn't really feel comfortable defending them logically. This is why using the meta model can get you in a lot of trouble, very, very quickly. The meta model can target with laser like precision the ideas we have in our brains. Ideas we don't want to discuss out in the open. The meta model is NOT a party skill. But linguistic presuppositions CAN be. But only if used consciously and positively. For example, consider the one called, "subordinate clause of time." Suppose you and your spouse were going out to get dinner. And you would LIKE to go to restaurant X. But you're kind of afraid that if you make that a conscious choice, they might disagree. So you'd very much like to slide the idea of going to restaurant X into an otherwise normal conversation. And you do so by putting the focus on something ELSE in that same sentence. Say, for example, your spouse or partner wants to see a certain movie. And seeing that movie is not such big deal for you. But it's a big deal for them. So you say: "Hey, after we have dinner at restaurant X, how about we go see movie Y?" The having dinner at restaurant X is presupposed. Assumed be true. Using the "subordinate clause of time" pattern. And the focus is on movie Y. Hopefully, they won't argue against restaurant X. On the other hand, if you said, "Hey do you want to go to restaurant X, and then go watch movie Y?" That invites them to change either choice, if they feel like it. There are plenty of ways to positively use presuppositions. For example, say your buddy is eyeing a cute girl across the room. You COULD say: "Hey, why don't you go talk to her?" Or you COULD say: "Hey, IF you go and talk to her, I'll buy you a beer." Or you could be clever and presuppose it's going to happen. Look at him, look at her, look at your watch and say: "Hey, we need to get there before happy hour ends. AFTER you go talk to her, I'll buy the first round. Let's get going." Not only are there plenty of presuppositions (about twenty) but there are TONS of way to PRESUPPOSE good things about other people. Most people give blatant compliments. But when you presuppose compliments, and hide them inside sentences, they'll leave their mind spinning. And when you use them as a "hit and run" technique, they'll have a positive feeling in their brain. And they'll wonder who YOU are. To Learn how, visit: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec07Post.mp4 A common idea in psychology is separation anxiety. This idea can be very helpful. People who tend more toward metaphysics see this as source of all human pain. Intuitively, we feel a lack of connection. Once upon a time, according to the metaphysicians, we were once a kind of universal consciousness. And since we think we are separate entities, in this physical body, we feel separated. We can't remember what it was like to feel our original connection to one another. This idea pops up a lot in self help. And it does make a bit of sense. When you approach a stranger, if see them through a frame of "separateness" that will increase your anxiety. That if you approach them as a friend, you will feel much more open, make a much stronger connection, and have a much better chance of getting whatever it is you are after. On the other hand, while this advice sounds good, it's kind of hard to apply. It's like telling people to "just" NOT be afraid. Or telling people it's easy to lose weight, because all you need to do is be hungry and NOT eat. This is essentially the problem with most self help ideas. The ideas SOUND fantastic, but only from a metaphorical, theoretical side. If you go to a seminar, and listen to some guru go on and on about how we really are all connected, it SOUNDS fantastic. But how, specifically, are you supposed to apply that when you want to walk across the room and attempt to seduce the most gorgeous girl in the place? Once upon a time a guy went to a seminar. It was three days of fantastic preaching about universal love and inter-connectedness. When he left he was in the best mood ever. He thought, since he was now, "enlightened," everything would be smooth sailing. Then he got bit by a dog. He went back and complained to the seminar guru. "If I was enlightened, why'd the dog bite me? Aren't we all connected?" he demanded. The seminar guru responded: "Yes, you are enlightened, you are connected to everything. But the dog didn't know that." Just making assumptions about our inter-connectedness won't do much. What will do something? Actually finding EVIDENCE of our inter-connectedness. Sharing that evidence with others. It's much easier than most people realize. With a little bit of practice, you can learn to read what people are thinking just by their body language. And when you casually mention that, what's going on in their mind, THEY will feel a strong connection. With YOU. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec06Post.mp4 A very powerful law of influence, which operates outside of conscious awareness, is commitment and consistency. This is the psychology behind sales funnels. This is why it's hard to change your mind once you've stated your opinion publicly. One reason why this law is so powerful is it conserves thinking. Our brains are very powerful, but they are huge energy hogs. We don't like to think if we don't have to. This is why doing things that are familiar are so comfortable. If you had a choice between riding your bicycle up and over a huge hill, or riding around that same hill, most normal people would ride around the hill. Riding around the hill would take less energy, and therefore be more pleasant, than riding up and over the hill. When we go out to eat, for example, we tend to stick to familiar choices. Going to a new restaurant, and looking over a new menu, and taking a risk on a new dish, would be like riding over a huge hill. That takes a lot of mental energy. On the other hand, ordering something you KNOW is going to taste good takes very little energy. So, we tend to choose the mentally easier choice. Especially if the MAIN reason for going out to eat is to enjoy some friendly conversations with friends. If you go somewhere new, that would take energy away from your pleasant conversations. This is also why we are much more reserved around strangers. We have to be careful what we say and how we act. If you reveal too much too quickly, you might kill any chances of a happy friendship or romantic relationship. Since knowing what and when to reveal things is mostly a conscious process, it is very brain intensive. So talking to new people is like riding over a huge hill. Hanging out with friends is like riding around and enjoying the view. Imagine if you met somebody who did ALL the work. They did all the talking. They somehow knew you. They knew the REAL you. Not only did they know the REAL you, but they accepted the real you. They appreciated the real you. And they did all this in a way that required very LITTLE of your brain energy. And they made it very clear they DID NOT want nor expect anything from you. They weren't trying to get you to join their MLM group or get you to join their cult. They were just being friendly. How would you feel about that person? More importantly, how can you BE that person? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec05Post.mp4 I had this crazy nightmare once. I told my friend about it, but then I forgot. Later, he told me a story that matched my nightmare perfectly. He knew that I'd forgotten. As he was explaining it, he phrased it as if it was something that was about to happen. For a while, I was freaked out. I thought I was trapped in some kind of inter-dimensional rift. Finally I told him that what he'd just described was exactly like a dream I'd had. I thought maybe I'd tapped into some time travel, telepathic, future prediction dream technique. He started laughing and told me what had happened. That he was essentially telling me what I'd told him a couple weeks ago, but forgot. While he was telling me, it was like reality had broken. After he told me that I'd told him before, and forgot, I felt like an idiot. He, of course, thought it was pretty funny. And it was. After I got over my fear of the universe being broken, I thought it was pretty funny as well. The reason it was a horrifying experience for me was because the dream itself had been about magnificent death and destruction. Had the dream been about rock star sex parties, it would have been a much, much more enjoyable experience. This is EXACTLY why people love going to see psychics. We all have the same basic fears and desires. But since most of us rarely take time to look at these in detail, they live very vaguely in our subconscious. But with a little bit of practice, you can learn to "read" people's fears and desires. Describe their future in terms of these deep dreams. Of course, how you do this will have a HUGE impact on how they feel about you. If you deliver these readings as common things we all share, they won't have much of an impact. But if you deliver them as if you are noticing something very unique about them, they will be FASCINATED. Fascinated in your ability to read them to accurately. Fascinated that you've discovered their unique dreams. This will make them feel very good. Better than they have in a long, long time. Perhaps the best they've felt in their adult lives. If you deliver these correctly, they will associate this good feeling with you. Which, of course, you can leverage however you like. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/cold-reading/
  14. Symphonies have a much richer sound that single instruments. Single instruments can product a rhythm, or a melody, or a chord progression. But most can only do one at a time. Some instruments are more capable than others. On a piano, for example, you can play chords with your left hand, and melodies with your right. But most instruments can only play one note at once. The best violinist can only play single notes at a time. Compared to a quartet, which could play a much deeper and richer sound. People are like instruments. And we can be either single note instruments, or entire orchestras. When we communicate with each other only on a superficial, surface level, it’s like two kids whistling at each other. When we communicate on a deep and complete level, it’s like an entire orchestra. But this is where the metaphor breaks down. Music is a one way street. It comes FROM the instruments and goes TO our ears. Even so, it can be indescribably beautiful. Imagine what two people communicating on all levels can do. This takes a lot of courage. Because in order to send and receive on all levels, you have to be able to accept and appreciate yourself on all levels. But once you can do that, something extraordinary will happen. Like an orchestra, you’ll be able to SEND on all levels. Most will only be able to pick it up subconsciously. But you will seem to be MUCH DIFFERENT than anybody else. The flip side is also the case. You’ll be able to RECEIVE on all levels as well. Meaning you’ll be able to understand people on a level that nobody else can understand them. And since you’ll be able to receive as well as send, this will give you incredible insights. This is the kind of perception that seems “extra-sensory.” But that is kind of a misnomer. Since all things can ONLY go through your regular senses. But since the things you’ll be capable of sending and receiving through those same five senses, it won’t really be “extra sensory.” It will only be perceived as such. And since this is primarily based on how well you are open to YOUR OWN levels of being, you can practice and enhance this skill whenever you want. Safely in your own home, in your own brain. Until you’re ready. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  15. If you’ve ever learned an instrument, perhaps you’ve had the following experience. You learned a song, and had it partially memorized. But sometimes when you practiced, simply by noticing your fingers, you messed up. Or perhaps you learned something like juggling. There are times when your conscious brain is turned off, and everything seems to “flow.” But as soon as you start to “notice” what you are doing, you mess stuff up. Sports psychologists study this idea of the flow state. The more skilled you become, the more effective this flow state is. Since most of us aren’t world class anything, we only experience “normal-people” flow states. Essentially, this is the level of “unconscious competence.” When we can do something effectively WITHOUT thinking. World class athletes, musicians, artists, they experience very high levels of flow state. This is why people often describe watching professional athletes as “poetry in motion.” At the same time we KNOW they are doing something WAY ABOVE a normal human skill level, but they are also doing it at the level of unconscious competence. Most of the things we normally do are at this level. Walking, talking, simple things like cooking and driving. However, when we communicate with unfamiliar people, that “messing stuff up by watching it with our conscious minds” happens. This is when we are struggling to think of what to say. This is why the advice of “be yourself” actually IS good advice. It basically means to speak like you would to your best buddy. Without any restriction or worry. To speak unconsciously like you normally do. There are two ways to do this. One takes a lot of practice. One is pretty simple. The first way is to simply practice talking to SO MANY people that you get used to talking to strangers. So talking to strangers becomes something you are unconsciously competent at. The second way is MUCH better. It is based on the idea the underneath all the surface structure stuff, we are THE SAME underneath. So when you talk to them, on that deep level, you are really talking to and about yourself. This can seem strange at first. But it’s much easier to practice. Since you can practice all alone. And when you switch your pronouns around, and use some hypnotic language, the other person will see you as somebody with profound insight. Deep understanding of the human condition. Somebody that REALLY “gets it.” This, of course, will make a life long, lasting impression on them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  16. Humans existed a very long time before language was invented. We send a ton of information subconsciously. Less than 10% of our communication is the actual words we use. Most of our communication, even with people we don’t know, is non verbal. One of the main problems of being a human today is the technology of society (and society itself) evolves WAY faster than human nature. Because the world we live in is SO chaotic, it’s very hard to notice the MASSIVE amount of non-verbal signals. There is one “class” of people who are EXPERT body language readers. Even though these people have regular jobs, and a lot of importance, they are MUCH BETTER at reading body language than everybody else. In fact, the BULK of their success depends on it. Who are they? Not cops. Not CIA agents. Not poker players. But Secret Service agents. Plenty of studies demonstrate this. And it makes perfect sense. Their job rests on their ability to scan a crowd and pick up small, non-verbal “tells” that indicate danger. It’s much more complicated than the movies, where they have to wait until they SEE a gun, and then shout, “Gun!” If they showed the way they REALLY operate in the movies, it would be REALLY boring. Since they notice things nobody else does. Which means the people in the movie theater wouldn’t notice. This is a GREAT WAY to practice cold reading. Sit some place with a lot of people. Watch people as much as you can, without drawing attention to yourself. Pick somebody close by, and put them in your peripheral vision. Then start to “free note.” This is when you write as QUICKLY as you can, without pausing to even think about the words or the grammar. The idea is to RE-TRAIN your natural ability to “pick up” as much information from others as possible. Practice this enough, and you’ll be able to “read people” like an expert. Even BETTER than secret service. The secret service are HYPER-SENSITIVE to threats. But they ignore everything else. Train yourself so you can pick up a little bit of EVERYTHING. Then if you decide to talk to anybody, you’ll have an EXTREMELY accurate idea of not only their state of mind, but what they are thinking. If you deliver this through vague, hypnotic language, you’ll be perceived as having super powers of perception. But it will REALLY be “re-discovered” powers of perception. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  17. The first level of persuasion is the features and benefits level. This is when you memorize as many “reasons” why your idea should be accepted by them. It’s almost like a performance. You need to be articulate, charismatic, and strong willed. To the extent that enough of your ideas sound good to them, they’ll accept them. The more charismatic you are, the more effective this will be. The more attractive you are (halo effect) the easier this will be. The second level is when you ASK them what they want. Turn off your own brain for a minute, and expand THEIR desires as much as possible. Then carefully take THEIR desires and covertly “rearrange” them so they match what YOU would like them to do. This is the Dale Carnegie strategy. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was their idea. This is EXTREMELY effective. No charisma required. No halo effect required. No memorized list of features and benefits required. You DO have to develop enough rapport for them to TRUST YOU with their deep desires. This is the tough part. You can’t just walk up to a stranger and expect them to start spilling their guts. That's where the THIRD level of persuasion comes in. It combines the BEST of both parts. You do all the talking, so they don’t have to. But you already KNOW the things they want. You already KNOW their deep desires. So when you describe YOUR ideas in the terms of THEIR deep desires, something pretty cool will happen. One, they’ll naturally go along with whatever you want them to. Two, they’ll be ASTOUNDED that you, somebody they just met, knows SO MUCH about them. How is this possible? By first going inside your own mind. And drilling down beneath the surface structure ideas that make us SEEM separate from one another. And getting to that DEEP LEVEL where we are all very similar. When you speak to them on THIS level, it will FEEL familiar. This will give them a wonderful mix of emotions. One, they will FEEL that you KNOW them. Two, they’ll recognize they just met you. Those two mixed together will add up to a belief in your telepathic skills. Or at the very least your DEEP UNDERSTANDING of them as individuals. So even if you don’t persuade them to do anything, even if you just MENTION a few deep truths about them, they’ll NEVER forget you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  18. There’s an ancient saying that we all have three faces. The face we show to the world. The face we show to ourselves. And then our real face. Our real face is hidden from us by ourselves. One of the ways this stays hidden is through the common idea of “projection.” It’s very difficult to accept all of our shortcomings and problems. It’s much easier to point out those same problems in others. It keeps us from looking inward. If you CAN manage to look inward (very scary!) and accept yourself, you can gain MASSIVE amounts of peace. Just for the sake of argument, assume that EVERYBODY in the world that bothers you only does so because they remind you of YOU on some level. And the more you accept ALL parts of you, the less “those people” out in the world will bother you. There is another VERY POWERFUL result from looking inward and accepting all of the parts of you. And that is you’ll recognize that all the other people in the world have the SAME parts. Human nature is ubiquitous. There aren’t some humans that are “one way” and another set of humans that are “another way.” Within each chest, they say, beats the same heart. This is the secret to TRULY connecting with others. By FIRST going inside and connecting with yourself. Since most people are terrified of doing this, it makes it almost IMPOSSIBLE to truly connect with others. Without going inside, there is always going to be a barrier between you and everybody else. But when you go inside, and accept all parts of you, you will naturally and easily connect with others. But from THEIR perspective, you will seem INCREDIBLY unique. Open, insightful, even psychic. Since you will KNOW more about them than they know about themselves. Even before you even speak to them. This will make people crave your presence. This is both easy and difficult. Easy because you can build this “connect-ability” all on your own. Difficult because you’ve got to dig into your mind, your emotions, and fully embrace EVERYTING about you. This takes some time and some journaling. But if you take the time, you will such powerful powers of deep connection people will truly believe you can read their minds. Because in a sense, you will be able to. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  19. There are a lot of interesting similarities between cultures. For example, in Japanese, the symbol for Sunday is of the Sun. The symbol for Monday is of the moon. These are the same roots of the words in English (sun= Sunday, moon = Monday). Also in both ancient European and Chinese mythology there is the idea of a dragon. Why a dragon? Both cultures came across these reptiles that slithered around. They were tiny, but their bite (which felt like fire) could kill you. Since they didn’t know about chemistry or biology or poison, they both likely came up with the same basic idea. These “evil” reptilian things were powered by some black magic. So when they made their way into stories, they could fly around and breathe fire. Joseph Campbell had to figure out WHY all cultures have the same basic structure their mythology. The same structure that is in most blockbuster movies. Logic says there can only be TWO answers. One is that there is ONE source that everybody copied from. The other is that the “outside” stories represent very similar “internal” thinking structures. Chomsky figured the same thing. His ideas was the all humans speak the SAME language. Only different dialects. Every language has verbs, nouns, adverbs, adjectives, etc. But for some reason, we all think we are different. We all are programmed, perhaps by our ego, to think OUR own thoughts and fears and hopes are somehow unique to us. And since we RARELY discuss things in great detail, it’s very easy to believe that. Therein lines the secret to “cold reading.” Of seeing people and being able to read their body language, facial expressions, and the situation they are in. By doing some digging into your own brain, it’s VERY EASY to “guess” EXACTLY what they are thinking. Not only what they want, but what they are worried about. When you can communicate those deep truths using some hypnotic language patterns, you will be perceived as being INSANELY insightful. Or if you like, you really can convince people you have powers of telepathy. This makes communication with ANYBODY very easy. Because even if you don’t want to use any cold reading patterns, by knowing EXACTLY what’s going on inside their minds, you’ll know EXACTLY what to say. To create ANY emotion in them you like. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  20. One of the most animated conversations I’ve ever had was with a deaf girl on the streets of Bangkok. She was working at a stall selling souvenirs, and we were haggling over the price of something. It’s one thing trying to communicate with somebody who doesn’t speak your language. It’s something else to speak to somebody’s who’s deaf in another language. Strangely enough, talking to her was much EASIER than trying to communicate with another non-English speaking Thai. When you are used to using words to communicate, and you suddenly don’t have any words (e.g. you are trying to talk to somebody in a different language) it’s pretty difficult. But this woman was INCREDIBLY articulate. She knew how to use the precise facial expressions (exaggerated, of course, since we were haggling over price) gestures, etc. It was, without question, one of the more memorable interactions I’ve ever had. She’d type a number in the calculator, show it to me, and I’d go through all kinds of theatrics trying to get her to come down in price. Then she’d type in a number into the calculator, and do the same, trying to get me to come up in price. With only gestures and facial expressions, she was able to convey what you’d expect from a street vendor. I’ve got a family to feed, I have to make a little profit, I’m really giving you a better deal than I’m giving everybody else because I like you, etc. Because she was a much more advanced haggler, the price we agreed upon was much closer to HER price than MY price. We humans have ideas inside our heads. And we struggle to put words to those ideas. And we hear ideas from other, that they also struggle to put words to. Using words, which we imagine to be precise and accurate, it actually makes it VERY DIFFICULT to get ideas out of our heads and into their heads. Using ONLY WORDS, it’s very difficult to understand the ideas in their heads if we ONLY pay attention to their words. Which is why when you FORGET about the words, and pay attention to body language, non-verbal energy and the situation, you’ll gain TONS more information than words can ever express. This takes time and practice. But once you get to THIS level of communication, you can identify deep thought structures and patterns that they themselves would have trouble describing. This will make YOU stand out in their mind for a LONG TIME. Just like I still remember that girl from Bangkok. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  21. Humans love to be deceived. We pay tons of money to see movies. The movies are people that we KNOW are actors, pretending to be people we KNOW are made up. Even the term, “movie” is not correct. It’s shortened from the old school term, “moving pictures.” (Not to be confused with the Rush album of the same name...) But the pictures DON’T move. It’s a mis-perception. Most of what we THINK is happening around isn’t. Most of the ideas we make up inside our heads about the world around us is INFERRED. This means we take a small slice of actual data, and use that to extrapolate the rest. The only color we REALLY see is at the very center of our focus. Looking at our eye-brain-visual system, everything in our peripheral vision is black and white. We only INFER the colors. If you’ve ever enjoyed watching somebody do magic “tricks,” this is another example of how we ENJOY deception. All magic is based on sleight of hand. All sleight of hand is based on deception. They trick us to look one way, when the do the “magic” the other way. We absolutely LOVE movies like “Inception” and “Sixth Sense.” Where we don’t quite “get” the ending and WANT to watch it again to see exactly HOW we were “fooled.” Of course, there is good trickery and bad trickery. Bad trickery is when you take advantage of other people. Sell somebody a bag of potatoes when it’s really a bag of rocks. Sell them a bottle of magic potion that cures what ails them, only to find it’s colored water. But deception that makes us feel GOOD is fantastic. The entire “story instinct” that the rich storytelling part of EVERY CULTURE is based on is proof of this. We tell each other made up stories about made up people. So we can EMULATE those made up people when we need to. So we can experience REAL EMOTIONS based on the adventures of those made up people. You can think of “cold reading” as a mix of a wonderful magic trick with a wonderful story. To reach into their minds, and through your understanding of human nature and human thought, tell them a wonderful STORY about them. About how THEY will become the hero of their lives. And it will FEEL like magic to them because of the way you deliver it. Just like a skilled magician. And a skilled storyteller. All wrapped up into one. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  22. If you were walking through the forest, and you gotten eaten by wolves, nobody would blame the wolves. None of your friends would go hunting in the forest to get revenge on the wolves for eating you. They would all wonder why you were silly enough to wander alone and unarmed into wolf territory. If you saw a beehive, and decided to steal the honey, and got stung all the way into the hospital, none of your friends would want to take revenge on the bees. They would all wonder why you were so foolish to stick your hand into a beehive. If you were walking down the street and smelled some delicious barbecue, it wouldn’t be a good idea to waltz into somebody else’s backyard and help yourself. Especially in a place like Texas where you might get shot. The idea of respecting somebody else’s “territory” is a deeply instinctive idea, shared by many creatures besides humans. It’s even one of the best scenes from “Breaking Bad.” When Walter White, the protagonist, walks up to the (much bigger) rival in the parking lot and says: “Stay out of my territory.” Yet we violate this all the time when it comes to giving other people unasked for advice. There they are, sitting and contemplating a problem. Their brain, their thoughts. And we walk up and think we have the right to shove OUR THOUGHTS into THEIR HEAD. Nobody, (and this means nobody) LIKES unasked for advice. What we PRESUPPOSE when we give unasked for advice is this: “The thoughts in your brain are clearly NOT sufficient to solve YOUR problem. The thoughts in MY head are BETTER than the thoughts in YOUR head to solve YOUR problem.” The paradox is that at the same time, we have an objective view of their problem. We are not locked into their subjective understanding. Many people see therapists and talk to bartenders about their problems BECAUSE getting an objective third person perspective is VERY HELPFUL. There is, however, a VERY POWERFUL way to deliver advice wrapped in something that sounds VERY MUCH like “mind reading.” A way to demonstrate to them that you fully understand their issues. A way to show them that wherever they are, they will get better. MUCH better. All wrapped around very vague language that will resonate with them on a very deep level. So they can discover THEIR OWN meaning in your “advice.” This powerful communication strategy is INSANELY versatile. Sales, seduction, job interviews, whatever you got, this will work. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  23. Cause and effect is a very squirrely concept. One of the “proofs” that something is wrong is if it creates “causal chains.” Meaning if A causes B, and then B causes C, and then C causes A, that’s not possible according to basic physics. Contrary to movie science fiction, they use proofs like this to show that time travel is really impossible. It’s not allowed according to General Relativity. But even so, they STILL don’t quite understand “why” time moves forward. Time moving forward is HIGHLY connected to the idea of cause and effect. Since effects MUST come after causes. But even in our monkey brains, we often confuse the two. You’ve likely hear the familiar statement, “Correlation doesn’t imply causation.” The reason people say this so much is because we confuse the two so much. My alarm clock goes off at the same time the sun rises. They are highly correlated. But one doesn’t CAUSE the other. Somewhere, way back in our evolution, we were programmed with a “better safe than sorry” mechanism in our brain. So even if we are WRONG most of the time, it still was evolutionarily beneficial to ASSUME a cause-effect relationship. This is why the famous “because” study works. A lady was standing in line to make copies. She said let me cut in line. Everybody said, “no.” Then she gave a reason, and used the magic word “because.” Every time you throw in a “because” it makes the cause-effect circuits in our brain go nuts. She first said, “Please let me cut in line BECAUSE my car is parked in the red.” And most people said OK. But then she said, “Let me cut in line, BECAUSE I need to make copies.” People STILL let her cut in line. Being able to leverage cause and effect is a VERY POWERFUL mental magic trick. And when you combine this with the ability to read their body language, facial expressions, and their situation, you’ll seem like a WIZARD. You will KNOW what they are thinking. And you can show them that BECAUSE they are thinking that, they will have a FANTASTIC future. This will cement a couple of POWERFUL ideas in their mind. One is you have telepathic powers. Two is they’ll truly believe their future is going to be AWESOME. And three they’ll remember YOU forever. It takes a bit of practice to learn how to do this, but when you do it will be EXTREMELY powerful. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
  24. There’s a lot of similar themes in movies. One common idea is when a couple has been together for a while. Either a relationship or a friendship. And one person says to the other, “I know you better than you know yourself.” This makes perfect sense. From inside our own heads, there is a swirl of subjectivity. But from an external, objective perspective, some things are pretty easy to see. One common example is if somebody is in a bad relationship. Everybody outside the relationship sees it as a trainwreck waiting to happen. But from inside the relationship, they think everything is perfect. Common human biases work the same way. We ALL have the same biases. But we can’t see them from inside our heads. We can see them in others. So on one level, it’s pretty easy to “know somebody more than they know themselves.” But you can take this to a completely deeper level. By understanding not only the structure of thought, but the structure of human perception. This starts inside your own mind. Then you can look at other people, first from an external, objective perspective. Then you can look inside their mind via your own sympathetic mental resonance. This is kind of strange when you first try it. But once you see humans from the model of “emotional resonance devices” it becomes pretty easy. And SPOOKY accurate. Within just a few minutes of meeting somebody, you can know EXACTLY what they are thinking. Even before you talk to them, but understanding their facial expressions and body language, you can get a very accurate idea of their thoughts. And when you express those thoughts in deliberately vague structure language, they’ll think you are telepathic. This can be used for party tricks, job interviews, and deepening relationships. It takes time to learn, understand, and practice. But you’ll find it’s one of the most powerful communication models in existence. One that very few people know about. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/cold-reading/
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