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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec11Post.mp4 There's a common myth about male-female relationships. It's a comforting myth, which is true of most, if not all myths. Myths ARE myths because they can't be proven. But they SEEM to be true because we accept them, we see evidence of them everywhere. This is a function of confirmation bias. Even more dangerous is if common myth has a couple of other "Cialdini ideas" supporting it. Namely, social proof, potential authority, and commitment and consistency. Each one of these helps ideas to slide into our heads. For example, say you try to get a lady to "like you," and you fail. You try again, and you fail. So you go online, and express your frustration. You are told about this "myth" and it soothes your nerves. After all, if you found it was YOUR fault, that would suck. That would mean you needed to do a LOT of practice. Practice doing things that are TERRIFYING. Talking to pretty girls over and over again. Getting rejected over and over again. Until you FINALLY got it right. That is terrible just to think about. So you go online, and talk to your buddies. Enter the "myth." This "myth" solves everything. Firstly, you can pretend it's not YOUR fault. It's the very NATURE of women. Once you accept that comfortable myth, you stat looking for evidence. And your confirmation is always happy to help. So you go back to your online network and report your findings. Just the act of posting this invokes the rule of commitment and consistency. Once you publicly proclaim something, it's VERY difficult to take it back. A bunch of your online bros agree. Now you've got an externalizing myth (not my fault, THEIR fault). You've also got commitment and consistency. You've also got social proof. And if this online community is BIG enough, there's likely authority. Somebody posts a YouTube vid of a "guru" who's got a few hundred thousand followers. This makes it VERY difficult to STOP believing this myth. Now for the very DIFFICULT question. Are you satisfied with NOT getting some action, so long as you've got all these comforting reasons why it's NOT your fault? Or would you rather GET some? Not just a little bit, but a lot. Easily. Consistently. So, what's the myth? The myth is that women are emotional, men are logical. Not true. Not even a little bit. NOBODY is logical. Humans are not Vulcans. We are not angels. We are primates who are only learned to think and talk in a BLINK of an eye's time. Watch a bunch of dudes watching a down-to-the-wire game and try to find ANY logic in there. Watch a video a guy holding his first child and try to find logic. There is none. Pure, human emotion. There IS a bit of a difference between female emotions and male emotions. But that doesn't really matter. Because genuine human emotion will get you much, much further than a FALSE BELIEF in logic. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/emotional-mastery/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug17APost.mp4 Cialdini made a huge impact with his first book about persuasion and influence. He is a psychology professor, but he did his experiments, and came to his conclusions, as a true marketer. There is a long known about phenomenon in psychology that people rarely tell the "truth" when answering surveys. They do tell the truth, but it's a "altered truth." For example, imagine you saw an ad on Craigslist or somewhere. They paid you $50 to come in for a day and taste a bunch of different snack crackers and give your feedback. If the guy doing the survey worked for the snack cracker company, you'd give false feedback. Since they were paying you, giving you free food, you'd give an "altered" view of the snack crackers. A "better than normal" opinion of the snack crackers. What Cialdini and his team did were much more covert. For example, they'd have people come in and look at various pictures. And they would fill out forms based on their emotional response to the pictures. And in the back of the room, there's be a whole bunch of different snack crackers, from different brands. In reality, the whole picture-emotional study was pure misdirection. They really wanted to see which snack crackers people ate when they didn't know people were watching them choose which snack crackers. One of Cialdini's "Meta" findings is that people are influenced by things OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness. This is why most believe that persuasion and influence is some kind of mystery. The way it works is kind of hard to accept, but study after study reveals this to be true, every single time. First, we are influenced by things OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness. Then, we make up a conscious story of why we were influenced. And since we believe that "after the fact" story, we think that same story will influence others. We try it, it doesn't work, so we conclude that influence is some mysterious thing that nobody understands. But Cialdini showed that is not the case. Influence and persuasion is just as scientific and repeatable as biology and physics. Another way this seems mysterious is in dating and seduction. Most "game" is reverse engineered, but it's reverse engineered incorrectly. We only see the "surface structure," or the words, of what is going on. Then we copy the words, it doesn't work, and we get upset or frustrated. But the words are NOT what is doing the work. It's the non-verbal, subconscious part that is doing the work. If you don't see this part, you'll miss about 90% of what's going on. But if you learn how to practice this part, you'll have WAY more success. Luckily, there are plenty of simple practice exercises to do that will significantly strengthen your frame. For ANY reason. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan27Post.mp4 Some skills are very technical, and don't spill over too much in other areas. Some skills are very broad, and have a huge impact on pretty much all areas. General conditioning exercise is an example of something that has a positive impact on nearly everything. You sleep better, you become more confident, you get better posture, etc. This is why hitting the gym is always good advice for anybody who's just gotten dumped. Any kind of practice is also beneficial to many areas. This is why having hobbies that are both interesting, technically challenging, and have no upper limit also have a spillover effect. Continuous learning will create a very good feeling. You look back in your past, and see how far you've come. You look into your future, and see how much better you'll get. This is why no upper limit, challenging skills and hobbies are very, very powerful additions to any life or career. Especially if these skills can get you paid. Sure, it's not always possible to have a hobby that makes you money. Unless you plan on being world class, most hobbies will always be hobbies. Studying photoshop, learning an instrument, practicing martial arts or any other sport. These are all very beneficial in their own right for the previously mentioned reasons. One of the reasons these types of things are difficult to get you paid is because many, many other people are doing them. So, if you did want to earn a little cash, doing a hobby, it would have to be one that few people know about. Or one that is common, but has an aspect that few people know about. Enter Hypnotic Copywriting. This is something that is based on writing, specifically the writing of persuasive language. This is something EVERYBODY and their sister, (even if they don't have any sisters) knows about. On the surface, it SEEMS like a dream come true. Write a letter, make some money. Live anywhere with an internet connection. Problem is that EVERYBODY has the same idea. But few people see language as a SKILL. A skill that can be continuously improved. And since most people nowadays are pretty lazy, you ALREADY have an advantage. But wait, there's more! Because when you apply the ideas within covert hypnosis, you can make your writing even better. That's TWO advantages you have. Going deeper, you can understand the main drivers of persuasion, which are based on human instincts. Cialdini, the guy who INVENTED the terms authority, scarcity and social proof, said that persuasion is a SCIENCE. Science can be perfected, measured, and improved. This makes hypnotic copywriting the IDEAL hobby. Giving you the best of everything. Get Started: https://mindperusasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  4. Post Event Persuasion: https://mindpersuasion.com/post-event-persuasion/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/post-event-persuasion https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan15Loop.mp4
  5. Slippery Slope Dream Archetypes: https://mindpersuasion.com/slippery-slope-dream-archetypes/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/slippery-slope-dreams https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov17Loop.mp4
  6. Mind Control Pheromones: https://mindpersuasion.com/mind-control-pheromones/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Loop.mp4
  7. https://mindpersuasion.com/fomo-ingredients/
  8. https://mindpersuasion.com/stone-cold-jesus-hustler/
  9. Music is a fascinating subject. On one hand, you can describe it with an extreme amount of specificity. Chords, notes, progressions all have mathematically defined components. All music is based on the idea of standing waves. You have two kids with a jump rope, and they can ONLY create certain wave lengths. One wave equal to the length of the rope. Two halves of that same wave, etc. The length of the string (piano, violin) determines the sound when you pluck it. The size of the resonance chamber (trumpet, trombone, etc) determines the sound that comes out. The size and tension of a drum creates the pitch of sound. Certain music creates certain feelings. Major chord progressions create happy feelings. Minor chord progressions create sad feelings. Not just in some people, in all people. But emotions are impossible to define. The best writers are the best writers because they can describe emotions in great detail. But even then, they don't describe them directly. They use tons of metaphors to help. And even then, they write and rewrite those same passages over and over. (Hemingway once said it's best to write drunk and edit sober). Most of us, though, are HOPELESS when it comes to describing our emotions. Yet these mathematically precise sound waves can repeatedly create these extremely undefinable emotions within us. And when we are "resonating" certain emotions within us, we can resonate with each other. This is what happens when two people are on the same "frequency." When you go on a blind date, thinking maybe it might last an hour, but you end up talking until dawn. Same wavelength, resonating with one another, on the same page, clicking. These are all descriptions of harmonic resonance. You can find it everywhere. In people, on swing sets in the park, in cuckoo clocks, within any system. But like anything else in science, it can be good, or it can be bad. Harmonic resonance between two people "clicking" is perhaps the best feeling humans can experience. Especially if it happens AFTER sex. When you lay in bed talking for hours. But it can also be the WORST thing to happen. When large crowds start to resonate, they can burn down cities. Once it starts, it's nearly IMPOSSIBLE to stop. Most people don't even think about this stuff. They just like of go with the flow. When it's good, it's good. When it's bad, oh well. Understanding these social structures can be invaluable. You can consciously create good experiences, and keep our of bad experiences. This requires "going meta" so you can slowly build the BEST social resonance experiences. And step back when they start to get ugly. When you can consciously choose your social resonance, so that it resonates with your OWN goals, life can become magic. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/gurutrap/
  10. Once upon a time a bunch of marketing types were doing some experiments. They had a woman wait in line to make copies. And she asked people if she could cut in line. At first, she just said, "Hey, can I cut in line?" Most said, "Um, no." The next phase was to come up with a valid excuse. "Hey, because my car is parked in the red, can I cut in line?" Most people said, "Sure, ok." So far so good. But then it got kind of goofy. They tried different things AFTER the word, "because." Even this worked: "Can I cut in line, because I have to make copies." Most people let her cut in line. It seems that "because" is a magic word. It creates a feeling of "cause-effect." Most people have a problem with cause and effect. It's the source of all superstition. We wear our lucky underwear because that one time we found a dollar on the street we were wearing them. So now anytime we go gambling, or want to become financially lucky, we wear our lucky underwear. They've done experiments with little kids and even as young as six months, they see this cause-effect generator in action. One common way this is presented is when two things happen in sequence. First A happens. Then B happens. And most people assume that A causes B. A lot of times we get things backwards. Like a newspaper headline says, "Diet Soda Linked To Obesity!" Now, which is more likely: Skinny people start to drink diet soda and THEN gain weight. Or skinny people gain weight and THEN start to drink diet soda. Either way, you can LINK obesity and diet soda. But as they say in the newspaper business, one is a "dog bites man" story, which is uninteresting. The other is a "man bites dog" story and is VERY interesting. You'll see these false "cause-effect" connections EVERYWHERE. They are particularly dangerous when they show up in authority and social proof. We tend to believe that because people know what's what, that CAUSES them to gain authority. But the opposite is almost always true. They gain authority in ways nobody can measure or predict. Then EVERYTHING they say is thought to be true. Their truth didn't CAUSE their authority. But we believe they speak truth BECAUSE they are in a position of authority. Most people, in most societies, during most of history, simply CANNOT think any thoughts SEPARATE or different from what the authorities say is OK. At the same time, society can ONLY progress when some people decide to do just that. Think DIFFERENTLY than every other "normal" person. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/gurutrap/
  11. The behavior of human structure is very easy to see in other people. We give somebody advice, and they say: "Yeah, easy for you to say!" But it's nearly impossible to see in ourselves. One way is to "go meta." Which means to purposely look at ourselves, and our behavior from a "higher' or more "objective" perspective. This is the kind of thing people learn in NLP seminars. But it's also something people do VERY naturally and EXTREMELY effectively. How? If you ever keep any record of any of your behavior, either before or after, you are going meta. Two common ways are tracking your progress when exercising, or making a shopping list. For example, say you have a notebook in which you write down how much you lift at the gym. Every time you look at that list, you are going meta. You are NOT exercising, and you are looking at your results. You extrapolate out a few weeks, choose a target, and then carry that target in your head while you exercise. The "you" reading and planning is a different "you" doing the exercising. The same thing happens when you make a shopping list. The "you" making the list is a different "you" that is doing the shopping. The "you" doing the shopping is almost using the list as their "shopping coach." We are all also VERY familiar with what happens when we go shopping without our "shopping coach." Meaning we go shopping without a list (and not meta "us" to watch our shopping "us"). This is when buy junk food. Essentially, without a "shopping coach" we get "out framed" by the store. It's almost like we walk into the store, look around and say: "OK, store, I'll do whatever you want! What should I buy?" This is pretty much true in ALL AREAS of life. We can take a little time to "go meta" so we can later watch our own backs, and not get "our framed" by our circumstances. Or we can NOT plan, not go meta, not carry around any "coaches" (our meta and more objective selves) and hope for the best. This is what most people do. And most people get OUT FRAMED by life itself. But since you already know how to go meta, it's just a matter of doing that EVERYWHERE. So you don't waste any time, or money. Amazing things happen when you learn to BE your own GURU. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/gurutrap/
  12. Dale Carnegie was a super hero in his day. His most famous book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is what he's known for. But at the time, he had a huge teaching business. In fact, his interactions through his teaching business is how he learned all those rules. The seminars he ran were self confidence through public speaking. You can still take them today. Twelve weeks of intense confidence building through public speaking. If you've read the book, (or seen one of the many infographics summarizing the principles), they you know it's not a bunch of metaphysical hooey. It's common sense, "people logic" that actually works. There's a lot of overlap in his principles and the research of Dr. Cialdini. Cialdini is the guy who INVENTED things like "authority," "social proof," and all those other terms that people throw around without really understanding. Even more impressive, Cialdini didn't invent them in an academic ivory tower like a lot of other psychological mumbo jumbo. He actually went out with his team and did a lot of "field testing." Proper scientific type experiments (repeating tests, removing as many variables as possible) just to make sure he knew what was really happening. And savvy advertisers have been applying those same principles to increase sales by millions of dollars a year. Cialdini's angle is that persuasion isn't an art, it's a science. If you mix the same two chemicals in the same way, you'll get the same result every time. And if you apply the same persuasion techniques in the right way, you'll get the same result. One of Carnegie's most powerful idea is that you can get anybody to do ANYTHING, so long as it satisfies two very important criteria. The first is they have to do it for THEIR reasons. If you are trying to persuade somebody to do something because of what YOU think, you are breaking this important rule. The second is that they have to think it was THEIR idea. So if they even SUSPECT you are trying to influence them, then this rule is broken as well. If you adhere to these two very simple and very powerful rules, it's very easy. If you break either of both of them, then it's just a numbers game, and a low probability one at that. So, the billion dollar question. HOW, exactly do you follow those two rules? How can you communicate to somebody so they do what YOU want for their reasons AND believe it was THEIR idea? Like This: Hypnotic Sales
  13. http://mindpersuasion.com/seven-laws-of-influence/
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