Jump to content
Mind Persuasion Forum

Search the Community

Showing results for tags 'charisma'.

  • Search By Tags

    Type tags separated by commas.
  • Search By Author

Content Type


Forums

  • Mind Persuasion
    • Mind Persuasion Videos
    • Mind Persuasion Products
    • Mind Persuasion News
    • Mind Persuasion Affiliates
  • NLP and Hypnosis
    • NLP
    • Hypnosis
  • Self Development
    • Books
    • Techniques
  • Wealth
    • Entrepreneurial
    • Investing
    • Online Marketing
  • Relationships
    • Attraction
    • Maintenance
    • Breakups
  • Beyond Science
    • Tools
    • Techniques
  • Anything Else
    • Anything Goes

Blogs

  • Member Videos
  • Bhardwaj1994's Blog
  • GaiaWise's Blog
  • Skye's the Limit
  • CONTEMPLATIONS OF EXISTENCE
  • The Adventures of Light
  • The Sacred Warrior Blog
  • My way to start the last change!
  • firekid1331's Blog
  • Peyton Dracco's Blog
  • Subliminal Shinobi's Blog

Categories

There are no results to display.


Find results in...

Find results that contain...


Date Created

  • Start

    End


Last Updated

  • Start

    End


Filter by number of...

Joined

  • Start

    End


Group


AIM


MSN


Website URL


ICQ


Yahoo


Jabber


Skype


Location


Interests

  1. Become Sexually Enlightened: https://mindpersuasion.com/become-sexually-enlightened/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. The Most Attractive Personality: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-most-attractive-personality/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. What Signals Are You Sending?: https://mindpersuasion.com/what-signals-are-you-sending/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. Give Your Teacher The Finger: https://mindpersuasion.com/give-your-teacher-the-finger/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Head And Shoulders Above Everybody: https://mindpersuasion.com/head-and-shoulders-above-everybody/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Blatant Money Sex Secrets: https://mindpersuasion.com/blatant-money-sex-secrets/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. Stand Out In Any Crowd: https://mindpersuasion.com/stand-out-in-any-crowd/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. The Most Beautiful Sales Pitch: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-most-beautiful-sales-pitch/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan17_Post.mp4 One of the earliest "tricks" from NLP is the swish pattern. Unfortunately, like many other NLP ideas, this was treated as a once and done trick. Mainly because of how it was taught and learned in seminars. NLP seminars are like many other guru type seminars. The seminar experience is kind of an "alternate reality." Everybody is excited about all the cool tricks. And how much better their future will be. And when they try the exercise, they kind of "pretend" they work. Especially if the NLP seminar is expensive and in some exotic location, or even a nice hotel, like many are. It would feel TERRIBLE to admit you've wasted your money. So everybody kind of "pretends" that the techniques work FANTASTICALLY. So, when people do the "swish" pattern, inside the seminar, it's easy to believe it's a once and done trick. The swish pattern does work, but it takes time. You basically take some "trigger" that comes at you unexpectedly from the world. And before the swish pattern, that trigger causes an automatic and unwanted emotional response. This unwanted response is kind of like a little kid touching a hot stove. This creates an automatic "cause-effect" link in the kids mind. So they see the stove, they AUTOMATICALLY feel afraid. This is naturally overridden over time. Slowly but surely, as they grow up, they override that "hot stove = danger" with different responses. Hot stove = grilled cheese Hot stove = happy pancake party Hot stove = cooking dinner and hoping I get laid So yes, it IS possible to RE-WIRE any negative trigger-responses in your brain. But since you are essentially re-wiring a fear response, it takes plenty of time. Metaphorically, when the brain sees any kind of danger, or potential danger, any thing associated with that danger is laid down with THICK brain wiring. Those that didn't have this automatic fear-thick-wire response didn't survive. So in order to override that thick wire with pleasure, it takes time. What kind of pleasure? In the hot stove example, the fear of pain was slowly overridden with the pleasure of eating. But an even BETTER pleasure is SEX. Especially if you use the SAME trigger. Most of us have an automatic sex response like this. We see a hot guy or girl. We feel horny. That horniness makes us imagine talking to them and hopefully getting some. That causes fear and anxiety. That fear and anxiety drives UNATTRACTIVE body language. This is likely the most famous VICIOUS cycle of modern humans. The trick is to BREAK this cycle using the SAME sex urge. To stop that chain of events that leads with unattractive body language. And build in a DIFFERENT chain of events. To generate very, very attractive body language. So instead of FEELING nervous when you see a pretty lady. You'll AUTOMATICALLY feel insanely confident. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/sexual-charisma/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct20Post.mp4 One of the very first "transactions" that went down on planet Earth happened by accident. Biologists believe the very first multi-cellular life form happened when one single celled dude tried to eat another single celled dude. But it was kind of like the world famous "peanut butter in my chocolate" discovery. That old commercial where one lady was walking down the street eating some chocolate. Another dude was walking down the street eating peanut butter, from a jar. They bumped into each other and BOOM! A new candy was invented. This is exactly what happened way back in the days if single celled organisms. When that one dude crept up on another dude and tried to eat him. Of course, he didn't really "eat" him. He (or it) tried to surround the smaller single cell and become a bit bigger, kind of like the horror movie "the blob." Only things didn't go as planned. Turns out the smaller dude was pretty good and producing energy. And the bigger dude had a very thick cell membrane. And they ended up being the perfect team. (Just like peanut butter and chocolate) The little dude on the inside would provide the energy. The bigger dude on the outside would provide the protection. Flash forward a billion years or so, and this kind of "overlapping selfishness" happens EVERYWHERE. Bees and flowers. Monkeys and fruit. Monkey see the bright colors and get excited. Because their DNA knows that "bright colors = sweet taste." The eat the fruit and poop out the seeds. This is EXACTLY like bees and flowers. One group gets the sweet stuff. The other groups gets help with reproduction. This is also how they think dogs went from wolves who ate people to being "man's best friend." Overlapping selfishness. Dogs got free food. Humans got this perfect alarm-home-defense system. Adam Smith even talked about this. The butcher, the baker, the brewer don't do what they do because they give two rips about us. They want our money. But like bees, and monkeys and dogs, they have to GIVE us something in exchange for our money. Bread, beer, bacon, etc. This is how ALL LIFE works. Even chemical bonds. Two single atoms are better off TOGETHER than they are rolling solo. This is also how human relationships are formed. Through a mostly unconscious overlapping selfishness. We like hanging around with friends and lovers because we are better TOGETHER than we are apart. Everybody knows HOW to do this. Little kids have been making friends with other little kids since the dawn of time. So when you look across the room, and ASSUME that gorgeous lady has EVERYTHING, and you walk over like a beggar, you are NOT following the rules of nature. But if you DO stroll on over there like an atom with an extra space for a electron, you ARE following the rules of nature. This is not something you need to learn. This is only something you need to remember. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/personal-magnetism/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept25Post.mp4 Magic tricks are cool. I've been fortunate enough to know two guys who were professional, up close, sleight of hand magicians. Up close meaning they would perform at places like this club in Hollywood called the "Magic Castle." And they wouldn't be up on stage. The rooms were set up like rooms at big, Hollywood Hills style house parties. And the guy would be sitting behind a table, and they would have very small, kind of "bleachers" set up. So you could have a straight line of sight from where you were to the dudes hands. The rooms were small enough so you could hear the magician talk without him needing a mic or even to speak loudly. And they would tell this long, stories while doing their tricks. Card tricks. Shuffling and dealing. And since these guys were top notch, sleight of hand specialists, they could deal FROM anywhere in the deck and deal TO anywhere in the deck. We'd be watching his hands closely. He'd be watching his hands closely. He'd be telling some long, random story. But the story would end, and he'd deal out all the cards, one by one, and they would match PERFECTLY. Clearly this is something you'd need to practice A LOT. But it was also a kind of blurred reality. Often, when a magician is telling a story, it's mostly for misdirection. You're paying attention to the story, not his a hands. But when the story is actually part of the trick, it creates a very, very hypnotic effect. My other friend did a bit of stage work, but for him, magic was mostly a hobby. He'd show up at a bar, talk a good game, telling magician type stories, while doing simple tricks with coins, etc. He's ALWAYS get a crowd around him. And even though he wasn't "handsome" by any stretch, the dude got laid like CRAZY. Even if you don't know any magic, don't want to learn any magic, you can still leverage this technique. Of talking a good game. But this is the cool part. Most people are NOT articulate. Most people mumble their words, or repeat words and phrases used by others. But articulation, and verbal energy are two things can PRACTICE. And practice every day. All by yourself. So even if you are talking about a duck you saw while walking in the park, you can generate the same magical effect. The secret is that unless you are helping a pilot land a plane, the words you use are NOT very important. So you take any random words, and add in some mental power, and some mental based articulation, you can mesmerize anybody. And crowds will gather just to hear you speak. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/mental-strength/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr05Post.mp4 What does it mean to be charismatic? There are a plenty of ways. Charisma is a general label. One that means the person labeled as charismatic is VERY enjoyable to be around. There are two basic ways to do this. One is to focus COMPLETELY on other person. Not just lazy, fake focus. But real, genuine interest in who they are. Not just their looks, but everything about them. Most of us can ONLY do this with people we are physically or otherwise attracted. But charismatic people can do this with EVERYBODY. Now, most people believe this is some kind of genetic gift. One that some people have, and others don't. But it is something you can practice. But this kind of charisma has one very significant drawback. You can ONLY use it on one person at a time. Because it is focused on bringing OUT the best things about that other person. There is a different kind of charisma. One that can create attraction, desire, and fascination in AS MANY people as you want. Some people "try" to approach this when they learn various "techniques." Like doing card tricks or other interesting bar tricks. These CAN be very useful. We DO like magic. But this means you'll need to have a LOT of magic tricks up your sleeve. And when you run out, you run out. Show's over, Elvis has left the building. Since we ARE talking about magic tricks, there is another aspect of doing magic. And that is the magician's patter. A magician silently standing there doing tricks is interesting. But a magician that does SIMPLE tricks while telling INTERESTING and complex stories? Way better. In fact, with ONLY the storytelling part, you can do LOT BETTER than any random bar magician. Why? Because stories are based on STRUCTURE. You learn a magic trick you can ONLY do that magic trick. But once you learn a few story STRUCTURES, you can tell the same stories over and over and over. Just different content each time. Even better is that stories move us NOT because of their content, but because of their STRUCTURE. It is their structure that moves our emotions. It is their structure that will allow YOU to move their emotions. One at a time, or all at once. This is the ULTIMATE in charisma. To be in a random, organically evolving conversation. Somebody says something about the weird guy working at Jack In The Box. Somebody else says something about something kind of related. Then you slide in. "That's like this one guy..." you begin. Next thing you know, the entire ROOM is mesmerized. Hanging on very word. All their attentions in YOURS. Their emotions in YOUR control. And YOU forever in their memories. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar31Post.mp4 A few years ago, a friend of mine asked me to go with her on this weekend business thing. She said it was something she and her sister were interested. She was pretty vague, and didn't make it seem very important. So, since it was Saturday, I wore my Saturday clothes. A pair of shorts, a t-shirt and some sneakers. Everybody else there was wearing a suit. I felt a little out of place. Until I realized it was some kind of MLM scam. The energy at those kinds of places is pretty unique. Everybody has got these strong, yet fake, sense of urgency. After, my friend asked what I thought. I said, yeah, uh, no. MLM's are fantastic if you are the founder. You CAN make a ton of money. But for most other suckers, it's a waste of time. Funny thing is plenty of things have a MLM "structure." Only they aren't cons, they are regular competitions. For every ONE job, you'll get hundreds of applicants. Millions of young people go to Hollywood every year hoping to be famous. Very few do. (many end up in porn...) Tens of millions of high school kids dream of playing professional sports, but few come close to making the cut. Because this is part of life, it's accepted. That's kind of the point of being human. Of figuring out WHERE to aim your skills, so you can do the best. One thing that has made being "famous" much easier is social media. Before, if you were to become "Hollywood famous" you had to have the right look, AND you need to have the right collection of skills. But today, ALL you really need is the right look, and you're in. This is absolutely FANTASTIC. Especially for those of us who are NOT genetically blessed. Wait, what? Because more than ever, being famous requires LITTLE or ZERO skills. Only appearances. That means with just some basic social skills, you can CLEAN UP. It's definitely not a simple as taking your picture and waiting for fame. But it's actually pretty easy. Because with some little-known-about language skills, you can CREATE your own halo effect. Sure, you might not ever be famous on YouTube or Instagram. But whenever there are people around, you CAN become a rock star. Old school, inter-personal charisma. The kind that people FEEL. Not the fake kind based on looks. This means when you operate socially, people will see you. They'll feel you. They'll very much WANT to know you. Giving you a HUGE advantage. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar21Post.mp4 Many guys have problems with girls. Guys would LOVE to know what to say to get certain girls to like them. To get girls to feel certain ways about them. To do certain things. Many girls have problems with guys. Girls would LOVE to know what to say to get certain guys to like them. To get guys to feel certain ways about them. Salespeople have problems with customers. They would LOVE to know what to say to get customers to buy. To buy, buy again, and refer more people to them. This is a very common human problem. We see somebody. We want that other somebody to do something, or feel something, or say something. But we have zero idea what WE can say, so they believe or feel or behave in a way that we want. Even if you want to start a conversation with somebody, knowing what to SAY is often the barrier keeping you on the sidelines. But what if you don't need to SAY anything? No, we aren't talking about using telepathy or any kind of psychic techniques. But what if getting ANYBODY to do ANYTHING wasn't about what you said, but about what kinds of questions you asked? After all, everybody is always eager to talk about themselves. This is what Dale Carnegie said DECADES ago. That everybody is always listening to their favorite radio station. WII FM or "What's In It For Me?" Dale Carnegie also famously said that the best way to be a CHARISMATIC conversationalist is to LISTEN much more than you talk. This is a good START, but that advice doesn't help much. You won't get very far by walking over to that cute girl or guy and saying: "So, tell me about yourself!" Sure, that kind of lame opener works if you are a famous talk show host, but if you are some random guy or girl, people will look at you funny. The REAL question is how, specifically, do you lead them by only asking certain questions? What specific questions do you ask, and in what order? When it comes to questions, and conversational topics, there is CONTENT and there is STRUCTURE. Nearly everybody talks or asks about CONTENT. What's your favorite band. What's your favorite cake icing. How many Watts does your microwave have. You won't get very far by asking content questions. But what about asking structure questions? Questions about HOW they think? How they choose what they like? How they LITERALLY "see themselves" doing things? Not only will this be very unique way of talking, but it will make THEM feel very, very good. Because you start asking them about the structure of their thinking, you can lead them to VERY pleasant feelings. Pleasant feelings they'll associate with you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar20Post.mp4 Most things are best understood as a numbers game. You talk to 10 girls you might get a couple numbers. You send out a few dozen resumes, and you might get a couple calls. You stand in the batting cages and you might really connect with one out of three or four pitches. This CAN be discouraging. Especially if you focus on every single swing, or approach, or phone call. But the longer you can stretch out your perception, the easier it seems. Especially if you understand from the beginning that it's just a numbers game. Even more so if you are slowly improving. One of the oldest jokes in the entertainment business is the guy walking down the street in New York. He asks a local how to get to Carnegie Hall. The local says, "practice." If you want to get ANYWHERE, you need to practice. On one hand, this kind of sucks. Especially in modern times when everybody is not only entitled but insanely impatient. We want what we want, and we want it NOW. On the other hand, once you get into a routine, you'll ALWAYS be getting some. Getting what? Getting better. When you don't have something but you want something, it can create a paradox of never ending frustration. You want it, you want it NOW, but you don't know HOW you'll get it. This is maddening to say the least. But when you start taking small, tiny, daily steps toward what you want, something pretty cool will happen. In a week or so, you'll look behind you and see how far you've come. You'll look out ahead of you and you'll KNOW how far you'll be going. You'll get rid of that "now-frustration" that is never ending. And replace it with continuous feeling of forward momentum. This means you'll KNOW where you are going. You'll feel it. It will start to change how you feel, what you think, how you speak and behave, and how people perceive you. A "now-frustrated" person is very UN-attractive. Nobody wants to hang around somebody who wants things, wants them now, but doesn't know HOW to get them. This is like hanging around a baby who is constantly screaming. On the other hand, when you develop consistent forward momentum, that is much more attractive. People will you see you, and they IMMEDIATELY notice that you are different than most. They won't see somebody who is dependent on others. They won't see somebody who is frustrated and stuck. They'll see somebody who is going places. Which places? Whichever direction you choose. Transforming your life, and everybody around you. One easy step at a time. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb01Post.mp4 In writing, they have a common rule of showing instead of telling. This leverages and old idea from Dale Carnegie. That you can get anybody to do anything, so long as it was their idea. If fiction, this works by allowing the readers or viewers to discover, on their own, what's going on. This makes it much more of their idea. This makes them much more invested in the story, or the character arc. This works very well in interpersonal relationships, sales, romance and seduction. Consider the statement: "I want you to be happy." Happiness is a feeling. You can't just "be" happy. If we could control our emotions so easily, nobody would ever have negative emotions. Imagine if that silly statement (I want you to be happy) actually worked. Somebody is sitting there, sad or depressed. Then somebody looks at them and says: "I want you to be happy." As if the person who is sad is incapable of being happy unless the other person tells them to. Sometimes we say things like, "I want you to be happy," to exhibit a part of us. Like we did something that made the other person upset. And we want to explain that wasn't our intention, so we say, "I want you to be happy." Think about what this means. The person's BEHAVIOR made the other person, "unhappy." But their words indicate that they really don't care about the other person. Their actions, the thing they SHOWED created an unhappy feeling. Their words, what they attempted to SAY (tell) indicate the opposite. They showed one thing. They told something else. Now, if they REALLY wanted the other person to be happy, they would have BEHAVED in a way to create the happy feeling. Unfortunately, for most people, our behaviors are unconscious. Our words less so. Actions, as they say, are much louder than words. Whatever you SHOW will always overrule whatever you TELL. Luckily, you can train your thinking to be much more congruent with your speaking. Most people wander the earth without ever noticing the difference between their actions and words. But with some specific understandings, you can make your words and actions much closer. Which will make you much more congruent. Congruence is a very attractive trait. It will come across as charisma, and an extremely strong frame. What kind of understandings? The kind that drill into your brain all the hypnotic language patterns found in covert hypnosis. So you will think, speak and act in a very congruent way. A way that will automatically generate the desired behaviors on others. Which behaviors? Whichever ones you want. The wants that make EVERYBODY feel the happiest. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-copywriting/
  17. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July19Post.mp4 The most common persuasion strategy is the features and benefits strategy. When in actual sales, the salesperson is taught to memorize a huge list of features and benefits. Then they rattle them off to any customer that walks in the door. The idea is that if they hit enough of the customer's hot buttons, the customer will have enough buying desire. On TV shows and movies, effective salespeople do this with plenty of charisma. The customer just needs to stand there and be mesmerized by the beautiful metaphors the salesperson comes up with. Even if non-sales persuasion, this is the common, go-to technique for most people. The persuader tries to convince the target why the target should do want the persuader wants. Based on the ideas that exist in the persuader's brain. To the extent that there is a natural OVERLAP between the persuader's brain and the target's, this will work. But there often isn't. This is AS FAR as most persuaders go in their thinking. Of trying to find some kind of MAGIC WORDS to MAKE the target do what the persuader wants. Sales, persuasion and seduction. A much more enlightened approach is to find out the kinds of things the target likes or wants. In sales, this is called eliciting the criteria. First you find out EVERYTHING you can about the target's desires. THEN you take those desires that came from THEIR BRAIN and try and show htem how YOUR idea will satisfy THEIR desires. This works better than the features and benefits approach. It's not nearly as confrontational. But it's also still pretty limited. Why? Because it requires that the target KNOW what they want. AND it requires the conversation ALLOW for such questions. Many times it doesn't. Especially when overt persuasion isn't appropriate. For example, suppose you wanted to give somebody some advice. Somebody you knew. Somebody that you KNEW would benefit from the advice. But they CAN'T see it from their perspective. It's VERY HARD to elicit criteria under this scenario. At least CONSCIOUS criteria. We humans have tons of UNCONSCIOUS criteria. An infinite amount, essentially. At least as long as we are thinking and breathing. If you can leverage THIS unconscious criteria, ALL persuasion is MUCH easier. Luckily, this deep criteria, is very similar from person to person. Which means once you figure it out, the SAME strategies will work on plenty of people. For whatever reasons you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/instinct-persuasion/
  18. Our language is absolutely filled with metaphors. When people think of metaphors, we usually think of poetry, or literature, or fairy tale type storytelling. But it's hard to speak more than a few words before tossing out a few metaphors. Just take a look that last sentence. "Words" is a metaphor. It is a collection of sounds or squiggly lines that mean absolutely NOTHING to the untrained eye. And they represent and "idea" in mind, another metaphor. If we wanted to be super specific, each "idea" would have to be described according to the EXACT neural configuration. Something that's not even scientifically possible. So every WORD we use is a metaphor unto itself. An extremely OVER SIMPLIFIED description of something much more complex. So when we put a bunch of these words together, to describe a much more complex metaphor, it's metaphor made up of smaller metaphors. And how, exactly, do we "get" these metaphors "out there"? According to that original sentence, we "toss them out." In reality, we move our mouths and throats and make a bunch of sounds. Nobody is actually "tossing" anything. But HOW we describe the "way" we "toss" these things out is instructive. A lot of times, we actually SAY, we are going to "put this out there." We PREFACE a collection of metaphors by saying: "I'm just gonna put this out here..." In reality, this is a BAD idea. Why? One, it breaks the rule of Carnegie. That you can get anybody to do anything so long as they think it was THEIR idea. As soon as you SAY, "I'm just going to put this out there..." it is IMPOSSIBLE to NOT associate that thing you "put out there" with YOU. So if you are including any ADVICE in that "thing" you are "putting out there," BEFORE you even mention the advice, you essentially OBLITERATE any chances it will be taken. Why? Because the OPPOSITE of Carnegie's rule is that NOBODY likes unasked for advice. What's the solution? Easy. It comes from fiction. Fiction, of course, being a very, very, very LONG string of metaphors. What does fiction teach us? SHOW, don't tell. When you SAY, "I'm just gonna put this out here..." you are TELLING. How do you SHOW instead? Don't preface that THING you are putting out there by saying you are putting it out there. Just put it out there. How? Just say it. And LEAVE it for the other person to discover ON THEIR OWN. If you build these metaphors correctly, and put them out there correctly, your targets will do WHATEVER you want. Without EVER knowing how you snuck those ideas into their brains. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
  19. When it comes to eating, there are two kinds of food. The kind that tastes good. And the kind that is good for you. Ideally, getting both in the same thing is best. But hard to find. Plenty of healthy food is dressed up to taste like delicious food, but it's usually an acquired taste. When it comes to choosing romantic partners, the same thing applies. There are people who are GOOD for you, and then there are people who are ATTRACTIVE. The people who are good for you are like healthy food. The people who are attractive are like the delicious food. This is true for both men and women. When it comes to the guys women are attracted to, there are two kinds. The guy who she is INSTINCTIVELY attracted to. The guy she can't help thinking about. Then there's the guy that she knows is "good for her." And if she is VERY LUCKY, she'll find both in the same guy. The guy who makes her subconsciously, romantically, emotionally and sexually attracted. And the guy who is good for her. The guy her friends approve of. The guy her parents approve of. Most ladies assume they've got to settle. But this rarely works. If the choose the guy who's good FOR her, her eyes will begin to wander. If she chooses the guy she's irresistibly attracted to, HIS eyes will always wander. If she COULD find the guy who satisfied BOTH criteria, she'd be in heaven. Not only would she be irresistibly, romantically and sexually attracted to him, but she would also look good with him. Her friends and family would approve. Most of the time, it's hit or miss. But when you understand exactly WHAT creates attraction, you can reverse engineer this feeling. Just food companies have reverse engineered stuff that we can't STOP eating, you can reverse engineer her attraction triggers. This goes way beyond short term game techniques. This is way beyond clothing, or looks, or even wealth. This is based on deep and ancient instincts. Things she won't be able to STOP thinking of. Things about you. Because once you develop these traits, you'll never have to chase women again. Just show up, act naturally, and choose from the best ones. This WILL take time. Like I said, it's NOT based on short game techniques. It's based on re-calibrating your core being. Not only will you become insanely attractive to many women, but you will become an extremely HIGH QUALITY MALE. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  20. Groucho Marx famously said that sincerity is the most important thing in the world. And if you can fake it, you've got it made. A-list actors are very good at faking sincerity. This is why they get paid so much. Just looking at their facial expressions makes it seem real. The other night I watched a weird, low budget, alien, time travel movie. The acting was very good. In one scene, an actress had to look out her kitchen window, and make it seem like she was really seeing a glimpse of hell. Then she went back to normal. She had to go from a normal expression, to seeing actual hell, and then back to normal. All in a few seconds. Of course, they later put on a lot of hellish sounds and colors and shadows, but her facial expressions did all the work. If most of us tried this, it would look silly. It's why actors that suck are referred to as "wooden." Their faces don't move. Good actors, on the other hand, can conjure up any emotion they want. And for them, it's a REAL emotion. It's not uncommon for actors to have serious and long lasting trauma because of a particular role. Shelly Duvall, for example, was seriously messed up after filming, "The Shining." Plenty of other actors have some lingering side effects. This is what you'd expect. To be in a situation where you PURPOSELY conjure up REAL emotions of getting hunted by evil supernatural entities. Kind of hard to shrug that kind of stuff off. But the technique is something most of us can use. Most people expect their situation to do the work for them. For example, people try to apply Dale Carnegies advice to let others do the talking. But then they find that most other people are pretty boring. The thing is, though, that ANYBODY can let somebody else do talking if that other person is INTERESTING. Listening to an interesting person talk is NOT a very valuable skill, since ANYBODY can do it. Another common idea is to expect the external situation to help us feel safe. We don't usually think in these terms. But we behave this way. We only feel safe when we are around friendly people and friendly situations. When we are in unknown situations, or around unknown people, we don't feel nearly as safe. But this is ONLY because our "factory setting" is to let our EXTERNAL situation dictate our INTERNAL state. But we can do the same thing actors do. Create an internal state at will. And let that internally created state OVERRIDE our external situations. This is exactly what actors do when they pretend they are surrounded by demons, but in reality, they are surrounded by dudes with cameras. Of course, you don't want to pretend you are surrounded by demons. You can pretend you are surrounded by anything you want. Like friendly angels. The more you practice, the better you get. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cb/
  21. Archimedes is a famous old school scientist. One of the things he's famous for is running down the street naked. Not the naked part, but what caused his excitement. The king was worried that somebody was scamming him. He'd paid to have a gold crown made. But he wasn't sure if it was gold or copper or a mix. And since way back then (ancient Greece) they really had no way of knowing. So he gave Archimedes the task of figuring out how. And as a scientist, he put his mind to work while he did normal things. And when he got into his bathtub, he saw the water rise as he got in. This was the famous, "Eureka!" moment. When he figured out how to solve the king's problem. By putting various things in water, you could measure their volume. With weight AND volume, you would figure out the density. Since gold and copper have different densities, he could quickly figure out of the king's crown was pure gold or not. He was so excited he ran down the street naked. Another famous thing associated with Archimedes is his work on levers. He famously said, "Give me a lever long enough, and I can move the world." Lever, of course is the operational part of the word "leverage." We can easily translate his statement to mean, "Give me enough leverage and I can do anything." Whoever has the most leverage in any negotiation, for example, will generally get their way. But leverage also works inside your brain. Our body has plenty of two-sided systems. Awake and asleep. Excited and relaxed. Sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems. Desire and fear. Most of the time we have a desire, but that desire is overshadowed by fear. Because fear is a survival instinct, it's usually much more powerful than it's counterpart. Which means you've got to be pretty sure things are safe before you go charging ahead. One way to kill fear is with knowledge. This is why we can enjoy scary movies. We KNOW they are fake. We KNOW that really isn't a ghost, or a demon. Another way we can leverage knowledge is by killing the "I don't know what to say" anxiety that keeps us out of conversations. Because if you are reading this, then you have TONS of information up in your. And because of the structure of your brain, you can pretty much link any idea to any other idea. This means with a little practice, you'll NEVER "not" know what to say. In fact, with enough practice, the amount of data you feel up in your brain will OVERWHELM any anxiety. The practice is easy and can be done safely at home. The more you do, the more data you'll re-discover, and the more leverage you'll have in ANY conversation. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/cb/
  22. If you saw a gorgeous girl or guy from across the room, you'd remember them. The more gorgeous they were, the more you'd remember them. But you would REALLY remember them if they looked at you and smiled briefly. In fact, just a little bit of direct, non-verbal communication, no matter how brief, would be MUCH more powerful than just their looks. You can imagine a gorgeous person who doesn't notice you. And a semi-attractive person who looks RIGHT AT YOU and smiles before looking away. You would definitely remember that. The longer and more involved that interaction is, the MORE you would remember them. And the less their physical appearance would be a variable. To be sure, they have to be above a certain level of attraction. This is very personal and subjective. But so long as it's above this point, the MORE effort they put into personal communication, the less important their physical appearance would be. People like Victoria's Secret models can skate by on ONLY their looks. They walk into a room and don't need to make eye contact with ANYBODY to leave a lasting impression. But for most of us normal humans, we have to AUGMENT our physical presence with our energy. This energy is the sum total of all our non-verbal communication. The stuff we are radiating all the time. This energy we radiate is VERY dependent on our mental state. We can do a mental experiment to see this. Imagine you were about to walk into a party. You were in the hallway of an apartment building, and JUST ABOUT to open the door and walk in. RIGHT BEFORE you turned the knob, two sexy super models came out of the elevator, walked past you and looked at you like they wanted to bang you silly. (Or imagine another appropriate situation). How would this impact your mood as you walked into the party? You'd be confident, smiling, much more extroverted. This would impact how you made others feel, which would further enhance your good mood. Your internal state (cause by the chance meeting with the super models) would significantly enhance your non-verbal communication. Now imagine the opposite. Same two models, but as they walk past you, they look at you like you're dirt. Suppose you try and smile at them. They recoil in horror, and say something like: "Don't DARE look in my direction you worthless human! You're not even fit to clean my toilet when I'm on vacation in the South of France!" This would impact your party experience in the OPPOSITE DIRECTION. Your inner state, and your outer energy, would be HORRIBLE. You'd be radiating anger and frustration, and nobody would want anything to do with you. Suppose you could walk the Earth with a CONSTANT positive internal state? As if you have ALWAYS just had a recent positive super model experience? How would THAT affect your life? It's actually pretty easy with some consistent mental practice. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
  23. Some things are easy, and other things are not. Some things start out as difficult, and become easy. These are things that we practice. This is pretty self evident, and it almost seems so obvious that it's not even worth mentioning. But sometimes we overlook such simple ideas. Much to our demise. If you started to play any sport, and you sucked, that would be normal. Because most people suck when they start most things. But the more you practice, the better you get. We all get this intuitively. Once a couple of friends and myself were watching a live performance. The guitarist was absolutely killing it. My friend remarked, "That guy's gotta sleep with his guitar!" Meaning he assumed that to get to that high level of skill, he must spend a lot of time with his guitar. So much that he sleeps with it. Nearly any skill we think of, we think of in this way. That the more you practice, the better you get. Except for the most important skills. Unless you are expecting to be a world class musician or athlete, most normal humans practice sports and music as hobbies. Few people will ever be able to quit their day jobs to pursue their hobbies as careers. But we still enjoy practicing. Because it feels GOOD to get better at something. But the things that get us the MOST IMPORTANT things in life are things we DON'T practice. Things like conversation skills, persuasion skills, people reading skills, confidence projecting skills. We tend to think of these things like height or eye color. Based one hundred percent on genetics. If you walked into the gym and hired a personal trainer with the specific goal of becoming TALLER, he'd think you were nuts. But we very much CAN change much of our personality. The main reason we don't like to think in terms of specifically doing exercises to improve our personality is twofold. One, it seems "fake." We imagine doing something that's not genuine. Not really the real "us." The other reason is it's scary. We imagine walking up to somebody and speaking in a particular way, and we imagine them looking at us like we're some kind of sociopath. But in reality, plenty of people work on their personality all the time. Back in the day, many girls would go to "charm school." Men didn't quite have the same thing, but older men would teacher younger men how to properly "behave" so they wouldn't send the wrong message. If you were taking a class in public speaking, to specifically increase your earning power, that would be exactly the same thing. And the idea of the real "you" is a myth. Because the real "you" is a sum total of every single thing you experience. Which means the real "you" is always changing. And since it's always changing, why not CONSCIOUSLY change it in a direction that can make life EASIER and more ENJOYABLE? And not just for you, but for everybody that is lucky enough to interact with you? Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
  24. Humans seem to have an instinct to keep improving. This is pretty obvious when you compare technology now to only a few decades ago. It's also pretty obvious when you compare old people to young people. Simply by being around, you get more experience. Even passive experience will teach you things. Most people go through some kind of educational system. Our brains are even created so we are born with less than developed brains. We have an instinct to soak up as much information as we can. Next time you have a chance, watch people in line at the supermarket. If you see any young children, they will be moving their heads and eyes and if they can, their bodies. They are in the "collect data" mode of their lives. Their little brains are RAVENOUS for information. Adults on the other hand, will tend to be either staring blankly into space or blankly at their device. The older we get, the less AUTOMATIC our "hungry for data" brain gets. But just because it's not automatic, doesn't mean it's not possible. Your muscles stop growing on their own past a certain point. But even a dude over sixty can start lifting, and show obvious results. Both brains and muscles CAN be continuously improved. The older you get, the more effort it may take. But it is JUST as possible. But there's one thing people RARELY consider as something they can strengthen. But it's JUST as "strengthen-able." And that is your personality. Our personality is kind of like our musculature system. Both are designed to respond NATURALLY to our environment. If you started working in the fields, for example, your muscles would NATURALLY respond to make that work easier and more energy-efficient. If you got a job in a shoe store, your PERSONALTY would naturally respond to make those interactions more natural and energy-efficient. Just like you can CONSCIOUSLY target certain muscles, you can CONSCIOUSLY target certain areas of your personality. And just like somebody with a well built and sculpted muscle system is more attractive, a person with a well-built and sculpted personality is more attractive. Both systems behave the same way. The more effort you put in, the more benefits you get out. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
  25. A common and very old expression is "to know me is to love me." This is kind of opposite of the "love at first sight," idea. Love at first sight means you SEE somebody, and you INSTANTLY fall in love. Or course, this is kind of impossible. It's a nice idea, but it's usually not one that is "true" until any couple has been together for a while. It usually goes down like this. A couple meet, and they hit it off. They like the way they look. They like the way they make each other feel. They click deeply and quickly. They go on a few dates, and maybe after a couple of months, they move in together. And then they get married, have a couple kids, and grow old together. Much later, they will REMEMBER this as "love at first sight." But that idea, of falling in love, didn't HAPPEN at one instant in time. It took a while. Of course, the emotional feelings were there from the beginning. But WHEN, exactly, those feelings TURNED INTO love is not certain. But with a ton of fond memories, and with the help of hindsight bias, it FEELS like it really WAS love at first sight. But imagine if EITHER PARTY had actually said, when they first met, "I love you! Let's get married, have kids, and grow old together!" The other would have fled. So it wasn't REALLY love at first sight. Even something that FEELS like love at first sight takes time. But what about the other statement? "To know me is to love me." This implies that you DON'T love them when you first see them. That the MORE you get to know the, the MORE you love them. This IMPLIES that what it is that you DO love about them is NOT about their looks. Most couples that end up growing old together are MUCH MORE like the second statement. Most couples date for a couple of YEARS before they get married. It takes that long to get to know somebody. We humans are VERY complicated. So, what about that part of you that they need time to get to know? Can you make THAT PART of you "more lovable?" Of course you can! That part of you that is deeper than your appearance is VERY MUCH under your control. This part of you involves your confidence, your short and long term goals, your intelligence, you communication skills, your social skills, and plenty of other PERSONALITY traits. All of which can be STRENGTHENED just like a muscle. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
×
×
  • Create New...