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  1. Free Your Mind: https://mindpersuasion.com/free-your-mind/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. The Deserving Paradox: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-deserving-paradox/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. Hallucinated Bus Man https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. Emotionally Neutral Love Frame https://mindpersuasion.com/emotionally-neutral-love-frame/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Create A Virtuous Social Cycle: https://mindpersuasion.com/create-a-virtuous-social-cycle/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Be A Highly Demanded Human: https://mindpersuasion.com/be-a-highly-demanded-human/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. Become A Linguistic Assassin: https://mindpersuasion.com/become-a-linguistic-assassin/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. Custom Programmed Confirmation Bias https://mindpersuasion.com/custom-programmed-confirmation-bias/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. The Reverse Memory Brain Hack: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-reverse-memory-brain-hack/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan11Post.mp4 Thoreau wrote that most men live lives of quiet desperation. What does this mean, exactly? Most people want things they'll never get. They are desperate for things they don't have. Yet they never do much about it. They are quiet, and they are desperate. Most people are content to do what they are told. Most people's dreams of fame and riches involve somebody else doing most of the work. Young people who want to become actors dream of being discovered. Of doing nothing more than walking down the street, and being "noticed." This is based on our common idea that we are special somehow. That all we need is for somebody else, somebody who has more money, more connections, more resources, to find us. And notice our specialness. And reward us for our specialness. This is a very lazy way of thinking. It's also they way those that actually have power, and money, and connections, WANT us to think. Just understanding this only makes it worse. Now you've got TWO ideas that are a recipe for mediocrity and poverty. One is to wait around for SOMEBODY ELSE to make it happen. The other is to BLAME all those other people for any lack. Both of these thoughts are VERY EASY to think. It's why nearly EVERYBODY has them to some degree. Which is kind of a messed up paradox. That EVERYBODY believes they are special. And nobody can really define, specifically, WHY they are special. This is actually a very valuable instinct. To BELIEVE that you are special. But like all our other instincts, what worked before doesn't work so well today. How did our, "I'm special" instinct work in the past? It was a tool of MOTIVATION. It drove us to DO THINGS that demonstrated our specialness. Every day was a COMPETITION to see who could DO THINGS that were better than everybody else. Now we've all been brainwashed into thinking all we need do is SHOW UP. That merely by EXISTING, we are supposed to merely RECEIVE a bunch of cool stuff. But that is a lie. Unless you are still a kid, living a home, nobody is going to GIVE YOU anything. Does this mean you need to be evil, vicious and start TAKING things from people? This common MISCONCEPTION is the third idea keeping people trapped inside their bubble of safety and mediocrity. One, we think by being special will get us free stuff. Two, if we don't get free stuff, it's somebody else's fault. Three, if we try and get more than we have, we are being bad or wrong or evil. All three of these are lies, cons, and scams. But mostly WE are scamming OURSELVES. The truth is very freeing. That if you get in the game, instead of waiting on the sidelines, it's much more natural to get whatever you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan10Post.mp4 A long, long time ago, Mother Nature had a decision to make. Our brains were getting really big, really quickly. Too big to be born close to fully formed, like most other mammals. So She had two choices. Make female hips much wider, or make us born much earlier. Since wider hips would have forced us back down on all fours, She, Mother Nature, chose the second option. Of having us born well before we were done "cooking." This is why few of us have a lot of memories before five or so. This is why can't walk until about two. This is why kids can't talk fully until about three. Chomsky's theory of transformational grammar says we have a "language organ" in our brain. That it is a kind of a language structure. It needs to be calibrated, and that takes a couple years. This is why kids go from speaking gibberish to fully formed sentences pretty quickly. Once they get all their language structures calibrated, off they go. We might imagine we have a bunch of "structures" in our brains. And once these structures are calibrated, we use those calibrated structures as operational models. Religion may be another organ. All people, from all parts of the world, and from all eras usually believe in some kind of religion. And once that is set, it's pretty hard to change. This is exactly what the Jesuits said when they were trying to recapture market share for the Catholic Church after the protestant reformation. They found that converting adults was difficult. But converting new born kids was easy. Give me a child at birth, they said, and he'll be a soldier of Christ by seven. This isn't so much about Jesus, more about how programmable our young brains are. One way our brains are programmed is about money. Our beliefs about money, what it represents, etc. None of this is done on purpose. If you're six, and you're sitting around the dinner table, you'll naturally soak up the "money beliefs" from your parents. How? When they talk about things like vacations, chocolate ice cream, pizza, etc, they exhibit "happy" energy. When they talk about ANYTHING related to money, the "energy" is not happy. Work, bills, rent, etc. So even before any of us really know what money IS, we have been inadvertently trained that it's something everybody needs, everybody wants, but getting it is not only difficult, but extremely frustrating. And given that financial issues create the most anguish between otherwise happy couples, this adds another negative element to "money energy." Before we even really understand money, it's tainted with a whole slew of negative ideas. Unless you address these, and recalibrate them, getting money will be difficult. But after you recalibrate your money instinct? Money is a wonderful, natural, and necessary human invention. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/money-instinct/
  12. Nerf Brain Physics: https://mindpersuasion.com/nerf-brain-physics/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan09Loop.mp4
  13. Hidden Insanity Revealed https://mindpersuasion.com/hidden-insanity-revealed/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/hidden-insanity-revealed https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct13Loop.mp4
  14. All Your Memories Are Belong To Us: https://mindpersuasion.com/memory-confusion-experiment/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/all-your-memories-are-belong-to-us https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July25Loop.mp4
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July4Post.mp4 One of the best feelings as a humans is a feeling of accomplishment. Even if nobody knows but you. Especially if it was something that you weren't sure you could pull off. It's very common in self help metaphors to pretend we are special JUST BECAUSE. But despite how many metaphysical truths we believe about ourselves, we are stuck inside our physical bodies. Our physical bodies require physical things. Food, shelter, and most importantly, money. It would be fantastic if we could just "receive" all that stuff without needing to really DO anything. This is pretty much the core "teaching" of many "law of attraction" books and courses, and even some pretty expensive seminars. That if you only BELIEVE something enough, you'll plenty of free stuff. We LOVE that idea because BELIEVING happens inside our own brain. There is no need to talk to anybody. Or even look anybody in the eye. This even matches are most DEEPEST instinctive programming. To MINIMIZE our efforts and MAXIMIZE our results. All animals are programmed with this instinct. To spend as little energy as possible in the acquisition of as much energy as possible. Only humans can take this to metaphysical extreme levels. To WISH we only need to BELIEVE and some magic wish fairy will show up at our house with a sack full of cash. But we also KNOW that unless we move around and GET physical things, we'll starve. On a very basic, very REAL level, the BETTER we are at moving around and interacting with REALITY, the better stuff we can GET. This requires real skills, not imaginary skills. Imagination is ABSOLUTELY VITAL. But it's only a starting point. So long as you imagination DRIVES your actions, you're much better off. And if you keep taking action, and keep measuring what your actions CREATED compared to your imagination, that's even better. Once you create a kind of SYSTEM, based on this very simple, yet very ancient process, it's pretty mechanical. Imagine what you want. Take action. See what happened. Did you get closer? Do MORE of that. Did you not get closer? Do something different. This is the heart of all learning. The learning that is PROGRAMMED into your brain. The strategy you used to walk and talk and do everything else you can do. The strategy that WILL get you whatever you want, so long as you keep going. The ONLY thing that will keep you from getting what you want is if you take yourself OUT of the game. If you're out of the game, get back in. Ease into it. Develop a rock solid inner belief that you WILL win, if you keep playing long enough. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-esteem/
  16. When it comes to eating, there are two kinds of food. The kind that tastes good. And the kind that is good for you. Ideally, getting both in the same thing is best. But hard to find. Plenty of healthy food is dressed up to taste like delicious food, but it's usually an acquired taste. When it comes to choosing romantic partners, the same thing applies. There are people who are GOOD for you, and then there are people who are ATTRACTIVE. The people who are good for you are like healthy food. The people who are attractive are like the delicious food. This is true for both men and women. When it comes to the guys women are attracted to, there are two kinds. The guy who she is INSTINCTIVELY attracted to. The guy she can't help thinking about. Then there's the guy that she knows is "good for her." And if she is VERY LUCKY, she'll find both in the same guy. The guy who makes her subconsciously, romantically, emotionally and sexually attracted. And the guy who is good for her. The guy her friends approve of. The guy her parents approve of. Most ladies assume they've got to settle. But this rarely works. If the choose the guy who's good FOR her, her eyes will begin to wander. If she chooses the guy she's irresistibly attracted to, HIS eyes will always wander. If she COULD find the guy who satisfied BOTH criteria, she'd be in heaven. Not only would she be irresistibly, romantically and sexually attracted to him, but she would also look good with him. Her friends and family would approve. Most of the time, it's hit or miss. But when you understand exactly WHAT creates attraction, you can reverse engineer this feeling. Just food companies have reverse engineered stuff that we can't STOP eating, you can reverse engineer her attraction triggers. This goes way beyond short term game techniques. This is way beyond clothing, or looks, or even wealth. This is based on deep and ancient instincts. Things she won't be able to STOP thinking of. Things about you. Because once you develop these traits, you'll never have to chase women again. Just show up, act naturally, and choose from the best ones. This WILL take time. Like I said, it's NOT based on short game techniques. It's based on re-calibrating your core being. Not only will you become insanely attractive to many women, but you will become an extremely HIGH QUALITY MALE. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
  17. A long time ago I took a cooking class. It was pretty interesting, and I learned a lot of techniques. The lady that taught it was VERY specific in her instructions. About year later, I took another course from the same place. Same type of food, but a different teacher. This class was also pretty cool. Different recipes, different classmates, different teacher. I also learned a ton of stuff. The second teacher was much less specific in her instructions. The first teacher was kind of like a chemistry teacher. Exact measurements, temperatures and times. The second teacher, not so much. Some of this, a bit of that, cook it till it's done, and Bob's your uncle. You can imagine both types of instruction being useful in different situations. Whenever doing something like cooking, or building simple things, specific instructions are generally preferred. Especially if you are clueless, like I was the first time around. But with some things, specific instructions are USELESS. These are generally more complex things. Things that involve other people. With this, at best, any instruction MUST BE metaphorical. For example, imagine you had a buddy that was FANTASTIC with the ladies. A natural. You asked him what to do, and he told you to "Just be yourself." After all, this is EXACTLY what he does. Since he's a natural, he doesn't need to consciously TRY anything. He talks to the ladies just like he talks to anybody else. Relaxed, confident, friendly. At the same time, that advice sounds absolutely useless to somebody with social anxiety. The idea of simply "being yourself" is terrifying. Sure, you can be yourself when you talk to your close friends. But that cute girl with a gorgeous smile? How the heck are you supposed to "be yourself" around her? Whenever we are trying to learn from metaphors, it requires a LOT of trial and error. For example, supposed you wanted to learn to play the piano. And somebody told you to practice until you "got a feel for it." This is also a metaphor. A metaphor whose meaning you would have to DISCOVER for yourself. And the only way to discover that is to practice. Pretty soon, you WOULD get a "feel for it." You wouldn't need to use much of your conscious mind. Look at the notes, and watch your fingers move up and down the keys. EVERYTHING we learn has to be this way. A metaphorical instruction. Trial and error learning. And finally mastery. Of course, if you have LIMITING BELIEFS that is incredibly difficult. Get rid of the limiting beliefs, and learning ANYTHING will be mechanical. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  18. There are plenty of rags to riches stories. Carnegie is perhaps the most famous. He came to states from Europe when he was a kid. Before he was finished, he had a fortune that would be worth $200 billion today. He worked any job he could find. He learned anything he could. He invested his money wisely. Of course, luck also played a huge factor, as it inevitably does. He came during the second Industrial Revolution. When oil was a new thing. He combined his intellect, his drive to succeed with being in the right place at the right time. Once upon a time, there were only humans. No houses, no tools, no clothing. Every single thing that exists today was first an imagined thing. Either an individual or a collective hallucination. A group of ancient hunters sat around, night after night. Wondering if there wasn't an EASIER way to get stuff. They kept coming up with better and better ideas. Every single thing that exists today comes from the brains of humans, the actions of humans and the stuff that naturally exists. Even today, the same basic process works. If you are sitting at home watching TV, for example. You might imagine a sandwich you've NEVER eaten before. When you combine that imagination with your action, you can CREATE it. Of course, making a sandwich is pretty basic. But EVERYTHING is basic once you learn how. Once upon a time you didn't know how to make a sandwich. Once upon a time you didn't know how to do ANY of the stuff you can do. You might imagine a time ten or twenty years in the future where you can do WAY more stuff than you can do now. So long as you are willing to keep learning, you'll keep IMPROVING your skills. There is, however, one thing that can KEEP you from moving into bigger and better futures. Self imposed limitations. These are in the form of limiting beliefs. Beliefs that you accepted when you were younger. This is essentially the difference between guys like Carnegie and normal people. For whatever reason, guys like Carnegie and other super successful people had VERY LITTLE internal limitations. That is a very important, very critical element of their success. While none of us can do much about our EXTERNAL limitations (it'd be a bit too late to become an oil baron), we can do quite a bit to REMOVE our internal limitations. Do this and you'll be surprised. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  19. There are a lot of interesting metaphysical questions. One is the old one about the tree falling in the forest. If it does, and nobody is there, does it make a sound? The actual answer, from science, is no, it does not. How can this be? Sound, and everything else we "perceive" are really internally generated. In order for "sound" to exist, there has to be a measuring device. If a tree falls, it will make pressure waves vibrate through the air. Those happen whether somebody there or not. But in order for this pressure waves to be turned into sound, there MUST be some kind of listening device. And that listening device MUST have some kind of energy-transformation system. Our eardrums vibrate, and that in turns makes the little hairs in our cochlea vibrate, which in turns creates the IDEA of "sound" inside our brain. Similarly, a microphone has a vibrating element, but then those vibrations must be transformed to electrical signals. The same thing goes for all the images we see. They are essentially metaphors our brains come up with. The stuff we see is just as dependent on our eyes and visual cortex as it is on the stuff outside. And plenty of studies have shown that up to 50% of the stuff we "see" is really being generated ONLY internally. Kind of like the cache on your web browser. For the same reason your web browser doesn't download the same pictures from the same sites over and over again, our eyes and brain don't want to re-create the same images over and over again. To make matters even MORE confusing, the stuff we do CONSCIOUSLY sense is only about 0.1% of the stuff that is actually happening. But wait! There's even MORE confusion! Not only do we only metaphorical construct internal ideas based on a small fraction of what's really going on, but we give this stuff MEANING. And the meaning we give has a HUGE impact on the quality of our lives. But since the meaning is based on an assumption about a poorly constructed metaphor of what happened a long time ago, we can re-write them. This isn't magic, it does take time. Kind of building an athletic body takes time. But it's well worth it. And if you ARE willing to put in the time and effort, you'll learn those internally generated ideas about what's going on "out there" can mean ANYTHING you want. Anything you SENSE in the world outside, can create any internal feeling you want. Excitement, positive expectation, relaxed confidence, etc. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  20. Most people have heard about the four levels of learning. Unconscious incompetence, when you don't know you suck. Conscious incompetence, when you know that you suck. Conscious competence, when you don't suck, but you've got to use all your brain power to not suck. Then unconscious competence, where you can do it fairly well without needing to think. Many things that we learn come through these four categories. Tying your shoes, writing, driving, riding a bicycle, making a burrito. But there are some skills we come pre-programmed with. Like communication is a skill that we become unconsciously competent at without ever needing to think. We learn to speak before we are fully conscious. But if you were to learn another language, you'd have to go through the four stages. But you can also take something that already exists at the level of unconscious competence, and bring it back up to the level of conscious competence, and make it better. This is essentially what actors do. They take their natural, unconscious speaking patterns and consciously practice them. You can also do this with things like persuasion and seduction. Take your natural communication strategies, bring them up to the level of conscious competence, practice them until they are much more effective. Then drop them back down to the level of unconscious competence. This is the natural process when you take any skill, and improve it through practice. For most skills, there is no upper limit to the level of unconsciously competence. The more you practice, the better you get. Beliefs are similar, but a bit different. Beliefs are exactly skills. But they affect many other skills. Beliefs are like language, in that we learned them much before we were fully conscious humans. But very much like learning to speak better, you can learn to "believe better." How do you do this? More or less the same way. Do some work to find and examine your old beliefs. Rebuild them until they are better and more appropriate. Then practice believing them, until they drop back down to the level of unconscious competence. The thing about beliefs is they affect MANY different skills. So if you target the right beliefs, they will create a kind of domino effect on your skills. Find them, rebuild them, practice them, and drop them back down. Once this happens, a LOT of things will become much easier and much more effective. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  21. To get rid of limiting beliefs, you first need to find them. One way is to make a couple of assumptions. That the way beliefs manifest themselves in how your life IS. Not how you imagine it MIGHT be, but how it is. This can be tricky. Because one way we cover up limiting beliefs is by pretending we don't have them. This happens mainly in social situations. If you see an attractive person across the room, and you exchange some flirty non-verbal behavior. If you DON'T approach, it's rare to admit that you are limited by your fears. And those fears are generated by your limiting beliefs. It's much more common to deceive ourselves. And say things like we could if we wanted to, but we just don't really want to. One way to test this is if that person approached you. If that person did all the work. If you would accept THAT, but you wouldn't walk over there yourself, there is a GOOD chance you've got some beliefs keeping you stuck. How SHOULD you feel? How COULD you feel without any limiting beliefs? Imagine you're at a bar, and you went up and ordered some food. And you're sitting there with your friends. And the waitress puts the food on the bar. You get up, walk over, grab your food and come back to your friends. This is the same ACTION, of walking over and getting something. This is how things feel when there are NO limiting beliefs. Without limiting beliefs, you'd be able to look across the room, see an interesting person and walk over with JUST as much confidence as you would grabbing a basket of burgers. The same goes with making money. If you've ever seen girl scouts selling cookies, they aren't usually frozen with fear as they go door to door. For them, it's pretty fun. They even stand outside of supermarkets with stacks of cookies. On the other hand, imagine if you tried selling insurance door to door. The only difference is how you feel about it. People that really need insurance are relieved when they have it. The ONLY DIFFERENCE is inside your head. The beliefs you are carrying around. The beliefs that were formed when you were very young. First, you need to find them. Then undo them. Then rewrite them. Then everything will be fun and easy. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  22. Our language, and our world, is more filled with metaphors than we realize. Problems happen when we mistake metaphor for reality. So long as we are using metaphors to talk ABOUT something, they're fine. But if we are trying to use metaphors as guiding principles, that's when we run into trouble. The red car idea is a common way to describe our filters. How we separate the important stuff from all the noise. For example, somebody doesn't notice all the red cars. Then they buy a red car. Then they suddenly notice all the red cars. Before, they didn't think red cars were important, so their subconscious filtered them out. Once they bought one, red cars became important. Their subconscious filters were re-calibrated. But it would be a mistake to think that their subconscious CREATED the red cars. This is why sometimes when we visualize on things we want, we can see evidence. But sometimes we can't. The difference is NOT the strength of our visualizations. The difference is some things are ALREADY THERE around us. Only when we start to visualize them, see SEE them. We SEE what is already there. To imagine you can use your brain to make things MAGICALLY appear is a mistake. This is an example of MIS-UNDERSTANDING the metaphor. Because this metaphor can also be used to "describe" the law of attraction. But the word, "attraction," is not TECHNICALLY correct. Because you are not ATTRACTING anything. Your mind cannot LITERALLY pull objects from space. Another problem happens when metaphors are about processes. Specifically learning processes. For example, you see a cute girl across the room. Somebody says, "Just go up to her and be yourself." What, EXACTLY, does that mean, "be yourself"? How can you ever NOT be yourself? Is it even an option to NOT be yourself? Like transform into Iron Man or something? When one human wants to communicate a PROCESS to another person, it MUST be done metaphorically. Then it's up to the receiver, to take that metaphor and apply their OWN trial and error learning to MAKE SENSE of that metaphor. So you might hear the advice to "be yourself." Then you try a different versions of "being yourself." Until you figure out what the means, from your own SUBJECTIVE viewpoint. Then when you achieve success by "being yourself," you can now give that same advice to somebody else. This is how ALL learning must happen. First with a metaphorical description. Then when trial and error experience to DEFINE that metaphorical description for yourself. But there is one HUGE barrier to this simple process. And that is the collection of limiting beliefs we all carry around with us. But once you GET RID OF these negative beliefs, learning ANYTHING will be simple. Metaphor. Practice. Skill. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  23. If you were to train a dog, you would use something called "operant conditioning." Meaning that when the dog did something you liked, you would give it a positive reward. And when he did something you didn't like, you would give negative feedback. But you would need to make it seem random. If you gave him a doggie treat with every good behavior, the dog would EXPECT the good behavior. So you have to be careful and SLOWLY decrease the frequency. At first, when the dog sits, you say, "good dog," and give him a doggie treat. Then when he sits, you only say, "good dog." Then you vary the emotional energy with which you say "good dog." You SLOWLY disconnect the "sitting" to the "reward" and replace it with a new connection. Namely you say, "sit" and the dog sits. You create one cause-effect link. And you slowly replace with another. It turns out this type of conditioning works on all animals. Including humans. This is why it is so easy to get addicted to gambling. The action of gambling SOMETIMES comes with a positive reward. Just like the action of sitting, from the dog's perspective, SOMETIMES comes with a positive reward. But add in our human capacity for self-deception, and you've got a disaster in the making. Namely, the twin demons of hindsight bias and confirmation bias. Hindsight bias allows us to actually BELIEVE we are "winning" when we are actually losing. Confirmation bias allows us to see the random and sporadic wins as PROOF that we are on a WINNING streak. But then we run out of money. Needless to say, this feels HORRIBLE. Which is why gambling is so hard a habit to kick. Because as soon as you get some more money, the most common thing to do remove the recent sting of loss is to create another winning streak. This happens in many, many ways. Not gambling addiction, but how our brain and our biases takes RANDOMLY occurring events and turns them into ACTUAL MEANING. This happened most when we were very young. Human brains are still developing for the first couple of decades. But when we are between 0 and 7, this is when they are the MOST programmable. This is when most the BELIEFS are formed. Beliefs that form our personality. The beliefs that serve as our operating programs for how we deal with social situations as adults. Some people believe these beliefs are FIXED. They are not. You can find them. You can disconnect them. And you can rewrite them. You can take those initial events, and re-frame them to mean ANYTHING you want. So you can FEEL anyway you want in any situation. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  24. If you're a baseball fan, then you know players are pretty superstitious. Especially when they are on a streak. This is most interesting when a pitcher is six or seven innings into a no-hitter or a perfect game. They, and all the other players, start to act very carefully. They are afraid of messing up the string of good luck. I had a friend once. We were at the racetrack. We had chosen the sixth horse in the sixth race. Something had happened that day six times. We thought this meant we were GUARANTEED to win. But then RIGHT BEFORE the race started, that same thing (that had happened six times up till that point) happened a SEVENTH time. Of course, we LOST the race. My friend was absolutely CERTAIN the reason we lost was because of that seventh, last second event. Despite our strong affinity for our alleged logic and rationality, we can be incredibly illogical. It's very likely this helped us way back in the day. Making snap decisions, even if they are wrong, are very helpful in a harsh environment. Especially where ONE mistake can get you ejected from the gene pool. But life today is WAY more complicated. So we have WAY more chances of making erroneous connections. Now, when things like this happen at the racetrack, it's pretty funny. But if you are a pitcher and you've got a perfect game on the line, even though your rational mind may question the whole idea of luck, BEHAVING as if it exists may even be helpful. It helps you focus. It keeps your mind clear of external thoughts. But sometimes it has the opposite effect. Especially when we make FALSE connections between events. When we are young. From a time when we can't remember. This is EXTREMELY frustrating. We don't know HOW or WHY these beliefs were created. We don't even really know what they are. All we know is when we try and get certain things, we feel anxious, nervous, frustrated. Which makes it nearly IMPOSSIBLE to get what we want. For a pitcher, these goofy beliefs can HELP. Since they are created in the moment, and can help in the moment. But since our beliefs were ideas put into our brains when we were very YOUNG, and still act as if they are valid, there doesn't seem much we can do. Turns out, though, that there is. Because all limiting beliefs have the same basic STRUCTURE. And when you take apart the structure, it will have a powerful effect. The result will be an elimination of anxiety and frustration. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  25. Resistance can come in many forms. When you are exercising, resistance is welcome. For example, they have those stair climbing machines at the gym. You can watch the hill profile as you are working out. The feeling of switching from uphill to downhill feels pretty good. When you are purposely working uphill, just so you can go downhill, this is also pretty fun. I used to do a lot of cycling. And I lived in an area that had a LOT of hills. Very long and winding hills. One particular loop ended with the perfect long downhill. No lights, no cross streets. And it flattened out for a about half a mile at the bottom BEFORE there was an interaction. The fastest I ever got coasting down this hill was 53 MPH. This was when you start to get those "death wobbles." I did have a helmet, but had I crashed, it wouldn't have been pretty. Resistance is fantastic when you can anticipate it. When you can use it. But it absolutely SUCKS when you don't know where it's coming from. Like once a buddy and me were riding. His brakes weren't adjusted, so they were slightly holding him back. Not enough so that it was obvious, but enough to make him have to work harder than he needed to. Even worse is when you have resistance but you don't know it. This is how beliefs mess us up. They create emotional resistance. Since it's vague and unconscious, it comes across as general anxiety. And since so many people have the same general social anxiety, we ASSUME it's normal. This is a very bad assumption to accept. Sure, it might be NORMAL, in that everybody has it. But so is metabolic syndrome. Just because something is NORMAL doesn't mean it's ACCEPTABLE. And luckily, getting rid of social anxiety is much easier than getting rid of metabolic syndrome. All it takes is some introspection, some journaling and an understanding of HOW your brain works. Namely, how it links cause and effect. All irrational fears are based on an INCORRECT connection between two events. Once you dig into your brain and UNLINK these incorrectly linked cause-effect events, you'll RELEASE a lot of internal resistance. It will be JUST as noticeable as shifting from riding UPHILL to riding DOWNHILL. When translated into social situations, this means any feelings of social anxiety will be shifted into social excitement. Shyness will be shifted to outgoing confidence. Once you learn how, life can be much more enjoyable. Get Started: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
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