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  1. Humans are inherently scared and lazy. Many historians describe human history as a story of a scared and lazy people doing everything they can to make life easier and safer. Most of the time, we humans don't do things unless we have to. Unless our backs are forced against the wall. At the same time, humans are locked into the law of averages. Meaning there is NO guarantee that if our "collective" backs are pushed to the wall, then ALL OF US will survive. All that's needed is a FEW OF US figure something out. History is filled with these long trends called "Malthusian cycles." Malthus was the guy who found a strong relationship between population sizes and carrying capacity. And history bears this out. Societies get bigger and bigger. Then something breaks and it collapses. The next iteration that rises up tends to do better than the previous one. Better ideas, better inventions, etc. So each time, "humanity" does better. But many people WITHIN that group of "humanity" don't make it. So when people talk about "human nature," in positive terms, they are correct. But only when applied to large GROUPS of humans. This doesn't guarantee that each one of us will survive. Humanity as a group will prevail. But lots of people within that prevailing group of humanity won't make it. Most of the time just moving along with the crowd is OK. But sometimes it's not. The trick is to know when. Consider it a very useful ability to THINK for yourself. Beyond what the crowd is doing. Beyond what the recognized authority figures are doing. Going with the crowd is EASY. Following recognized authority figures is EASY. Thinking for yourself is NOT. Which is why you might want to start practicing doing just that. A good way is to think about something you WANT, but don't have. Then figure out what SKILLS you need to learn to get it. Learning skills is one of our prime directives. Slowly improving yourself, day by day. It's not always a lot of fun. But you won't be putting your future in the hands of crowds and leaders that might not have your best interests in mind. This requires daily practice, daily introspection, and genuine honesty. But it will SIGNIFICANTLY increase your chances of success in any area. And during any time. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/self-help-fail/
  2. Linguistic presuppositions are a very powerful grammatical structure. They are when you "hide" things inside of a sentence. Kind of like covertly slipping small ideas into people's brains. For example, consider this sentence: "Linguistic presuppositions are powerful." If I just said that on its own it would be easy to disagree with. You could say, "No they aren't." But I could take that same idea and hide it in a sentence. For example: One of the reasons linguistic presuppositions are so powerful is because they let you control other people's thinking without them knowing it. The above sentence works like a "sleight of hand." Where a magician does something on one side, where he wants your attention, but the REAL magic is being done where nobody is looking. In the above sentence, most people would focus on the part about controlling other people's thinking. If you read the above sentence, it would be difficult mentally to say: "Wait a minute, I disagree that linguistic presuppositions are powerful." This structure, of hiding ideas inside long winded sentences is what you see political pundits on TV do all the time. But the idea of something be PRESUPPOSED is very, very powerful. Because you can presuppose a lot, not only through words, but through actions. One of the most common "ideas" from TV shows involving lawyers and cops is the "one time offer." The district attorney is talking to the bad guy and offers him a deal. But then he says the magic words. That it's a one time offer. This evokes both scarcity and the fear of missing out (FOMO). Both are VERY POWERFUL when eliciting the desired actions from your targets. Sales people use it all the time, because it works. But there's a way to PRESUPPOSE this "one time offer" energy in your behaviors. Your subconscious non verbal communication. A way to build in the IDEA into your personality that YOU are a "one time offer." This is the polar opposite of "desperation energy." Desperation energy is like an offer that NEVER EXPIRES. Needless to say, if an offer NEVER expires, it won't be very compelling. Especially when it comes across as a very needy, "please accept me" type of energy. The opposite is very rare. Very attractive. Very valuable. Because it ALWAYS radiates that combination of scarcity and FOMO. And because it comes through your subconscious behavior, it's always implied. Presupposed. Which will not only make YOU insanely attractive, but it will make everybody else very motivated to ACT FAST. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/walk-away/
  3. A very common question when attempting to persuade is wondering what to say. Somebody has an idea of what they want from somebody else. And they imagine that outcome is going to come as a result of a verbal interaction. You SAY something, they take those words into their brain, and respond by DOING or SAYING the thing you WANT them to do or day. Most of the time this is exactly how it works. Even when ordering a beer from a bartender. Or asking for time on the street. The structure is the same. Step one, get their attention. Step two, say whatever it is you want to say. Step three, hope they respond the way you want them to. Step four, repeat from step two as many times as needed. You either keep going until you get what you want, accept a compromise, or give up. This is pretty much the strategy we learn since childhood. From delivering a one hour sales pitch to asking somebody in an elevator to hit the "three" button. But it's not the ONLY way. It's often not even the BEST way. Because there is a LOT of things we do now, that we didn't do before. And many of those things didn't involve somebody else asking us or telling us. Nevertheless, we took cues from our environment. Sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously. Most of the time unconsciously. Most people never think in these terms. Most people just kind of bounce around, and let their environment shape their behavior. But if you take a step back, and see how this process works, you can understand it. You can BE that environment that operates on others. WITHOUT their conscious knowledge. So long as you do it ethically, you can slowly change their behaviors to anything you want. In fact, to those close to you (friends, family members, coworkers) you are ALREADY doing this. So all it really involves is taking something that is happening unconsciously and haphazardly, and making it conscious and deliberate. This will give you a lot more direct influence over others. In a way where they won't ever know the difference. Pretty soon you'll be able to slowly shift the behavior of ANYBODY you want. The more you imagine this, the more you can see how POWERFUL this can be. Because essentially, you will be secretly in charge of YOUR WORLD. And nobody needs to know but you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  4. Everything we do has deep reasons and surface reasons. And not from a metaphysical sense. From a purely biological, scientific sense. On a very deep level, we are driven by instincts. Every single thing we do is it satisfy one or more combinations of instincts. Hunger is the easiest to understand. Because it involves taking something physical that we can see, touch, and smell. And through the process of eating, or satisfying our deep hunger instinct, we take that STUFF from OUTSIDE of our body, and put it INSIDE of our body. And while it is INSIDE our body, our body transforms it from STUFF to ENERGY that we can use to get around. This process of eating is EXTREMELY important. As such, much of any culture is centered around this experience. But at the very core, on the deepest level, is this extremely ANCIENT instinct that drives all biological entities to GET ENERGY needed to continue to stay alive. It's unlikely the many animals besides us humans think much about eating. But how we satisfy our hunger instinct shows that there are deep reasons, and surface reasons. The deep reasons are ancient. The surface reasons are cultural, contextual, and literally INFINITE. If you get into a fight with your spouse because they got the wrong cake for a party, this is a surface level disagreement over a very deep and ancient instinct. Every single decision about every single action (past, present or contemplated) contains both elements. Deep, instinctive levels. And surface level, conscious and rational reasons. Whenever we persuade others, the more of ALL the reasons we understand and target, the better of a persuader we can be. Something as simple as eating, for example, is rarely done in isolation. There are usually social instincts being satisfied at the same time. Often there is hopefully some sexual instincts being eventually satisfied. Meaning getting together for dinner is one step in a longer intention to satisfy sexual and romantic instinctive needs. No matter WHO you are intending to persuade, the more you understand about ALL LEVELS of their unmet needs, the easier you can persuade them. Most folks ONLY focus on the surface level ideas. These surface level ideas will always need language. Because language only speaks to surface level things. But the deeper you go, the less language you need. The deeper you go, the less of their conscious minds that you need. If you go deep enough, and subtle enough, you can persuade them without EVER needing to engage their conscious minds. Meaning you can get them to do ANYTHING, and they'll never know it was you. This can lead to MANY interesting outcomes. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  5. There are two very basic ways to get somebody to do something. And there are two basic reasons why we all do things. To INCREASE our state, by moving toward something positive. Or to INCREASE our state, by moving away from something negative. When thinking about persuading others, you MUST use their reasons. A very common technique of persuasion is "features and benefits." Where you list all the features, or the positive aspects of whatever you are persuading them to do. The benefits are the REASONS why they are "good things." One "feature" can have MANY benefits. For example, imagine if you were selling a blue car. One "feature" could be it's blue color. What would the benefits be of that blue color? Theoretically, they could be ANYTHING. But here's the thing. Unless those features AND benefits happened to match what was important from THEIR perspective, none of them would work. This is why salespeople tend to rattle of a LONG list of features and benefits, hoping SOME of them will stick. Of course, since we are all humans, we all have the SAME instincts. And if you happened to KNOW the instincts that were very STRONG in your target, then you could use that. For example, they say the path to a man's heart is his stomach. The INSTINCT in this case is food. And by "feeding" a man, over and over, you can "seduce" him. The idea being, if you are a woman interested in a particular man, by continuously SATISFYING one of his instincts, you'll "train him" to develop an affinity for you. Turns out these technique works VERY WELL. And not just with hunger, with ALL our instincts. Marketers and advertisers have known this forever. One thing we ALL respond to SUBCONCONSCIOUSLY is the idea of getting social approval. This is the idea behind ALL brands and fashions. The MAIN REASON we choose any type of clothing or accessory is to LOOK GOOD to certain people. And the more advertisers can create this CAUSE-EFFECT linkage, the more they'll sell: Buy this item (cause) and get social approval from your peers (effect). Turns out this is a VERY versatile idea. Of connecting the unmet instinctive needs to an external behavior. Advertisers, politicians, even religions do this on a LARGE scale. But you can also learn how to do it on a small scale. A one on one scale. To slowly change the behavior of ANYBODY. And just like most people FEEL REALLY GOOD when they strut the latest fashions, YOUR targets will FEEL REALLY GOOD when they start to exhibit your behaviors. Behaviors that YOU have trained into them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  6. When you were a kid your mom was worried about you hanging out with the wrong crowd. All moms are worried about their kids hanging out with the wrong crowd. Because we tend to pick up "bad habits" that way. A few decades of data show this to be true. The idea of nature vs. nurture is an old one. Take the idea that wealthy people have more books in their houses. Which of these come first? Does their desire to read books give them knowledge (from the books) and then they use that knowledge to make money? Is the desire to learn things the SAME knowledge that helps them make money? If you give a bunch of books to poor people, will they become rich? The trouble with questions like this is they are VERY HARD to test. Any kind of question about human behavior can only be guessed at. So what about nurture vs. nature? There IS plenty of data they can look at. And that is data from twins. Identical twins born together and raised in the same house. Identical twins raised apart. Adopted kids raised in the same house. Non identical twins raise together (same house) and separately. The data is pretty clear. There are TWO main things that create our ADULT behavior. Half is our genes, the other half our NON-FAMILY peer group. This is why mom was so worried about you hanging with the wrong crowd. Because we DO tend to pick up habits from our friends. If we have "good" friends, we pick up good habits. If we have "bad" friends we pick up bad habits. The REAL QUESTION is HOW, exactly, do we pick up those bad habits? We model. We subconsciously copy the behavior from people we admire. If that means doing homework and getting good grades, that's good. If that means smoking and robbing liquor stores, that's bad. But this is only ONE WAY we "pick up" behavior. There are many ways to "pick up" behavior. Sometimes we are "trained" by our environment. This is essentially how we pick up habits from friends. They (our friends) are our environment. Our environment which TRAINS us. Or we can TRAIN ourselves. This is when practice things like sports, music and multiplication tables. Or we can TRAIN others. Most people try to do this, but not successfully. The trick to training others is to be as COVERT and as SUBCONSCIOUS as you can. Meaning the more they DON'T KNOW they are being trained, the easier it is to train them. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  7. Generally speaking, having a long game is better than short game. For example, people who are CEO's of big companies can generally out plan politicians. CEOs can execute plans that take 5-10 years to play out. Politicians, on the other hand, are always focused on the next election cycle. If you've ever watched movies about chess, one trait of good players is how long of a game they are playing. A very common idea is that one player makes a move, and the other laughs, because it seems on the surface to be a silly move. But then it turns out that "silly move" was actually a trap. Sun Tzu's, "Art of War" was essentially the same thing applied to military strategy. If you were a hiring manager, consider two potential employees. Both had identical resumes and experience. One had a five year plan, the other only had a plan up until the weekend. Most would choose the guy with the five year plan over the guy with the three day plan. A common question of characters in movie, when one character doesn't quite understand WHY another character did something is: "What game are you playing?" Meaning they MUST have some long game plan if they did something silly in the short term. The word "checkmate" makes it way into movies when chess isn't otherwise mentioned. It means out-thinking your opponent. Of tricking him into a trap. Generally speaking, the longer game you've got the better play you'll have. This is true in competitions, but also in collaborations. In persuasion, you can think of short term persuasion and long term persuasion. Short term is using words. Talking to people in a specific way generate short term outcomes. You can also use long term strategies. Generally speaking, the shorter term the strategy is, the more words you've got to use. The BIGGER DEAL the short term strategy is, the BETTER WORDS you've got to use. The longer and more subtler the persuasion is, the less words you've got to use. When you train people, rather than persuade them, you don't need to use words at all. Only slight changes in tone of voice. Micro-extensions to eye contact. A very strategically placed touch here and there. The longer your game, the more you can train. Given enough time, you can get those closest to you behaving EXACTLY how you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  8. One of the most common, yet least understood idea is cause and effect. On a very basic, scientific level, it's not so clear. There is an idea of entropy, or "disorder" of any system. The second "law" of thermodynamics is that entropy will always increase. The reason "law" is in quotes is that second law of thermodynamics is not quite a law. It's not something that can be mathematically derived. It's just something they always see happening, and they assume always WILL happen. The idea that as "time" goes on, the "entropy" or disorder of a system will increase. If you tell a bunch of kids to stand in the corner and then turn your back, they will not stay in the same place for very long. The same goes for molecules. Put a bunch of gas molecules in the corner of a room, and they won't stay there. This seems simple, but yet it is insanely complex. In a very real way, the only mathematical way to DESCRIBE the process of increasing entropy is that it has a higher probability. And it turns out the only reason TIME moves forward is because ENTROPY always increases. Cause MUST come before effect. Unfortunately, when humans think about this, we almost always get it backward. This why anytime anybody starts talking about any two variables, somebody always says: "You know, correlation doesn't mean causation." Meaning that just because two things HAPPEN at the same time doesn't mean they are related. Scientists believe the reasons we silly humans make all kinds of cause-effect connections is because it helped us think. Our brain is VERY expensive. Our brain, despite being pretty small compared to our muscles, uses 20% of our calories. So any time nature found a shortcut in thinking, it took it. Way back in the way when things were simple, making cause-effect links were helpful. Now they CAN be dangerous. For example, if the first guy or girl that dumped you had red hair, EVERY TIME you see somebody with red hair your monkey brain will feel a little bit of those old hurt feelings. If a little kid sees ONE dog barking loudly and angrily, they'll be afraid of most dogs. At least until they meet a few friendly ones. Most people aren't aware of this cause-effect generator that lives in our brains. But it's pretty simple. And easy to leverage. Meaning you can link behaviors that you LIKE with positive feedback, and they will SUBCONSCIOUSLY be driven to do those behaviors. Which behaviors? Any behaviors you like. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  9. When I was a kid my brother had a pretty cool dog. He loved to run outside. Whenever he would see me or my brother putting our shoes on, he would get excited. He made the simple association in his doggie brain that "putting on shoes = going outside." Pavlov, of course, is famous for doing experiments on dogs. Getting them to salivate when he ran bells. This is also the principle behind anchoring in NLP. Create an emotion, set an anchor, and that emotion is connected to the anchor. If the anchor was set correctly, every time you fire it after that, then the emotion will come back. At least that's the theory. In reality, it's a bit more complicated. An anchor set in dog it pretty easy. Especially when you connect the sound of a bell, to the smell of food. A dogs ears and nose are very sensitive. So it's pretty easy to connect a STRONG signal coming into one (smell of food) to a strong and clear signal coming into the other (a bell ringing). When humans feel any emotion, there's a kajillion other things going on. So it takes a bit more effort in setting an anchor. This same cause-effect idea is much more useful somewhere else. More like the putting on the shoes effect. Because that putting on the shoes effect slowly built up over a LONG time. And it happened naturally and organically. Essentially, the dog learned on his own to make the connection between the shoes and going outside to play. This is a much more effective way to use the anchoring process. Slowly, and carefully, over time. You really only need a few ingredients. The desired behavior or emotion. And a few positive reinforcement points. If you take your time, you can train in a great many behaviors. We do this to ourselves all the time. Whenever we practice sports or music. Even when we study, we are creating an "anchor" of sorts. We are connecting KNOWN information to UNKNOWN information. This cause-effect is how our brain works. Most people use it haphazardly and sporadically. But you can use it deliberately and effectively. The best part is if you do it correctly, nobody will know it's happening except for you. Their (your target's) behavior will just slowly change. From what it is, to what you want it to be. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  10. Once when I was very young, my dad and I were watching our dog run around the back yard. The dog got near a small apple tree. My dad remarked that he didn't want our dog to get a taste of the apples. At the time, I had no idea what he meant. But later I did. An apple tree, to a dog, is just a regular tree. And since dogs don't generally eat trees, they don't think of an apple tree as anything special. But this particular tree was pretty small. Small enough so the dog could reach some of the apples. My dad was worried that if the dog ate one of the apples off the tree, she would realize that particular tree had some food. And she would eat ALL the apples. Beginner's luck CAN be pretty fun, but it can also be terrible. Usually the more obvious it is, the less dangerous it is. If you walked up to a craps table in Vegas, for example, and tossed down some money and won, you would KNOW it was beginner's luck. Because you were in Vegas, you would KNOW that gambling is very risky. On the other hand, if you tried your hand at investing, and got lucky, you might actually conclude that investing is easy. A friend actually did that, by making a spectacularly boneheaded mistake. He actually bought the WRONG stock. This was way back in first Internet bubble of the late nineties. The stock he WANTED to buy was less than a dollar. The stock he DID buy was less than a dollar. But he got the ticker symbol wrong. But the stock he DID buy, went up by over 1000% in the next couple months. He invested a little UNDER $300, and got back a little OVER $3000. This essentially TRAINED HIM that investing was EASY. A lesson that later led him to lose EVERYTHING when the bubble popped around 2000. Learning the wrong lessons can be CATASTROPHIC. Learning the RIGHT lessons can be EXTREMELY helpful. Even more, the actual process of learning (self training) is pretty easy. Just as easy as training others. And so long as you have their best interests in mind, you can train them to do ANYTHING and they'll never know. We humans are trained by our environment all the time. So when you slowly train in certain behaviors in others, they'll never know the difference. They'll think it's natural. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
  11. There’s a saying in NLP that you can’t not communicate. Meaning that everything you do, conscious or unconscious, verbal or non-verbal, is a kind of communication. You are always transmitting SOME type of information. On a deeper level, you can say that we can’t not PERSUADE. Communication requires two people. Even if those two people are imaginary people living inside your head. Any data that is transmitted from one person to another is done for a REASON. That reason is to change the state of the receiver. Sometimes this is a conscious intention, sometimes it’s an automatic, and unconscious intention. Many of our communication strategies have been built into us by evolution. Since we are social creatures, we’ve evolved to always give signals to those around us. We don’t usually think of these as communication or persuasion, but they work that way. For example, if you were having a pleasant conversation with a friend, and they suddenly looked over your right shoulder with a huge look of fear on their face, you would IMMEDIATELY turn around to see what was up. They didn’t plan on communicating or persuading, but that’s what happened. As social animals, we’ve evolved to always be sending signals to one another for that reason. In the above example, this requires only ONE person in the group to spot the predator, and communicate the existence of the predator to everybody else. But more importantly, that message comes with an intention. To persuade the receiver to DO SOMETHING. When it comes to conscious persuasion, we usually think of using carefully chosen words. If you’re a little kid, this usually means repeating the request over and over until it’s fulfilled. If you’re an adult, this can be done many ways. Sweet talking your target. Using carefully worded phrases that covertly hypnotize them. Whether you are selling or seducing, words can be EXTREMELY powerful. But they have one major drawback. The idea or behavior you induce with your words will be very short lived. Every time you sell something, you’ll have to use those same words over and over. Every time you seduce somebody (either the same person each time or a different person each time) you’ll have to use carefully chosen words. Needless to say, the words you use will have to closely match the outcome you are creating. But about long term behaviors? Can you induce your targets to perform long term behaviors, not just once, but permanently? Yes you can. Of course, it takes a little bit longer. But the flip side is it’s much more subconscious. Meaning the tradeoff is you need fewer words. And once you learn how, you can train anybody to do anything. And keep doing it. Permanently. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/people-training/
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  13. Why are some people luckier than others? To understand, we need to define what kind of luck we're talking about. If ten people are looking for one hidden item (at a party or whatever) whoever finds it will be "lucky." And if you repeat this "experiment" a kajillion times, the number of "lucky" people will average out, so long as some people aren't better "lookers" than others. But what about the kind of luck that involves catching lucky breaks? There's a pretty common idea of actors getting "discovered" in Hollywood were just minding their own business. But is that the way it REALLY went down? It's kind of hard to get discovered if your job is working in the middle of a huge cornfield. It's probably no accident that those "lucky" actors that got "discovered" were already in Hollywood working in places where they could increase the probability they would get "discovered." So there ARE ways to increase these "lucky" incidents. Imagine some actor who got "discovered." They weren't chosen just how they looked. They also got chosen because of how they behaved. The way the producers (or directors or whoever) took the way they WERE behaving, and imagined them behaving slightly differently in whatever movie they were making. On a much broader scale, if you want to "get the breaks" you need to make sure people see YOU as a potential person to GET the breaks. If you walk around with your hands in your pockets staring at the ground, you'll get passed over. If you walk with your shoulders back, and smile and make eye contact with as many people as you can, you'll INCREASE your odds. When hiring people for jobs, even technical jobs, one KEY element employers look for is how well you get along with others. Most problems we have will involve others. Either the "others" we are having problems with, or the "others" we'll need help from in solving the problems. The more easily you can put a positive "spin" on YOURSELF, the easier it will be WHENEVER you interact with others. Even better if you just be "yourself" if your true self is positive, friendly and can enjoy interacting with others when needed. Luckily, doing this from the inside out is pretty easy. Learn How: Stop Manipulation
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