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  1. Slowly Leave The Pack Behind: https://mindpersuasion.com/slowly-leave-the-pack-behind/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  2. Rise Above The Pack Of Beggars: https://mindpersuasion.com/rise-above-the-pack-of-beggars/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. Become A Modern Killer: https://mindpersuasion.com/become-a-modern-killer/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. The Nurse Killer Authority Pattern: https://mindpersuasion.com/the-nurse-killer-authority-pattern/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  5. Awaken Your Ying Yang Authority: https://mindpersuasion.com/awaken-you-yin-yang-authority/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  6. Xenophon And The Warriors https://mindpersuasion.com/xenophon-and-the-warriors/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  7. How To Be The Source Of Truth: https://mindpersuasion.com/how-to-be-the-source-of-truth/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  8. How To Demonstrate Real Authority: https://mindpersuasion.com/how-to-demonstrate-real-authority/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  9. Why Experts Recommend This Hack: https://mindpersuasion.com/why-experts-recommend-this-hack/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  10. Our brains are always looking for shortcuts. One way to frame this is we humans are pretty silly. Plenty of experiments demonstrate this. The Milgram experiment showed that 2/3's of us will blindly follow the orders of an authority figure. Even when that authority figure is telling us to physically harm another human. 2/3's of people gave another guy a "shock," even while he was begging them to stop, simply because the authority said it was OK. The shocks were fake, and the experiment was only to see how many would actually give a dude a shock. They thought it'd be around 1-2%. But as mentioned above, it was about 2/3's. And it is that much every time they replicated this. Another brainless human trait was shown during the Ash conformity test. A dude does a super simple visual test. Easy peasy. But when he's surrounded by other people. These other people, so he thinks, are doing the same thing he's doing. But in reality, the are purposely picking the WRONG answer just to see how it will affect him. And similar to Milgram, about 2/3's of people go along with the crowd. These two "triggers," authority and social proof, are very, very hard to defend against. Some say this is bad, and example of how brainless most people are. But on the other hand, if we were super logical like Vulcans, we would have gone extinct a long, long time ago. So, consider that whether this is good or bad isn't really the best question. What is the best question? How can you best USE these ideas? The idea of "selling" something, or even getting an idea across PURPOSELY using the idea of authority is as old as time. Many academics believe that Sun Tsu, the famous Chinese General may be a made up person. Not to con or fool anybody. But to get MORE people to understand all those time-tested battle strategies. Similarly, it's commonly believed that world-famous Einstein wrote a letter to Roosevelt suggesting that maybe the Americans should get a nuke before the Nazis did. This is partially true. It was actually a group of physicists, some ex-Germans who knew what Hitler was up to. But they figured if they wrote a letter to Roosevelt and signed it: "A bunch of scientists you've never heard of before," he might not have even read it. So they approached Einstein, explained the problem and asked him to be their "front man." And since world famous Einstein had MAD authority at that time, Roosevelt read the letter and took action. You could even say that the strategic use of authority kept the Nazis from getting nukes, which would make today's world MUCH different. Now, most people know about things like social proof and authority. But then they think to themselves: "Yeah, but I don't have any social proof or authority." You may not now, but getting some is much easier than most people realize. Many psychologists have done plenty of studies that all you need to do is "prime the pump." And POOF. Crazy social proof and authority. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-proof/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb11_Post.mp4 The halo effect is a very real thing. Or as it is commonly called, "beauty privilege." Of course this is one of those "truths" we very much don't like to accept. If you ARE a pretty person, you very much want to believe your success is due to something in your control. Not your lucky genetics. Similarly, for us non-beauties, we don't like to believe looks matter so much. Because if they REALLY do matter as much as we think they do, that means us non-beautiful types are screwed. But here's the thing. The halo effect is real. Academically tested and verified. But there are few other things besides super-gorgeousness that have a similar effect. Just to be clear, let's understand exactly what we mean. A gorgeous person says something. Maybe up on a stage, maybe on YouTube. And we look at her (usually her) and we think: Wow, that is so profound! Of course that "profound" message is coming through a VERY instinctively pleasing filter. And because we aren't Vulcans or Robots, that instinctively pleasing feeling is subconscious attached TO the message. So if a smelly homeless guy walks up to us on the street and says the EXACT same thing, we won't think it's profound. We'll think it's the dumb ramblings of a drunk smelly dude. Lucky for us non-gorgeous types, physical beauty is only ONE thing that can augment the words or ideas coming out of our mouths. Just for example's sake, take a look at some ugly ass dudes with some very INSANE messages. Who also had tons of people who thought, sometimes LITERALLY, that those weird sayings coming from ugly ass dudes were directly from GOD. Of course, I'm talking about cult leaders. These dudes are NOT the type you see on magazine covers. (Unless the magazine is nutjob weekly...) The question for us is HOW can we cultivate some of those non-beauty traits? Another thing we've got on our side is us non-Vulcan monkey-people communicate A LOT through subconscious channels. Facial expressions, eye movements, speaking speed and tonality. All can DEMONSTRATE a non-beauty type halo effect. But it's pretty hard to FAKE this kind of stuff. The first step is to build it in mind, by carefully looking back through your past history. To find examples of this non-beauty halo effect. Next is to speak with a certain type of "covert hypnosis" that implies, subconsciously, that you have this type of non-beauty halo effect. The next is kind of spooky, but kind of cool. Kind of a "hive mind recognition." When everybody knows, and everybody knows that everybody knows. And this is all spread subconsciously throughout the crowd. And when this happens, you will have generated cult-like-levels of this instinctively pleasing, and socially powerful "halo effect." What is this thing? Marketing types refer to it as "social proof." When everybody notices there's something about you. And everybody is noticing that everybody is noticing there is something about you. Which will make everybody WANT you. No gorgeousness or six packs required. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-proof/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb10_Post.mp4 Marketers are very clever people. At least some of them are. The ones that truly understand human nature. One of my favorite examples is way back in the day, when they had TV commercials. These were the proto-type infomercials. Before the informercials highly choreographed. When they should show some product, explain a few benefits and then you'd "call the number on your screen." The very first time they tried this, they said: "Call now, operators are standing by." Nobody called. The person who wrote the script and the "call to action" wasn't a marketer. They were more of a "guesser" about human nature. But since nobody called, they had to bring some pros. They only changed one line. They left the product description, features and benefits, etc., alone. All they did was change: "Call now, operators are standing by" to "If operators are busy, please call again." And BOOM. Tons of sales. The first one "operators are standing by" conjures up an imagine of a bunch of operators WAITING for somebody to call. If they are waiting for somebody to call, that means NOBODY is calling. Nobody calling = ZERO social proof. On the other hand, "if operators are busy, please call again," means PLENTY of people are calling. Maximum social proof. And the thing about social proof is that it often doesn't exist in a vacuum. If operators are busy, that means tons of people are calling. If tons of people are calling, not only does this MEAN social proof but it also IMPLIES scarcity. And fast on the heels of social proof AND scarcity is FOMO. Fear of missing out. The most motivating force of human nature. FOMO is the cause of ridiculous stock bubbles. Buying frenzies of things people don't even know. Only if they wait too long, they'll miss out. These means everybody else will have one, except for THEM. Even if you have NO IDEA what it is that everybody else haves, this is NOT a good feeling. If you can create social proof and scarcity, and enough so it generates FOMO, you can sell anything. But the best thing to associate social proof, and the implied scarcity is too YOURSELF. Most people today are super NINJAS when doing the opposite. Most people are desperate for pretty much anything. Blowing up anybody's phone, for example, will DESTROY scarcity, which has the follow up feeling of ZERO social proof. "Hmm, this person has been blowing up my phone for days. Not only must they be desperate, but they must have ZERO other options." This is the LEAST attractive label anybody can give you. How do you create the opposite? Especially if you are starting from ZERO? Three simple steps. First in your mind. Then in your language. Then in reality, and after that comes all the benefits. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-proof/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec27Post.mp4 You can get away with a lot if you act like you know what you are doing. This is understandable from a couple of different viewpoints. One is that most people are uncertain. This comes out in many social experiments. The Ash Conformity tests show that people will go along with the crowd, even when they know what the crowd is doing is wrong. A single test subject is given a simple visual problem. Super easy. But then that same test subject is put in a room with other "test subjects." Those other "test subjects" are really part of the experiment. They purposely choose the wrong answer to the simple question. And 2/3 of the time, the real test subject goes right along with them. This is social proof in action. Most humans are strongly dependent on the human hierarchy. Most humans, when around strangers don't automatically assume authority. They put ten people in a room and give them a task. One guy or gal ends up on top. This means 9 out of 10 people look around for somebody to tell them what to do. This means that MOST PEOPLE will not assume authority. So if YOU assume authority, they'll just stay out of your way. So when you ACT LIKE you know what you are doing, people will just ASSUME you know what you are doing. They've done TONS of studies to indicate this. Even the way we DRESS demonstrates this kind of authority. For example, back before ATM cards were a thing, and people would write checks, they did this experiment. They sent a bunch of dudes around town. Half were dressed casually. Jeans, t-shirts, collared shirts without ties, etc. The other half were dressed professionally. Business suits, etc. ALL of them went to restaurants, ordered, ate, etc. Then ALL of them tried to pay by check, and said they'd "forgotten" their ID. MOST of the casually dressed dudes had problems. "Uh, yeah, sorry, we need to see an ID to let you pay by check." FEW of the suit wearing dudes had issues. "Yes, sir, that shouldn't be a problem." Moral of the story? Act with authority and you can get away with a lot. No, you won't be able to roll into a bank, wearing a nice suit and waltz into the vault and stroll on out with a duffel bag full of cash. But most people WILL defer to you in most situations. Particularly social situations when most people are only PRETENDING to not be dying on the inside from social anxiety. Now, how do you RADIATE authority in these situations? You could PRETEND, and wear expensive clothing, etc. Or you could radiate DEEP and ANCIENT authority. Delivered by your voice. Humans have been SPEAKING to one another for tens of thousands of years. Wearing fancy clothes? Not so much. Get REAL authority: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/
  14. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 There's an interesting scene from the old movie, "Jaws." That movie has a lot of iconic scenes. This isn't really one of them. But it is kind of interesting. Not likely an original scene, as this particular scene, in different forms, but the same structure, can be found everywhere. Not just the movies. Anyhow, it was early in the movie. A few people had washed up dead. A bunch of people were arguing over what to do. Nobody had any real authority. Everybody was talking over everybody else. The one dude shut them all up by dragging his fingernails over the chalk board. Once they all shut up, he explained what was what. Another similar scene was in "The Road Warrior." Part II of the original Mad Max. Max had found a relatively safe compound. But they needed to move, but they had to smuggle out their secret stash of petrol. Similar to the scene from Jaws, everybody was talking over each other. Finally Max silenced them all by whistling. Once he had their attention, he gave them the solution. "Two days ago I saw a vehicle that can haul that tanker. You wanna get out of here? Talk to me." All humans are driven by instincts. Food, sex, safety. And a ton of social instincts. As much as we pretend we don't care what others think, we do. If we show up and people stop talking, look at us, and then pretend nothing happens, that feels HORRIBLE. On the other hand, if we solve some problem, and then return to our "group" and they spontaneously give us a standing ovation, that feels fantastic. Most of the time, we are safely in the middle. Doing everything we can to avoid the negative side. And trying our best to come up with any answer to any potential problem. Normally this evolves into those "idea contests" where everybody is talking over each other. Our deep fantasy is to be that guy that has the REAL answer. To wait patiently, send some signal for everybody to shut the F up, and then drop in the solution. And then calmly drop in the Mad Max solution: "You wanna get out of here? Talk to me." In the movies, this has to be heavily dependent on content. Content that is part of the story. How to find and kill the shark. How to escape the crazy motorcycle killers hanging around outside your compound. But this desire, to be "the guy" with the solution is WAY more ancient. Which means it's NOT based on content. It can't be. It's based on deep confidence, deep feelings of certainty. This simple idea, "you wanna get out of here, you talk to me," does not even need words. The right glance, the right head movement is often all you need. And when you can speak like a true leader, with true authority, words won't matter. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/commanding-voice/
  15. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug24Post.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, I went through a rebellious phase. I was very anti-authority of any kind. One of my favorite quotes was from Johnny Rotten, the singer of the Sex Pistols. It wasn't really a quote, more of an opening line before the music started. It was on their cover of "Substitute," originally by The Who. The quote? "You don't need permission for anything..." A similar "truism" is that getting forgiveness is easier than getting permission. If you're a kid, you discover this over and over. You think about doing something, but you have a feeling you shouldn't. You imagine asking an adult if you could or should do that, and you immediately imagine them saying no. So you do it anyway, even though you might get in trouble anyway. Then comes the reframe. They adults find out they ask what you were thinking. You act innocent and say, "I thought it would be OK?" They say it's not, and to please not do it again. I've known some grown up, professional adults who use this same strategy in court. "Gee, you're honor, I'm sorry. I'm just a dumb hillbilly, I didn't know this was wrong, or bad!" And chances are, if it's your first offence, and you're wearing a nice suit, and you openly respect the "authority" of the court, you may get let off. If you're attractive enough, you can use this technique to get of tickets. All of these "weasel techniques" have the same basic structure. You do something you know is wrong. You figure you'll get in trouble. But your "escape strategy" is to pretend you just a silly innocent moron who doesn't know right from wrong. There IS an instinctive reasoning behind this. People LOVE to lecture other people. It's a very good expression of our "social hierarchy" instinct. Whenever you lecture others, it feels very much like you are in a superior position. Even animals use these kind of strategies. It would be very good, and very recommended strategy if you happened to be hiking through the jungle and came across a silver back gorilla. Immediately break off eye contact, kneel in the dirt, and respect the authority of the jungle chief. These all based on recognizing true authority. This also requires you accept that you AREN'T the authority. Sometimes this is a good strategy. If you are kid, and you are worried about adults. If you are an adult, and you are worried about cops, judges, and silverback gorillas. But everybody else? Most people have no idea how EASY it is to ASSUME an authority position. From which you really DON'T need permission for anything. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug22Post.mp4 Socrates and Marcus Aurelius were two different guys from two different times. One guy was a Greek philosopher. One guy was an orator and a Roman Emperor. But they both had the same idea about the human thought process. Socrates believed that everything everybody believed was wrong. And he could prove this. This is where they get the Socratic method from. By asking enough simple and well placed questions, it's very easy to PROVE that any idea anybody has is false. Of course, eventually Socrates started doing this to the people he shouldn't have done this to. Namely the leaders of Athens who were pretty corrupt. They all had their logical reasons why they should run society the way they thought they should run society. Socrates carefully asked them enough questions so they started to really get worried. That this philosopher dude might make them look bad. So he "chose" to drink Hemlock. Kind of like in the movies when the "good guy" is going to be publicly executed, but one of his buddies sneaks in some poison or a knife. So the hero can die alone, with his own thoughts, and not in front a bunch of jeering spectators. This presents a problem. You absolutely CAN learn some simple questions that will prove, fairly quickly, that the ideas in people's brains are false. The problem is that this is likely the biggest "anti party skill" you could ever learn. It's not going to make you any friends. It's not going to make you any money. And it's certainly not going to get you laid. What about Marcus Aurelius? Same idea, but different approach. Instead of proving everybody wrong, he simply accepted this is the way things are. He wrote in "Meditations," that "everything is opinion." Your ideas, my ideas, their ideas, that famous smart person you like to watch on YouTube. Everything is opinion. Given that as a starting point, what did Marcus Aurelius do? He bootstrapped himself to the highest position possible. By developing the most powerful and compelling speaking skills possible. The most persuasive and elegant speaking skills. He started from scratch. As the story goes, he had a speech impediment. That, of course, didn't stop him. He went down to the beach, filled his mouth with rocks, and yelled at the ocean. I guess back in those days they didn't have Toastmasters. Tons of studies have been done, and if you resonate ANY kind of authority "energy," people will turn off their brain and take whatever you say as FACT. Now, you could be like Socrates, and run around proving everybody wrong, not making any friends and not getting laid. Or you could take some advice from a Roman Emperor. And BECOME the authority. So your opinions BECOME the "truth" in everybody else's mind. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  17. <iframe width="420" height="315" src="https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug19Post.mp4"></iframe> https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug19Post.mp4 When I was a kid I was a huge fan of the Twilight Zone. Spooky stories with unexpected twists. One was kind of weird. A bunch of guys had this airplane that didn't fit anywhere. Nobody remembered anything, and they kept disappearing. But the crux of the whole episode was realizing that it wasn't true. Just some horrible imagination that became real. And it was proven to be false when one guy stuck his hand into the still spinning prop. And then the plane vanished. This is a pretty good metaphor for our common fears. So long as we stay stuck, our fears will keep us stuck. But our fears are make believe. As soon as we take one step in the direction, the fear will vanish. And turn into excitement. Which is necessary. If you are going to be engaging socially, you need that extra energy. But that extra energy is easy to misunderstand. Once when I was in high school a buddy of mine and I decided to rebel against the system. What this really meant was that we were going stand up a minute before the bell rang. I know, dangerous rebels we were! But instead of getting a lecture by our teacher, everybody copied us. The teacher looked up at the clock, then looked at all the people standing up, and didn't say a peep. Most people will never be leaders. One of the most common fictional hero is the hero that is kind of forced to become a hero. Not one that steps up on his own. We LIKE this character because we all have a twin fear-desire idea. We'd LOVE to be in charge, but we don't want to stand up and TAKE charge. We love the idea of having "greatness thrust upon us." That way, we get the best of both worlds. This is how most people view the world. Under most situations we will ALWAYS look around for somebody to tell us what to do. Or to give us permission to tell others what to do. This is why we LOVE movies where characters are "thrust into greatness." But here's the thing. Leadership is very much like the two guys and the bear. Those two guys that were out hiking, and they saw a bear. One guy starts putting on his running shoes. The other guy says, "Dude, what are you doing? You can't outrun a bear!" To which the running shoes guy says: "I don't need to outrun the bear. I just need to outrun YOU!" This is the secret of leadership and frame domination. You don't have to have the frame of James Bond to take charge. You just have to have slightly stronger frame than everybody around you. And since most people's frames these days are pretty weak, that is pretty easy. Especially when you exhibit leadership and frame domination very subtly, very subconsciously, and very, very effectively. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  18. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug18APost.mp4 One of the primary assumptions in persuasion and influence is our logical minds aren't involved. This idea pops up in a lot of places with a lot of different descriptions. Cialdini showed we are influenced by things outside of our conscious awareness. If you've ever tried to use logic to get a girl or a guy to sleep with you, it probably didn't work. Logical arguments rarely work unless we are building rockets or doing brain surgery. Choosing movies, choosing dinner, choosing short term or long term romantic partners, even choosing things like cars and houses, logic is not a main component. We buy things based on how we feel. We date people based on how they make us feel. We choose food, friends, and our clothing based on how we feel. If you want to have a lot of fun, but also make some enemies, find out why people believe what they do. If you stay calm enough, and use enough meta model questions, it won't take long to find that the root of most beliefs is the following. "I believe it because the guy on TV said it was true." Now, nobody will ever say that. They'll say things like, "that's been proven already." But unless they are a scientist themselves, the idea that "it's been proven" has been taken at face value by the guy on TV. The Milgram experiment showed how clueless we are in the face of authority. Nearly 70% of people gave what they thought was an electric shock to a stranger, only because some goof in a lab coat said it was OK. The internal mental resistance to shocking some poor guy is pretty high. Believe what some academic goof says on TV? Not so much. But you need to be careful with these ideas. Running around proving the ideas that exist in people's brains are FALSE won't make you any friends. Dissecting people's beliefs is about as ANTI a party skill as you can get. So, why not take the opposite route? Instead of trying to disprove people's beliefs, or to blindly accept beliefs from authority figures, why not BE the authority figure? Turns out this is pretty easy. You don't have to be on TV. You don't have to hand out business cards with a PHD after your name. All you need to do is ACT LIKE an authority figure. This is the SAME as having a strong frame. There are plenty of very easy, very subconscious behavioral "hacks" to project very powerful authority energy. People will accept your "authority," and people will follow you because of it. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  19. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug14APost.mp4 One thing our brain does very, very well is take shortcuts. Our brains are VERY fast, but that does come with a cost. All things come with a cost. The cost for how fast our brains are is how inaccurate they are. As much as we love thinking we are "right," most of the time, we aren't. One way to think about this that our brains aren't really "truth seeking entities," rather they are "perception chambers" that are more of a means to an end. In some ways, our lives are much less chaotic today than when our mind-body systems were calibrated. But in other ways, they are WAY more chaotic. For direct survival, like staying safe, getting food, keeping out of the elements, life is much EASIER. But for managing our social instincts, and getting into happy romantic and sexual situations, life is WAY more complicated. But we STILL have our fast thinking, largely inaccurate brains. Luckily we can us that to our advantage. If you want to master the social game, you can spend TONS of time learning to read and interpret various signals. You can learn some powerful inter-personal communication skills. To keep track of what's going on up on the surface, as well as the complex and subconscious emotional interplay going on much deeper. And from this angle, life is very much like a never ending video game. Master one level, and move up to the next level. And every next level, you've got to pretty much start all over again. This is a worthy endeavor. This can be a very ENJOYABLE endeavor. If you are an outgoing, people person who loves to get in there and mix it up with strangers, this can be a fine hobby, and a fine career. But just like video games, there are plenty of hacks. One thing all human brains are hard wired to see is both social proof and authority. As much as we won't like to accept this, most us won't do squat without enough social proof. And most of the ideas in our brains come from recognized authority figures. Tons of psychological studies, going back decades, verify this. If you are trying to sell something, and you have neither social proof NOR authority, it's going to be tough. But if you have not only social proof and authority, but also scarcity, you can sell people boxes of dirt to people and they'll be grateful. So, what's the "hack?" Certain behavioral elements RADIATE authority. And this authority will generate its own social proof. And once people "feel you" as an authority, and they see all the other social proof people who also see you as an authority, this will create scarcity. After all, there is only one YOU. And this "hack" does not require you spend years working your way up the various levels. You can START at the top. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  20. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug13APost.mp4 The human mind is incredibly powerful. In many, many more ways that we'll probably ever understand. One way is how our memory works. Sure, for things like taking tests and remember names, our memory kind of sucks. But consider that it wasn't really meant to be a simple input-output device. It was meant to be a motivating device. A learning device. You saw somebody doing something, and you wanted to copy them. So you kept them memory as a guide, as you tried to get the same outcome. Since we're focused on OUTCOME, rather than a perfect copy of the performance, we don't need to have a perfect memory of what we saw. Only a "sort of" memory of what we saw. Only a starting point. The REAL goals it to copy how they got what they got. This how humans have been operating since the dawn of time. Monkey see, monkey do. But our memory also works as a kind of prediction device. When we go into any NEW situation, our brains have to sort through ALL our memories and find out HOW to "feel" about the current situation. This is where confidence comes from. If you have plenty of memories of success, then you get a "I've got this" feeling. If you have ZERO idea how to proceed, you'll get a "Go slowly and carefully" feeling. The first we describe as confidence. The second we describe as anxiety. Normally, anxiety is fine. It's simply an emotional to help us be on high alert for any potential danger. The only time anxiety is bad is when we don't want to feel it. Normally, when it comes to most behaviors, the only way to replace anxiety with confidence is with slow changes in behavior. If you suck at cooking, and you think about cooking for an upcoming dinner party, you'll feel anxious. If you take some time to practice cooking, you'll slowly shift that anxiety into confidence. For most skills and behaviors, practice the particular skill and behavior is really the ONLY way to shift from anxiety to confidence. Most, but not all. Social skills are the exception. Social skills involve human hierarchies. And most people practice at one level, feel confident, move up to the next level, etc. But you don't have to do this. You CAN start at the top. How do you do this? By specifically practicing skills, exercises and thinking patterns of people who are already at the top. How can you tell WHO is at the top of the social status hierarchy? It's pretty easy. The one doing most of the talking is on top. The folks doing most of the listening are not. But if you practice all the separate characteristics of those on top, you'll start to naturally and subconsciously radiate that "on top" energy. Kind of like a secret hack. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/stage-wizard/
  21. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July31Post.mp4 Externalizing is a useful instinct. To blame things outside of ourselves for our failures. We can do an imaginary split test and see why. Imagine two hunters, going after two animals. Two different valleys, but otherwise the same. They both throw their spears and they both miss. The guy WITHOUT the externalizing instinct has a very OBJECTIVE description of what just happened. He realizes his spear throwing abilities are not what they could be. Sure, he'll still go after that animal. But he'll do so with the realization that he needs to work on his skills. Now imagine the second guy. WITH the externalizing instinct. The one that IMMEDIATELY blames things outside himself for "his" failures. He throws and spear, and misses. But he gets ANGRY not at himself, at that animal. That ANGER makes him try again a little bit QUICKER. With a little bit more motivation, fueled by that anger. Over a few hundred generations, people with the externalizing instinct would tend to survive better. So here, we are, a few million years later. We STILL have that same instinct. Like many of our other instincts they CAN mess us up today. Like hunger. If your only criteria for food was that it tasted good, you'd be in bad shape. But you know you've successfully managed your hunger instinct many times before. You've successfully managed plenty other instincts before. This is the prime skills of an enlightened human. To NOT be driven mindlessly by instincts. To make rational choices. This externalizing instinct is no different. But this can present itself in insidious ways. Especially when combined with FALSE ideas we picked up when we were young. This is what drives MOST limiting beliefs. We all have plenty of memories of trying to express ourselves, and getting shut down. This creates some very POWERFUL limiting beliefs. We try to express ourselves, and we fail. Then we come up with an externalized reason. Even worse is we find plenty of others with those SAME externalized reasons. This creates social proof. If our social group is large enough (social media, etc.) they're be a few AUTHORITY figures. Now we've got social proof, authority, false beliefs from childhood AND the externalizing instinct. Unless you bring all these ideas up to the conscious level, and dismantle them, these can keep you trapped. Inside a cage of your own making. Or you can get to work. And take apart this cage. And live your life the way you want. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  22. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May07Post.mp4 One powerful yet somewhat confusing law of influence is the idea of comparison and contrast. When we look at any one thing, we look at it differently under various scenarios. When that "thing" is by itself, it's got a certain subjective value. When that "thing" is next to something else, it's got a completely different value. If you can strategically put the "thing" next to something, that "thing" will be perceived as have a MUCH higher value, that if that "thing" was all by itself. Marketers use this with profitable cleverness. For example, a $300 coffee machine sits on a shelf, and nobody buys it. But they put it next to a $500 coffee machine that only has one more feature, and now that $300 coffee machine looks like a STEAL. Or a restaurant has a $50 wine as their top wine. Since it's the most expensive one on the list, nobody buys it. (This is an actual case study from a marketing text). So they hired a consult to help. Turns out the wine salesman sold them a LOT of $50 wine bottles. No problem says the consultant. But ONE case of $250 a bottle wine. Put THAT one at the top of the list. Now, compared to the $250 bottle of wine, the $50 bottle looks like a STEAL! They sell out within weeks. One more example. A company is about to report earnings. Everybody expects earnings to be $.75 a share. But they report $.80 a share. The stock SKYROCKETS. It BEATS expectations. They THOUGHT it would be only $.75 a share. So compared to that expectation, $.80 looks FANTASTIC. Now, the money question. How can you USE this little known facet of psychology? By practicing how well you communicate. First a bit of honesty. Most of us are NOT hot looking Chads. We don't have six packs, we aren't model gorgeous, if we tried to sneak on the cover of Men's Health we'd get arrested. That's absolutely PERFECT. So there you are, with your non-Chad clothing and your non-Chad face and your non-Chad body. But then you start speaking. BAM! The stories you tell, the gestures you use, the embedded commands you drop here and there. Way, way better than what ANYBODY expected. Even better, is if you practice speaking this way with regular people, you'll develop MASSIVE social proof. And since you'll be the one talking, and they'll be the one listening, you will ALSO have authority. This trifecta of unexpected seduction power works BEST if you don't look like a men's health cover model. And the more you practice this storytelling technique, the more ALL THREE of these psychological triggers of influence and seduction will work in your favor. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-seduction/
  23. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr19Post.mp4 All animals, including humans, are driven by instincts. William James, an old school psychologist from 100 years ago said humans have tons of instincts and tons of learning capability. Consider that these CAN be the same. One reason for our "self awareness" is we can use it to learn new instincts. To learn new things to the point of unconscious competence. Normally, when we talk about learning things to this point, we say things like "learning by heart." Or learning them until they become "second nature." That term, "second nature" is very instructive. There is our "first nature," or our programmed instincts. We get hungry, we get horny, we jump when we see a cockroach or a spider. Or we have our "second nature." The things we PROGRAM into ourselves, that we no longer need to think about. If you sneak up behind a black belt and try to choke him out, he or she WON'T need to consciously think to put you on the floor. This is ONE of the main benefits of our conscious, self aware minds. We can LEARN any new "instinct" that we want. Most people don't. Most people are content to let others do their thinking for them. This is our "first nature." To find any kind of authority figure when we are in trouble. To figure out what to do. But what about those people who GIVE the orders? For most of them, that is THEIR "first nature." Some people are natural authority figures. They naturally gravitate towards positions of power. You put any group of people together, and somebody WILL hold that position. We humans are primates. We CANNOT not organize into a hierarchy. Most of the time, this is done unconsciously. From a "first nature" perspective. When we think about learning anything from a "second nature" perspective, we think in terms of specific skills. Programming, boxing, other sports or music. But the truth is that you CAN learn pretty much ANYTHING to the point of being second nature. You just need to figure out what to practice. For most people, even THIS is something they leave up to others. They go to school, and learn what they are TOLD. They get a job, and learn to do what they are TOLD. This is "second nature" learning, but through a "first nature" frame. You don't HAVE to learn this way. Sure, for most people, this is enough. But you CAN learn META skills. Like how to RADIATE authority. How to BE the authority in more and more cases. This is a muscle, like any other muscle. The more you strengthen this AUTHORITY muscle, the stronger it will get. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/pre-framing/
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  25. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov27Post.mp4 I used to have this friend that liked doing magic tricks. It was his hobby. But not the tricks themselves, the actual performance of the tricks. Nowadays, with YouTube, there are plenty of people, who make plenty of money, doing tricks on camera. For those who are introverted, yet highly skilled in technical tricks, this is a dream come true. The more you practice, the more you learn, the more money you'll make. My friend told me he had a "magic demon" living inside him. Not really a demon, just a metaphor. Whenever he saw a crowd of people he HAD to do tricks. He always have a few large coins and some cards. That's all he needed. He would just start working the crowd, and doing tricks with coins and cards. He never got any negative reactions. Something about doing magic tricks triggers some kind of ancient filter in humans. We LOVE the idea of magic. So even if some goof is doing bar tricks, we HOPE they are successful. This is something that we even talk about. "Do anything interesting last weekend?" "Well, sort of." "What do you mean?" "I saw this guy down at the bar doing these tricks, disappearing coins, things like that. It was pretty cool." This is why doing simple magic tricks is a FANTASTIC way to pick up girls. Which is why my buddy learned magic in the first place. Just being surrounded by people who are watching you and listening to you will create both social proof AND authority. Two things that instinctively trigger attraction. But you can do magic without any props. This is the heart of mentalism. Doing what is essentially "word magic." This is actually much easier than doing physical magic. ESPECIALLY if nobody is expecting it. If you overtly promote yourself as a mentalist, people will expect you to do some crazy things with your words. But when you learn some simple covert technology, you can drop in brain bombs anywhere you want. This is kind of like humor, but a little different. Humor works by leveraging confusion with a small window. For example, simple jokes are based on something called phonetic ambiguity. Two words that sound the same but mean different things. For example, what did the beach say when the tide came in? Long time no see/sea! But when you take this same type of technology and stretch it out much WIDER than the normally short attention span, it creates a FANTASTIC effect. A very pleasant, "who was that guy" effect. One that will do the same thing as actual magic. Create social proof and authority. And if you want, tons of attraction. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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