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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb07_Post.mp4 Most kids like treasure hunts of one kind or another. Most kids are told or read stories of buried treasure. Usually involving pirates. They steal a bunch of stuff, hide it on some uncharted island so they can come back and get it later. The idea of a secret stash is pretty common. The entire existence of the Swedish banking system is centered around hidden money. Accounts with only names, not numbers. One funny scene from "The Wolf of Wall Street," was when he and his friends were smuggling money out of the U.S. and into Sweden, so they could hide in it a Swiss bank. They had all these stacks of cash duct taped to their bodies. One interesting idea about humans is we have a secret reserve of physical strength. Like lifting up cars from children to being able to survive in very, very harsh conditions far longer than we think. Or even doing crazy things like cutting off our own arms with pocket knives, like people have done. When our ancient brains believe we are about to die, and switch into "survival" mode, we'll do incredible things. We also have a very deep belief that there is some kind of "greatness" within us. We all have a very vague, very deep, but very strong belief that there is this vast, untapped potential within us. At the same time, we all believe we have this deep "brokenness" that we are terrified others will find. This great ambition is generally thought to drive our actions. To achieve something magnificent. To show what we are a made of. Very much like Muhammad Ali's famous quote, "I'm going to show you how great I am." But when it comes to speaking, it seems to be the opposite. We fear that others can somehow see our greatest weakness conversationally. That if we express ourselves verbally, it will somehow demonstrate evidence of this great inner weakness. But when it comes to demonstrating our great strength, we feel the need to show, like Ali mentioned. But what if you could flip this script? Not once, but twice? To speak to others verbally that would elicit their feelings of greatness? Since we all expect first conversations to be very dangerous, imagine what impact this would have on others. To stroll up, and just within a few back and forth, easy statements, wake up their BEST parts of themselves? And even better, JUST as are starting to feel really good, split. Why split? If you leave on a high note, with them feeling maximum pleasure, they will be DESPERATE to see you again. And that deep desire, to see you again, will spin round and round in their brain. Even better, suppose you could do this to EVERYBODY you spoke to? Creating an ARMY of people out there DESPERATE to see you again. What would THAT do for you? Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb04_Post.mp4 Way back in the day, we humans didn't have a lot of extra thinking time. For example, we were hungry, and we had to spend a lot of time getting food. Sometimes days of thinking and planning and scheming. This type of thinking is not like anything most people have experienced today. This was very much a daily, "failure is not an option" situation. You and a bunch of dudes MUST find something big to kill. If you don't, everybody dies. If you do, everybody parties like crazy. A very big positive if you succeed. A very big negative if you lose. These are the conditions under which our brains, our imaginations and our thinking powers were calibrated. To get the things we needed so we WOULDN'T die. Those that did this best, got the BEST rewards. Sex, and the propagation of these genes. Those that didn't do this good enough DIDN'T propagate those genes. Today, life is much easier. At least with respect to getting enough food to not die, and not worrying too much about getting eaten. But we STILL have the same instincts. That's why 2/3's of people are overweight. Food is easy. Way back in the day, food was difficult. So those that could GET food, got sex. The alpha killers. Today, food is as easy as calling up door dash. Only don't get the reward of sex by ordering yourself a burrito. All you get is the burrito. Nobody is going to treat you like a rock star because you successfully convinced a stranger to deliver you a burrito. Our instincts for both SEX and FOOD had to be as strong as possible. Because getting food, and the result sex if you were good enough, was SCARY. Today, everything is mixed up. It's not hard to see that all of our problems today are a result of ancient instincts in the modern world. But lucky for us, we still have our powerful brains. We can STILL strategize. Just like we can use our conscious brain to overrule our instincts to eat healthy and exercise. We can use our conscious brains to come up with a much better strategy to BECOME ATTRACTIVE to others. Back in the day it was easy. Kill a big animal, and Bob's your uncle. Today, it's not so intuitive. But neither is riding a bicycle that doesn't go anywhere. Or lifting a heavy weight over and over again. Similarly, there ARE plenty of non-intuitive ways to create massive attraction. They don't really make any more sense than riding a bike that doesn't go anywhere. But they work just as well. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/first-impressions/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov22Post.mp4 Most people are not very articulate. And this is very frustrating. We all love the ideas in our own brain. But when we try to express them, they usually don't sound NEARLY as good as they do inside our head. This is a very common movie and TV trope. From both angles. The speaker has a good idea, they try to express it, and fail. Then they say: "I'm not explaining this very well," while their friends wonder what the heck they are talking about. On the other side, the listener is watching them explain their goofy idea, and says: "Do you hear what you're saying?" Both of these express the common frustration. Of having and idea and not being able to get it out. Or wanting very much to understand the idea in somebody else's brain, but not being able to. This is a very common element in relationship issues. One of the main reasons for therapy and couples counseling is to get both parties' ideas "out there" so there isn't any confusion. Otherwise tiny little problems can EXPLODE. One person has what COULD be a simple problem with a simple solution. But they don't express it correctly. The other person listens to and misunderstand the incorrectly expressed problem and takes it the wrong way. Then THEY express that the wrong way and it turns into a vicious cycle of DOOM! Yikes! But if you can develop the skill of taking the time to accurately understand exactly WHAT is going on in their brain, you can not only stop problems from happening, but you can create INSANE amounts of attraction. A very common love movie trope is the famous: "You get me," line. One lonely hearted lady has been searching her whole life for somebody who GETS her. The person who GETS her, GETS her. Her heart, her soul, her love, her undying affection. At least that's the underlying suggestion when would-be-lovers finally find each other. Not just a temporary hottie between the sheets. But somebody who really GETS them. This is much, much easier than most people realize. And like a lot of social and romantic strategies, most people are doing it wrong. What's the WRONG way? Strolling up and telling THEM about YOU. Right off the bat this utterly precludes anybody from getting anybody. You telling them about YOU isn't the real you. Chances are it's some kind of memorized game. You telling them about YOU isn't going to help YOU get THEM. Remember, somebody ELSE getting US requires they take the effort to find out about us. To understand us. You CANNOT do that if you are doing all the talking. Instead, turn off your brain. And listen carefully for their thoughts. Read the energy, the body language, and social situation. Turn your brain into a powerful RECEIVER of useful information. Not a emitter of self-based propaganda. Do this and they will see YOU like those movie lovers see each other. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/telepathic-enhancer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Post.mp4 Getting people to like you is pretty easy. At least from a purely structural standpoint. Getting people to like you is kind of like cooking something for somebody they'll like. When we eat "good" stuff, it tastes "good." This sounds like one of those circular arguments. When we eat food we like, it gives us a pleasurable feeling. We all have slightly different tastes. But they break down to the same basic ingredients and flavors. Similarly, we all like the same kind of people, but with slightly different tastes. We all like people who generally have a positive outlook. We like people who share. Share their opinions, share their experiences, share their couch occasionally. We also like people who like us when we share those same things with them. Just like food, we like people who we "feel good" when we are around. Some people try new food, take a bite, chew it and say, "uh, yeah, I'm gonna go get a burrito." Some people we hang out with and we think the same thing. Of course, when we decide we don't like somebody, we are much more polite. There is ONE more key element that MUST be present in people we like, and who like us. That the feeling is mutual. In fact, all else equal, knowing that somebody "likes you" is enough to get you to like them. Just that thought conjures up happy memories from school. ESPECIALLY if this happens slowly. You notice them. They notice you noticing them. So long as there is a very basic mutual POTENTIAL, that mutual like will grow in each others mind. This is when we "notice" something about them we didn't notice before. Consider that this slow, "mutual attraction generation process" is one of the MAIN reasons we have so many biases. Food and Sex are THE two most important things for survival. And since baby humans take a LOT of work, and time, that mutual "glue" has to be VERY STRONG to keep mom and dad together long enough. The slower it happens, the stronger that glue holds. One way to describe this is the "love" is really a form of "self hypnosis." When you start to think about them more and more. When they start to think about you more and more. This HAS to be the strongest feeling there is. Why? Hunger is two sided. The longer you go, the more your survival instincts will kick in. But love, and sex, are ONE sided. It can ONLY pull you from the positive side. So it MUST be the strongest feeling we can ever feel. And just like modern chemistry can "hack" our taste buds, we can also "hack" our self-hypnotic love instinct. For love, for friendship, for romance, for pretty much anything. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-communication/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov03Post.mp4 Making people happy feels good. That's why most people love kids. You don't have to put a lot of brainpower into making them smile. Just make a bunch of silly noises and a goofy face and Bob's your uncle. In fact, an anthropologist named Brown wanted to find something he called the "Universal People." He modeled this idea after Chomsky, who became famous with his theory of "Universal Language." According to Chomsky, all Earthlings speak the same language, only different dialects. We all come pre-programmed with a "language instinct." We all have the basic grammar wiring in our brains. It's really a matter of listening to the local dialect and calibrating our language switches. For example, English is subject-verb-object. I ate peanut butter. Japanese, on the other hand, is subject-verb-object. I peanut butter ate. And this is true all the way down to the phrases. This is why once kids get all their innate language switches calibrated, around 2-3, they suddenly EXPLODE with fully formed sentences. So, Brown was inspired by this. And he found PLENTY of things that are the SAME across all cultures. No matter how primitive or advanced. For one, nobody likes to be watched while they take dump. Everybody has some kind of belief in another "world" beyond what we can see. Mythology, religion, etc. Everybody is scared of snakes. And EVERYBODY uses baby talk. We all automatically alter our own communication when we see a kid. Speak with a little higher voice. Make a funny face. We LOVE making little kids laugh. And when we ARE kids, we LOVE making each other laugh. Making friends, making each other laugh, including EVERYBODY is natural. Kids are natural PLAYERS. But then we grow up. They say we are all born geniuses, but then we become "de-geniused" by the time we get through grade school. Or we are "de-playered" by the time we get through grade school. Our natural enthusiasm is hammered down. We become TERRIFIED of approaching strangers. We feel like we are putting ourselves in GRAVE danger, just by walking up and saying, "hey..." The good news is this is false. The even better news is that there is a very easy HACK around this common belief. We see an interesting person across the room. Our inner child, our natural player wants nothing more than to go over there and make them SMILE. To laugh and have a good time. But our elementary school hammering keeps us on the sideline. So, what's the hack? A dead simple system to make them feel happy BEFORE they know ANYTHING about you. Before they even have a CHANCE to reject you, they'll be laughing and having a good time. And they'll be the one WANTING you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/hypnotic-communication/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 Criteria are interesting things. If you're shopping for dinner, even if you don't have a clear idea what you want, you'll kind of know it when you see it. Not much conscious brain is required. On the other hand, if you're buying some spark plugs, you need to be very specific. Very conscious with the "pass fail" criteria. The more involved you and your "choice" will be, the more complex the criteria will be. The more of a mix of conscious and unconscious the criteria will be. What does it mean to be more "involved" with your choice? If you're buying a pair of shoes, and they'll be your go-to work shoes you need to make very sure they're going to fit right, feel right, and work right. Things like houses and large purchases will similarly take longer to make the decision. The toughest decisions are the ones that have huge upside potential and huge downside potential. For example, if you buy a house in the "right" neighborhood, and it STAYS the "right neighborhood" for a long while, that's fantastic. Friend with all your neighbors, good schools, low crime, a not very corrupt city government, etc. Or you could end up living next to some anarchists who practice their drum line in their backyard every night. Or if you're a boss of a new and small startup, hiring the right person can help you achieve financial success and market dominance. On the other hand, if you hire the WRONG guy, that could ruin everything, and you might even end up in DEBT. When it comes to choosing "appropriate" relationship partners, Mother Nature has kindly programmed us with instincts to help us choose. At least it USED to be that way. Today, the dating scene has been obliterated. The days are long gone where you could meet somebody at school, or at work, and slowly get closer and closer together and create a happy family. That still can happen, but it's not NEARLY as "automatic" as it used to be. But here's the thing. The deep instincts that create attraction are still the same. For men being attracted to women, what works now would work way back then. The kind of lady guys go for hasn't changed much. Men are still attracted, instinctively, to signs of youth and health. Health is essentially the same as looking hot. But for women, their instinctive attraction triggers haven't changed either. But the type of men who fire those triggers are very, very rare. But we CAN figure out what NOT to do. Take that same "bad" behavior and put it into the caveman filter. If that trait worked today, that same trait SHOULD work in an ancient environment. Being NICE is the worst thing you can do. At least the "wrong" kind of nice. Imagine a super nice caveman going out and picking flowers and giving them to a cave girl. Dude wouldn't have a chance back then, and that behavior doesn't work today. What WILL work? Find Out: https://mindpersuasion.com/nice-guy-killer/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct03Post.mp4 If you want to get a girl to like you, you've got to spark her ancient interest. Logic won't do the job. Attraction between humans works pretty much like attraction between humans and food. I know, silly metaphor, but go with me on this. You're hungry, and glancing over at the various things at the buffet. Fries, chicken wings, potatoes, maybe some baked lasagna. Your brain is not going over a bunch of logical proofs to help you decide what to get. You are looking and see which food makes you FEEL the best when you imagine eating it. Of course, you've got to pace yourself. And depending on who you are with and where you are, you'll make different choices. If this is a job interview over lunch, and it was your potential boss' choice, you'll make some very conservative decisions. On the other hand, if it's Friday night, you're hammered and with your buddies, you'll make some different decisions. But the ONE factor that is true in ANY case is your decisions is largely based on TASTE. Pure, irrational, ancient human TASTE. When you're with your boss, you'll choose something that TASTES good, won't fill you up, and won't have a high probability of not getting all over your short. With your buddies on Friday night, it will be ONLY about TASTE. So, back to the ladies. With food, and with dudes looking at ladies, the decision is easy. Men are pretty simple in this regard. We choose what LOOKS good. But women have a tougher time. They have to choose based on PERSONALITY. Strength of character. Strength of FRAME. Any ancient women who ONLY chose based on looks didn't last long. Natural selection, mother nature is VERY harsh and unforgiving. So the strongest instinctive attraction in the ladies, for the men, is based on personality traits. Self confidence. Thinking skills. Creativity. Social skills. Conversation skills. All these are BRAIN BASED. Don't get me wrong, if you show her how to do solve partial differential equations, she'll run in the opposite direction. The kind of "intelligence" she, or rather her instincts, are looking for are NOT obvious. That's why the ladies always test men. The more tests you pass, the more attractive you are. Passing tests requires are certain type of intelligence that can ONLY be shown through an organically evolving conversation. NOT the kind of intelligence you use to MEMORIZE a bunch things for a test. Luckily, the GOOD kind of intelligence is something you can practice. To increase your conversational fluency. To increase your frame strength and flexibility. To increase your creative thinking. To increase your ability to quickly and attractively overcome every test she tosses your way. What happens next is up to you. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/mental-strength/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept21Post.mp4 One of our biggest worries is knowing what to say. Job interviews, meeting new friends, talking to cute guys or girls. When two people meet each other for the first time, even with random strangers, we go into a kind of "defense mode." Everybody has a whole bunch of different layers. When you are with old and close friends, you can "let it all hang out." Fart, burp, drop as a many f-bombs as you want. But if you did that during a job interview, or on a first date, it would probably backfire. This makes rational sense. From a logical, outside in perspective, takes time to get to know somebody. It takes time for people to get to know us. A very, very common problem is knowing how, specifically to make a good first impression. Especially if you ONLY have a few precious minutes. Job interviews, first dates or first conversations. Many people have TONS of experience of how much people like you once they get to know you. But how most people get to know you happens organically and mostly subconsciously. This is the biggest problem with modern dating. There aren't many opportunities to organically "get to know people." So we have to consciously do something that is normally left to an organic and natural process. You see somebody, you'd like to get to know them, and you KNOW that if they took the time to get to know you, they'd like you. Maybe not fall-in-love like you but, at least enjoy from a friendly, conversational perspective. The problem is that THEY feel the same way. THEY would also like people to give them a chance. So we end up with a world where everybody has the same feeling, and the same strategy. That if only OTHER PEOPLE would "give" them a chance to get to know them, then these "other people" would like them. And when you get a roomful or a planet full of people waiting around to be GIVEN a chance, you get a lot of frustration. And since most people use the "onion strategy" this takes even longer, which creates even more frustration. What is the "onion strategy"? Of of starting from the outside layer, and then SLOWLY peeling back all the layers to the inside. Just thinking about this causes frustration. Small talk on the outer later. A number exchange a little bit deeper. A few texts back and forth a little bit deeper. Meeting for drinks a little bit deeper. As soon as we see somebody we'd LIKE to know, we subconsciously imagine ALL the work it would take to show them the real us. And for us to know the real them. The common response to this is to be as fake as possible. On as many layers as possible. Lucky for us, there IS another way. To ignore all that surface level stuff and LEAD with your inner, true self. This is not based on conversations, or words or even conscious strategies. Just a "re-calibration" of your inner core. So who you REALLY are resonates so strongly all you need to do is show up. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept20Post.mp4 A long time ago, I lived in a really small town. In a foreign country. Not so many gorgeous girls. Then I went to a much bigger city. My eyes almost popped out of my head. I had sort of "re-calibrated" my beauty standards, based on the small town. So when I saw what I otherwise would have thought of as "normal" beauty, I felt like I was momentary surrounded by super models. Of course, it didn't take long for economics to rear its ugly head. The most ancient law of the planet, and the universe. The one that says everything costs something. What were the "costs" of being surrounded by what my re-calibrated brain thought were super models? When I went back to my small town. Saw these girls through this re-re-calibrated beauty lens. This is based on a law of influence. Comparison and Contrast. How we value things is influenced by what we compare them to. For example, a high end kitchen appliance shop was having a hard time selling a coffee machine. So they hired a consultant. The coffee machine was $300. No problem said the consultant. Put another coffee machine next it. With only one more, relatively small feature, but charge $500. By itself, the $300 coffee machine looked OK. But next to a $500 coffee machine, it looked like a steal. A restaurant had a similar problem. They had a bunch of $50 a bottle wine nobody was buying. So they bought just a couple bottles of $500 a bottle wine. Before, the $50 wine was the most expensive on the list. So, nobody bought it. But once it was next to a $500 bottle of wine, it was a steal. Compared to nothing else, those girls in the small town started to look better and better. But then when I saw the big city girls, those small town ladies lost their allure. There's an old joke about two guys who are hiking. They see a bear, and one guy starts putting on his running shoes. His buddy says you can't outrun a bear. Running shoes guy says I don't need to outrun the bear, I only need to outrun you. When you are ANYWHERE talking to ANYBODY you don't need to be the alpha of the planet. You only need to be the alpha of the room. Turns out this is VERY easy. But only if you practice some powerful inner game. Since most people these days are fake, partly because their inner game is TERRIFIED, you can clean up. How? By practicing some simple, "energy exercises." Kind of like meditation. But they have a very powerful side effect. That will make YOU look like a hero. No matter who else is in the room. All based on your non-verbal communication. So the words you DO USE if you choose to use them, won't matter. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept16Post.mp4 Most people today are very fake. In fact, consider that presenting a "false identity" is part of human nature. Our deep instincts don't really know what to do with all these people. Our instincts were calibrated when we lived among the same people all our lives. And even until recently, before the internet, most people stayed around the same people all their lives. But from all the way back from the caveman days to now, reputation is CRITICAL. If you started getting negative looks from people way back then, you were DOOMED. The positive and negative social validation instincts work VERY MUCH like hunger. To motivate us to do things to keep us alive. The hungrier you get, the more you want to kill something and eat it. But social validation is much more mental and emotional. If your tribe were shooting you daggers, that meant you did something WRONG. Not something they didn't like. Something that was DANGEROUS. Like if you went hunting, came back with nothing. Or if you were out hunting, and you made some noise and scared away the prey. Once people knew that, they would give you a rough time. This would create a very UNCOMFORTABLE mental feeling. This would MOTIVATE you to do much better next time. The opposite is also true. If you came back with a HUGE kill, people would give you plenty of love. That would motivate you to DO MORE of that. So today, in our modern chaotic clown show of a society, these instincts STILL LIVE inside us. They still HURT or FEEL GOOD as much as they used to. This is people sometimes kill themselves due "only" to online bullying. Whoever says they don't care what people think are LYING. This is WHY so many people are FAKE. The absolute WORST thing that can happen to us is we express our TRUE selves, and get rejected. The only things that would feel worse than this, literally (not figuratively or metaphorically) would be STARVING to death or getting EATEN to death. Since few people starve or get eaten nowadays, social rejection of our TRUE selves is the most horrifying thing possible. This is why people are fake. It's a defense mechanism. Since you KNOW this, you can have a huge advantage. You can develop a deep sense of acceptance of yourself, so this will OVERRIDE any "surface level" rejection you may receive from others. But even BETTER, if you know this about others, that they are TERRIFIED of being rejected, and WHY, you can make a HUGE impression on them. Find out a little bit about the REAL THEM, and show through your communication, body language and frame, that you ABSOLUTELY accept the real them. This will make you STAND OUT as a genuine, honest, KIND person is a sea of fakeness. This will significantly enhance your success with friends, colleagues, business partners, lovers and potential lovers. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept15Post.mp4 The very first Star Wars, or really the first two, were epic. They were epic because George Lucas hired Joseph Campbell to help him out. Consequently, the first Star Wars was as close to the Hero's Journey as any modern movie. The rest, not so much. First they brought in the Ewoks, and then Jar Jar whoever. Once I did a mathematical experiment. I created a graph of all Star Trek TV shows vs. time. In on column, I plotted the name of the series according to when they were released. In the other column, I plotted the IMDB ratings. And it looked EXACTLY like an exponential decay. Which means they more episodes they make, the more they suck. One of Tom Clancy's books is called, "The Sum of All Fears." Since the book is about terrorists with a nuclear weapon, that's the assumed meaning. The worst thing that can happen. But the REAL meaning of the title was revealed about halfway through the book. Paraphrased, it's as follows: When you get a bunch of experts together, you don't get the sum of their experiences, you get the sum of their fears. What, exactly, does this mean? Every expert at the table has a career. And once you've spent enough time and effort building a career, your first priority is to PROTECT your career. So when you get a bunch of experts together, they will all first want to protect their careers. Only when they are SURE that will happen, do they focus on solving the problem. This is why Star Trek keeps sucking more and more. When you are young and hungry, you don't have anything to protect. But the more successful you get, the more you want to first protect your success. This is why the bigger any organization gets, the more sluggish and lethargic it gets. This is true individually, in business AND in politics. In big business, once they get to be a certain size, the spend a ton of money KEEPING smaller startups from threatening them. Often, they use the Facebook strategy. Of buying all these smaller companies. One of the biggest LIES of the past few decades is all we need to do is show up. Tons of people believe they don't have to TRY to get anything of value. This is partly because of a common political lie. It's always in some kind of form of: "Vote for me and I promise your life will be super easy." This is one of the main reasons why the dating market sucks. Everything THINKS they are special, just because. Most everybody expects WAY more than what they have to offer. But life always has been, and always will be, filtered through a Pareto Distribution. The top 20% get most of the stuff. Luckily, with everybody filled with entitlement, nobody has anything BEYOND looks. But if you develop deep and attractive congruence, you will SKYROCKET your way the top no matter WHAT you look like. Let everybody else cry in their cheerios about how messed up everything is. Create congruence, and have THEM competing for YOU. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept14Post.mp4 There are a lot of harsh truths in life we don't like. In fact, we don't like these truths so much, we pretend they don't even exist. Sometimes, these are blatant and conscious. So our avoidance of these is blatant and conscious. Like you get a letter in the mail from your bank. You're afraid to open it. You might look at your balance and find you owe the bank a few thousand dollars. Egads! But sometimes our fears are so deep we don't even know they exist. And we layer a ton of self deceptive based rationalizations top of them. A very common structure is the sour grapes response. A guy tries to grow some grapes, and he sucks. He looks over this fence into his neighbhors yard, and sees some very big, very plump grapes. Since he doesn't want to admit he sucks at growing grapes and his idiot neighbor doesn't, he makes up a story. That his neighbhors grapes are SOUR. So, whenever you look at something, you want it, but you can't get it, and you reframe that thing as being BAD, rather than something you desire but can't get, this is the sour grapes response. And modern men and modern women are super, super guilty of this when looking out into the dating market. Men think women suck. Women think men suck. Maybe this is true, maybe this isn't. But guess what? If you're a guy, having tons of women who WANT YOU and are actively pursuing you, this makes it much easier. If you working under the "beggars can't be choosers" model, this DOES suck. But if you are living from an "abundance" mindset, it doesn't matter if most men or most women suck balls. Since most will actively PURSUE you, you can simply skim off the top. Leave the leftovers for the rest of the beggars and sour grape haters. Now, the money question. How do you DEVELOP this abundance mindset? Structurally, it's pretty simple. Develop something EVERYBODY wants, but few people experience. Most people today are VERY fake. Everywhere you look, there are tons of people pretending to think and believe and do things that are only true up on the surface. But after just a little bit of conversation, you'll see the mismatch. Between their surface structure descriptions, and their deep beliefs. This is why most people do things that don't match with what they say. So when YOU come across with pure congruence, you will be very, very attractive to a great many people. Which means you'll have a MUCH BETTER chance of choosing somebody that actually isn't a trainwreck. All by simple daily exercises, that you can do on your own, to build up MASSIVE congruence. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept12Post.mp4 One of the weirdest ideas is about how we think about how we think. Or how we think about what we do. The general consensus, among advertisers and neurologists is most of our actions are driven by emotions and instincts. Then, a split second later, we come up with an after-the-fact story about why we did what we just did. We don't like the idea that our lives are being bounced around like a ping pong ball without our knowledge. Part of the function of our ego, it seems, is to maintain a sense of control. So, when our instincts or emotions drive us to do things, we LIKE to believe we CHOSE to do things. But advertisers who know better use this knowledge to make billions of dollars. Cialdini explained this, or described this is one of his books. We are influenced by things outside of our conscious awareness. Then we, or rather, our ego, makes up a story about why we did what we just did. We believe that story. But then we try and use that story to influence others for the same reasons we THINK we did those things. And it doesn't work. We come to the conclusion, Cialdini says, that influence or persuasion is some kind of mystery. But it's not. Because if you KNOW what those "outside of conscious awareness" things are, you can make a FORTUNE. This requires that you face this difficult question: Do you want to be right, or do you want to be rich? If we stick to our ego, and continue to believe our after the fact stories, we can FEEL right. But since this is to maintain our ego, it generally won't make us any money. This is why the BEST advertisers are much more like scientists than the TV types like Don Draper. Don Draper is a fictional character, whose job it is to ENTERTAIN us, the viewer. But in real life, the more scientifically you approach sales and advertising, the more successful you'll. This also works in dating and romance. We like people because of DEEP instincts, not logic. Logic is something we create AFTER the event, the attraction, the sex, the love. Food and sex are THE two most important instincts. And very few people can maintain a diet by logic for very long. Similarly, few people will maintain any kind of romantic ideas based on PURE logic. Unless you're some upper class middle age family trying to marry off your daughter to the right family. But a common mistake is using SALES techniques to CREATE seduction and romance. Some of them are necessary, but they are best used as SUPPORTING ideas. The initial attraction must be created first. And this initial attraction is not based on logic, or words, or wealth, or even looks. It is ancient, and therefore something much, much deeper. If you start with this basic attraction, and THEN add in some sales and persuasion ideas, you'll have a partner for life. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept11Post.mp4 Most people's brains are filled with a lot of complex ideas. Complex ideas that have zero bearing on reality. This is based on an idea of "excess capacity." For example, suppose a small town is booming. They keep booming. So somebody comes in and opens up a huge restaurant, to serve food to all the people in this booming town. The restaurant is really huge. Fifty tables, six full time chefs, 20 waitresses. But as the years go by, the town booms less and less. Pretty soon there are HALF of the people that used to be there. But let's say this restaurant owner doesn't want to accept it. He's still got the same amount of chef's and waitresses. But since they have half the daily customers, the waitresses just kind of stand around all day. This would be an example of "excess capacity." To much productive capacity, not enough consumption. This is our brain. Before a few thousand years ago, we needed ALL our of brain to get food, stay safe and NOT get eaten. We've been the same for about 200,000 years. Same thinking, same imagination, same language, same desires. Before they invented farming, and before oil was discovered, it took ALL our brainpower to get food, stay safe and hopefully get laid. But now, most of that stuff is pretty easy. Food is easy. Energy is easy. Staying safe is easy. And if you lower your standards enough, getting laid is easy. We are living in a caveman's dream world. Instead of having to chase after a fleeing animal, and hit it with your spear, you can order something from Grubhub. Instead of competing with all the other men for the very, very few available women, you can put on some beer goggles and grab the nearest guy or gal. But our brains are STILL the same. Our brains are JUST LIKE that restaurant. All the staff, but very few customers. Way back then, EVERY thought we had was pointed at more food more safety, and HOPEFULLY, maybe one day, sex. Today our brains have no real pressing issues to worry about. So, we MAKE UP stuff to worry about. We make everything WAAAAAAAAAAAY more complicated than it needs to be. When you are on one side of the room, and that cute guy or gal is on the other, your super powerful brain dreams up a KAJILLION ways it might work. And a kajillion ways it might not. This, naturally, creates anxiety. But there IS a way to calm your mind. So you can have the BEST of both worlds. A super genius brain that ONLY is fired up when you want it. And being alive when there is sex, love, and romance is pretty much everywhere. And not just "lower your standards" kind. The BEST kind. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-mindset/
