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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr01Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real thing. It's very superficial, but it's very real. In many ways, pretty people, both guys and girls CAN have it easier. So long as the content surrounding their halo effect is superficial, they will have a significant advantage. Why is this? When we look at pretty people, we get a very strong, very positive, very ancient instinctive feeling. A very ancient feeling that says, "I want that." Not just "that," but everything associated with "that." This is tied to beauty and youth. This was also calibrated a long, long time ago when life was very, very simple. Halo effect people AND fast food have plenty of similarities. Fast food tastes good in the short term. Halo effect people make us feel good, in the short term. Of course, this comparison itself is very shallow. There are plenty of things you can eat that are both delicious and very healthy. There are plenty of people who are attractive, but also have similarly attractive personalities. This is where the comparisons end. With food, healthy food can ONLY taste so good. You'll never get a healthy meal that satisfies you like your favorite junk food. Staying AWAY from your favorite junk food and eating ONLY healthy food takes constant vigilance. This is why it is MUCH easier to gain weight than it is to lose weight. But for people? It's the opposite. In this regard, pretty people have a disadvantage. Way back in the day, being physically attractive was enough. But today, the world is much more complex. Deep, long lasting and complex emotional feelings are MUCH more important than quick, superficial feelings. If you are one of the genetically blessed, creating those superficial positive feelings is EASY. So easy you can make a career out of it. So long as you NEVER have to talk about anything deep or complicated. This is why pretty people can be more prone to depression. Especially if ALL they have is their looks. They feel, on a subconscious level, that they are only a few steps away from rejection. They always have a sinking suspicion that if they lost their looks, they'd lose everything. That's why being able to CREATE positive feelings in others is a very powerful skill. Not through your looks, but through your communication. Not the superficial communication of memorized patterns or compliments. But deep communication. The questions that make them think. Not just a little bit, but for a long time. Questions that they will ponder for a long time. Questions that will resonate in their mind. They longer they ponder them, the more they'll think about you in fantastic terms. This is something you can engineer with your language. Your interactions. Your focus and your interest. This is the power that exists in your mind. An unlimited potential of never ending attraction building. Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar30Post.mp4 There's an old Far Side cartoon of a kid pushing against a door. He's really leaning into it. However, the sign on the door says, "pull." And above the "pull" sign, there is a much bigger sign saying "School For Genius Children" or something similar. Funny because a super genius kid pushing against a door that says pull. There are quite a few metaphors or doing the opposite of what we THINK we should do. George Costanza, the character on Seinfeld, decided to do the opposite of what his gut told him. And everything worked fantastically. Even Rumi, a poet from a few centuries ago, wrote about when we go into the fire, we are really going into the cool water. And when we go into the cool water, we are really going into the fire. Now, some of our instincts are PERFECT. If you are leaning over a railing on the 50th floor of a hotel and your instincts are screaming at you to get back, that's pretty good advice. But when it comes to social instincts, most of them ARE backwards. Many of our instincts are reversed today. Our world is much, much more complicated today than when our instincts were calibrated. But sometimes this doesn't mean running into the fire and hoping it's cool water. Consider this "double reverse" conversational strategy. When we see somebody interesting, we want to impress them. So far so good. Staying neutral or even repulsing them won't do any good. The problem comes in HOW we attempt to impress them. We try to tell them things about OURSELVES. In PUA circles, this is generally described as DEMONSTRATING HIGH VALUE. Meaning we need to show them or tell them that WE are very valuable people. If they agree that we are very valuable people, that's good. If they don't, that's bad. But most people think WAY too "short term" when demonstrating high value. Consider instead, to build high value. The word, "demonstrate" makes it sound quick. But BUILDING high value takes time. Especially when it's happening AUTOMATICALLY in their mind. How can you do this? By asking them questions about them. Not superficial questions, like their favorite perfume or band. But how they think. How they see the world. This will do a LOT. One is few people ever ask questions like this. Two is they will resonate in their minds. Three is the more they think about these questions, the more they'll see YOU as having high value. Four is these questions will kind of "grow on their own" in their mind. As will their VALUE of you. And the more they think about these questions, the better they'll feel about themselves. And subconsciously, about you, for asking them. All it takes on your part is a few simple, innocent sounding questions. And then let their opinion, and value, of you, naturally and organically increase. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/deep-mind-persuasion/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb17Post.mp4 It's no mystery that the dating market these days is an absolute dumpster fire. On the back of a train that is about to crash off a cliff. Being driven by drunken clowns who are also probably a little off to begin with. What's a guy to do? The main thing that makes modern dating so confusing, and extremely frustrating (and depressing) for modern men is online dating. Online dating is heavily tilted in women's favor. But not for reasons most people believe. And only on the surface. Firstly, we need to truly understand how male-female attraction works. Most people have an idea that men are more visual, which is why men are more drawn to looks. This is only half right. Men are drawn to looks, but NOT because men are visual. Men are drawn to looks is because from an evolutionary perspective, the best mates, from a caveman's perspective is based on how a woman looks. Not how she behaves or speaks or moves. But on how she looks. Why? Men only need to know that women are young and healthy. The job of women, according to evolution and mother nature, is to make more people. The younger a women is (yet beyond puberty) and the healthier she is, the more babies she can have. So, according to natural selection, men who happened to be attracted to young, healthy women had many more babies than men who were attracted to a different kind of women. This attraction is created through signs of youth, and signs of health. These are the SAME things that would describe a gorgeous woman. That's why women really only need to show their picture to create plenty of attraction in plenty of men. What about men? What kinds of things, in men, create attraction in woman? It's NOT looks. Women's job (according to evolution) is to make more people. What is man's job? To provide for those people. So, women evolved a natural attraction for men who demonstrate the traits associated with being a strong provider. Not a strong provider today, but a strong provider back when we were hunter-gatherers. This is VERY MUCH dependent on men's behavior. Confidence, social skills, leadership skills, speaking skills, persuasion skills. All the things that would make an ancient man a natural leader. Somebody who would demonstrate the ability to acquire resources. But many men today believe that women like men based on looks, just like men like women based on looks. This means VERY FEW men are even working on things like inner game. Most men are worried about looks, and very superficial things like short term game. So when you decide to work on your inner game, you will not only be very attractive to a LARGE number of women, giving you plenty of choice, but you'll leave all those pretty boys trying and failing in online dating in the dust. Even better, is working on inner game can be done anywhere, any time. No cold approaches or even conversations with ladies needed. Just keep building, and they will come to you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan03Post.mp4 Most guys believe, or at least have heard, the idea that attraction isn't a choice. This is absolutely true. An easy way to understand this is how we choose food. Eating is a necessary instinct. We need to eat, or else we'll die. Since all animals need to eat, we are all programmed with a dual motivation system. It feels really good to eat. It feels really horrible to not eat. And when it comes to choosing WHAT we eat, we don't need our brains. Sure, we CAN use our brains, but that's not our default function. If you are only hungry, and not concerned with calories or anything, your natural tastes will do just fine. So, we can say that the food we like to eat is NOT our rational choice. The food we enjoy eating, we don't CHOOSE to eat. If we could choose to like certain foods, nobody would be overweight. We would all CHOOSE to love broccoli and boiled chicken breasts. Attraction works the same way. Attraction is connected to reproduction, or sex. And just like food, we can't CHOOSE who we are attracted to. Otherwise, nobody would ever have a broken heart. We could just choose to be attracted to whomever was attracted to us. But if you've ever had an unreciprocated crush, you know this impossible. So, attraction is NOT a choice. Most of us very much wish it WAS a choice. But it's not. However, we often behave as it if it WERE a choice. Guys talk to ladies as if they can CONVINCE them to be attracted to them. A guy sees a girl across the room. He's already attracted to her. So he decides to TALK to her. And he wants to TALK to her, and CONVINCE her to be attracted to him. This utterly contradicts our nature. It would be like having a dinner party, and deciding to cook a huge pot of oatmeal. And having a strategy of trying to TALK to your dinner guests and convince them to "like" the oatmeal. What does this mean? It's one of those good news, bad news things. The bad news if you are attracted to any one girl, and she's NOT attracted to you, there's not much you can do. The good news? There are some very simple things you can do to INCREASE how attractive you are to WOMEN in general. These are simple drills you can do daily. The more you do them, the more attractive you'll get. The more attractive you get, the LESS talking you'll have to do. You'll just need to show up. Quickly check among all the ladies who are interested in you. And pick the best one. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec31Post.mp4 There are a couple of very common misconceptions in dating. One is that guys are more visual. This is incorrect. It only seems that way, but when you get what's going on, it will make sense. The thing that causes initial, subconscious, automatic attraction in men is how a woman looks. A man can look at a women and know within a couple of nano seconds whether she's not or not. Sure, this happens only through visual perception. But the driving force of INITIAL male attraction to women is female appearance. This isn't a function of men's eyes. It is a function of women's looks. Now, for most normal guys, this is only a starting point. But the thing that gets guy's attention is physical appearance. For women, it's not nearly as physical. Again, this is a common misconception. Many men put WAY too much emphasis on how they look. Now, you might debate WHAT, specifically, a women is looking for beyond looks. But it's pretty obvious that men are more concerned with looks, and women are more concerned with NON LOOKS. Because you can see plenty of hot looking ladies with some pretty weird looking dudes. Much more than the other way around. The money question is what, specifically are women looking for BEYOND just the looks? Make no mistake, looks are important. You have to have a MINIMUM level of attraction. But so long as you aren't a thousand pounds overweight, and you are wearing some decent clothes and you've showered recently, you're good to go. Most guys will claim that girls only want money. Sure, that's true for some women, but not most. So, what DO they want? Ask a woman, and she won't know for sure. This is generally given as evidence that women are crazy, or emotional, or illogical. While men are logical and not so crazy. Another misconception. Women might not KNOW what they want, but they certainly respond to what they want. The problem is that most women will rarely meet any guy who is CLOSE to what they want. Or rather, what their ancient instincts want. For guys, that can't imagine this. Guys see hot girls everywhere. Even if you don't see them in your neighborhood, you can find them online. Can women find hot guys online? Sure, they can find physically attractive men on line. But that is NOT their main criteria. The main attraction criteria for women is based on a guy's personality. His social skills, his confidence. NONE of this stuff shows through online. Few guys can demonstrate this in person. So when it comes to deep and ancient triggers of female attraction, most women are STARVING. Which means if YOU can develop just SOME of those personality based characteristics, you'll be a dream come true. For who? For pretty much any woman who is lucky enough to have a conversation with you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec29Post.mp4 One of the best pieces of advice in fiction is to show, don't tell. This is one of those things that everybody has heard a billion times. But few have taken the time to understand precisely why this is such good advice. A common complaint is a movie or TV show sucks because of lazy writing. This is usually an example of telling rather than showing. A good piece of fiction requires our participation. We like to watch the plot unfold, and make inferences about what has happened and why. Characters that have complex and unknown back stories make them more mysterious, and therefore more interesting. Every time we see them, we are subconsciously reminded that they have a complex backstory that we don't know about. This makes our brains, from a subconscious standpoint, much more interested in those characters. It's very similar to using curiosity as a marketing strategy. They more curiosity they can generate for any kind of product, the more we'll tend to buy it. When we are watching fiction, and we can put together what's going on, from the clues, we feel a sense of ownership. A sense of discovery. It feels much more like OUR experience. One that we participated in. Moves and TV shows that only TELL, don't require nearly as much brain power. It's much more passive. It's much more like passive watching, rather than participating. This the difference between well written dramas, and movies that depend on special effects and action. This can also be applied to dating, attraction, and seduction. The idea is the same. Show, don't tell. For example, a guy who is TELLING instead of showing will say things like, "I want you to be happy." As if a girl is going to hear that, and suddenly become happy. On the other hand, a guy with much deeper seduction skills will behave in a way that will make her happy. He'll carefully calibrate her behavior, so he can alter his behavior to get the best response. She can just relax and enjoy the ride. Guys mess up with they make it TOO OBVIOUS that they are interested in her. It's much better if she wonders whether you're into her or not. Step one is to behave in a way that will CREATE positive feelings in her. WITHOUT talking about it. Simply by calibrating her behavior, and using her subconscious signals to MAXIMIZE her good feelings. Step two is make sure she is always wondering about you. This will create maximum attraction, in her, for you. All by SHOWING her, and not telling her. The best part is once you make this part of your personality, you can do this with EVERY girl you interact with. Which will create plenty of women out there that are dreaming of you. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 It's hard to eat only a little bit. Especially when you are hungry. Imagine trying to keep to your diet by going to an all you can eat buffet for both lunch and dinner. It's extremely difficult, from inside our own brains, to tell the difference between eating because we like it, from eating because we need it. This is why a common piece of advice is to eat very, very slowly. Our brain is about twenty minutes behind our mouths. I don't know about you, but I can eat plenty in twenty minutes. For any given meal, you only need about 500-1000 calories. So if you eat VERY SLOWLY, your brain will send you the "stop eating" signal right around that same calorie mark. But if don't purposely eat slowly, you can EASILY put in a couple thousand calories in twenty minutes. All our instincts work like this. When they are happy, our brains pretty much shut down. Because they were calibrated way back in the day when there were FAR fewer things to satisfy our instincts. A very COMMON similarity to "eating too fast" is talking to girls for TOO LONG. Most people understand the law of scarcity. The scarcer something is, the more you value it. So if you text or call too much, you'll RUIN any attraction she has. But this works with first conversations as well. Most guys talk to girls as long as they possibly can. Until they run out of things to say. But here's a general rule, that works kind of like the "eating slow" rule. If you end the conversation BEFORE she wants to, she'll end up WANTING MORE of you. But if you keep talking after SHE thinks it's time to end, it will have the opposite effect. It will create a subconscious feeling of not being able to get rid of you if she wants to. But if you always end the interaction BEFORE she wants to, it will create a subconscious, "I want more of that guy" feeling. If you do this with successive interactions, it will have a much more powerful effect. Do it once, and she'll enjoy it, but it's easy to forget. Do it a few times, over a few weeks, and that will cause her to wonder about you. To think about you. To convince HERSELF that she really likes you. Not for your reasons, but for hers. This is essentially how people fall in love. Self hypnosis. Trouble is, it's very difficult to do this consciously. But if you build your life so you behave this way naturally, you'll have this same impact on PLENTY of women. Just by living your life, you'll be creating a whole ARMY of women who are always out there, dreaming about you and wishing you'd call. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec25Post.mp4 One way to figure out what to do is ask what a caveman would do. A common problem people have is with overeating. That's because our hunger instinct is out of calibration. Back in the day, we had to spend a lot of time, energy and risk to get food. So, our bodies slowly calibrated themselves, via natural selection, to our environment. So we have a three phase energy system. The first phase is we get a hungry feeling. This is an unconscious signal that makes us want to eat something. All animals have this, so we don't need conscious thought. Sure, we can describe our hunger. We can talk about how we can satisfy our hunger. But the hungrier we get, the more we want to eat something. For ancient humans, this got us up out of bed and got us out looking for something to eat. The second phase of our hunger instinct is when we actually HAVE something to eat. The "pleasure" of food in our mouths sends a signal to our brains. To stop thinking about anything else, and eat as much as we can. This is like a family on a road trip, stopping and filling up every time they pass a gas station. The third phase of our hunger instinct is that we store the extra. So we can go for DAYS between meals without dying. The longer we go without food, the hungrier we get. When we have food, we eat as much as we can and store the extra energy. An absolutely PERFECT system for an ancient world. Today, this SAME system will KILL you if you don't always and consciously manage it. Modern dating is the same. Our mating instincts in the PAST worked fantastically. Today, if we obey them they will DESTROY any chance of long lasting sex and love. So, how would it have worked in the past? Men were always away from the women, looking for something to kill. They would bring back stuff, and everybody, including all the ladies, would be grateful. Then the men would leave again. The women would NOT KNOW when they would come back. So when they did, they were grateful. And since men had to follow the animals (the wealth of hunter gatherers) the women had no choice but to follow the men. The instincts of men is to chase and kill (acquire) wealth. The instincts of women is to follow men. If you go to a fast food restaurant, it will be very hard to control your instincts. The food will trigger your ancient eating instincts whether you like it or not. If a woman sees a MAN WITH A PLAN, it will trigger her attraction instincts. Whether she likes it or not. Once they are triggered, she'll have little choice but to obey them. What will they make her do? FOLLOW the man who is chasing wealth. How to you BECOME this man? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/get-girls/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov25Post.mp4 A fairly common movie scene is where one character whispers something into another character's ear. Nobody watching knows what was said. Nobody in the audience knows what was said. If done well, this is a pivotal scene. Mystery makes everything seem much more enjoyable. This has been proven experimentally. Some researches did a marketing split test. They had two crayons. One called "Tangerine Orange." The other called "Millennium Orange." The second one, the one with the weird sounding name, outsold the first, by a lot. This is why those movie scenes work so well. Everybody is wondering what was said. Our brains don't like unfinished business. When something happened, and we don't know what, that makes us WANT to know what. This is not a conscious thing. This comes across as more INTEREST in that which we don't know about. This is why a lot of guys have learned, the hard way, to maintain a certain sense of mystery. If the girl knows EVERYTHING about them, there is no mystery. Why does mystery work so well? Let's go back to the crayon experiment. Unless you specifically WANTED an orange crayon, you wouldn't be very interested in the Tangerine Orange. There is NOTHING about that crayon you don't know. The other one, Millennium Orange, has a bit of mystery. And when we don't know the full reason behind something, our brains will tend to fill in the blanks. But here's the important part. The VERY important part, so make sure you read this correctly. When we fill in the blanks with our OWN subconscious information, we do so with ideas that we would LIKE to believe. We don't look at a crayon and think, "Wow, Millennium Orange. I bet it's called that for some really DUMB reason!" Instead we think it must be called Millennium Orange for a very COOL reason. And while we stand their and fantasize about WHAT that cool reason may be, it makes us WANT that crayon more and more. In those movies, when characters whisper to one another, we the audience, the other characters, ASSUME that whispered thing was very PROFOUND. This is why the best movies NEVER REVEAL what was whispered. Because no matter WHAT the writers come up with, it will NEVER match our best case, subconscious imaginations. This is why revealing EVERYTHING about yourself to a potential relationship partner is a BAD idea. Because when you have a little bit of mystery, your love interest will fill in the blanks with his or her BEST CASE imagination. So when you TELL THEM, it will ALWAYS be less interesting that what they imagined. Even better is when you learn to speak in ways that are PURPOSELY VAGUE. So everybody who hears you will fill in the blanks with THEIR best case imagination. This is entire idea behind covert hypnosis. Purposely vague language. So your listeners can imagine the VERY BEST about you they can. Automatically, subconsciously, and instinctively. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov24Post.mp4 One major paradox of human thinking is the difference between cause and effect. Everybody and their sister has heard or said the phrase, "correlation doesn't mean causation." This means we all are both fooled by this and skeptical of this. Evolutionary psychologists believe this is a function of survival. Our brains evolved to be quick, but not accurate. Everything cost something, and our brains aren't any different. The cost of having a very fast brain is that many of our assumptions are incorrect. Turns out that thinking quickly is much more important than thinking accurately. So even today, this cause-effect mystery messes us up. For example, you see a guy talking to a girl. The girl is attracted to the guy. The guy is attracted to the girl. Attraction happens subconsciously, automatically. But we don't like that idea. We like the idea of being able to CONSCIOUSLY create attraction. Of saying the right things in the right order. Kind of like we practice for job interviews. It feels they same. They have something we want. And in order to get it (a number, some affection, a job) we've got to say the right things. Only in a job interview, the words we say go through a much more objective filter in the other guy's brain. Since they are hiring for very objective reasons. Some people hire for emotional reasons, and this rarely works out. Nepotism, because the candidate is hot, etc. Objectively hiring people tends to work much better. But what about in social situations? A common mistake in any kind of consciously learned "game" is by reversing cause and effect. A guy is confident, and he's talking to a girl. His subconscious perceives that she's attracted him. Her subconscious perceives he's attracted to her. This fantastic and unconscious feedback loop creates a good feeling in both. They both sort of know the other person likes them. And they both sort of know they like the other person. This attraction feedback loop is the CAUSE. The EFFECT is the words they are using. The mistake comes when we think the WORDS are the cause, and the attraction is the effect. This is a very natural and common mistake to make. Most people ONLY think about the surface level language. Most people are unaware of the emotions and subconscious communication going on beneath the surface. If you only focus on the top, you'll HAVE to play the numbers game. Keep talking to people and HOPE you get lucky. Or, you can learn to speak subconsciously. Covertly. Hypnotically. And CREATE attraction at will. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.teachable.com/p/party-hypnosis/
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug15Post.mp4 Cialdini laws can be found everywhere. These are very much like biases, in that you can see them in others, but it's very hard to see them in ourselves. For example, social proof, authority, and commitment and consistency are three of Cialdini's laws. And these three ideas are behind most beliefs in our brain. Most of us NEVER take the time to consider any of our most closely held ideas. Humans didn't evolve by being slow thinking logicians. Humans evolved by thinking quickly. As a means to an end. The END was not "truth." The END was safety, food, sex, social status, etc. Advertisers know all about Cialdini laws. Even before Cialdini showed up. Social proof, authority, scarcity, commitment and consistency, you'll find these in all things sold. But since they operate BENEATH conscious awareness, we can ONLY see them in other people. We are not robots, we are not Vulcans. We are ILLOGICALLY thinking, emotionally driven humans. And we very much NEED to believe we are logical. Normally, this isn't a problem. Normally, this is a BENEFIT. If you had to logically prove everything, not only would be you lonely, but you'd be EXTREMELY depressed. Unless you are hard core scientist who NEVER leaves the lab, (and is married to a robot sex doll), being illogical and emotional is WHO WE ARE. The problem comes when we try and PERSUADE others. We tend to make decisions emotionally. Based largely on Cialdini laws. But THEN, because we have a need to BELIEVE that we are logical and rational, even when we aren't, we come up with a logical sounding reason WHY we did what we just did. When we only tell ourselves these reasons, that's PERFECT. But if we use these SAME REASONS to try and influence others, it won't work. Since they aren't the REAL reasons. Luckily, there is a way to temporarily SHUT DOWN this post logic imagination. Which is essentially an ego protection tool. Once shut off (temporarily) you can talk to others to BUILD up their deep desire. The STRONGER their desire is, the more they'll enjoy talking to you. The more they'll be ATTRACTED to the things you are talking about. The more they'll want to DO THEM. The more they'll want to DO YOU, but you gotta be careful. Because this works VERY QUICKLY, and very strongly, the LAST thing you want is somebody you DON'T KNOW being super attracted to you. So go slow, and you'll be fine. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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Why Being Yourself Is Excellent Advice: https://mindpersuasion.com/be-yourself-is-excellent-advice/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July23Loop.mp4
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https://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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https://mindpersuasion.com/collateral-attraction/
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If you ever get stuck in a social situation and you don't know what to do, it's usually too late. Humans behave BEST when we are operating mostly subconsciously. Automatically. In sports, the coveted flow state is when you are operating at a very high level AND mostly unconsciously. When it seems like you are WATCHING yourself perform. This can happen socially as well. For most of us, this happens with close friends with whom we have a ton of built in rapport. This is when conversations flow and good times roll. But it is also possible to create this social flow state with people you've just met. This requires we think a little meta. If you want to get good at something, you have to practice. The more you practiced, the higher level of unconscious competence you'd become. For example, it's pretty easy to get to the level of unconscious competence playing "Mary Had a Little Lamb" on the piano. But getting to that same level of unconscious competence while playing something like Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata would take a LOT more practice. So how can you develop unconscious competence, that flow state, with social situations involving people you DON'T KNOW? By practicing talking to people you don't know. Most people don't like this idea. They only like the idea of talking to somebody they are interested in. This is actually a form of self-deception. They think about being social and outgoing around EVERYBODY, and it scares them. So they cover up this fear by saying things like, "Why would I talk to THAT person? I'm not interested in them!" But by practicing friendly small talk with EVERYBODY, you'll be practicing social skills on a META level. And you'll soon get to know "people" on a structural level. After you talk to ENOUGH people, you'll realize TWO THINGS about everybody. One, that everybody is unique in some way. Two, everybody is VERY SIMILAR in many ways. And once you feel this similarity on a deep and unconscious level, all fear will VANISH. This means talking to anybody NEW will seem familiar. Which means it will be much easier to enter into that free flowing, outcome independent flow state. Which everybody finds INSANELY attractive. This REQUIRES that you see small talk as something you PRACTICE. Not something you do because you ONLY enjoy it. That would be like somebody who doesn't exercise because they don't enjoy it. It takes a while to ENJOY exercising. And it will always be BOTH a means and an end. So will small talk. It may suck to think of practicing it. But when it becomes both a means and an end, you will be developing some very rare, and very attractive, social skills. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Very often there is huge difference between long term and short term strategies. If you want something in the short term, this will often make it MUCH more difficult to get those same things in the long term. And if you try to get those same things in the LONG TERM, it will make it much more difficult to get satisfaction in the short term. One obvious area is food, eating and exercise. Sitting on the couch and eating burgers FEELS GOOD in the short term. But it adds up to lots of PAIN in the long term. The older you get, the more your joints will hurt. The more clogged you arteries will get. And ultimately, the sooner you'll die. Jogging and eating healthy every day doesn't feel good in the short term. But it adds up to a much LONGER and healthier and happier life. You will have much less body pain as you get older. You won't have pains shooting up and down your joints when you get out of bed. You'll even keep your brain intact for much longer. As they say, short term gain leads to long term pain. And short term pain leads to long term gain. This is also true in dating and attraction. For example, many guys have mastered the art of short term success with the ladies. Any time you use ARTIFICIAL strategies, or "game," you are using a collection of INORGANIC personality traits. This is why a guy CAN have ton of short term success, but not much long term success. Since that short term success is based on an inauthentic representation of YOU, it's hard to keep up. Pretty soon the REAL YOU will show up. And that REAL YOU will be different than the guy she was attracted to. Consider an alternative. Of being the REAL YOU all the time. This sounds like VERY CORNY advice! Just be yourself! The trick is to ALWAYS be improving your REAL SELF. So your REAL SELF will always have better and better results. How do you do this? By improving your goals. By improving your communication skills. By improving your financial skills. Here's where it gets REALLY interesting. The quality of woman you can attract by being the REAL YOU is a very useful PROXY for how SUCCESSFUL of a life the REAL YOU can achieve. Which means if you continue to build up the REAL YOU to have a much better life, you'll AUTOMATICALLY be more attractive to higher quality women. This means you'll need to ditch short term, magical "game" type thinking. And focus on REAL, long term success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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It's a common idea to wish for magic seduction tricks. Even in other things like weight loss, it seems we humans are absolute suckers for the "one weird trick" scam Like if we find that one weird trick to lose weight, our problems are over. Or if we find that one secret hack into the female mind, we'll understand how easy it is to make ANY girl fall head over heels in lust with us. Unfortunately, these are all cons. Based on the same idea of the ancient snake oil salesman. The guy who would roll into town, and sell the "one weird potion" that would fix everything. Of course, he NEVER sold stuff out of an actual store. He HAD to sell it off the back of a wagon. So he could go from town to town. The idea being he'd be gone when people were wise to the scam. PT Barnum famously said there is a sucker born every minute. And suckers are suckers because we are willing to believe something that is too good to be true. Like shortcuts to making money, or shortcuts to losing weight, or shortcuts to romantic success. The truth is that anything WORTH getting will have a couple of clear identifying signals. One is it will be something FEW people have. If EVERYBODY had it, whether it be a thing a skill or a characteristic, it wouldn't be special. Two is it takes time and effort. And since most people are SCARED and LAZY, most people would rather spend their entire lives searching for one weird trick. In a way, this is good news. Because if you actually put in the work, you'll slowly differentiate yourself from every other lazy goof out there. And when it comes to developing GENUINE attraction from attractive women, the more work you put in, the more attraction you'll generate. So long as you start SLOWLY, and continue SLOWLY, it will very soon become a daily habit. And daily habits are easy. So long as they are daily habits that are BUILDING valuable skills. And it turns out the SAME SKILLS that attract high quality women are the skills that build a high quality life. And these skills have NO upper limit. Which means the more consistently you build them, the BETTER and STRONGER your skills will become. No weird tricks needed. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Despite modern popular propaganda, there are tons of differences between men and women. And a very easy way to imagine these differences is the ONE THING that led to human flexibility and creativity. Every other animal except for humans doesn't have a sexual division of labor when it comes to getting food. Choose any animal, and when they are hungry, males and females both go after the same type of food. But humans split along gender lines. LONG before we were humans. Men hunted, and women gathered. We either become omnivores BECAUSE of this, or we split along gender lines BECAUSE we were omnivores. Men got protein and fat. Women got roots and other stuff from the ground. This lasted for a few million years, and accounts for MOST behavioral and psychological differences between men and women. For example, women are capable of carrying on about a million different conversations at once. This is because while they were digging for roots and grubs, they were watching the kids AND gossiping like crazy. Not only can they carry on tons of conversational threads at once, BUT they seem to have eyes all over their heads. When you were a kid, and you thought you mom couldn't see you, now you know why she could. It is an evolutionary advantage. Men, on the other hand, are the complete opposite. They can carry on ONE conversational thread at most. And even then it's mostly grunts and nods. And male vision is very long range and narrow. This is what you'd expect from spending all day hunting. Not talking much, always scanning the horizon for something to kill. This gives us an insight into the type of MEN women are hard wired to be ATTRACTED to. NOT the kind who can carry on a girly type conversation. NOT the kind who is prone to gossip. The kind of guy women are hard wired to be attracted to is the guy who is ALWAYS looking for something to kill. And when he DOES kill it, he drags it back to camp. The guy who kills the biggest animal gets the biggest rock star treatment. This is why women love a guy with REAL social status. The social status that comes from being a KILLER. He goes out, he kills, he comes home and chills with his people. This is why if you text too often it will kill attraction. This is why if you're too needy, it will kill attraction. This is why if you're too worried whether she likes you, it will kill attraction. She wants you to get out and kill something. And then bring it back. Translate these instincts into modern times, and you've got it made. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Humans are curious creatures. If you saw some guy up on stage jamming with his guitar, you'd assume he'd spent a lot of time practicing. If you saw some ripped guy or gal walking down the street, you'd assume they spent a lot of time in the gym. And a lot of time eating healthy food. If you met somebody that spoke several languages, you'd assume they spent a lot of time practicing. But sometimes we see people with skills, and we just assume they were born with those skills. It's even more complicated when we understand that some people have certain advantages. For example, if somebody grows up in a family that speaks many languages, and the live in a country that speaks many languages, and they go to a school that speaks many languages, their multi-language skill was more or less passively learned. But that's not the ONLY way to learn many languages. Anybody can learn many languages. IF they are willing to put in the time and effort. And if they are willing to pay the opportunity costs. What are opportunity costs? The things you GIVE UP in order to learn the skill. Opportunity costs come with everything. Learning skills, getting in shape, losing weight. EVERYBODY would LOVE a magic pill that gives them an instant skill. Everybody would LOVE to play and instrument, but few are willing to put in the time. Everybody would LOVE to have a toned body, but few are willing to put in the time. Some skills can SEEM even harder. Like communication and persuasion skills. These seem to be LOCKED behind a wall of social anxiety. Sure, practicing the piano is BORING. But it doesn't cause any anxiety. But things like persuasion are paradoxically HARDER than playing the piano. Why paradoxically? Because while the skills themselves are fairly easy, they are ASSOCIATED with tons of anxiety. The added anxiety makes them seem TERRIFYING to learn. But take away the anxiety, and learning things like persuasion is EASY. Even EASIER is something like seduction. Of talking to people and getting them INTERESTED in you. Removing the anxiety makes learning skills like this VERY ENJOYABLE. So much that the opportunity costs essentially drop to zero. This requires that you go SLOWER than you want to. To build up momentum. To get to the point where you WANT to move forward, but you must consciously slow yourself down. When you get to this point, learning how to SEDUCE PEOPLE because very, very enjoyable. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Long, long ago, we humans didn't need to think very much. We were DRIVEN by our instincts. Those with the strongest instincts survived. Since food was hard to get, those who were always the HUNGRIEST were the most successful. Sexual desire is another powerful instinct. Humans are primates. And different primates have different strategies on how to deal with sex. Human females don't make it obvious when they are ovulating. Other primates, like chimps, do. Plenty of studies have shown that when a woman is ovulating, she finds a different type attractive than when she is not. Whether she acts on this attraction is a completely different story. Kind of like eating. If you are on a diet, and it's important to you, you'll feel ATTRACTED to certain foods, but not eat them. Just like men and women can feel ATTRACTION to certain people and not act on it. It wasn't always like this. Our instincts were created to DRIVE our behavior. So when ancient cave ladies were ovulating, they were naturally attracted to the MOST ALPHA looking and acting guy around. This makes sense in an ancient setting. When it was VERY important for her to have kids with a guy who would have the HIGHEST probability of providing for her and her kids. But just like hunger can be managed, so can attraction. If we ONLY ate what looked good, we'd all super fat. If we ONLY blindly obeyed our sexual desires, we'd be a mess. However, there is one thing that usually doesn't get much attention. And the attention it DOES get is the wrong kind. What I'm referring to is MALE sexual desire. When dudes get horny, they get desperate. And since most dudes are very UNDERSEXED, most dudes are VERY DESPERATE. Women know this. All too well. Just look at any girl that's got tons of orbiters. She KNOWS she can manipulate them. The trick is to NOT be one of those guys. Desperate for female attention and affection. How do you do this? There are TWO very powerful ways. One is to make a habit of making small talk with anybody you can. Men, women, old people, young people. Once you develop the habit of talking to anybody, anywhere, anytime about anything, you'll radiate a different kind of energy. The second is to get a handle on your sexual energy. If you wanted to stay healthy, you'd have to feel hungry and not eat. No way around that. To radiate non-needy energy, you'd do the same with your sexual energy. Feel it, but learn to live with it. WITHOUT expressing it. Napoleon Hill talked about this. Many ultra successful people know this. The BEST part is if you combine this with some very basic social skills, you will send out a very rare energy to women. It will make you seem unattainable, and therefore VERY attractive. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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A common technique in self development is to fake it till you make it. This works great in some situations, but not so great in others. The shorter the bridge between faking it and making it, the easier it is. For example, if you don't feel confident, you CAN fake it enough until you really DO feel confident. Start to walk confidently. Shoulders back, face forward. Confident expression on your face. This "fake" exterior will be believable by others. They will respond to your "fake" confidence. Their response will slowly make you feel REAL confidence. This REAL confidence will then subconsciously drive your expressions and behavior. First you faked it. Then you made it. Other times, this isn't so difficult. The more and complex your interactions are with others, the harder it is. The greater the distance between what you are faking and what you are feeling, the harder it is. If you are looking for a long term relationship with a high quality woman, this can end in DISASTER. How? It's possible to fake enough confidence to have a decent conversation. Even a few dates. Even enough for SEX. But something happens to a lot of guys once they have sex. This is an instinctive thing. And instincts are VERY HARD to ignore. Once a guy has sex with a girl, it makes him FEEL completely differently about her. At least it CAN. This means it's a billion times more difficult to keep up with the fake confidence. The REAL you shows up. This often comes across when guys express their TRUE feelings. Said too soon, this will scare a girl away. This is behind the FEMALE JOKE about guys being like bathroom tile. Lay them once and you can walk all over them forever. This is because once a guy has SEX with a girl, his ancient instincts are telling him to hang on for dear life. Since our ancient instincts think we only have ONE chance to have sex. This is something that it's VERY DIFFICULT to "fake until you make." Unless you are a stone cold sociopath player. How can you get around this? GO SLOWLY. Get to know plenty of girls at once. Always have a backup plan. Talk to any girl you can. Whether you are attracted to her or not. Play the VERY LONG game. SLOWLY build up your deep relationships skills so you don't have to FAKE anything. This takes a LOT of time. But it will save a LOT of heartache. And in the long run, it will make you INSANELY attractive. Giving a much higher quality of women to choose from. And she'll feel those feelings WAY before you do. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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One of the toughest questions to get is about your job. This could be in a regular friendly conversation. Or it could be a cute girl you've been talking to. Everything's going GREAT. Until.... So, uh what do you do? If you happened to HAVE a fantastic job, that's fine. But most people don't. So, what DO you say? The TRUTH is always a good place to start. But HOW you express the truth is EXTREMELY flexible. Saying you work at Taco Bell COULD be "a" truth. But another truth could be your PLANS for the future. But how you express those plans will make all the difference. If you express your plans the RIGHT way, they'll sound VERY REAL. Even if you DO work at Taco Bell, so long as you not only HAVE a realistic plan, you'll be fine. So long as you talk about so it indicates you are IN THE PROCESS of making it happen. How do you do this, exactly? It starts by figuring out what you REALLY want to do. Five years out or so. Not some kind of vague wish. That won't do it. "Yeah, now I work at Taco Bell but I'd really like to get into medicine some day!" That sounds very much like everybody else's plan. To sit around and WAIT for the magic career fairy to show up. Instead, start to really MAKE plans. For example, if you really DID want to get into medicine, take some time to think about that. What specific job would you have? What kind of training would that require? What would you have to do to qualify for that training? What kinds of things would you need to do to get STARTED moving closer to that? How we speak represents how we think. And women it comes to female attraction, females are HARD WIRED to be attracted to MEN who are MAKING things happen. They are NOT attracted (beyond looks) to guys who sit around and WAIT for things to happen. Imagine a bunch of cave people 25,000 years ago. The ladies who were naturally attracted to goofs who sat around waiting for animals to walk up and surrender didn't last long. The ladies who were attracted to natural killers DID. And that is what gets their instinctive juices flowing. Guys who are IN THE PROCESS of making their lives. So no matter WHAT you do NOW, so long as you HAVE a real plan, and you express it as a real plan, it will do the trick. This takes time. It takes while to build this thinking and communication into your brain. So when a random person asks what you do, it will come out naturally. And when it does, you'll set yourself apart from EVERYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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A very common, and very dangerous idea is that you need money to get girls. It's common because like most beliefs, it's easy to find proof. This is a function of confirmation bias. On the other hand, if you purposely tried to find evidence of guys with NO money who could easily get girls, you'd find it. One of the reasons this idea, that you need money to get girls, is dangerous is it can serve as a very HANDY excuse to stay on the sidelines. There you are, looking out across the room. You see TONS of sexy girls. But then that belief pops into your head. That you need money to get girls. And since you don't have any money, you stay on the sidelines. This is the PERFECT cover for the real reason. Which is that talking to girls causes a ton of anxiety in most NORMAL people. But most normal people also don't like to admit they are scared of doing SEEMINGLY normal things. Like talking to cute girls. Luckily, we can kill both false beliefs at once. First is to understand that money is only a EXTERNAL SIGNAL of something deeper. Or it least it CAN be. That something deeper is what women are REALLY attracted to. And that is raw ambition. The desire to BECOME something better than you are. Now, for most of history, when you combine this raw ambition with half a brain, you get a guy who gets out there and gets stuff done. This USUALLY involves making money somehow. That money, and all the signs of money, are really EXTERNAL pieces of evidence of a deeper characteristic. It's also why girls get together with guys who HAVE money, but get bored. Because in today's corrupt clown show economy, it's easy to make money WITHOUT having a sense of "old school" ambition. That's actually GOOD NEWS. Because you can cultivate that old school ambition. This requires you have a PLAN for your life. A REAL PLAN. Not a bunch of things you wish or hope will happen. Having a REAL PLAN based on REAL AMBITION will trigger those ancient desire instincts. But you have to be willing to EXPRESS that ambition. This is EASY. But it requires you understand part two of this strategy. That you don't talk to girls ONLY to get their number. And you don't ONLY talk to cute girls. NOR do you ONLY talk to girls. You talk to EVERYBODY. Practice chit chat. Eventually somebody will ask what you do. And no matter WHAT your job is, even if you don't have a job, when you express your ambition correctly, they will remember you. Why? Because so few people HAVE ambition today. This will help you cultivate and develop a REAL reputation. Which will make you INSANELY attractive. To EVERYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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It's a very common idea to NOT do something SPECIFICALLY to attract women. This is a very good idea. Because if you are ONLY doing things to attract women, or any particular women, this is dangerous. You're basically sending a message to her, and your subconscious that getting a woman is MORE important than living a successful life. Most guys do this when they put women up on a pedestal. The make her seem much better than they really are. This is a form of one-itis. When you have an IMAGINATION of her that is not based on reality. When you fall in love with an idealized version of her. But this can also happen when you try to pursue women in general. You start to focus on doing things ONLY to get women. For example, when you buy clothing ONLY to impress women, this can be dangerous. However, there is a LOT of overlap. Meaning if you ONLY focus on living a successful life, then chances are you will be MORE attractive to women. In this way, the general attraction you are generating WITHIN a large number of women can be a very useful measurement. A side effect. Especially when you consider that women are attracted to non-verbal behaviors. The type of non-verbal behaviors that are highly associated with general male leadership. This can be very confusing. Many guys try and FAKE alpha behavior. This can work well in the short term. But it's generally ONLY associated with short term female attraction. Deep and intuitive alpha behavior is picked up on by both men and women. Deep and intuitive alpha behavior will make you more attractive to PEOPLE in general. More men will WANT to follow you. More women will WANT to be with you. The truth about female attraction triggers is they are attracted to male behaviors. Behaviors that indicate general success potential. Since the dawn of time, men have been PRODUCTIVE. And women have been ATTRACTIVE. The job of women is to choose the most productive man and seduce him. This gives us a very keen insight. That if you measure the attraction you are creating in women, the deep intuitive attraction, this is ALSO a strong measure of your masculinity. Not fake masculinity, where you are worried about what to say and what to wear and how to act. REAL and deep masculinity. That is EXTREMELY rare today. The kind of masculinity that builds financial empires. The kind of masculinity that leads men to conquer nations. The kind of masculinity that all women deeply crave. If you work on building this kind of masculinity, you can choose from among a whole slew of women. For whatever reasons you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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One of the biggest killers of attraction is to make your intentions known. One of Dale Carnegie's most helpful insights is the idea that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it's their idea. Which means if you are CONSCIOUSLY trying to create attraction, it won't work very well. Best case is you are her only choice. And she ALREADY has a baseline level of attraction. But if you come out of nowhere, and start talking to her, it's very difficult to CREATE attraction from nothing. It's especially hard if she sense's that is your intention. If she DOES become attracted to you, it will be IN SPITE OF your conscious efforts. Why is this? Because you absolutely cannot consciously create attraction. This is the deep natural subconscious attraction. This ISN'T a girl consciously deciding the TYPE of guy she wants. When it comes to girls and guys, a food metaphor is appropriate. Nobody can CONVINCE you (or anybody else) to LIKE a certain kind of food. Sure, they can convince you that it's healthy, and good for you. But only your SUBCONSCIOUS can determine if you LIKE something or not. If it gives you PLEASURE while you eat it or think about eating it. But you CAN figure out how to COOK SOMETHING that has a high probability of being liked to many people. You can do some reverse engineering of what many people eat. Find out what kind of restaurants are popular, etc. So if you were having a dinner party, for example, you could figure out BEFORE HAND what kind of food people would like. Then make that. But it would be IMPOSSIBLE to talk somebody into liking something that they didn't like. Sure, you could convince them it was HEALTHY. That they SHOULD eat it. But you'd never be able to convince somebody to like it. Girls being attracted to guys works exactly the same way. The guys that she is NATURALLY attracted to is beyond her choice. And it's beyond your choice as well. At least in the short term. If a girl REALLY likes you, you can get away with a lot. If a girl DOESN'T like you, there's not much you can do. But if you understand the types of guys she and other girls NATURALLY like, you can slowly build in those characteristics. Turns out there are some very SIMPLE exercises that you can do. The MORE you do the, the more girls will be naturally attracted to you. While you can't get A GIRL to like you, you CAN get many, many GIRLS to like you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
