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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug15Post.mp4 Cialdini laws can be found everywhere. These are very much like biases, in that you can see them in others, but it's very hard to see them in ourselves. For example, social proof, authority, and commitment and consistency are three of Cialdini's laws. And these three ideas are behind most beliefs in our brain. Most of us NEVER take the time to consider any of our most closely held ideas. Humans didn't evolve by being slow thinking logicians. Humans evolved by thinking quickly. As a means to an end. The END was not "truth." The END was safety, food, sex, social status, etc. Advertisers know all about Cialdini laws. Even before Cialdini showed up. Social proof, authority, scarcity, commitment and consistency, you'll find these in all things sold. But since they operate BENEATH conscious awareness, we can ONLY see them in other people. We are not robots, we are not Vulcans. We are ILLOGICALLY thinking, emotionally driven humans. And we very much NEED to believe we are logical. Normally, this isn't a problem. Normally, this is a BENEFIT. If you had to logically prove everything, not only would be you lonely, but you'd be EXTREMELY depressed. Unless you are hard core scientist who NEVER leaves the lab, (and is married to a robot sex doll), being illogical and emotional is WHO WE ARE. The problem comes when we try and PERSUADE others. We tend to make decisions emotionally. Based largely on Cialdini laws. But THEN, because we have a need to BELIEVE that we are logical and rational, even when we aren't, we come up with a logical sounding reason WHY we did what we just did. When we only tell ourselves these reasons, that's PERFECT. But if we use these SAME REASONS to try and influence others, it won't work. Since they aren't the REAL reasons. Luckily, there is a way to temporarily SHUT DOWN this post logic imagination. Which is essentially an ego protection tool. Once shut off (temporarily) you can talk to others to BUILD up their deep desire. The STRONGER their desire is, the more they'll enjoy talking to you. The more they'll be ATTRACTED to the things you are talking about. The more they'll want to DO THEM. The more they'll want to DO YOU, but you gotta be careful. Because this works VERY QUICKLY, and very strongly, the LAST thing you want is somebody you DON'T KNOW being super attracted to you. So go slow, and you'll be fine. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/get-anybody/
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Why Being Yourself Is Excellent Advice: https://mindpersuasion.com/be-yourself-is-excellent-advice/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July23Loop.mp4
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If you ever get stuck in a social situation and you don't know what to do, it's usually too late. Humans behave BEST when we are operating mostly subconsciously. Automatically. In sports, the coveted flow state is when you are operating at a very high level AND mostly unconsciously. When it seems like you are WATCHING yourself perform. This can happen socially as well. For most of us, this happens with close friends with whom we have a ton of built in rapport. This is when conversations flow and good times roll. But it is also possible to create this social flow state with people you've just met. This requires we think a little meta. If you want to get good at something, you have to practice. The more you practiced, the higher level of unconscious competence you'd become. For example, it's pretty easy to get to the level of unconscious competence playing "Mary Had a Little Lamb" on the piano. But getting to that same level of unconscious competence while playing something like Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata would take a LOT more practice. So how can you develop unconscious competence, that flow state, with social situations involving people you DON'T KNOW? By practicing talking to people you don't know. Most people don't like this idea. They only like the idea of talking to somebody they are interested in. This is actually a form of self-deception. They think about being social and outgoing around EVERYBODY, and it scares them. So they cover up this fear by saying things like, "Why would I talk to THAT person? I'm not interested in them!" But by practicing friendly small talk with EVERYBODY, you'll be practicing social skills on a META level. And you'll soon get to know "people" on a structural level. After you talk to ENOUGH people, you'll realize TWO THINGS about everybody. One, that everybody is unique in some way. Two, everybody is VERY SIMILAR in many ways. And once you feel this similarity on a deep and unconscious level, all fear will VANISH. This means talking to anybody NEW will seem familiar. Which means it will be much easier to enter into that free flowing, outcome independent flow state. Which everybody finds INSANELY attractive. This REQUIRES that you see small talk as something you PRACTICE. Not something you do because you ONLY enjoy it. That would be like somebody who doesn't exercise because they don't enjoy it. It takes a while to ENJOY exercising. And it will always be BOTH a means and an end. So will small talk. It may suck to think of practicing it. But when it becomes both a means and an end, you will be developing some very rare, and very attractive, social skills. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Very often there is huge difference between long term and short term strategies. If you want something in the short term, this will often make it MUCH more difficult to get those same things in the long term. And if you try to get those same things in the LONG TERM, it will make it much more difficult to get satisfaction in the short term. One obvious area is food, eating and exercise. Sitting on the couch and eating burgers FEELS GOOD in the short term. But it adds up to lots of PAIN in the long term. The older you get, the more your joints will hurt. The more clogged you arteries will get. And ultimately, the sooner you'll die. Jogging and eating healthy every day doesn't feel good in the short term. But it adds up to a much LONGER and healthier and happier life. You will have much less body pain as you get older. You won't have pains shooting up and down your joints when you get out of bed. You'll even keep your brain intact for much longer. As they say, short term gain leads to long term pain. And short term pain leads to long term gain. This is also true in dating and attraction. For example, many guys have mastered the art of short term success with the ladies. Any time you use ARTIFICIAL strategies, or "game," you are using a collection of INORGANIC personality traits. This is why a guy CAN have ton of short term success, but not much long term success. Since that short term success is based on an inauthentic representation of YOU, it's hard to keep up. Pretty soon the REAL YOU will show up. And that REAL YOU will be different than the guy she was attracted to. Consider an alternative. Of being the REAL YOU all the time. This sounds like VERY CORNY advice! Just be yourself! The trick is to ALWAYS be improving your REAL SELF. So your REAL SELF will always have better and better results. How do you do this? By improving your goals. By improving your communication skills. By improving your financial skills. Here's where it gets REALLY interesting. The quality of woman you can attract by being the REAL YOU is a very useful PROXY for how SUCCESSFUL of a life the REAL YOU can achieve. Which means if you continue to build up the REAL YOU to have a much better life, you'll AUTOMATICALLY be more attractive to higher quality women. This means you'll need to ditch short term, magical "game" type thinking. And focus on REAL, long term success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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It's a common idea to wish for magic seduction tricks. Even in other things like weight loss, it seems we humans are absolute suckers for the "one weird trick" scam Like if we find that one weird trick to lose weight, our problems are over. Or if we find that one secret hack into the female mind, we'll understand how easy it is to make ANY girl fall head over heels in lust with us. Unfortunately, these are all cons. Based on the same idea of the ancient snake oil salesman. The guy who would roll into town, and sell the "one weird potion" that would fix everything. Of course, he NEVER sold stuff out of an actual store. He HAD to sell it off the back of a wagon. So he could go from town to town. The idea being he'd be gone when people were wise to the scam. PT Barnum famously said there is a sucker born every minute. And suckers are suckers because we are willing to believe something that is too good to be true. Like shortcuts to making money, or shortcuts to losing weight, or shortcuts to romantic success. The truth is that anything WORTH getting will have a couple of clear identifying signals. One is it will be something FEW people have. If EVERYBODY had it, whether it be a thing a skill or a characteristic, it wouldn't be special. Two is it takes time and effort. And since most people are SCARED and LAZY, most people would rather spend their entire lives searching for one weird trick. In a way, this is good news. Because if you actually put in the work, you'll slowly differentiate yourself from every other lazy goof out there. And when it comes to developing GENUINE attraction from attractive women, the more work you put in, the more attraction you'll generate. So long as you start SLOWLY, and continue SLOWLY, it will very soon become a daily habit. And daily habits are easy. So long as they are daily habits that are BUILDING valuable skills. And it turns out the SAME SKILLS that attract high quality women are the skills that build a high quality life. And these skills have NO upper limit. Which means the more consistently you build them, the BETTER and STRONGER your skills will become. No weird tricks needed. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Despite modern popular propaganda, there are tons of differences between men and women. And a very easy way to imagine these differences is the ONE THING that led to human flexibility and creativity. Every other animal except for humans doesn't have a sexual division of labor when it comes to getting food. Choose any animal, and when they are hungry, males and females both go after the same type of food. But humans split along gender lines. LONG before we were humans. Men hunted, and women gathered. We either become omnivores BECAUSE of this, or we split along gender lines BECAUSE we were omnivores. Men got protein and fat. Women got roots and other stuff from the ground. This lasted for a few million years, and accounts for MOST behavioral and psychological differences between men and women. For example, women are capable of carrying on about a million different conversations at once. This is because while they were digging for roots and grubs, they were watching the kids AND gossiping like crazy. Not only can they carry on tons of conversational threads at once, BUT they seem to have eyes all over their heads. When you were a kid, and you thought you mom couldn't see you, now you know why she could. It is an evolutionary advantage. Men, on the other hand, are the complete opposite. They can carry on ONE conversational thread at most. And even then it's mostly grunts and nods. And male vision is very long range and narrow. This is what you'd expect from spending all day hunting. Not talking much, always scanning the horizon for something to kill. This gives us an insight into the type of MEN women are hard wired to be ATTRACTED to. NOT the kind who can carry on a girly type conversation. NOT the kind who is prone to gossip. The kind of guy women are hard wired to be attracted to is the guy who is ALWAYS looking for something to kill. And when he DOES kill it, he drags it back to camp. The guy who kills the biggest animal gets the biggest rock star treatment. This is why women love a guy with REAL social status. The social status that comes from being a KILLER. He goes out, he kills, he comes home and chills with his people. This is why if you text too often it will kill attraction. This is why if you're too needy, it will kill attraction. This is why if you're too worried whether she likes you, it will kill attraction. She wants you to get out and kill something. And then bring it back. Translate these instincts into modern times, and you've got it made. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Humans are curious creatures. If you saw some guy up on stage jamming with his guitar, you'd assume he'd spent a lot of time practicing. If you saw some ripped guy or gal walking down the street, you'd assume they spent a lot of time in the gym. And a lot of time eating healthy food. If you met somebody that spoke several languages, you'd assume they spent a lot of time practicing. But sometimes we see people with skills, and we just assume they were born with those skills. It's even more complicated when we understand that some people have certain advantages. For example, if somebody grows up in a family that speaks many languages, and the live in a country that speaks many languages, and they go to a school that speaks many languages, their multi-language skill was more or less passively learned. But that's not the ONLY way to learn many languages. Anybody can learn many languages. IF they are willing to put in the time and effort. And if they are willing to pay the opportunity costs. What are opportunity costs? The things you GIVE UP in order to learn the skill. Opportunity costs come with everything. Learning skills, getting in shape, losing weight. EVERYBODY would LOVE a magic pill that gives them an instant skill. Everybody would LOVE to play and instrument, but few are willing to put in the time. Everybody would LOVE to have a toned body, but few are willing to put in the time. Some skills can SEEM even harder. Like communication and persuasion skills. These seem to be LOCKED behind a wall of social anxiety. Sure, practicing the piano is BORING. But it doesn't cause any anxiety. But things like persuasion are paradoxically HARDER than playing the piano. Why paradoxically? Because while the skills themselves are fairly easy, they are ASSOCIATED with tons of anxiety. The added anxiety makes them seem TERRIFYING to learn. But take away the anxiety, and learning things like persuasion is EASY. Even EASIER is something like seduction. Of talking to people and getting them INTERESTED in you. Removing the anxiety makes learning skills like this VERY ENJOYABLE. So much that the opportunity costs essentially drop to zero. This requires that you go SLOWER than you want to. To build up momentum. To get to the point where you WANT to move forward, but you must consciously slow yourself down. When you get to this point, learning how to SEDUCE PEOPLE because very, very enjoyable. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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Long, long ago, we humans didn't need to think very much. We were DRIVEN by our instincts. Those with the strongest instincts survived. Since food was hard to get, those who were always the HUNGRIEST were the most successful. Sexual desire is another powerful instinct. Humans are primates. And different primates have different strategies on how to deal with sex. Human females don't make it obvious when they are ovulating. Other primates, like chimps, do. Plenty of studies have shown that when a woman is ovulating, she finds a different type attractive than when she is not. Whether she acts on this attraction is a completely different story. Kind of like eating. If you are on a diet, and it's important to you, you'll feel ATTRACTED to certain foods, but not eat them. Just like men and women can feel ATTRACTION to certain people and not act on it. It wasn't always like this. Our instincts were created to DRIVE our behavior. So when ancient cave ladies were ovulating, they were naturally attracted to the MOST ALPHA looking and acting guy around. This makes sense in an ancient setting. When it was VERY important for her to have kids with a guy who would have the HIGHEST probability of providing for her and her kids. But just like hunger can be managed, so can attraction. If we ONLY ate what looked good, we'd all super fat. If we ONLY blindly obeyed our sexual desires, we'd be a mess. However, there is one thing that usually doesn't get much attention. And the attention it DOES get is the wrong kind. What I'm referring to is MALE sexual desire. When dudes get horny, they get desperate. And since most dudes are very UNDERSEXED, most dudes are VERY DESPERATE. Women know this. All too well. Just look at any girl that's got tons of orbiters. She KNOWS she can manipulate them. The trick is to NOT be one of those guys. Desperate for female attention and affection. How do you do this? There are TWO very powerful ways. One is to make a habit of making small talk with anybody you can. Men, women, old people, young people. Once you develop the habit of talking to anybody, anywhere, anytime about anything, you'll radiate a different kind of energy. The second is to get a handle on your sexual energy. If you wanted to stay healthy, you'd have to feel hungry and not eat. No way around that. To radiate non-needy energy, you'd do the same with your sexual energy. Feel it, but learn to live with it. WITHOUT expressing it. Napoleon Hill talked about this. Many ultra successful people know this. The BEST part is if you combine this with some very basic social skills, you will send out a very rare energy to women. It will make you seem unattainable, and therefore VERY attractive. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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A common technique in self development is to fake it till you make it. This works great in some situations, but not so great in others. The shorter the bridge between faking it and making it, the easier it is. For example, if you don't feel confident, you CAN fake it enough until you really DO feel confident. Start to walk confidently. Shoulders back, face forward. Confident expression on your face. This "fake" exterior will be believable by others. They will respond to your "fake" confidence. Their response will slowly make you feel REAL confidence. This REAL confidence will then subconsciously drive your expressions and behavior. First you faked it. Then you made it. Other times, this isn't so difficult. The more and complex your interactions are with others, the harder it is. The greater the distance between what you are faking and what you are feeling, the harder it is. If you are looking for a long term relationship with a high quality woman, this can end in DISASTER. How? It's possible to fake enough confidence to have a decent conversation. Even a few dates. Even enough for SEX. But something happens to a lot of guys once they have sex. This is an instinctive thing. And instincts are VERY HARD to ignore. Once a guy has sex with a girl, it makes him FEEL completely differently about her. At least it CAN. This means it's a billion times more difficult to keep up with the fake confidence. The REAL you shows up. This often comes across when guys express their TRUE feelings. Said too soon, this will scare a girl away. This is behind the FEMALE JOKE about guys being like bathroom tile. Lay them once and you can walk all over them forever. This is because once a guy has SEX with a girl, his ancient instincts are telling him to hang on for dear life. Since our ancient instincts think we only have ONE chance to have sex. This is something that it's VERY DIFFICULT to "fake until you make." Unless you are a stone cold sociopath player. How can you get around this? GO SLOWLY. Get to know plenty of girls at once. Always have a backup plan. Talk to any girl you can. Whether you are attracted to her or not. Play the VERY LONG game. SLOWLY build up your deep relationships skills so you don't have to FAKE anything. This takes a LOT of time. But it will save a LOT of heartache. And in the long run, it will make you INSANELY attractive. Giving a much higher quality of women to choose from. And she'll feel those feelings WAY before you do. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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One of the toughest questions to get is about your job. This could be in a regular friendly conversation. Or it could be a cute girl you've been talking to. Everything's going GREAT. Until.... So, uh what do you do? If you happened to HAVE a fantastic job, that's fine. But most people don't. So, what DO you say? The TRUTH is always a good place to start. But HOW you express the truth is EXTREMELY flexible. Saying you work at Taco Bell COULD be "a" truth. But another truth could be your PLANS for the future. But how you express those plans will make all the difference. If you express your plans the RIGHT way, they'll sound VERY REAL. Even if you DO work at Taco Bell, so long as you not only HAVE a realistic plan, you'll be fine. So long as you talk about so it indicates you are IN THE PROCESS of making it happen. How do you do this, exactly? It starts by figuring out what you REALLY want to do. Five years out or so. Not some kind of vague wish. That won't do it. "Yeah, now I work at Taco Bell but I'd really like to get into medicine some day!" That sounds very much like everybody else's plan. To sit around and WAIT for the magic career fairy to show up. Instead, start to really MAKE plans. For example, if you really DID want to get into medicine, take some time to think about that. What specific job would you have? What kind of training would that require? What would you have to do to qualify for that training? What kinds of things would you need to do to get STARTED moving closer to that? How we speak represents how we think. And women it comes to female attraction, females are HARD WIRED to be attracted to MEN who are MAKING things happen. They are NOT attracted (beyond looks) to guys who sit around and WAIT for things to happen. Imagine a bunch of cave people 25,000 years ago. The ladies who were naturally attracted to goofs who sat around waiting for animals to walk up and surrender didn't last long. The ladies who were attracted to natural killers DID. And that is what gets their instinctive juices flowing. Guys who are IN THE PROCESS of making their lives. So no matter WHAT you do NOW, so long as you HAVE a real plan, and you express it as a real plan, it will do the trick. This takes time. It takes while to build this thinking and communication into your brain. So when a random person asks what you do, it will come out naturally. And when it does, you'll set yourself apart from EVERYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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A very common, and very dangerous idea is that you need money to get girls. It's common because like most beliefs, it's easy to find proof. This is a function of confirmation bias. On the other hand, if you purposely tried to find evidence of guys with NO money who could easily get girls, you'd find it. One of the reasons this idea, that you need money to get girls, is dangerous is it can serve as a very HANDY excuse to stay on the sidelines. There you are, looking out across the room. You see TONS of sexy girls. But then that belief pops into your head. That you need money to get girls. And since you don't have any money, you stay on the sidelines. This is the PERFECT cover for the real reason. Which is that talking to girls causes a ton of anxiety in most NORMAL people. But most normal people also don't like to admit they are scared of doing SEEMINGLY normal things. Like talking to cute girls. Luckily, we can kill both false beliefs at once. First is to understand that money is only a EXTERNAL SIGNAL of something deeper. Or it least it CAN be. That something deeper is what women are REALLY attracted to. And that is raw ambition. The desire to BECOME something better than you are. Now, for most of history, when you combine this raw ambition with half a brain, you get a guy who gets out there and gets stuff done. This USUALLY involves making money somehow. That money, and all the signs of money, are really EXTERNAL pieces of evidence of a deeper characteristic. It's also why girls get together with guys who HAVE money, but get bored. Because in today's corrupt clown show economy, it's easy to make money WITHOUT having a sense of "old school" ambition. That's actually GOOD NEWS. Because you can cultivate that old school ambition. This requires you have a PLAN for your life. A REAL PLAN. Not a bunch of things you wish or hope will happen. Having a REAL PLAN based on REAL AMBITION will trigger those ancient desire instincts. But you have to be willing to EXPRESS that ambition. This is EASY. But it requires you understand part two of this strategy. That you don't talk to girls ONLY to get their number. And you don't ONLY talk to cute girls. NOR do you ONLY talk to girls. You talk to EVERYBODY. Practice chit chat. Eventually somebody will ask what you do. And no matter WHAT your job is, even if you don't have a job, when you express your ambition correctly, they will remember you. Why? Because so few people HAVE ambition today. This will help you cultivate and develop a REAL reputation. Which will make you INSANELY attractive. To EVERYBODY. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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It's a very common idea to NOT do something SPECIFICALLY to attract women. This is a very good idea. Because if you are ONLY doing things to attract women, or any particular women, this is dangerous. You're basically sending a message to her, and your subconscious that getting a woman is MORE important than living a successful life. Most guys do this when they put women up on a pedestal. The make her seem much better than they really are. This is a form of one-itis. When you have an IMAGINATION of her that is not based on reality. When you fall in love with an idealized version of her. But this can also happen when you try to pursue women in general. You start to focus on doing things ONLY to get women. For example, when you buy clothing ONLY to impress women, this can be dangerous. However, there is a LOT of overlap. Meaning if you ONLY focus on living a successful life, then chances are you will be MORE attractive to women. In this way, the general attraction you are generating WITHIN a large number of women can be a very useful measurement. A side effect. Especially when you consider that women are attracted to non-verbal behaviors. The type of non-verbal behaviors that are highly associated with general male leadership. This can be very confusing. Many guys try and FAKE alpha behavior. This can work well in the short term. But it's generally ONLY associated with short term female attraction. Deep and intuitive alpha behavior is picked up on by both men and women. Deep and intuitive alpha behavior will make you more attractive to PEOPLE in general. More men will WANT to follow you. More women will WANT to be with you. The truth about female attraction triggers is they are attracted to male behaviors. Behaviors that indicate general success potential. Since the dawn of time, men have been PRODUCTIVE. And women have been ATTRACTIVE. The job of women is to choose the most productive man and seduce him. This gives us a very keen insight. That if you measure the attraction you are creating in women, the deep intuitive attraction, this is ALSO a strong measure of your masculinity. Not fake masculinity, where you are worried about what to say and what to wear and how to act. REAL and deep masculinity. That is EXTREMELY rare today. The kind of masculinity that builds financial empires. The kind of masculinity that leads men to conquer nations. The kind of masculinity that all women deeply crave. If you work on building this kind of masculinity, you can choose from among a whole slew of women. For whatever reasons you want. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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One of the biggest killers of attraction is to make your intentions known. One of Dale Carnegie's most helpful insights is the idea that you can get anybody to do anything so long as they believe it's their idea. Which means if you are CONSCIOUSLY trying to create attraction, it won't work very well. Best case is you are her only choice. And she ALREADY has a baseline level of attraction. But if you come out of nowhere, and start talking to her, it's very difficult to CREATE attraction from nothing. It's especially hard if she sense's that is your intention. If she DOES become attracted to you, it will be IN SPITE OF your conscious efforts. Why is this? Because you absolutely cannot consciously create attraction. This is the deep natural subconscious attraction. This ISN'T a girl consciously deciding the TYPE of guy she wants. When it comes to girls and guys, a food metaphor is appropriate. Nobody can CONVINCE you (or anybody else) to LIKE a certain kind of food. Sure, they can convince you that it's healthy, and good for you. But only your SUBCONSCIOUS can determine if you LIKE something or not. If it gives you PLEASURE while you eat it or think about eating it. But you CAN figure out how to COOK SOMETHING that has a high probability of being liked to many people. You can do some reverse engineering of what many people eat. Find out what kind of restaurants are popular, etc. So if you were having a dinner party, for example, you could figure out BEFORE HAND what kind of food people would like. Then make that. But it would be IMPOSSIBLE to talk somebody into liking something that they didn't like. Sure, you could convince them it was HEALTHY. That they SHOULD eat it. But you'd never be able to convince somebody to like it. Girls being attracted to guys works exactly the same way. The guys that she is NATURALLY attracted to is beyond her choice. And it's beyond your choice as well. At least in the short term. If a girl REALLY likes you, you can get away with a lot. If a girl DOESN'T like you, there's not much you can do. But if you understand the types of guys she and other girls NATURALLY like, you can slowly build in those characteristics. Turns out there are some very SIMPLE exercises that you can do. The MORE you do the, the more girls will be naturally attracted to you. While you can't get A GIRL to like you, you CAN get many, many GIRLS to like you. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/girls-like-you/
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One thing we humans have better than any other animal is flexibility. For example, we have a ton of muscles. And if you work your muscles, they will get stronger. This is obvious. From a bio-engineering standpoint, this allows for an increase in efficiency REGARDLESS of what type of work a human would do. This allows for ancient humans to live in ANY environment, figure out what they needed to do, and do it. The more they did that, the more those specific muscles would strengthen and become much more energy efficient. Farming, climbing trees to get coconuts, hunting. Another area where we are extremely flexible is in our thinking. Every other living thing takes THOUSANDS of years to adapt to its environment. Humans can do it much quickly. Because we have a flexibility of thinking. Instead of evolving claws, we make tools. Instead of evolving extra hair, we make clothing. Every thing we have is born of this "meta creativity" and "meta flexibility." The thing that makes a critical difference is communication. We can take vague ideas inside our brains and transfer them from one brain to another with words. And just like our physical bodies, you become better at whatever you practice. If you run every day, you'll eventually be able to run a LONG WAYS without getting tired. If you do pushups every day, you'll eventually be able to do plenty of pushups. If you practice music every day, you'll soon be a skilled musician. If you practice communication every day, you'll soon be a world class communicator. But here is where the problems start. Practicing many things is very straightforward. Keep doing it until you get better. Running, pushups, sports, music, all these are easy to measure. Easy to see if you are getting better. But what about communication? How do you practice this? How can you measure if you are getting better or not? What makes it even worse is even the IDEA of "practicing" something like communication causes anxiety in most people. Sitting at the piano and playing scales for a couple of hours is easy. It might bore you to tears, but it doesn't cause anxiety. Nobody is afraid of getting yelled at by a piano. But talking to people every day, just for practice? That sounds downright silly! Luckily, there are plenty of components to communication. Inner game and outer game. And plenty of ways practice that DON'T involve other people. AND plenty of ways to measure how much better you are getting. And even better, once you start to get some POSITIVE feedback from others, you'll be on your way. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/conversational-brilliance/
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If you saw a gorgeous girl or guy from across the room, you'd remember them. The more gorgeous they were, the more you'd remember them. But you would REALLY remember them if they looked at you and smiled briefly. In fact, just a little bit of direct, non-verbal communication, no matter how brief, would be MUCH more powerful than just their looks. You can imagine a gorgeous person who doesn't notice you. And a semi-attractive person who looks RIGHT AT YOU and smiles before looking away. You would definitely remember that. The longer and more involved that interaction is, the MORE you would remember them. And the less their physical appearance would be a variable. To be sure, they have to be above a certain level of attraction. This is very personal and subjective. But so long as it's above this point, the MORE effort they put into personal communication, the less important their physical appearance would be. People like Victoria's Secret models can skate by on ONLY their looks. They walk into a room and don't need to make eye contact with ANYBODY to leave a lasting impression. But for most of us normal humans, we have to AUGMENT our physical presence with our energy. This energy is the sum total of all our non-verbal communication. The stuff we are radiating all the time. This energy we radiate is VERY dependent on our mental state. We can do a mental experiment to see this. Imagine you were about to walk into a party. You were in the hallway of an apartment building, and JUST ABOUT to open the door and walk in. RIGHT BEFORE you turned the knob, two sexy super models came out of the elevator, walked past you and looked at you like they wanted to bang you silly. (Or imagine another appropriate situation). How would this impact your mood as you walked into the party? You'd be confident, smiling, much more extroverted. This would impact how you made others feel, which would further enhance your good mood. Your internal state (cause by the chance meeting with the super models) would significantly enhance your non-verbal communication. Now imagine the opposite. Same two models, but as they walk past you, they look at you like you're dirt. Suppose you try and smile at them. They recoil in horror, and say something like: "Don't DARE look in my direction you worthless human! You're not even fit to clean my toilet when I'm on vacation in the South of France!" This would impact your party experience in the OPPOSITE DIRECTION. Your inner state, and your outer energy, would be HORRIBLE. You'd be radiating anger and frustration, and nobody would want anything to do with you. Suppose you could walk the Earth with a CONSTANT positive internal state? As if you have ALWAYS just had a recent positive super model experience? How would THAT affect your life? It's actually pretty easy with some consistent mental practice. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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Some things are easy, and other things are not. Some things start out as difficult, and become easy. These are things that we practice. This is pretty self evident, and it almost seems so obvious that it's not even worth mentioning. But sometimes we overlook such simple ideas. Much to our demise. If you started to play any sport, and you sucked, that would be normal. Because most people suck when they start most things. But the more you practice, the better you get. We all get this intuitively. Once a couple of friends and myself were watching a live performance. The guitarist was absolutely killing it. My friend remarked, "That guy's gotta sleep with his guitar!" Meaning he assumed that to get to that high level of skill, he must spend a lot of time with his guitar. So much that he sleeps with it. Nearly any skill we think of, we think of in this way. That the more you practice, the better you get. Except for the most important skills. Unless you are expecting to be a world class musician or athlete, most normal humans practice sports and music as hobbies. Few people will ever be able to quit their day jobs to pursue their hobbies as careers. But we still enjoy practicing. Because it feels GOOD to get better at something. But the things that get us the MOST IMPORTANT things in life are things we DON'T practice. Things like conversation skills, persuasion skills, people reading skills, confidence projecting skills. We tend to think of these things like height or eye color. Based one hundred percent on genetics. If you walked into the gym and hired a personal trainer with the specific goal of becoming TALLER, he'd think you were nuts. But we very much CAN change much of our personality. The main reason we don't like to think in terms of specifically doing exercises to improve our personality is twofold. One, it seems "fake." We imagine doing something that's not genuine. Not really the real "us." The other reason is it's scary. We imagine walking up to somebody and speaking in a particular way, and we imagine them looking at us like we're some kind of sociopath. But in reality, plenty of people work on their personality all the time. Back in the day, many girls would go to "charm school." Men didn't quite have the same thing, but older men would teacher younger men how to properly "behave" so they wouldn't send the wrong message. If you were taking a class in public speaking, to specifically increase your earning power, that would be exactly the same thing. And the idea of the real "you" is a myth. Because the real "you" is a sum total of every single thing you experience. Which means the real "you" is always changing. And since it's always changing, why not CONSCIOUSLY change it in a direction that can make life EASIER and more ENJOYABLE? And not just for you, but for everybody that is lucky enough to interact with you? Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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Humans seem to have an instinct to keep improving. This is pretty obvious when you compare technology now to only a few decades ago. It's also pretty obvious when you compare old people to young people. Simply by being around, you get more experience. Even passive experience will teach you things. Most people go through some kind of educational system. Our brains are even created so we are born with less than developed brains. We have an instinct to soak up as much information as we can. Next time you have a chance, watch people in line at the supermarket. If you see any young children, they will be moving their heads and eyes and if they can, their bodies. They are in the "collect data" mode of their lives. Their little brains are RAVENOUS for information. Adults on the other hand, will tend to be either staring blankly into space or blankly at their device. The older we get, the less AUTOMATIC our "hungry for data" brain gets. But just because it's not automatic, doesn't mean it's not possible. Your muscles stop growing on their own past a certain point. But even a dude over sixty can start lifting, and show obvious results. Both brains and muscles CAN be continuously improved. The older you get, the more effort it may take. But it is JUST as possible. But there's one thing people RARELY consider as something they can strengthen. But it's JUST as "strengthen-able." And that is your personality. Our personality is kind of like our musculature system. Both are designed to respond NATURALLY to our environment. If you started working in the fields, for example, your muscles would NATURALLY respond to make that work easier and more energy-efficient. If you got a job in a shoe store, your PERSONALTY would naturally respond to make those interactions more natural and energy-efficient. Just like you can CONSCIOUSLY target certain muscles, you can CONSCIOUSLY target certain areas of your personality. And just like somebody with a well built and sculpted muscle system is more attractive, a person with a well-built and sculpted personality is more attractive. Both systems behave the same way. The more effort you put in, the more benefits you get out. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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A common and very old expression is "to know me is to love me." This is kind of opposite of the "love at first sight," idea. Love at first sight means you SEE somebody, and you INSTANTLY fall in love. Or course, this is kind of impossible. It's a nice idea, but it's usually not one that is "true" until any couple has been together for a while. It usually goes down like this. A couple meet, and they hit it off. They like the way they look. They like the way they make each other feel. They click deeply and quickly. They go on a few dates, and maybe after a couple of months, they move in together. And then they get married, have a couple kids, and grow old together. Much later, they will REMEMBER this as "love at first sight." But that idea, of falling in love, didn't HAPPEN at one instant in time. It took a while. Of course, the emotional feelings were there from the beginning. But WHEN, exactly, those feelings TURNED INTO love is not certain. But with a ton of fond memories, and with the help of hindsight bias, it FEELS like it really WAS love at first sight. But imagine if EITHER PARTY had actually said, when they first met, "I love you! Let's get married, have kids, and grow old together!" The other would have fled. So it wasn't REALLY love at first sight. Even something that FEELS like love at first sight takes time. But what about the other statement? "To know me is to love me." This implies that you DON'T love them when you first see them. That the MORE you get to know the, the MORE you love them. This IMPLIES that what it is that you DO love about them is NOT about their looks. Most couples that end up growing old together are MUCH MORE like the second statement. Most couples date for a couple of YEARS before they get married. It takes that long to get to know somebody. We humans are VERY complicated. So, what about that part of you that they need time to get to know? Can you make THAT PART of you "more lovable?" Of course you can! That part of you that is deeper than your appearance is VERY MUCH under your control. This part of you involves your confidence, your short and long term goals, your intelligence, you communication skills, your social skills, and plenty of other PERSONALITY traits. All of which can be STRENGTHENED just like a muscle. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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Why are babies so cute? From a purely evolutionary standpoint, babies being cute is a survival benefit. Since as babies we are absolutely helpless, we NEED other people to survive. Being "cute" creates a "let me take care of this poor thing" response from the adults around us. Young women are cute because they invoke a similar response from men. A "let me take care of this poor thing." Many women try and get away with being cute as long as they can. We are all programmed with a deep strategy that compels us to ALWAYS maximize our ROI. We always want to get the most RETURN for the least INVESTMENT. Nobody wants to spend more money than they need to. Nobody wants to put in more effort than they need to. What can you do if you're not naturally cute? Become more attractive. Not attractive with how you look or how you dress, but attractive by how you behave. Many personality traits are also evolutionary programmed into us. Humans are extremely social animals. We are always on the lookout for potential partners. Not just romantic or business partners. People that can help us out from time to time, and us then. This is why we LIKE going to social events. Take any group of friends hanging out on a Friday night. They will almost ALWAYS choose somewhere public where there are many people. They will RARELY choose some secret hideout. We LIKE being around other people. Because we LIKE other people. And we all come with deep subconscious filters that we use to sort for potential friends, people we WOULD LIKE to get to know better. Physical appearance is the first, and most shallow filter. Second is general personality. Some personality traits are much more attractive than others. And these same attractive personality traits can be enhanced. Strengthened, just like a muscle. How? Slowly and consistently, just like a muscle. When it comes to physical fitness, you can generally put people into two categories. Those who exercise regularly, and those who don't. Just like you can exercise your body regularly, you can exercise your personality regularly. And since FEW people even think about doing this, if YOU do this, you'll be in a category all your own. And you'll STAND OUT in nearly every crowd. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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It sucks to be a hot chick. At least that's what they say. And it makes sense on many levels. For one, everywhere you go, dudes are looking at you and dreaming of banging the crap out of you. Most people assume that ALL you've got is a hot body and a pretty face. In a way, gorgeous people (both guys and girls) end up with a bit of a personality handicap. This isn't done on purpose, it just happens. If you go through life with an exceptionally good looking set of features, you don't have to do as much work as everybody else. It would be possible to get by with less effort than everybody else. This isn't fair, and nobody really likes to talk about this stuff. But study after study shows that attractive people get better attention than unattractive people. In the short term, it is definitely a plus. But in the long term, it add up to some personality deficiencies. This isn't meant to slam attractive people. Only to understand that although on the surface they seem to have an advantage, in the long run that can easily add up to a disadvantage. Of course, plenty of attractive people are intelligent enough to know that skating by on ONLY their looks is very dangerous. Because looks WILL fade with time. Plenty of young, hot, up and coming actors are now ten, twenty years older and NOWHERE to be found. In a sense, if you AREN'T particularly blessed in the looks department, that's actually a good thing. Because most of the time, we humans are pretty lazy. Meaning we don't really do much until we have to. This is essentially the story of human history. Humans are cruising along, some calamity happens and FORCES them to invent something new. And that something new ends up sending society up a notch or two. Making life better than it was. On a personal level, if you DON'T have good looks, you have to get by on your smarts. And there are a LOT of ways you can increase your non-physical traits. It IS very true that personality goes a long way. Or at least it CAN go a long way. Most people don't realize this because they don't realize that personality can be STENGTHENED and ENHANCED. Just like a muscle. If you do the right exercises, pretty soon you'll have some clear evidence. Personality works the SAME way. If you do the right exercises, pretty soon you'll have some clear evidence. And then you'll know EXACTLY how personality can go a long way. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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It's a pretty common idea that sex sells. Put a gorgeous model next to a toaster, and you'll sell more toasters. How this works isn't really understand. Mainly because most people don't think about these things. They're too busy thinking about the model. A common misunderstanding is that there's an implied relationship between the toaster and the model. This is more pronounced when models or sexy ladies are used to promote cars and alcohol. The idea being that the car or the brand of beer will lend itself to "girl getting lifestyles." This is false. It's much more subconscious. The sexy models invokes certain unconscious feelings. In both men and women. Those unconscious feelings of attraction and desires are then attached to the product. This is essentially the halo effect. When a sexy lady is standing next to a toaster, her sexy "aura" is also kind of surrounding the toaster. But this is an incorrect metaphor. The "aura" isn't coming from her. It's coming from the OBSERVER. The observer sees the sexy girl, and the OBSERVER creates a strong feeling of desire. And that "desire" energy that is pointing at the sexy girl ALSO hits the toaster. But if a normal person looks at a sexy girl, and there isn't a toaster, whatever she is saying or doing will also be hit by the OBSERVER's "desire energy." So when sexy people talk, the stuff they are saying is elevated just like the stuff that sexy people sell is elevated. Only it happens organically, so nobody really notices. But the thing about the halo effect is it's really shallow, and short lived. It only works on stuff that doesn't matter so much. A sexy girl on TV next to a car might get you into the shop, but it will take a lot for you to buy the car. A sexy girl talking on YouTube might hold your interest. But studies show again and again that when we choose more important things, the halo effect is worth less and less. This is why it's not such a big deal if you aren't one of the genetically blessed, pretty people. Because you can build up a halo effect associated with your personality. And unlike physical appearance, where there's only so much you can do, you can increase and enhance your personality as much as you want. So much that after just a few moments of interaction, YOU will be much more compelling that any genetically blessed pretty person. And the MORE they interact with you, the MORE they'll be attracted. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/attractive-personality/
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One of the strangest figures from history is Rasputin. He was allegedly some guy who lived in the forest. But then he got himself connected to the Royal family at the time. This was around the time of the communist revolution. Whether he was a good guy or a bad guy is up for debate. But what is generally accepted was he had a very STRONG presence. He had to in order to get so close to the Romanov family. It would be like some guy wandering out of the forest and suddenly becoming the best friend of the family to the King of England. It's one thing to have plenty of social power and authority. Kings usually try to marry off their sons and daughters to sons of daughters of other nobility. Kings don't normally even talk to normal people unless they have some accepted rank. But Rasputin was a monk who allegedly lived in the forest. Surrounded by forest ladies who were always swooning for him. He was the opposite of nobility. So opposite that he eventually was assassinated by other nobles and higher-ups who didn't like his closeness to the royal family. There are a few people from history like that. Unfortunately, most of them are usually bad guys. Guys like Charles Manson who convinced teenage ladies to kill for him. It's kind of easy to understand how that would happen. If you were BORN with a massive amount of charisma and presence. You would kind of be seen as an outcast, since you had no need for the regular way of doing things. And your whole life, people around you would just do whatever you asked. It's easy to see this power turning one into a criminal master mind. On the other hand, what would happen if you could BUILD this kind of power? Slowly and consciously, so it wouldn't go to your head? And in a way so you could combine it with business, sales, public speaking, etc.? Sure, it might be cool to start your own forest cult. But it would also be cool to just make tons of money and live like a modern wizard. This is the cool thing about social skills and personal "energy." It's just as trainable as muscle related skills. If you practice juggling long enough, you'll have some impressive juggling skills. If you practice presence long enough, you'll have Rasputin levels of personal magnetism. How do you practice? With This: http://mindpersuasion.com/presence/
