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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept20Post.mp4 A long time ago, I lived in a really small town. In a foreign country. Not so many gorgeous girls. Then I went to a much bigger city. My eyes almost popped out of my head. I had sort of "re-calibrated" my beauty standards, based on the small town. So when I saw what I otherwise would have thought of as "normal" beauty, I felt like I was momentary surrounded by super models. Of course, it didn't take long for economics to rear its ugly head. The most ancient law of the planet, and the universe. Th
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept16Post.mp4 Most people today are very fake. In fact, consider that presenting a "false identity" is part of human nature. Our deep instincts don't really know what to do with all these people. Our instincts were calibrated when we lived among the same people all our lives. And even until recently, before the internet, most people stayed around the same people all their lives. But from all the way back from the caveman days to now, reputation is CRITICAL. If you started getting negative looks from people way back then,
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept15Post.mp4 The very first Star Wars, or really the first two, were epic. They were epic because George Lucas hired Joseph Campbell to help him out. Consequently, the first Star Wars was as close to the Hero's Journey as any modern movie. The rest, not so much. First they brought in the Ewoks, and then Jar Jar whoever. Once I did a mathematical experiment. I created a graph of all Star Trek TV shows vs. time. In on column, I plotted the name of the series according to when they were released. In the other column,
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept14Post.mp4 There are a lot of harsh truths in life we don't like. In fact, we don't like these truths so much, we pretend they don't even exist. Sometimes, these are blatant and conscious. So our avoidance of these is blatant and conscious. Like you get a letter in the mail from your bank. You're afraid to open it. You might look at your balance and find you owe the bank a few thousand dollars. Egads! But sometimes our fears are so deep we don't even know they exist. And we layer a ton of self deceptive bas
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept12Post.mp4 One of the weirdest ideas is about how we think about how we think. Or how we think about what we do. The general consensus, among advertisers and neurologists is most of our actions are driven by emotions and instincts. Then, a split second later, we come up with an after-the-fact story about why we did what we just did. We don't like the idea that our lives are being bounced around like a ping pong ball without our knowledge. Part of the function of our ego, it seems, is to maintain a sense of control. So, wh
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept11Post.mp4 Most people's brains are filled with a lot of complex ideas. Complex ideas that have zero bearing on reality. This is based on an idea of "excess capacity." For example, suppose a small town is booming. They keep booming. So somebody comes in and opens up a huge restaurant, to serve food to all the people in this booming town. The restaurant is really huge. Fifty tables, six full time chefs, 20 waitresses. But as the years go by, the town booms less and less. Pretty soon there are HALF of the peo
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 A long time ago I was at a bike shop. I was buying something for a mountain bike I used to have. I was telling the guy at the shop how much I LOVED riding up hills. Not just riding up, but also riding back down. While I did that, I would always think of the line from the Beatles' "Helter Skelter": "When I get to bottom I go back to the top of the slide, where I stop and I turn and I go for a ride, till I get to the bottom and I see you again..." I LOVED the thought of going down hill as fast as I could. Th
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept09Post.mp4 A study was done on guys picking up girls in parks. It wasn't quite an academic level study. And it wasn't completely scientific. But since it kind of makes sense, it seems pretty accurate. It was done by a men's magazine, not a scientific magazine or an academic, peer reviewed magazine. The study? They sent a guy, or a group of guys to the park. These guys tried to get ladies phone numbers under three different scenarios. The first one was the dude by himself. The second one was a dude with a do
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug12APost.mp4 One interesting study was done on attractiveness. Both men and women. They took a bunch of guys and girls, and had them walk around through social areas. Then the researchers followed them, showed people their pictures. And they asked, based only on their brief memory, to rate them on a scale of 1-10. This was the first half of the experiment. Then they repeated this experiment, and changed only one thing. They went to a bunch of other similar social areas. And again, they quickly followed the test su
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jul01Post.mp4 One interesting idea that is usually mis-interpreted is the idea of Yin and Yang. This is almost thought to be a static balance. For example, it's common to say that your yin and yang is out of balance. Or your "male-female" energy is out of balance. This is a common mistake, not just for this particular metaphor, but for plenty of metaphors. Of misunderstanding their origins, and then misapplying them. But according to those who study East Asian mythology, Yin Yang is NOT a static balance. Think of the fam
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun29Post.mp4 One of the interesting, and troubling things, about language is metaphors. For descriptive purposes, metaphors are perfect. Whether describing a movie or a gorgeous lady, metaphors are ideal. The better you are at creating metaphors, the more of an elegant communicator you'll be. In fact, those that can accurately describe the indescribable (feelings of love, heartbreak, breathtaking views, etc.) the more respected you'll be. After all, language is one or most powerful tools. Getting an idea from your brain t
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun05Post.mp4 Once I was in Las Vegas, playing blackjack. It was in the early morning, and my buddies and I had just arrived. It was three of us and one other guy. We are all in a good mood, at the beginning of our trip. I don't remember exactly what had happened, but everybody noticed it. Even when we were all talking and laughing, the dealer made a mistake. And even though NONE of us were looking directly at the dealer, we all noticed the mistake. But it was a kind of mistake that if the dealer caught it BEFORE he d
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May01Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real thing. Unfortunately, it's one of this things most people have a vested interest in NOT believing. Pretty people very much don't want to believe it. They want to believe their success is due to something BEYOND their genetic gifts. But it's pretty simple, both how it works and WHY it works. Step one is to understand what specifically makes pretty people, particularly pretty ladies, so "pretty." "Pretty" in modern terms is "healthy and can have a lot of kids" according to ancient cave
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr30Post.mp4 Henry Ford was a genius. He, of course, became rich and famous for creating a mass produced car. Not inventing the car, but inventing a way to build a ton of cars quickly and cheaply. There's a famous pair of pictures from back in the day. Both are pictures of the same street in New York. One has a bunch of horses, and a few cars. Another has a bunch of cars, and a few horses. They were only taken ten years apart. This is what they mean by "disruptive technology." When you can make something WAY b
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr25Post.mp4 For a while there's been a kind of myth around the world of PUA and seduction. More of an improperly calibrated metaphor. The "myth" or the "metaphor" is that once you get to a certain level of "game" you have access to some kind of "secret society." Where the rules are different than for normal people. That once a lady sees you, and realizes that you are part of this "secret seduction society," then it's straight to the bedroom. Now, this is one way to describe this. But it's ONLY a description. Most descr
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr01Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real thing. It's very superficial, but it's very real. In many ways, pretty people, both guys and girls CAN have it easier. So long as the content surrounding their halo effect is superficial, they will have a significant advantage. Why is this? When we look at pretty people, we get a very strong, very positive, very ancient instinctive feeling. A very ancient feeling that says, "I want that." Not just "that," but everything associated with "that." This is tied to beauty and you
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar30Post.mp4 There's an old Far Side cartoon of a kid pushing against a door. He's really leaning into it. However, the sign on the door says, "pull." And above the "pull" sign, there is a much bigger sign saying "School For Genius Children" or something similar. Funny because a super genius kid pushing against a door that says pull. There are quite a few metaphors or doing the opposite of what we THINK we should do. George Costanza, the character on Seinfeld, decided to do the opposite of what his gut told him. And
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb17Post.mp4 It's no mystery that the dating market these days is an absolute dumpster fire. On the back of a train that is about to crash off a cliff. Being driven by drunken clowns who are also probably a little off to begin with. What's a guy to do? The main thing that makes modern dating so confusing, and extremely frustrating (and depressing) for modern men is online dating. Online dating is heavily tilted in women's favor. But not for reasons most people believe. And only on the surface. Firstly, we need to t
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jan03Post.mp4 Most guys believe, or at least have heard, the idea that attraction isn't a choice. This is absolutely true. An easy way to understand this is how we choose food. Eating is a necessary instinct. We need to eat, or else we'll die. Since all animals need to eat, we are all programmed with a dual motivation system. It feels really good to eat. It feels really horrible to not eat. And when it comes to choosing WHAT we eat, we don't need our brains. Sure, we CAN use our brains, but that's not our defau
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec31Post.mp4 There are a couple of very common misconceptions in dating. One is that guys are more visual. This is incorrect. It only seems that way, but when you get what's going on, it will make sense. The thing that causes initial, subconscious, automatic attraction in men is how a woman looks. A man can look at a women and know within a couple of nano seconds whether she's not or not. Sure, this happens only through visual perception. But the driving force of INITIAL male attraction to women is female appearance.
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec29Post.mp4 One of the best pieces of advice in fiction is to show, don't tell. This is one of those things that everybody has heard a billion times. But few have taken the time to understand precisely why this is such good advice. A common complaint is a movie or TV show sucks because of lazy writing. This is usually an example of telling rather than showing. A good piece of fiction requires our participation. We like to watch the plot unfold, and make inferences about what has happened and why. Characters that have c
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec26Post.mp4 It's hard to eat only a little bit. Especially when you are hungry. Imagine trying to keep to your diet by going to an all you can eat buffet for both lunch and dinner. It's extremely difficult, from inside our own brains, to tell the difference between eating because we like it, from eating because we need it. This is why a common piece of advice is to eat very, very slowly. Our brain is about twenty minutes behind our mouths. I don't know about you, but I can eat plenty in twenty minutes. For any given me
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec25Post.mp4 One way to figure out what to do is ask what a caveman would do. A common problem people have is with overeating. That's because our hunger instinct is out of calibration. Back in the day, we had to spend a lot of time, energy and risk to get food. So, our bodies slowly calibrated themselves, via natural selection, to our environment. So we have a three phase energy system. The first phase is we get a hungry feeling. This is an unconscious signal that makes us want to eat something. All animals have th
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov25Post.mp4 A fairly common movie scene is where one character whispers something into another character's ear. Nobody watching knows what was said. Nobody in the audience knows what was said. If done well, this is a pivotal scene. Mystery makes everything seem much more enjoyable. This has been proven experimentally. Some researches did a marketing split test. They had two crayons. One called "Tangerine Orange." The other called "Millennium Orange." The second one, the one with the weird sounding name,
