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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov22Post.mp4 Most people are not very articulate. And this is very frustrating. We all love the ideas in our own brain. But when we try to express them, they usually don't sound NEARLY as good as they do inside our head. This is a very common movie and TV trope. From both angles. The speaker has a good idea, they try to express it, and fail. Then they say: "I'm not explaining this very well," while their friends wonder what the heck they are talking about. On the other side, the listener is watching them expla
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov04Post.mp4 Getting people to like you is pretty easy. At least from a purely structural standpoint. Getting people to like you is kind of like cooking something for somebody they'll like. When we eat "good" stuff, it tastes "good." This sounds like one of those circular arguments. When we eat food we like, it gives us a pleasurable feeling. We all have slightly different tastes. But they break down to the same basic ingredients and flavors. Similarly, we all like the same kind of people, but with slightly differe
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov03Post.mp4 Making people happy feels good. That's why most people love kids. You don't have to put a lot of brainpower into making them smile. Just make a bunch of silly noises and a goofy face and Bob's your uncle. In fact, an anthropologist named Brown wanted to find something he called the "Universal People." He modeled this idea after Chomsky, who became famous with his theory of "Universal Language." According to Chomsky, all Earthlings speak the same language, only different dialects. We all come pre-programmed
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct09Post.mp4 Criteria are interesting things. If you're shopping for dinner, even if you don't have a clear idea what you want, you'll kind of know it when you see it. Not much conscious brain is required. On the other hand, if you're buying some spark plugs, you need to be very specific. Very conscious with the "pass fail" criteria. The more involved you and your "choice" will be, the more complex the criteria will be. The more of a mix of conscious and unconscious the criteria will be. What does it mean to be more "in
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct03Post.mp4 If you want to get a girl to like you, you've got to spark her ancient interest. Logic won't do the job. Attraction between humans works pretty much like attraction between humans and food. I know, silly metaphor, but go with me on this. You're hungry, and glancing over at the various things at the buffet. Fries, chicken wings, potatoes, maybe some baked lasagna. Your brain is not going over a bunch of logical proofs to help you decide what to get. You are looking and see which food makes you FEEL the best
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept21Post.mp4 One of our biggest worries is knowing what to say. Job interviews, meeting new friends, talking to cute guys or girls. When two people meet each other for the first time, even with random strangers, we go into a kind of "defense mode." Everybody has a whole bunch of different layers. When you are with old and close friends, you can "let it all hang out." Fart, burp, drop as a many f-bombs as you want. But if you did that during a job interview, or on a first date, it would probably backfire. This makes rat
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept20Post.mp4 A long time ago, I lived in a really small town. In a foreign country. Not so many gorgeous girls. Then I went to a much bigger city. My eyes almost popped out of my head. I had sort of "re-calibrated" my beauty standards, based on the small town. So when I saw what I otherwise would have thought of as "normal" beauty, I felt like I was momentary surrounded by super models. Of course, it didn't take long for economics to rear its ugly head. The most ancient law of the planet, and the universe. Th
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept16Post.mp4 Most people today are very fake. In fact, consider that presenting a "false identity" is part of human nature. Our deep instincts don't really know what to do with all these people. Our instincts were calibrated when we lived among the same people all our lives. And even until recently, before the internet, most people stayed around the same people all their lives. But from all the way back from the caveman days to now, reputation is CRITICAL. If you started getting negative looks from people way back then,
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept15Post.mp4 The very first Star Wars, or really the first two, were epic. They were epic because George Lucas hired Joseph Campbell to help him out. Consequently, the first Star Wars was as close to the Hero's Journey as any modern movie. The rest, not so much. First they brought in the Ewoks, and then Jar Jar whoever. Once I did a mathematical experiment. I created a graph of all Star Trek TV shows vs. time. In on column, I plotted the name of the series according to when they were released. In the other column,
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept14Post.mp4 There are a lot of harsh truths in life we don't like. In fact, we don't like these truths so much, we pretend they don't even exist. Sometimes, these are blatant and conscious. So our avoidance of these is blatant and conscious. Like you get a letter in the mail from your bank. You're afraid to open it. You might look at your balance and find you owe the bank a few thousand dollars. Egads! But sometimes our fears are so deep we don't even know they exist. And we layer a ton of self deceptive bas
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept12Post.mp4 One of the weirdest ideas is about how we think about how we think. Or how we think about what we do. The general consensus, among advertisers and neurologists is most of our actions are driven by emotions and instincts. Then, a split second later, we come up with an after-the-fact story about why we did what we just did. We don't like the idea that our lives are being bounced around like a ping pong ball without our knowledge. Part of the function of our ego, it seems, is to maintain a sense of control. So, wh
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept11Post.mp4 Most people's brains are filled with a lot of complex ideas. Complex ideas that have zero bearing on reality. This is based on an idea of "excess capacity." For example, suppose a small town is booming. They keep booming. So somebody comes in and opens up a huge restaurant, to serve food to all the people in this booming town. The restaurant is really huge. Fifty tables, six full time chefs, 20 waitresses. But as the years go by, the town booms less and less. Pretty soon there are HALF of the peo
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept10Post.mp4 A long time ago I was at a bike shop. I was buying something for a mountain bike I used to have. I was telling the guy at the shop how much I LOVED riding up hills. Not just riding up, but also riding back down. While I did that, I would always think of the line from the Beatles' "Helter Skelter": "When I get to bottom I go back to the top of the slide, where I stop and I turn and I go for a ride, till I get to the bottom and I see you again..." I LOVED the thought of going down hill as fast as I could. Th
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept09Post.mp4 A study was done on guys picking up girls in parks. It wasn't quite an academic level study. And it wasn't completely scientific. But since it kind of makes sense, it seems pretty accurate. It was done by a men's magazine, not a scientific magazine or an academic, peer reviewed magazine. The study? They sent a guy, or a group of guys to the park. These guys tried to get ladies phone numbers under three different scenarios. The first one was the dude by himself. The second one was a dude with a do
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug12APost.mp4 One interesting study was done on attractiveness. Both men and women. They took a bunch of guys and girls, and had them walk around through social areas. Then the researchers followed them, showed people their pictures. And they asked, based only on their brief memory, to rate them on a scale of 1-10. This was the first half of the experiment. Then they repeated this experiment, and changed only one thing. They went to a bunch of other similar social areas. And again, they quickly followed the test su
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jul01Post.mp4 One interesting idea that is usually mis-interpreted is the idea of Yin and Yang. This is almost thought to be a static balance. For example, it's common to say that your yin and yang is out of balance. Or your "male-female" energy is out of balance. This is a common mistake, not just for this particular metaphor, but for plenty of metaphors. Of misunderstanding their origins, and then misapplying them. But according to those who study East Asian mythology, Yin Yang is NOT a static balance. Think of the fam
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun29Post.mp4 One of the interesting, and troubling things, about language is metaphors. For descriptive purposes, metaphors are perfect. Whether describing a movie or a gorgeous lady, metaphors are ideal. The better you are at creating metaphors, the more of an elegant communicator you'll be. In fact, those that can accurately describe the indescribable (feelings of love, heartbreak, breathtaking views, etc.) the more respected you'll be. After all, language is one or most powerful tools. Getting an idea from your brain t
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun05Post.mp4 Once I was in Las Vegas, playing blackjack. It was in the early morning, and my buddies and I had just arrived. It was three of us and one other guy. We are all in a good mood, at the beginning of our trip. I don't remember exactly what had happened, but everybody noticed it. Even when we were all talking and laughing, the dealer made a mistake. And even though NONE of us were looking directly at the dealer, we all noticed the mistake. But it was a kind of mistake that if the dealer caught it BEFORE he d
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/May01Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real thing. Unfortunately, it's one of this things most people have a vested interest in NOT believing. Pretty people very much don't want to believe it. They want to believe their success is due to something BEYOND their genetic gifts. But it's pretty simple, both how it works and WHY it works. Step one is to understand what specifically makes pretty people, particularly pretty ladies, so "pretty." "Pretty" in modern terms is "healthy and can have a lot of kids" according to ancient cave
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr30Post.mp4 Henry Ford was a genius. He, of course, became rich and famous for creating a mass produced car. Not inventing the car, but inventing a way to build a ton of cars quickly and cheaply. There's a famous pair of pictures from back in the day. Both are pictures of the same street in New York. One has a bunch of horses, and a few cars. Another has a bunch of cars, and a few horses. They were only taken ten years apart. This is what they mean by "disruptive technology." When you can make something WAY b
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr25Post.mp4 For a while there's been a kind of myth around the world of PUA and seduction. More of an improperly calibrated metaphor. The "myth" or the "metaphor" is that once you get to a certain level of "game" you have access to some kind of "secret society." Where the rules are different than for normal people. That once a lady sees you, and realizes that you are part of this "secret seduction society," then it's straight to the bedroom. Now, this is one way to describe this. But it's ONLY a description. Most descr
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr01Post.mp4 The halo effect is a real thing. It's very superficial, but it's very real. In many ways, pretty people, both guys and girls CAN have it easier. So long as the content surrounding their halo effect is superficial, they will have a significant advantage. Why is this? When we look at pretty people, we get a very strong, very positive, very ancient instinctive feeling. A very ancient feeling that says, "I want that." Not just "that," but everything associated with "that." This is tied to beauty and you
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar30Post.mp4 There's an old Far Side cartoon of a kid pushing against a door. He's really leaning into it. However, the sign on the door says, "pull." And above the "pull" sign, there is a much bigger sign saying "School For Genius Children" or something similar. Funny because a super genius kid pushing against a door that says pull. There are quite a few metaphors or doing the opposite of what we THINK we should do. George Costanza, the character on Seinfeld, decided to do the opposite of what his gut told him. And
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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Feb17Post.mp4 It's no mystery that the dating market these days is an absolute dumpster fire. On the back of a train that is about to crash off a cliff. Being driven by drunken clowns who are also probably a little off to begin with. What's a guy to do? The main thing that makes modern dating so confusing, and extremely frustrating (and depressing) for modern men is online dating. Online dating is heavily tilted in women's favor. But not for reasons most people believe. And only on the surface. Firstly, we need to t
