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https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun23Post.mp4 One problem that pops up in plenty of places lack of communication. Even when this isn't consciously identified, it's the problem. A funny scene from an old movie that illustrates this is from the Blues Brothers. The two brothers showed up at a bar where they'd been hired to play. They were setting up and the bartender gave them each a beer and said it was on the house. So they kept drinking while they played. At the end of the night, they got the bill. Since they were expecting to be paid, (that had been hired, after all) they seemed shocked. The bartender told them only those first two beers were on the house. And since the cost of the beers were more than they were being paid, they OWED the bar money. The Blues Brothers told them they thought ALL of their beers were on the house. Then they pretended to go out to their car to get the money, and hilarity ensued. This is not only a common theme in comedies, but a common disaster in relationships. When you assume something that isn't true. A very disastrous way this comes up is in relationships that are suddenly over. One party has been stewing for a long time. Finally, they decide to end it. The other party is blindsided. "Why didn't you tell me?" the ask. "Why didn't you ask?" they other persons says. One party assumes that if something is wrong, it's other parties responsibility bring it up. This may be logical, but if the other person has a problem with the relationship, and they don't know HOW to bring it up, it doesn't MATTER whose fault it is. When it's over, it's over. Most people THINK they are being proactive, when they are really just being lazy. They say things like, "I've always been there for them." Or "I'm always willing to listen to any problems they may have." This SOUNDS like you are "making an effort." But you're really expecting THEM to bring up the issue. Luckily, there IS a very, very simple way to do a little bit extra, so THEY don't have to push through THEIR comfort zone to tell YOU about a problem they are having. This is a very, very easy technique from a social anxiety, emotional level. And it will make YOU look like a rock star. The BEST PART is you can use this technique with pretty much anybody. You can use it elicit and solve deep and complex problems within old relationships. You can use it to create non stop party feelings in friends. Or you can use it to open up somebody you've just met, and make them feel FANTASTIC. Which means they will never forget you. Or, maybe even never let you out of their sight. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/charming-personality/