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  1. Why They Lived With Rats: https://mindpersuasion.com/sewer-living-thrill-seekers/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/they-lived-with-sewer-rats https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept17Loop.mp4
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept02Post.mp4 We humans have a lot of biases. Once upon a time, they were pretty helpful. If you were wandering through some random jungle looking for bananas, you would have two powerful filters. One of them would be anything that looked yellow. That might be a banana. The other would be for something that looked orange. That might be a tiger. These two biases would help you find food, and keep you from being food. When our environment was food and animals, our biases worked PERFECTLY. But now our environment is other people. And it's not so easy. It's way more complicated. There is WAY more data hitting our senses. And the data is FAR more open to interpretation. Today if somebody starts yelling at you, there's no telling why. Back in the caveman days, yellow meant banana. Orange meant tiger. There was very little confusion. Two different people seeing the same yelling person will have two completely different responses. One will see it as PROOF that they, the observer, is broken and doesn't deserve to be happy. Another will see it as PROOF that they, the yeller, is crazy. They might even use that to tell a funny story at a party that weekend. "Dude, I was at the bus stop and this lady started screaming at me for not reason! It was hilarious!" Something that makes it even MORE complicated is the idea of reinforcing cycles. This is KIND OF related to the jungle days. If you found some yellow in one area of the jungle, that might mean there were MORE bananas in that area. But if you remembered seeing orange in one section, that might mean that was the tiger section of the jungle. Stay Out! But when we look out into a sea of people, we reference our past. If we had a crappy past, we'll use that to make assumptions about what we see. If we had a happy past, we'll use that to make assumptions about what we see. The MORE you reference a certain side of your past, good OR bad, the MORE you'll see that around you. And the MORE you'll continue to reference that side. You CAN change how you reference your past. Which will change how you interpret your present. Which WILL change your future. It's kind of like changing course of a humongous tanker on the ocean. You've got to do is SLOWLY. You've got to do is CAREFULLY. You've got to do it SAFELY. But once you change course, it's set for life. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  3. Anxiety can significantly mess things up. But from looking at it from the inside, this is true, but because you're also in a state of anxiety, it's impossible to see how or why. Which makes solutions from this state seem impossible. One of Einstein's famous sayings is you can't solve a problem from the same mindset that created the problem. This makes things even worse. If you are in a state of anxiety, you make less than optimal decisions. These decisions can make things worse. Those worse things will create more anxiety. Next thing you know you're swirling around in a panic. This isn't even nice to THINK about, let alone experience. From a structural standpoint, it's easy to see why. The shorter your "time view," the less likely you'll make good decisions. Generally speaking, long game trumps short game every time. A long game decision is generally better for you than a short game decision. From a structural standpoint, this is the main issue of anxiety. It utterly kills your long view. And forces you ONLY to see the short view. But even worse, it only allows you to see the short term view in terms of DECREASING emotional pain. Of course, the only way to decrease emotional pain, in the short term, is do something, in the short term, that creates an emotional pleasure that is stronger, in energy, than the short term emotional pain. From outside the system, it's obvious this strategy is doomed. How to stop this from happening? One way is to PRACTICE becoming emotionally centered. To create a serious of powerful emotional anchors. That allow you to look at the PURE ENERGY that exists in ALL emotions, and see it as the SAME ENERGY that EVERYTHING is created from. When we feel "bad" or "good" these are based on the labels we give our emotions. And it's based on how we THINK these emotions will impact our behavior, and whether that behavior will help us or hurt us. A lot of anxiety comes from projecting our worse case fears into the future. When you practice feeling your emotions, and seeing the pure energy BENEATH them, this will happen less and less. Like anything else, it requires consistent practice. But it will give you a significant amount of emotional control in ANY situation. So much that whatever your WORST FEARED emotions may be now, they won't bother you a bit. You can FEEL them, and still think powerfully, rationally, and in a way that will MAXIMIZE your long term success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  4. I had a boss a while ago that wasn't very computer literate. Not only that, but she had her own PC, and the PC the rest of us in the office had to use. She would always put new programs on the group PC. When we would complain, she would always act like our complaints were unfounded. "But it just runs in the background," she would say. As if not seeing a program running means you wouldn't be influenced by it. Since she didn't use that particular computer, she didn't experience how utterly slow all these other programs made it. We'd be trying to do our work, and all these other programs that were "running in the background," would be making things impossible. It's common to notice your PC is running slow, so you open up the task manager. If you see some weird looking software name that's using 90% of your system resources, it's common to look up the name. And if you find out it's safe to turn off, you can turn it off. Once you turn it off, your computer is fast and usable again. Sometimes these programs are part of the OS. They are built so you CAN'T turn them off. You just have to wait until they are finished running. Our brains work very much like a PC operating system. We have stuff running in the foreground, our conscious brain. And the stuff running in the background, our subconscious brain. Sometimes the stuff running in the background slows us up considerably. For example, if you are doing a mentally intensive task, like studying calculus for an exam, but you're worried about something, it's IMPOSSIBLE to concentrate. On the other hand, if your brain is free from worry, it's a lot easier and a lot more effective to study. Sometimes we give each other advice, that SOUNDS good, but it's also kind of useless. Like we'll be trying to do something, but we can't. We can't because something is bothering us. Like one of these background programs hogging up our resources. A friend will notice and ask what's up. "I can't stop thinking about X," we say. "Dude," they reply, "It's useless to worry about something you can't control," they advise us. "Just let it go," they proclaim. Easy in theory, impossible in practice. How, EXACTLY do we "let something go?" If if were that easy, it wouldn't be bothering us in the first place. Are they REALLY expecting us to say: "Oh, just let it go! Why didn't I think of that!" Unfortunately, getting rid of background programs isn't as obvious as hitting Control+Alt+Delete and just hitting "end program." But there IS a way. And once you learn how, you will gain back TONS of mental processing power. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  5. Magic Spells Growing In Your Brain https://mindpersuasion.com/quantum-tunneling-through-pancakes/
  6. Cialdini laws can be used to explain quite a bit of human behavior. They are essentially instincts that regulate our social behavior. William James, a philosopher and metaphysician from about a hundred years ago, said that humans have both a ton of learning capacity and a ton of instincts. Every other animal has mostly instincts. We have tons of learning because our brains are still forming for the first couple decades of our lives. Which means our instincts are more or less programmable. We need food, but we can choose a whole bunch of different food. We need sex, but we all have a different idea of an idea sexual partner. We crave social recognition, but how this happens is different for all of us. As far as our social lives, we have positive and negative social instincts. Just like we have positive and negative hunger instincts. The negative hunger instinct is that the longer we go without eating, the more uncomfortable we get. The positive hunter instinct is that it feels VERY GOOD to eat something delicious. The negative hunger instincts drive us away from starvation, the positive hunger instincts kind of reward is when we get food. Similarly, our social instincts have positive and negative levels. We are "rewarded" for helpful "tribal behavior" with positive authority validation and positive social validation. We are "punished" for unhelpful "tribal behavior" with negative authority validation and negative social validation. In an ancient society, this worked perfectly. But just like our hunger is troublesome today, so are these combinations of social instincts. Unfortunately, they are the source of plenty of human misery. And it happens in a very powerful way that creates a very strong cause-effect relationship. Since it happens when we are very young, it's kind of built in as an instinct. That's what happens when we are born with "less than defined" instincts. How, exactly, does this happen? Suppose you've got a kid in kindergarten or first grade. He has a desire to express himself. But the teacher doesn't agree. So the teacher yells at the kid. What is the result? This kid develops a casual link between the DESIRE to express oneself in public with NEGATIVE social and authority validation. If this happens a lot, it can cause trouble. This is EXACTLY why so many people have social anxiety as adults. We feel a desire to express ourselves. We START to express ourselves, but then that deep link is triggered. The one that reminds us that expressing our desires in public will lead to negative social and authority attention. This is why ANYTHING we want that involves social behavior creates a lot of anxiety. But there IS a pretty straightforward way to REMOVE this link. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  7. The world is in a strange place. Only a hundred years or so ago, it was perfectly fine to just show up. You did what you were told, and you'd have a job and family. Today, there is very little structure to anything. Everybody does whatever they want. There doesn't seem to be any rules. This is both good and bad. Good because you can get away with a lot of stuff that you couldn't get away with a hundred years or so ago. Bad because there are few external incentives keeping people on track. With the right external incentives, normally hard stuff can be easy. If you joined boot camp, for example, getting up at the crack of dawn would be easy. All alone (with only internal incentives) it's very hard. But if you CAN come up with your own internal incentives, and live by them, you can create ANYTHING you want. This is the double edge sword of modern life. You can do a lot of stuff. But nobody is forcing you. So it's very easy to slack off and take it easy. And once you start doing that, it's a hard rut to get out of. Luckily, you can start very slow. The myth of motivation is that you need a TON from the start. People think of the word "motivation" and they think of some guy leaping out of bed and going on a ten mile run in the morning. That works for a couple days. A much better and easier way is to start VERY SLOW. Do one small thing toward your goal or habit. Then do that one small thing until that one small thing becomes a habit. Then do another small thing on top of it. Slow, steady, consistent growth is much easier that super power motivation. Because slow, steady, growth adds up over time. What "small thing" should you try? Mental exercises are the easiest. Do them for five minutes. Same time every day. Once you learn to control your thinking, you can control everything. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  8. In many disciplines, they have the idea of an "S curve." It represents any kind of growth. It starts out moving left to right, slowly increasing. Then something significant happens, and the growth increases a lot, going up, rather than across. Then it reaches a saturation level, and levels off, but still goes up a bit. Overall it, looks like an "S." That bottom curve is the best part. The bottom part before the curve is the HARDEST part. Where you're working and working and only SLIGHTLY getting better. So when you start to see REAL results, it feels pretty good. Most successful businesses go through SEVERAL "S-curves." Every time they level off at the top, (after the growth spurt) they scramble to find something else, and start growing again. For humans, we don't really feel alive unless we are constantly improving. That's why people who win the lotto or otherwise get a sudden ton of money tend to crash and burn. At first it feels pretty good. But then all the problems start. And most importantly, they aren't feeling that NECESSARY feeling of forward momentum, based on their own efforts. Few things in life feel better than putting in daily effort toward something that YOU feel is important, and noticing consistent results. Developing relationships with others isn't any different. We LIKE to have forward progress. One of the many reasons people break up is if they feel "stagnant." Just going through the motions. One of the reasons for this is that people start to feel comfortable with one another. Safe. But safety can sometimes be a trap. The worst trap. That one that doesn't reveal how insidious it is until you've spent years "safe" while life has been passing you by. Now, this doesn't mean you need to go swimming with sharks every day or get a pet rattlesnake and let it roam around your apartment. But it IS a good idea to do SOMETHING on a regular basis that is a LITTLE BIT outside your comfort zone. One way to do that is to always be open to meeting new people. Make it a habit to strike up a conversation with a stranger. Not because they're "hot" or you think you'll co-discover the next atomic element together, but just because. Because talking to new people is exciting. Interesting. And you NEVER know what growth opportunities will present themselves. Get Started: Click Here To Learn More
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