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  1. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug11APost.mp4 Way back when I was in high school, my buddies and I loved the movie, "Mad Max." Not the Road Warrior, which came up back when I was in high school. But the original, part one, Mad Max. With a then completely unknown Mel Gibson. On some of the tapes we'd get, they would dub over his native Australian accent with an American one. My buddies were serious motor heads. They LOVED the part where Max saw his car for the first time. With the "blower." The part that would force air into the cylinders, and give his car some extra oomph. When he was chasing bad guys, he'd have a secret switch on to turn on the nitrous oxide injection. Another way to get more "power" in his engine. One of my personal favorite scenes was when Max was looking at his engine the first time. And he kind of went into a "trance." Staring at the engine, with its blower and massive power. You can hear some guy in the background, who was noticing the tranced out look on Max's face as he was impressed by the engine. "He's in a coma, man!" Meaning his "consciousness" was turned off. That he was so entranced by this magnificent engine, his brain was so focused, he no longer was paying attention to anything going on around him. When psychologists study this effect, particularly in sports, they call it the "flow state." When a highly trained athlete is so "on" during any competition, their conscious mind becomes a barely conscious, "watcher," enjoying the performance. This same thing happens when you're in a conversation with a close friend, or even if you're in deep rapport with somebody you've just met. The words are flowing back and forth, without needing any kind of thought. When you conscious mind is merely watching and enjoying the process. Kind of like a line from a Beastie Boys song: "Like a dream I'm flowin' without no stoppin', sweeter than a cherry pie with ready whip toppin'..." The line, of course, describes what it's like to be in the "flow state" while spontaneously rhyming on stage or on the mic. This is the height of human potential. The flow state. Where you are interacting with others in some way, conversationally, or competitively, and your conscious mind takes a back seat. To watch and enjoy this rare but extremely hypnotic state. And if you've ever gotten close to this state, or if you're a coach and you see your players getting close to state, you know it's much more of letting go. You can't really DO anything to get closer to this state. It's a matter of letting go and trusting your unconscious. The one thing that will KILL this, and stop it before it's even started is anxiety. Get rid of anxiety, and put yourself into a coma, man! Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  2. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug10APost.mp4 Most, if not all, of self-help products are consumed "as if" they are entertainment. This is why self help CAN be like an addiction. But other self help is the opposite. The phrase, "self help" is very, very vague. From a purely objective standpoint, it means any thing you do, on your own, to "help" or "improve" yourself. Exercise clearly belongs in this category. If you join the military, or are on a sports team, somebody ELSE will want you to do exercises. Because they benefit from your healthier and more physically fit body. But when you decide to do exercises on your own, for your own reasons, that is the perfect definition of "self help." Similarly, when you learn something complicated, that takes a lot of time. Playing a musical instrument, learning a complex software. This takes time, and effort, and you can measure your progress. Just like with exercise. In exercise, musical training and software teaching, the idea of a "fake guru" or even a "guru" doesn't make sense. There are instructors. If you wanted to get better at ANYTHING, it takes practice. Maybe ten percent study, and the rest practice. Even if you were learning something extremely complicated like Photoshop, you might watch a ten minute video on how to do one thing. But most of your time would be trying all the different ways to do that one thing. Other categories of "self help" are not like this. These are the ones that are consumed like fiction. Which categories are these in? Generally, the "guru" or "false guru" categories are anything requires you talk to or interact with others. Making more money, or improving your relationships. But there are two critical aspects within the "false guru" realm. A very strange combination of laziness and fear. When you decide to get a six pack, the laziness is there, but the fear is not. Nobody gets sweaty palms and heart palpitations as they approach the gym door. But when it comes to improving ourselves through some kind of social skills, this is TERRIFYING. So terrifying that our cognitive dissonance doesn't even allow our brains to think in terms of practice. Instead, we think in terms of magic. Get that one "secret" idea into your head, and sidestep all the necessary work. This is when self help is consumed like fiction. You read a fictional story and go along for the ride. You get to imagine killing bad guys and saving good guys. But you know it's fiction. When you're done, it's back to real life. But with self help, it's not like that. We read self help books, and the hero is our future selves. While we are consuming them, they feel really good. But the thing they are missing is nothing will change without continuous and persistent SKILL BUILDING. However, if any skill building involves fear, we don't do them. So, the trick is to build skills that DON'T require we ever leave our comfort zone. This will make ALL skills easier to master. Especially social skills. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  3. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug09APost.mp4 Chaos theory is a cool concept. It's based on the idea that we humans don't have the math to predict pretty much anything. Like weather for example. Weather is bound by multiple, interdependent variables. One of the variables, say, humidity, changes. And that in turn changes all the rest. Temperature, pressure, wind speed and direction, etc. Before they discovered chaos theory, they got excited when they started building really powerful computers. They figured they would be able to predict the weather with much more accuracy. Nope. They set the initial conditions, and then let the computer run a simulated weather pattern. In computer time it was a few minutes, but it simulated a week or so in real time. Then they changed the initial conditions a TINY bit. The resulting weather pattern a week out was WAY different. This is where they got the butterfly effect from. That a butterfly flapping its wings in Brazil might create a hurricane in Texas a couple weeks later. Or, one TINY change can create a MASSIVE outcome a few weeks later. The more variables there are, the more of a massive outcome you can create with only some TINY changes. This happens both INSIDE and OUTSIDE of our brains. Let's say you're looking across the room at a cute girl. She looks at you BRIEFLY. And you make an ASSUMPTION about what just happened. And that assumption reminds you of all the similar things that happened in the past, real or imagined. This one ASSUMPTION about what she MEANT is the butterfly flapping its wings. The anxiety that comes up a few seconds later is the Texas hurricane. Your brain is VERY, VERY, fast. But very, very inaccurate. So it's EASY to create this "brain-butterfly effect." In fact, you may even consider that MOST of the assumptions we make, are wrong. Especially SOCIAL assumptions. Why? Because social safety is of CRITICAL importance. And our brains have a "better safe than sorry" mechanism built in. And we are surrounded by TONS of social signals. Looks, glances, etc. So it's very easy misinterpret what's going on around you, and then create a Texas hurricane inside your brain. Luckily, we can leverage this to our benefit. When you MISUNDERSTAND the data, it's based on what you ASSUME, not only about the present, but about all the things that happened in the past. Which means if you RE-PROGRAM your memories of what happened, you can create a much more positive Brain Butterfly effect. The re-programming takes time, and is pretty boring. But the result will be FANTASTIC. Because you'll BE the butterfly. Landing on every pretty flower you see. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug08APost.mp4 There's a kind of popular self help saying that, "the wake doesn't drive the boat." Which kind of means that what happened before doesn't necessarily impact what is going to happen in the future. And like many easy to remember and repeat "truisms" this one is too vague to be of any use. If you were actually driving a boat, you wouldn't even care about the wake. You point the ship or boat where you want to go, and steer accordingly. But humans are not boats. Human memory is very important. And our entire personality is made up of what happened to us in the past. The stuff we remember. If you had your heart shattered by a redhead in junior high school, that WILL impact your future. That traumatic event will create a "cause-effect" link in your brain between emotional trauma and red heads. For example, you might end up "Chasing Amy" for the rest of your life. This comes from a movie of the same name. That theory being that EVERYBODY has a first "lost love." And that we spend the rest of our lives trying to FIND the one who got away. So yeah, our "wake" DOES have a HUGE impact on our future. Or at least according to our automatic programming. Lucky for us, we can OVERRIDE our automatic programming. Few people will ever tell you this. Because few people will benefit from you changing how you reference your past, so you can have a much, much better future. Many people would LOVE for you to stay stuck. It's much better from a "misery loves company" frame of mind. But the LESS misery you feel, with respect to life and your future, the BETTER company you'll tend to find. So, how specifically can you "change your past"? Well you don't actually go back in time. But you can reference WHAT you use in your past. The meaning you give to those events. Think of it this way. Every second our brains are getting hit with tons of data. Our filters have to filter out the important stuff from the junk. And since that is raw data, we have to give some kind meaning to that data. This is the mechanism that CREATES our past. Stuff comes through our filters. We give it meaning, good or bad. And we REMEMBER this "augmented" data stream. So this memory stream, this "wake" that makes up our past is how the "then" we DEFINED that data. Which means we can RE-DEFINE it to mean whatever we want. So yes, the wake DOES have a huge impact on the boat. AND yes, you can CHANGE your wake. You can change how you reference your past. Which means you can change your future. Or create a much better future than what you may think is possible. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug07APost.mp4 It can be argued that the main source of all modern problems is instinct mismatch. Our instincts, that were calibrated for a much different environment are not well suited for our modern life. Back in the day, eating as much as you can, whenever you could, so long as it tasted good was a FINE strategy. Those who had this instinct would survive every well. They were always hungry, always tasting thing, and when they found something that tasted GOOD, they are as much of it as they could. This "good taste" was calibrated with food that had nutritional value. Meaning the lucky ancient guys who had the lucky genes that made meat and animal fat taste good, survived. Those unlucky folks who thought that tree bark and dirt tasted good did not. But today, that "eat anything that tastes good" instinct will kill you. Consider that a corollary to the "all pain due to instinct mismatch" theory for modern success. In order to better manage your thinking and behaviors, it's a matter of understanding and managing your instincts. Of thinking and planning what you want to do, rather than being led by your instincts. One way our instincts mess us up is how we imagine things. Way back in the day, the top alpha got most of the sex. So naturally, everybody wanted to BE the top dog. But since our BRAINS are our best feature, and not our claws or our speed or our ferocious yell, we competed with our brains. Hunting was much more BRAIN than BRAWN. You had to outthink, out smart, and out CONSPIRE against the things you wanted to kill and eat. Who ever could THINK their way into a big kill would be the alpha. And that best THINKER would get the most sex. A very closer modern approximation of that is a quarterback. Forgetting about coaches and memorized plays, just the appearance reminds of us of the ancient alpha. The QB has to read the defense. The QB has to make split decisions in the face pressing danger. The QB is the guy calling the shots. So when ancient men laid awake under the stars at night, the were trying to OUT THINK each other. They each wanted the same thing, for the same reward. They wanted to come up with the BEST PLAN to find something to kill. Every night was a kind of private, "fantasizing contest." Every day was a continuous "QB contest." The winners got EVERYTHING. Today, like most of our other instincts, we get it backwards. Today, we use our powerful brains to imagine all the things that could go wrong. This is not natural. This is not normal. This is also not such a big deal. Because once you RE-CALIBRATE your fantasizing brain, you can get out there and GET SOME. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  6. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug06Post.mp4 There's a really messed up term in biology. Eusociality. Why is it messed up? Well, it isn't really, it's just one way Mother Nature has figured out how to organize people. Well, not people, but certain insects and maybe a few mammals. Like ants, bees, wasps, etc. From an organizational standpoint, it makes for a highly efficient group. Everybody comes pre-programmed with their "life's purpose." For worker ants, for example, their life's purpose is to work. To NEVER get laid. If you are human, and came back as a worker ant that would SUCK. But, the higher up on the food chain you get, the more of an "every man for himself" kind of rule pops up. Like in us humans, at least theoretically. Of course, you'd never get that by looking around today. It's very, very easy to make comparisons to people today and people a few generations ago. People a few generations ago really WORKED for a living. One example from the Great Depression was shown in the movie, "Cinderella Man." True story about a depression era boxer, James J. Braddock, played by Russell Crowe. His family had very little food. So Braddock had to work hard to get money to buy food so his family wouldn't starve. Since he was also trying to be a boxer, he boxed. And he hurt his hand. Back then, the only jobs you could get were as day laborers. So when he hurt his hand, he HID it from the guy choosing the day laborers. If you were the dude hiring the people, and you were paying each one the same, you'd hire the dudes who looked like they were in the BEST shape. Not some guy with a messed up hand. This was human resilience way back in the day. Hiding injuries so you would get hired as a manual laborer. Today our society is much different. We've all grown up under endless promises. Endless reasons why we should feel entitled to get something. But guess what? The same rule applies today as it did a thousand years ago. Or ten thousand years ago. It really IS every man for himself. Or every woman for herself. Sure, if you DO find yourself in a position where you are getting a steady stream of money in exchange for a steady stream of work, that's good. Especially if that steady stream of work won't dry up. But even then, what your boss wants and what you want are two different things. What you want, according to your ancient instincts is to keep doing MORE. To keep getting MORE. More skills. Better jobs. Better and more enjoyable relationships. What does your boss want? Probably for you to be a good little soldier. Show up, do your job, keep your head down, don't make any waves. But deep inside, you KNOW that's a dangerous plan. After all, who is better at taking care of your needs, your dreams, your ambitions, than YOU? Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  7. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug05Post.mp4 One of my favorite "reframes" is near the end of the last Harry Potter book. Harry is dead, or he thinks he's dead. His mentor, Dumbledore, appears to him. And in an all white, heavenized version of the train station, Dumbledore explains everything to the bewildered Harry. Then Harry asks: "Is this real? Or is this my imagination?" Dumbledore replies with the wizard reframe: "Of course it's your imagination! But that doesn't mean it isn't real!" If you've ever been to a stage hypnotist show, they can get people to do some goofy things. Respond to hallucinations as if they were real. To imagine seeing everybody in the audience naked. To imagine hearing voices come out of their watches or jewelry. To momentarily forget our base 10 number system that has been with us since we started counting on our ten figures, and believe there IS no number "3." Please count to ten, says the hypnotist. One, two, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. They say, wondering why everybody in the audience is laughing. Our brains are POWERFUL hallucination chambers. Every single thing that exists was once an IMAGINATION in somebody's brain. Sure, most of them were close copies, or small improvements over what existed. But they were imaginations nonetheless. Like everything else, this can work for us, or this can work against us. You can use your driving skills to drive an ambulance, or a get away car. You can use a hammer to build a children's playground or to become a horrific serial killer. You can use your brain to imagine wonderful things, that will propel you into a much brighter and better future. Or you can imagine horrific demons keeping your trapped. When you see the cute lady across the room, which do you imagine? Her smiling and laughing and having a good time? Smiling wickedly as she "accidentally" brushes up against your junk? Or that same face screaming while she kicks you in the nuts? Thinking of potential outcomes is kind of like martial arts. We have a base, instinctive, fighting skill. Untrained, we look like spastic morons flailing about hopelessly. Like whenever senators get into fights. But trained, you can become an efficient killing machine. Your brain is the same. Untrained, you tend to imagine the worst, and keep yourself stuck. But trained, you can be a relentless seduction machine. Or a relentless pleasure creating machine. Or a relentless salesperson, easily talking yourself into fortune after fortune. This is where self help falls apart. Most people think that switching from bad thinking to good thinking can be learned in an instant. It cannot. No more than you can switch from a spastic flailing goof to an efficient killing machine in a weekend seminar. But if you take the time to slowly practice, to slowly improve yourself, isn't that worth it? To go from where you are now, to a sweet talking master of love? A giver of pleasure to all you encounter? Learn More: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  8. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug04Post.mp4 One of the biggest problems of modern society is most humans are under developed. We were calibrated in a much different environment. A much harsher environment. A, "if you don't kill, you don't eat" environment. Under those ancient, harsh conditions, humans were forced to grow up as quickly as possible. To take responsibility as quickly as possible. Today it's the opposite. Today, we are brainwashed from birth to stay as helpless as possible. To develop as LITTLE self-responsibility as possible. This is where all anxiety comes from. When we are very young, we want something, and the ONLY way to get it is to ask. Sometimes we get it, sometimes we don't. Every human, by the time we start elementary school, has been told "no" a kajillion times. As a kid, living in the "please give me..." childhood mindset, this sucks. Going through life thinking you need to ask others to give you stuff is horrible. This is the source of all anxiety. We want something, and we try to figure out how to get it. From the childhood mindset, the ONLY strategy is to ASK somebody to please give it to us. We feel that way on job interviews. We feel that way when asking the boss to go home early. We feel that way when asking for a cute guy or girls phone number. Many even feel a tinge of anxiety when asking for a special order from a restaurant. This is so prevalent in so many people, and old ad "jingle" from Burger King was, "special orders don't upset us." This was to make it easier for grown, adult humans, to walk into a business, with cash, to ask for a "special order." As if we are bunch of Oliver Twists being super nervous when asking for more gruel. "Please, sir, may I have some more?" When you shift into the adult mindset, everything changes. Anxiety vanishes. You don't ask for anything. You show up, see what they got, show what you've got, and see what's up. The childhood mindset, in a job interview is begging and pleading and saying things like, "Please give me this chance!" Notice the "please give me" strategy. The adult mindset in a job interview is the opposite. I've got skills. Plenty of people would gladly pay for my skills. Why are the benefits of working for this company? We are all stuck in the childhood mindset because our environment doesn't FORCE us, like it used to, into the adult mindset. So you'll need to do it yourself. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  9. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug03Post.mp4 A couple decades ago, the U.S. congress was talking about porn. This was long before the internet. They had a problem of defining porn. When you create and pass a law, you have to be pretty precise. If you aren't it can lead to serious trouble. For example, in one of the many insurance lawsuits that came after 911, one of the key elements was hinged on an interpretation. The point of contention was when both of the twin towers fell, was that "one" event, or "two" events. The insurance companies, of course, wanted to describe it as "one" event. The insured wanted it described as "two" events. Even Bill Clinton was able to weasel out of being on the spot by questioning the meaning of the word, "is." Out of context, this sounds ridiculous. But within the context of the discussion, it really was a legitimate question. Anyhow, back to the porn. They were struggling to "define" what porn is. And one congressman famously said: "I know it when I see it." This is true. Most of us would know porn when we saw it. Many nouns are like this. We know them when we see them. And most of the time, this is OK. But sometimes it's not. When, specifically, is it not? When we want to become MORE of this "non-definable" thing. When we want to become MORE like the thing that "we know when we see it." One of these is the idea of "frame." We KNOW a strong framed person when we see one. We even KNOW we've lost a frame battle. We want the other person to do something, and they don't want to do it, and that's that. Clearly, having a strong frame is much better than having a weak frame. In fact, it's hard to imagine any scenario when having a weak frame would be better. But the question is HOW can you build a strong frame? Building muscles is easy. Well not easy, but it's not confusing how to do it. Improving your guitar playing skills is "easy." You know what to do to improve. You know how to measure you're improvement. This can lead many to believe that frame strength is something mysterious, or genetic. That it's just like physical appearance. Some people are attractive, some people aren't. Some people have strong frames, some don't. The first one is true. But the second one is not only FALSE, but a strong enough frame will EASILY overcome the first. For guys, having a strong frame is MUCH better than having looks. Of course, it doesn't SEEM that way. But that's only because very FEW men have strong frames. So within the context of weak framed males, looks really ARE everything. Which means if you CAN manage to build up your frame, you can CLEAN UP. You can BE the guy who really PROVES that looks don't matter. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  10. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug02Post.mp4 Most of "game" is reversed engineered from folks who are naturally successful. Most of sales is reversed engineered from folks who are naturally successful. This idea, of copying what works, is as old as time. The first guy who invented a spear probably copied from somewhere else. Maybe he was chasing some deer, the deer tripped and accidentally impaled himself on a tree branch. Then the cave guy thought: "Damn! Why didn't I think of that!" He tried it, and it worked. Everybody else copied him. Then one guy thought about combining a rock with a stick, and made the first "blade on a stick." Everybody copied that, and here we are a million years later. So it IS a very, very good strategy to copy what others are doing that works. But when it comes to game and sales, it's a lot more than what we see. In fact, a "truism" from an old school economist from the 1800's (Bastiat if you're interested) is very, very helpful: It's not what you see, it's what you don't see. Of course, he was talking about economics. And he was talking about long chains of invisible cause-effect. X happens, which causes Y to happen, which causes Z to happen, but only under certain circumstances. But all we see is the X and then, sometimes, a little bit later Z. You need to see all the stuff going on the middle to TRULY understand. And when it comes to game, and to a larger extent all sales and persuasion, what you DON'T see is much, much more important. This is something a lot of people don't like to even think about. Because what you DON'T see is a function if inner game. The stuff few people think about, for ANY reason. Because inner game is all about confidence, or lack of confidence. Beliefs, deep feelings of inadequacy, all the deep subconscious things running in the background that we never even notice. This is what Jung was getting at when he talked about making the unconscious conscious. That unless we make the unconscious conscious, it will run our lives, and we will call it fate. This is externalizing in a nutshell. We try to get an outcome, and we fail. We blame things OUTSIDE of us. The world, the gods, fate. But the things driving our behaviors are INSIDE us. All the things that we might describe as INNER GAME. Understand this part of you, understand EVERYTHING. Instead of copying a lot of outer game techniques, and trying to come up with a huge memorized checklist, solving inner game is MUCH EASIER. Re-calibrate your inner game, and all outer game, in ALL situations will become natural, automatic, and much more effective. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  11. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Aug01Post.mp4 I used to have this boss that everybody hated. She was the owner of the small company, one she inherited. I'd only worked there a year, but even in that time the business had shrunk. I don't know what the deal was between her and the previous partner, but she didn't have much of a clue about business, or general life in general. She'd make really bad decisions, and get angry if people would try and explain to her why they were bad decisions that would cost EVERYBODY money. For example, she had a rule that we had to ALWAYS upsell the customers. Which we never did, since the stuff she wanted us to upsell was utter crap. And we all knew that if we tried to upsell customers, even REPEAT customers, they would STOP being customers. Even then, when she found out we were not upselling, she'd get angry. One time I ALMOST lost it with her. Like scream out loud lost it. But I bit my tongue. I was working a project that had a very tight deadline. But I was using the main office computer. (This was over 10 years ago). I was using both Excel and Word, and a LOT of data. But she interrupted me, wanting to do something else WHILE I was doing what I was doing. She wanted to burn a bunch of CDs or something. She said it wasn't a big deal, since it would work in the "background." I tried to explain that "in the background" meant we had to SHARE the processor. Which would make my task take much longer. But she wouldn't have it. Every time I'd try to do a hefty calculation, my spreadsheet would freeze. But because she couldn't see her process, she thought it didn't have any impact on the stuff I was doing. Worst part was I had to sit RIGHT NEXT to her while my task, which should have only taken 20 minutes, took nearly two hours. When bosses don't understand what their employees go through, it can create some office turmoil. When bosses aren't driven by customers, but their own ego, it can create office turmoil. When you're trying to do something on your PC, but it keeps freezing, because there's a CRAPTON of stuff going on in the background, it can create turmoil. But this same CRAP happens inside your brain. You see something you'd like. Part of you wants to go and get it. Part if you is afraid to. Those two parts start an argument. In the BACKGROUND of your mind. So, what does this do to your PERFORMANCE? It FREEZES. Just like my spreadsheet. But if you clean house, get rid of all the horrible, second guessing bosses that live in your subconscious, and all the sticky BLOATWARE that exits in your brain, EVERYTHING will improve. Your performance. Your mental speeds. Your linguistic and perceptual acuity. Your ability to REALLY understand what other people are saying and respond accordingly. It's like getting a brand new brain! Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  12. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/July29Post.mp4 There are a lot of sayings in the self development area that are kind of true. But there are also some that are dangerous. One of them is about fear. "Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain." This CAN be helpful if it gives you the motivation to move forward. But it's also a bit too vague. From a purely biological point of view, you don't really "kill" fear when you "do the thing you fear." You do something that's scary. This creates a lot of adrenaline. That adrenaline CAN be a good feeling. But ONLY if you succeed. The adrenaline response fuels the fight of flight response. Fighting or running away takes a long time. So any time we do something that SEEMS scary, our biology is going to respond as if it IS scary. And if the length of the scary thing is short, AND we are successful, then we'll get a positive adrenaline rush. Jumping out of an airplane, for example. The fear is REAL. The adrenaline that comes from jumping is VERY STRONG. But the time it takes to reach "terminal velocity" when you STOP accelerating, is very short. So you experience a kind of "floating" sensation while that adrenaline is still flowing. This is the basic "thrill seeker" high. A DRUG. The adrenaline response that comes EVERY SINGLE TIME. Or consider something that's only dangerous from an "imagination" level. Public speaking. There is ZERO danger. But because it feels dangerous, your ancient instincts respond as if it IS dangerous. So when you give a decent speech, get some genuine applause, that FEELS fantastic. But this fantastic feeling only comes if you TAKE ACTION and that action is SUCCESSFUL. This doesn't work very well in social situations. At least not as binary as jumping out of airplanes or giving speeches. Even if you give a lousy speech at a friendly place, you'll still get that adrenaline rush. That rush that comes from POWERING through the fears. But when you walk up and talk to somebody, it's a different animal. It's NOT just a matter of turning off your brain and getting it done. You NEED your brain. You need to listen and respond appropriately. This is when the "feel the fear and do it anyway" idea is LOUSY advice. If you're "feeling the fear" you won't come across as confident and relaxed. Being confident and relaxes is IDEAL in social situations. A better way would be to KILL the fear before you even start. So you FEEL confident, relaxed. Where you'll be the most effective, conversationally. How do you do that? Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/anxiety-killer/
  13. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Jun04Post.mp4 Steve Martin made a movie a long, long time ago called, "The Lonely Guy." He didn't have any friends. He'd go out eat by himself. He'd have a "cover" that he was a food critic. But that was after he'd sat down. When he'd walk in, and ask for a table for one, everybody would stop. All the people in the restaurant, in the middle of their conversations, would stop and look at him. They'd even have a spotlight on him. This is how it feels for most of us, when we go social places alone. "Hey! Who is that weirdo? Why doesn't he have any friends?" We even get this feeling when walking across a room to introduce yourself. As soon as we live the safety of our group, or the safety of the wall we are leaning against, we feel exposed. As if everybody is going to STOP what they are doing and watch us. "Hey! Everybody! Look at that guy, all by himself, walking across the room to talk to that pretty girl!" The truth is, nobody really think this. Unless you are PROJECTING that kind of energy. The nervous, "I'm doing something wrong" energy. The "I'm doing something I shouldn't be doing" energy. How can you NOT project that energy? Easy. Don't FEEL that energy. Yeah, I know, much easier said than done. But guess what? The energy you feel, and project, is something you can PRACTICE. For example, imagine you'd never ridden a unicycle before, and you tried to ride it across the room. If you were uncertain and off balance, it would show on your face. People would watch you, but they would feel a certain way. A "hey that guy's about to crash" kind of way. But suppose you practiced? Suppose you rode a unicycle across the room with a confident and playful expression across your face? They'd look at you much DIFFERENTLY. You can practice feeling comfortable in social situations JUST LIKE you could (if you wanted to) practice riding a unicycle. Social situations require skills. Skills take practice. So long as you practice slowly, you'll get better. But here's the thing. If you became a super confident unicycle rider, what would that get you? It might be a cool party trick. But riding a unicycle, in and of itself, doesn't do much. After you get over the thrill of learning something difficult, it'd be boring. But social skills come pre-loaded with plenty of good feelings. Humans are social animals. Which means the more social skills you practice, the more you'll enjoy life. Get Started: https://mindpersuasion.com/social-charisma/
  14. Superstitious Alchemy Connections: https://mindpersuasion.com/superstitious-alchemy-connections/ https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Dec12Loop.mp4
  15. Why They Lived With Rats: https://mindpersuasion.com/sewer-living-thrill-seekers/ https://soundcloud.com/mindpersuasion/they-lived-with-sewer-rats https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept17Loop.mp4
  16. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Sept02Post.mp4 We humans have a lot of biases. Once upon a time, they were pretty helpful. If you were wandering through some random jungle looking for bananas, you would have two powerful filters. One of them would be anything that looked yellow. That might be a banana. The other would be for something that looked orange. That might be a tiger. These two biases would help you find food, and keep you from being food. When our environment was food and animals, our biases worked PERFECTLY. But now our environment is other people. And it's not so easy. It's way more complicated. There is WAY more data hitting our senses. And the data is FAR more open to interpretation. Today if somebody starts yelling at you, there's no telling why. Back in the caveman days, yellow meant banana. Orange meant tiger. There was very little confusion. Two different people seeing the same yelling person will have two completely different responses. One will see it as PROOF that they, the observer, is broken and doesn't deserve to be happy. Another will see it as PROOF that they, the yeller, is crazy. They might even use that to tell a funny story at a party that weekend. "Dude, I was at the bus stop and this lady started screaming at me for not reason! It was hilarious!" Something that makes it even MORE complicated is the idea of reinforcing cycles. This is KIND OF related to the jungle days. If you found some yellow in one area of the jungle, that might mean there were MORE bananas in that area. But if you remembered seeing orange in one section, that might mean that was the tiger section of the jungle. Stay Out! But when we look out into a sea of people, we reference our past. If we had a crappy past, we'll use that to make assumptions about what we see. If we had a happy past, we'll use that to make assumptions about what we see. The MORE you reference a certain side of your past, good OR bad, the MORE you'll see that around you. And the MORE you'll continue to reference that side. You CAN change how you reference your past. Which will change how you interpret your present. Which WILL change your future. It's kind of like changing course of a humongous tanker on the ocean. You've got to do is SLOWLY. You've got to do is CAREFULLY. You've got to do it SAFELY. But once you change course, it's set for life. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/social-anxiety-killer/
  17. Anxiety can significantly mess things up. But from looking at it from the inside, this is true, but because you're also in a state of anxiety, it's impossible to see how or why. Which makes solutions from this state seem impossible. One of Einstein's famous sayings is you can't solve a problem from the same mindset that created the problem. This makes things even worse. If you are in a state of anxiety, you make less than optimal decisions. These decisions can make things worse. Those worse things will create more anxiety. Next thing you know you're swirling around in a panic. This isn't even nice to THINK about, let alone experience. From a structural standpoint, it's easy to see why. The shorter your "time view," the less likely you'll make good decisions. Generally speaking, long game trumps short game every time. A long game decision is generally better for you than a short game decision. From a structural standpoint, this is the main issue of anxiety. It utterly kills your long view. And forces you ONLY to see the short view. But even worse, it only allows you to see the short term view in terms of DECREASING emotional pain. Of course, the only way to decrease emotional pain, in the short term, is do something, in the short term, that creates an emotional pleasure that is stronger, in energy, than the short term emotional pain. From outside the system, it's obvious this strategy is doomed. How to stop this from happening? One way is to PRACTICE becoming emotionally centered. To create a serious of powerful emotional anchors. That allow you to look at the PURE ENERGY that exists in ALL emotions, and see it as the SAME ENERGY that EVERYTHING is created from. When we feel "bad" or "good" these are based on the labels we give our emotions. And it's based on how we THINK these emotions will impact our behavior, and whether that behavior will help us or hurt us. A lot of anxiety comes from projecting our worse case fears into the future. When you practice feeling your emotions, and seeing the pure energy BENEATH them, this will happen less and less. Like anything else, it requires consistent practice. But it will give you a significant amount of emotional control in ANY situation. So much that whatever your WORST FEARED emotions may be now, they won't bother you a bit. You can FEEL them, and still think powerfully, rationally, and in a way that will MAXIMIZE your long term success. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
  18. I had a boss a while ago that wasn't very computer literate. Not only that, but she had her own PC, and the PC the rest of us in the office had to use. She would always put new programs on the group PC. When we would complain, she would always act like our complaints were unfounded. "But it just runs in the background," she would say. As if not seeing a program running means you wouldn't be influenced by it. Since she didn't use that particular computer, she didn't experience how utterly slow all these other programs made it. We'd be trying to do our work, and all these other programs that were "running in the background," would be making things impossible. It's common to notice your PC is running slow, so you open up the task manager. If you see some weird looking software name that's using 90% of your system resources, it's common to look up the name. And if you find out it's safe to turn off, you can turn it off. Once you turn it off, your computer is fast and usable again. Sometimes these programs are part of the OS. They are built so you CAN'T turn them off. You just have to wait until they are finished running. Our brains work very much like a PC operating system. We have stuff running in the foreground, our conscious brain. And the stuff running in the background, our subconscious brain. Sometimes the stuff running in the background slows us up considerably. For example, if you are doing a mentally intensive task, like studying calculus for an exam, but you're worried about something, it's IMPOSSIBLE to concentrate. On the other hand, if your brain is free from worry, it's a lot easier and a lot more effective to study. Sometimes we give each other advice, that SOUNDS good, but it's also kind of useless. Like we'll be trying to do something, but we can't. We can't because something is bothering us. Like one of these background programs hogging up our resources. A friend will notice and ask what's up. "I can't stop thinking about X," we say. "Dude," they reply, "It's useless to worry about something you can't control," they advise us. "Just let it go," they proclaim. Easy in theory, impossible in practice. How, EXACTLY do we "let something go?" If if were that easy, it wouldn't be bothering us in the first place. Are they REALLY expecting us to say: "Oh, just let it go! Why didn't I think of that!" Unfortunately, getting rid of background programs isn't as obvious as hitting Control+Alt+Delete and just hitting "end program." But there IS a way. And once you learn how, you will gain back TONS of mental processing power. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/eq/
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  20. Cialdini laws can be used to explain quite a bit of human behavior. They are essentially instincts that regulate our social behavior. William James, a philosopher and metaphysician from about a hundred years ago, said that humans have both a ton of learning capacity and a ton of instincts. Every other animal has mostly instincts. We have tons of learning because our brains are still forming for the first couple decades of our lives. Which means our instincts are more or less programmable. We need food, but we can choose a whole bunch of different food. We need sex, but we all have a different idea of an idea sexual partner. We crave social recognition, but how this happens is different for all of us. As far as our social lives, we have positive and negative social instincts. Just like we have positive and negative hunger instincts. The negative hunger instinct is that the longer we go without eating, the more uncomfortable we get. The positive hunter instinct is that it feels VERY GOOD to eat something delicious. The negative hunger instincts drive us away from starvation, the positive hunger instincts kind of reward is when we get food. Similarly, our social instincts have positive and negative levels. We are "rewarded" for helpful "tribal behavior" with positive authority validation and positive social validation. We are "punished" for unhelpful "tribal behavior" with negative authority validation and negative social validation. In an ancient society, this worked perfectly. But just like our hunger is troublesome today, so are these combinations of social instincts. Unfortunately, they are the source of plenty of human misery. And it happens in a very powerful way that creates a very strong cause-effect relationship. Since it happens when we are very young, it's kind of built in as an instinct. That's what happens when we are born with "less than defined" instincts. How, exactly, does this happen? Suppose you've got a kid in kindergarten or first grade. He has a desire to express himself. But the teacher doesn't agree. So the teacher yells at the kid. What is the result? This kid develops a casual link between the DESIRE to express oneself in public with NEGATIVE social and authority validation. If this happens a lot, it can cause trouble. This is EXACTLY why so many people have social anxiety as adults. We feel a desire to express ourselves. We START to express ourselves, but then that deep link is triggered. The one that reminds us that expressing our desires in public will lead to negative social and authority attention. This is why ANYTHING we want that involves social behavior creates a lot of anxiety. But there IS a pretty straightforward way to REMOVE this link. Learn How: http://mindpersuasion.com/beliefchange/
  21. The world is in a strange place. Only a hundred years or so ago, it was perfectly fine to just show up. You did what you were told, and you'd have a job and family. Today, there is very little structure to anything. Everybody does whatever they want. There doesn't seem to be any rules. This is both good and bad. Good because you can get away with a lot of stuff that you couldn't get away with a hundred years or so ago. Bad because there are few external incentives keeping people on track. With the right external incentives, normally hard stuff can be easy. If you joined boot camp, for example, getting up at the crack of dawn would be easy. All alone (with only internal incentives) it's very hard. But if you CAN come up with your own internal incentives, and live by them, you can create ANYTHING you want. This is the double edge sword of modern life. You can do a lot of stuff. But nobody is forcing you. So it's very easy to slack off and take it easy. And once you start doing that, it's a hard rut to get out of. Luckily, you can start very slow. The myth of motivation is that you need a TON from the start. People think of the word "motivation" and they think of some guy leaping out of bed and going on a ten mile run in the morning. That works for a couple days. A much better and easier way is to start VERY SLOW. Do one small thing toward your goal or habit. Then do that one small thing until that one small thing becomes a habit. Then do another small thing on top of it. Slow, steady, consistent growth is much easier that super power motivation. Because slow, steady, growth adds up over time. What "small thing" should you try? Mental exercises are the easiest. Do them for five minutes. Same time every day. Once you learn to control your thinking, you can control everything. Learn More: http://mindpersuasion.com/nlp/
  22. In many disciplines, they have the idea of an "S curve." It represents any kind of growth. It starts out moving left to right, slowly increasing. Then something significant happens, and the growth increases a lot, going up, rather than across. Then it reaches a saturation level, and levels off, but still goes up a bit. Overall it, looks like an "S." That bottom curve is the best part. The bottom part before the curve is the HARDEST part. Where you're working and working and only SLIGHTLY getting better. So when you start to see REAL results, it feels pretty good. Most successful businesses go through SEVERAL "S-curves." Every time they level off at the top, (after the growth spurt) they scramble to find something else, and start growing again. For humans, we don't really feel alive unless we are constantly improving. That's why people who win the lotto or otherwise get a sudden ton of money tend to crash and burn. At first it feels pretty good. But then all the problems start. And most importantly, they aren't feeling that NECESSARY feeling of forward momentum, based on their own efforts. Few things in life feel better than putting in daily effort toward something that YOU feel is important, and noticing consistent results. Developing relationships with others isn't any different. We LIKE to have forward progress. One of the many reasons people break up is if they feel "stagnant." Just going through the motions. One of the reasons for this is that people start to feel comfortable with one another. Safe. But safety can sometimes be a trap. The worst trap. That one that doesn't reveal how insidious it is until you've spent years "safe" while life has been passing you by. Now, this doesn't mean you need to go swimming with sharks every day or get a pet rattlesnake and let it roam around your apartment. But it IS a good idea to do SOMETHING on a regular basis that is a LITTLE BIT outside your comfort zone. One way to do that is to always be open to meeting new people. Make it a habit to strike up a conversation with a stranger. Not because they're "hot" or you think you'll co-discover the next atomic element together, but just because. Because talking to new people is exciting. Interesting. And you NEVER know what growth opportunities will present themselves. Get Started: Click Here To Learn More
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