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  1. Love Social Situations: https://mindpersuasion.com/love-social-situations/ https://mindpersuasion.com/live-training/
  2. The Rare And Subtle Confidence Frame https://mindpersuasion.com/the-rare-and-subtle-confidence-frame/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  3. The Super Hero Frame https://mindpersuasion.com/the-super-hero-frame/ https://mindpersuasion.com/3x3/
  4. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Nov29Post.mp4 There is a lot of advice that makes sense. It makes sense because it matches our experience. It makes sense because it's simple to understand. But what's commonly lacking is how, specifically, to do that regularly, automatically, and more importantly UNCONSCIOUSLY. Most of what we do is auto pilot. Unless we have to give an important speech, or we are getting ready to go on a first date, our behavior is autopilot. This is why actors seem like such a mess when they are filmed speaking off the cuff. Even when they go on talk shows, they prepare how they will answer those questions. So even in talk shows, when they have time to prepare, and they know the questions they're going to get, the are essentially "acting." One of the biggest shocks that came out of the Watergate scandal way back in the day with Nixon was how those dudes spoke when they thought they WEREN'T being recorded. Not that they were dropping f-bombs. But their grammatical structure was a mess. That is their NATURAL communication state. Most of our natural communication state is similarly a mess. "Uh, yeah, what about that, uh, thing, the other, um..." In the context of a friendly conversation this is fine. But most of us naturally want MORE than what we have. Better relationships, better bodies, better jobs. So those common pieces of advice SEEMS to be good advice. Because we've experienced it, AND it makes sense. For example, a common piece of advice is to "be yourself." Everybody has examples in their memory of being themselves and it working out. The question is HOW do you "be yourself" ALL THE TIME? Everybody is themselves until they see a stunning beauty looking in their direction. The same goes with the common advice of "be outcome independent." Everybody can remember a time when they WERE outcome independent and it worked fantastically. But again, how do you BE outcome independent as your natural state? Another similar advice is to be confident with eye contact. You look, meet their eyes, and hold it longer than they do. EVERYBODY has experience doing this. Of seeing a hot guy or girl. Of meeting their eyes. And THEM breaking off eye contact FIRST. And THEN quickly looking back. This FEELS very good. But how do you do this CONSISTENTLY? How can you make this your NATURAL behavior? The answer is based on inner game. The ONE THING many people are terrified of (or creates instant and usually subconscious anxiety) is UNEXPECTED eye contact. It's one thing to PREPARE to make confident eye contact ahead of time. But how can you respond to unexpected eye contact with relaxed, enjoyable confidence? So that is your NATURAL state? You can learn how here: https://mindpersuasion.com/seductive-eye-contact/
  5. https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr17Post.mp4 We humans LOVE giving advice. It's so obvious what's wrong with people. If they would ONLY listen to us, all their problems would be solved. Unfortunately, we aren't Vulcans, or angels, or robots. We are primates that learned to talk. In the long scheme of things, we've only been talking, self-aware primates for a small span of time. What does this mean? This means our INSTINCTS do most of our thinking. It's very, very EASY to tell somebody what to do to lose weight, for example. "Hey, if you want to lose a few pounds, maybe you shouldn't eat so much?" This may seem silly, but most of our advice is JUST as useless as this. We say things like this AS IF we believe they've never considered this. As if the mysteries of weight loss are far beyond their comprehension. And they need us, super genius humans, to swoop in and explain the secrets of the universe to them. Another example is somebody who is in an unhealthy relationships. "Hey, don't you think it might be a good idea to break up with them?" As if they NEVER considered such genius level advice. Or maybe if somebody was on the verge of getting fired from their job, since they were always late. "Hey, I have an idea. Why don't you wake up an hour earlier?" Or perhaps you've got a friend who's got at test coming up and they need to study to not fail. "You know, it's much better to study a little bit every day, rather than wait to the end." Why do we think this OBVIOUS advice is helpful? Consider that we don't ACTUALLY believe this is something that they DON'T know. Then why do we "give" them this "advice?" Because it's not really advice. It's really a type of signaling. We are telling them that WE are better than them. That we KNOW things they don't. This doesn't make sense logically, but it does instinctively. As mentioned before, humans are PRIMATES. And to all primates, hierarchy is EVERYTHING. Consider one instinct that is always on, and deeply subconscious, is the never ending desire to TELL OTHERS what's what. In all these examples (weight loss, relationships, work issues, study issues), THEY were in a bad way. So by giving them advice, so they won't be in a bad way, we are talking down to them. The PRESUPPOSITION to all this advice is: "You are doing it WRONG. If you were more like ME, you wouldn't be so messed up. Because I know things that you don't!" This is why we all HATE receiving advice, but LOVE giving it. Luckily, there is a much better way. A way to actually HELP others. A way to "give" them advice so NOBODY thinks it is advice. Which means they'll take it, act on it, and actually get better. Learn How: https://mindpersuasion.com/storytelling-magic/
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