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  1. When you are feeling anxious or upset toward another person you will need to engage in EFT, tapping pressure points and deep breathing. This can be effective in helping to channel negative emotions. This time spent will be best spent in mediation through self reflection. If you can simply acknowledge and embrace your negative feelings, you will be better able to change them.
  2. EFT is commonly used to treat anxiety, hyper states and anger/aggression as it allows the person to connect deeply with their inner person to achieve calm. Since the EFT technique focuses on breathing and calming exercises, this would be right for any person who is easily agitated, whether in a home or work situation.
  3. You will know when a relationship is not right for you, such as when there is constant arguing or disagreements. You should not confine yourself to living in a hostile environment. Define what you need from a relationship and work with your partner to achieve this goal. If he or she won't work with you or insists upon other incompatible goals, then it's possible you need to rethink your place in that relationship and whether or not it's right for you.
  4. Not every person who considers themselves spiritual is religious or attends an organized service or belongs to a group. Sometimes, you can just feel connected to a higher power or force that is unnamed or undefined without naming it or putting limits on how it can help you. As for whether or not you can use affirmations without being spiritual, it could be possible so long as you are open to the possibility of change. After all, the affirmations will do nothing for you, if you are simply stuck in your ways.
  5. EFT can be taught to any person in a work place situation and is useful for high stress jobs that have tight deadlines. The EFT training will enable the worker to better handle stress and effectively release negative emotions without emotional raging or flare ups. The important thing to remember when performing EFT is to couple this technique with a positive affirmation that is right for the moment.
  6. When dealing with a problematic or stressful situation, you might have the tendancy to turn outward to lash out at events or people. However, looking inward will get you further as it allows you to embrace your feelings and admit what is going on as well as returning you to a place of control. So let's say that you have a bad encounter with a sibling. Rather than lashing out at that person, let's try this. Turn inward and examine your feelings. What are you feeling now? Anger? Resentment? Own up to it. Now, what are the images and sounds associated with this event in your mind? For instance, maybe you see a big angry face of your brother yelling at you. Or, you might hear his loud voice. In your mind, you can now control these events. Dial down the tone of his voice to a more quiet or respectful level. If you see an angry face, then distort it to replace it with a more loving image (such as a memory of your sibling from childhood). Now you are controlling your memories and putting yourself back into control by manipulating the negative images and patterns that are trying to form in your head. Later when you think back on this situation, you won't experience the same painful, visceral response as you did the first time and not as likely to feel disgruntled or holding a grudge.
  7. When you are feeling stressed over an event (such as a negative run in with your boss or family member), rather than lashing out at the other person, try this idea. Refocus yourself. Turn inward. Acknowledge your feelings, rather than denying them. The harder you try to deny your feeling of anger or annoyance, the more your mind will push you to accept it. After all, your feelings are your own so you should own up to them, rather than pretending they are not real. This is just the first step in changing how you perceive the event, but an important one. Just as you must embrace grief to allow a relationship to go, you must also embrace your feelings and admit that these feelings are yours (even if they are considered socially unacceptable). Self acceptance will help you make the first important step toward resolution of negativity in your mind.
  8. Often, we encounter situations in life that are traumatic and leave a lasting impression. For instance, a hostile run in with a parent might forever leave you scarred, having the event play over and over again in your mind. And, while you have likely tried to push these negative thoughts from your mind, the key might not be to resist so much as embrace them. Try this technique instead. Channel the ruminations of negative events into a harmless conduit. Allow yourself to dwell on the thought pattern for ten seconds, fully immersing yourself in the memory or event. Now listen for a background noise (hum of computer or other mundane noise). Tune into that noise and allow yourself to hear it fully. As you listen deeper, allow the rumination and negative thoughts of the pestering event to channel itself into that noise. You should fully immerse yourself in that noise to get the full benefit. You should notice relief from the negative or repetitive thought pattern over this event. You can repeat this as often as you need for relief.
  9. Some people seem to sail through life not being touched by adversity. And, on the surface it might seem they are the lucky ones to have no turmoil. But, realistically everyone has turmoil and strife and there is no way to avoid this. The only thing you can do is frame your reaction to this stress in a way so as to change how your internal view perceives it. For instance, if you miss out on a job opportunity due to illness or competition or are faced with a job task that is unpleasant, you can choose to learn from it rather than feeling bitter at it. With the missed opportunity, you could choose a different path (giving yourself options) such as by continuing your education so that when another opportunity comes up, you will be ready. If you have a task to do that you don't like, you could allow yourself to see the best points, rather than focusing on the worst. Life adversity is often beyond our control so the only thing we control is how we react to it.
  10. Feeling out of control of your own life and situations in your life including on the job can come from lack of choices. This feeling of loss of control can result in: • Chronic stress • Reactive responses (as opposed to proactive responses) • Low quality relationships • Feelings of depression, isolation and despondence • Lack of sleep When you feel there are only one or two (bad) options, you are not master of your own destiny and cannot control how your life goes. However, the key in these situations is to rethink what you consider to be an option and ask yourself if there are other acceptable outcomes for a situation that you can live with. Sometimes, we settle on perfection as a goal and nothing less is acceptable but in an imperfect world never achievable. When it comes to goal setting and reaching your dreams, you should set goals that are achievable and realistic and have options that can be met given your current life situation. Find a happy ground in the realism of the world that you can live with, rather than the idealistic world that may never be reached.
  11. Even when an external situation is perfect, you may still find that you have unresolved anger and stress inside. The outside world can look perfect or be ideal but on the inside a storm is brewing. For instance, when you get a new job, that pays much more than your last, you should be thrilled. But, do you ever find that you have upsetting negative thoughts inside, such as "You don't deserve this job! You really have them fooled!" See how the internal voice can sabotage you, even when you should be happy. So how do you quiet that inner tormentor to make it be quiet long enough so that you can enjoy your life?
  12. With a negative cycle, it's hard to know what came first; the stressful event or the stress. As stress can cause you to experience ordinary life events as being negative and make even the happiest moments sad. And, it all depends on your reaction to the events and how you perceive them rather than the event itself. And, even when an event is negative (such as confrontation with an angry boss), rather than feeding into that anger by lashing out at your boss with angry internal monologue, such as calling your boss a jerk behind his back, you can reframe that situation by looking at it objectively. Realize that not every situation is in your control nor are you at fault for every bad situation even if you can't handle it. In this way, you can easily move past the negative situation and not allow it to get into your system.
  13. Have you used this technique of anchoring a positive emotion to a physical action? For instance, thinking of a happy, worry free moment combined with touching one's nose or pressing the finger tips together. Does this work for you? The anchor will allow a person to instantly invoke that happy state whenever needed. Very useful for dealing with public situations where you can't always speak openly.
  14. When dealing with perplexing life issues, such as worry or stress, it's often helpful to create a third person or dissociative state to allow yourself to deal with them. Here are some useful techniques for making this disassociated technique work for you. Imagine yourself standing across the room and observing yourself doing the action (such as worrying or over thinking) Watch yourself as if you are on a movie screen, you won't be able to hear your internal thoughts so you won't have to deal with internal monologue. Refer to yourself in the third person Ask your self questions about the situation and listen to your self speak back to you. Be sure that you are not answering but allow your objective self to answer. Allowing yourself freedom to step outside your 'box' or realm of existence may be just what it takes to find solutions you need.
  15. At some levels, NLP is about self-discovery, exploring identity and mission. However, it's also about clarifying communication with yourself and others. What do you see as the goal or purpose of NLP?
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