There's like a very masculine and feminine duality that I used to think myself of, in a way. But in reality gender isn't supposed to exist at all. We've all had past lives in both genders. Therefore, to be truly open to human experience, you will all have to activate your respective anima, or animus. This is the repressed feminine or masculine side inside of men and women.
When activated, you experience a new type of freedom. Suddenly, it's unnecessary to chase after men or women, because now... ina strange way, you are whole and complete. I am a Man AND I am a woman.
In me rests the kind of energy of power, authorita, and conquest.
And also the energy of imagination, creative work, artistic appreciation, and poetry.
Every guy has a feminine side, and every girl has a masculine side. When this side is opened up, what happens is you're that much more attractive, that much more whole, that much more complete and that much more fulfilled. Life takes on a different sort of perspective.
Meditate with the intention of fully activating your other side, be it the anima or animus energy, and watch how you feel after doing so.